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EFFECTIVE LISTENING SKILLS
Presented by
Ashley Pyles
Chandra Donohue
Ed Gunzelmann
Content information by: Irene Elizarraraz & Tamara Gatewood, John J. Heldrich Center for
Workforce Development, 2004; www.newconversations.net; Chapter 8 of Dr. Ford’s Workbook
―It is the province of knowledge to speak. And
it is the privilege of wisdom to listen.‖
--Oliver Wendell Holmes
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INTRODUCTION
WHAT IS LISTENING?
HOW DO YOU LISTEN?
HOW CAN YOU LISTEN BETTER?
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What is Listening?
1. Can you hear this?
2. Can you listen to the message?
3. Can you figure out the actual meaning of the
message?
―How to Remove scratches from a DVD.‖
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PASSIVE•Hearing
•Receiving sound
through the air without
REAL effort
VS. ACTIVE• Listening
• Making sense of what is
heard
•Actual meaning oriented
In the U.S. multiple studies have been conducted with different populations on
how much time is spent on listening and communicating. It is thought that
almost 2/3 of our time is spent listening!
What is Listening?
Listening conceptualization is culture-driven!
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Listening is hearing, understanding,
remembering, interpreting, evaluating,
and responding (Brownwell, 2002)
IMPORTANT: Almost 50% of conversation is
retained, but the other 50% escapes due to external and
internal barriers/thoughts. This % lessens when under
stress, with difficult conversations , or when feeling
tense or defensive.
SO……..
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Small Group Exercise
Individual Assessments
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Benefits of Active
Listening
•Respect and Trust
•Enhances our Relationships
•Conflict Resolution
•Cultivates Positive Work Environment
•Wins Friends
•Confidence
•Reduces Negative Assumptions
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Barriers to Effective Listening
Internal Barriers:
•Hearing what you want to hear
•Biased listening
•“Hot Buttons” and the Effects of Emotions on Listening
•Semantic Barriers (understanding what is said—word selection)
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Barriers to Effective Listening
External Barriers
•Talker not speaking loudly enough
•Talker’s mannerisms, appearance
•Loud noises
•Room temperature (too hot / too cold)
•Interruptions, phone calls
•Fidgeting / Clock watching
•Time pressure, deadline
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Non-Verbal Listening Cues
•Listen with your eyes!
•Be aware of:
•Facial expressions (face color & how it changes; movement of lips, mouth, cheeks, eyebrows)
•Hand gestures
•Body positioning/movements
•Personal Space
•Pitch, rate, subtle variations in tone of voice
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Emotion Charades
Please split up into groups of 4 people
•What did you notice? General observations!
•How did it feel to be the person acting out the
emotion? How did it feel to be the person guessing?
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What makes a good listener?
Group Brainstorm!
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The Effective Listener!
1. Focus on yourself—Are you ready to listen?
2. Listen to yourself—Where is your mind today?
3. Pay attention to the environment, space, non verbal cues, and continually check in with yourself to make sure you are JUST LISTENING!
Active Listening presumes: You are important to me and I understand and accept all as true!
Most of the time people need to talk through their
problems, not get advice on their problems.
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Essentials of Active Listening!
1. Stop talking—You can’t talk and listen at the same
time!
2. Put the person at ease—Give them space and time and
permission to speak (Relax)
3. Show the person that you want to hear them– Look at
them, nod when you can agree, ask them to explain
further.
4. Remove distractions—Be willing to turn off TV, etc.
5. Empathize with the person—look at the situation from
their point of view.
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Essentials of Active Listening!
6. Be patient—some people take longer to find the right
word (don’t interrupt)
7. Watch your own emotions (facial expressions)
8. Don’t criticize, argue, or disagree
9. Restate what you hear! Paraphrase what you heard.
10. Minimal Encouragers—brief prompts— ―Oh?‖
11. Reflecting—Reflect speakers words in terms of
feelings.
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Essentials of Active Listening
12. Validation—listen openly and acknowledge persons
ability to talk about a ―difficult problem‖
13. ―I‖ messages—Focuses on the problem, not the
person.
14. Summarizing the conversation
15. Ask open ended questions!
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Finding a Balance
To be an effective listener you have to find a balance
between listening, hearing, and responding with
revealing your own position and providing appropriate
input/feedback at the right time!
Work to be accepting and respectful of the person and
their feelings and believes without invalidating or
sharing your own position.
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Small Group Exercise
Talk about Listening Presentation and practice skills learned