“Dating Skills For Engineers”

“Entrepreneurship Fundamental Skills”

Fizz Day 2 Iain Verigin - September 2015

Dating Skills For Engineers

• A few years back -- Dr. Waltham suggested I change the title of my talk

• Thank You.

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Sidebar

Engineering Life is …• Project Driven

• People Driven

• So what does a project look like?

Foundation

Foundation

Lessons Learned

Source Austin KleonYC’s Startup Curve is a Good Reminder, too

Foundation

Lessons Learned

Source Austin Kleon

Foundation

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PERSISTENCE

GRIT

CHEER <SMILE>

Entrepreneurship Fundamental Skills

Communicating

Helping

Listening

Don’t Be an Asshole

“In a Stressful Environment”

You Can Do These Now

They’ll help in your endeavors as a student and

you’ll have a leg up when you enter the workforce.

“Listening”

Notes From Marshall Goldsmith Chapter 9 - Listening

Listening

Paradox:

The more you subsume your

desire to shine, the more you will

shine in the other person's

eyesListening

Make The Other Person Feel Important

(It’s NOT about You)

Listening

Make The Other Person Feel Important

–Think Before You Speak

–Listen With Respect

–Ask Yourself - “Is it Worth It?”

Listening

Listening Tactics – Don’t

• Don’t Interrupt

• Don’t finish the other persons sentences

• Don't use the words "no", "but", or "however”

• Don’t say, “I knew that.”

Listening

Listening Tactics – Don’t

• Don’t even agree with the other person ( even if he praises you, just say, "Thank you" )

• Don't be distracted.

• Don't let your eyes wander, or attention wander, elsewhere while the other person is talking

Listening

Listening Tactics - Do• Maintain your end

of the dialogue by asking intelligent questions that– (a) show you're

paying attention– (b) move the

conversation forward

– (c) require the other person to talk ( while you listen )

• Eliminate any striving to impress the other person with how smart, or funny, you are. Your only aim is to let the other person feel he, or she, is accomplishing that.

( ie Let them impress you )Listenin

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Communicating

Communicating

Key Points

• Credible • Emotional

• Stories

• Simple

• Unexpected

• Concrete

Communicating

Unexpected

• is about violating “norms”/ schema

• For example: - Fizz are great communicators - Fizz are good at math.

Communicating

The Curse Of Knowledge

• when we are given knowledge,

it is impossible to imagine what it's like to LACK that knowledge.Communicati

nghttp://heathbrothers.com/books/made-to-stick/

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Example – Market Positioning

We RHere

X isHere

Y isHere

Z isHere

• To be “something”– U need to be not something else.

• To have insiders – U need outsiders

Key Points• Simple is about Prioritizing.

• Unexpected is about violating schema/ “norms”

• Concrete is about using sensory language

• Credible is about human scale statistics or vivid details

• Emotional - People care about people (not numbers)

• Stories - drive action thru simulation

• SUCCES– Simple – Unexpected – Concrete – Credible – Emotional – Stories

Communicating

Reference

Background

1.All societies are “stratified”(Status matters )

2.All behavior is reciprocalHelping

One Up & One Down

One “Up-ness” of being asked to help

One “Down-ness” of asking for help

Helping

Three Roles

1.Expert - client - self diagnoses & looks for expert- helper - provide information or service

•2. Doctor - client – has a problem- helper - diagnose & prescribe

Helping

3. Process Consultant

- client – has a problem- helper – engage in humble inquiry

Which Role Do You Use?

Helping

Helping

Helping - Extra - Summary

Seven Principles ofEffective Helping

1. Giver & Receiver are both ready

2. Relationship is equitable

3. Helper is in Proper Role

4. Communication is not a choice

• Starts w/ Humble Inquiry

• Receiver owns the problem

• Helper never has all the answers

Helping - Extra

The “No Asshole Rule”• The Quiz

– http://electricpulp.com/guykawasaki/arse/

Behaviour

Which Mindset?

Fixed Mindset:

Growth Mindset:

Behaviour/Attitude

Rule #1

Fixed Mindset:LOOK SMART OR TALENTED AT

ALL COSTS

Growth Mindset:LEARN, LEARN, LEARN

Behaviour/Attitude

Rule #2

Fixed: DON’T WORK TOO HARD“To tell the truth, when I work hard at my school

work it makes me feel like I’m not very smart.”

Growth: WORK HARD, EFFORT IS KEY “The harder you work at something, the better

you’ll be at it.”

Behaviour/Attitude

Rule #3

IN THE FACE OF SETBACKS…

Fixed Mindset:CONCEAL MISTAKES OR DEFICIENCIES

Growth Mindset:EMBRACE MISTAKES, CONFRONT

DEFICIENCIES

Behaviour/Attitude

You Have a Choice

Behaviour/Attitude

Entrepreneurship Fundamental Skills

Communicating

Helping

Listening

Don’t Be an Asshole

(Mindset)“In a Stressful Environment”

Persistence, Grit & Cheer

You Can Do These Now

gentle reminder

Be Remarkable

Seth Godin “How To Be Remarkable” http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2007/01/how_to_be_remar.htmlTed Talk : http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=xBIVlM435Zg

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Extras

Book Links can be found herehttp://

hnorth.wordpress.com/entrepreneurship-readings/

Johnny Bunko’s 6+ Lessons

1 There is no plan [The economy changes too fast for your career to

have a plan.]2 Think strengths, not weaknesses

[Find your advantages]3 It’s not about you

[Serving others serves you best]4 Persistence trumps talent

[Keep showing up]5 Make excellent mistakes

[Take risks, but fail forward]6 Leave an imprint

[Do something that matters]7 Stay hungry

http://www.kk.org/cooltools/archives/002898.phphttp://www.johnnybunko.com/

Why Are People Skills So Important?

! New Ventures fail from lack of

customers !• Not lack of product

• Translates to– People make the product– People buy the products– People make the decisions– People sign cheques– People

• More info: http://steveblank.com/

20 Bad Habits• Here is a list of 20 Bad Habits

• It is very useful to be able to describe them

• Unfortunately it is very difficult to assess yourself.Behaviour

Bad Habit 1-4• 1. Winning too much:

The need to win at all costs and in all situations.

• 2. Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our 2 cents to every discussion.

• 3. Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.

• 4. Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think make us witty.

Behaviour

Bad Habits 5 - 8• 5. Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER: The

overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone that I’m right and you’re wrong.

• 6. Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are.

• 7. Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.

• 8. Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”: The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren’t asked.

Behaviour

Bad Habits 9-20• 9. Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an

advantage over others.• 10. Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward.• 11. Claiming credit that that we don’t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate

our contribution to any success.• 12. Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture

so people excuse us for it.• 13. Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events

and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.• 14. Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.• 15. Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit

we’re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.• 16. Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.• 17. Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.• 18. Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually

only trying to help us.• 19. Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.• 20. An excessive need to be “me”: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re

who we are.

Behaviour

Rules to Live By• The company is a no-asshole zone. It requires employees to agree to sign this document• Rules of Engagement

• 1. I will be passionate—about SuccessFactors’ mission, about my work. I will love what we do for companies and employees everywhere.

• 2. I will demonstrate respect for the individual; I will be nice and listen to others, and respect myself. I will act with integrity and professionalism.

• 3. I will do what it takes to get the job done, no matter what it takes, but within legal and ethical boundaries.• 4. I know that this is a company, not a charity. I will not waste money—I will question every cost.• 5. I will present an exhaustive list of solutions to problems—and suggest actionable recommendations.• 6. I will help my colleagues and recognize the team when we win. I will never leave them behind when we

lose.• 7. I will constantly improve Kaizen! I will approach every day as an opportunity to do a better job, admitting

to and learning from my mistakes.• 8. I will selflessly pursue customer success.• 9. I will support the culture of meritocracy and pay for performance.• 10. I will focus on results and winning—scoring points, not just gaining yardage.• 11. I will be transparent. I will communicate clearly and be brutally honest, even when it’s difficult, because I

trust my colleagues.• 12. I will always be in sales and drive customer satisfaction.• 13. I will have fun at work and approach my work with enthusiasm.• 14. I will be a good person to work with—I will not be an asshole.

• I agree to live these values. If my colleagues fail to live up to any of these rules, I will speak up and will help them correct; in turn, I will be open to constructive criticism from my colleagues should I fail to live by these values. I understand that my performance will be judged in part by how well I demonstrate these values in my daily work.

• http://blog.guykawasaki.com/2007/02/arse_the_asshho.htmlBehaviour

Mindset? What Do You Believe?

1. Your intelligence is something very basic about you that you can’t change very much.

2. You can learn new things, but you can’t really change how intelligent you are.

3. No matter how much intelligence you have, you can always change it quite a bit.

4. You can always substantially change how intelligent you are.Behaviour/Attitude

- Brains grow like a Muscle

- practice makes it stronger!

- By extension “Groups can grow their intelligence”

Attitude

Let’s Listen To Vinod Khosla

• Persistence• Getting into Stanford MBA School

– He didn’t get in the first time.• Closing Sun’s first Deal

– Did he really sleep in the lobby?

• ~ 7:15• http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vinod_Khosla• http://iinnovate.blogspot.com/2007/10/vinod-khosla-co-founder-of-sun.html

Attitude

CustomerCentric Behaviour

Traditional CustomerCentric

Make Presentations Converse “Situationally”

Offer Opinions Ask Relevant Questions

Focus On Relationships Focus On Solution

Gravitate Towards Users Target Business People

Rely on Product Relate Product Usage

Compete to Stay Busy Compete to Win

Close on Sellers Time Frame Close of Buyers Time Frame

Attempt to Sell By • Convincing/Persuading• Handling Objection• Overcoming Resistance

Empower Buyers to• Achieve Goals• Solve Problems• Satisfy Needs

Note How Traditional Techniques are “Not Helping”

Helping