facebook and your child
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These slides support the LIS Coffee Morning held on April 17, 2013, titled Cyber Safety: A Guide to Facebook for Parents.TRANSCRIPT
and Your Child
Luanda International SchoolAli Shebani - Secondary Guidance CounselorElèni Thomaidis da Silva - Child Psychologist
Katy Vance - Secondary Librarian
You know you're living in the 21st Century when...
1. You accidentally enter your password on the microwave.
2. You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years.
3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of three.
4. You e-mail your mate who works at the desk next to you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends is that they do not have e-mail addresses
Outline of the Morning
• Teens, the Net & Social Networking• Positive Aspects of Facebook• Concerns with Facebook & Students • Understanding Facebook settings• Blocking, Reporting, Privacy Settings• Advice for Parents
“You think of technology as a tool… We think of it as a foundation; it underlies everything we do.”
Mark Prensky- Our Brains Extended
Photo by Flickr User ~C4Chaos under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0
Teens and Computers
Photo by Flickr User: Enokson under a CC BY 2.0 license
93% of teens have a computer or access to one
Teens & Cell Phones
Photo by Flickr User: JR_Paris under a CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 license
78% of teens have a cell phone
Social Media Sites
Photo by Flickr User: DigitalRalph under a CC BY 2.0 license
Nearly 73% of Online Teens use Social Networking Sites.
Chart from Pew Research Report “Teens, Kindness and Cruelty on Social Network Sites”
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Tug Of War
Photo by Flickr User: ILRI under a CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
This can be a good thing!
Photo by Flickr User: Robert S. Donovan under a CC BY 2.0 license
Study Groups
Research Support
Health and Wellness
News Resources
Community Connections
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Concerns for Parents
•Bullying
•Safety & Privacy
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Facebook, Feelings and Fighting
Chart from Pew Research Report “Teens, Kindness and Cruelty on Social Network Sites”
What are the issues?
It’s not all good, all the time.
Photo by Flickr user Amanda Gravel under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
Photo by Flickr user Amanda Gravel under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 license
15% experienced cruelty
Social Networks = Unkind Places
1 in 3 (33%) Younger Teen Girls
9% of Younger Teen Boys
18% of Older Teen Boys
'Keyboard Heroes'
Photo used for educational purposes only. From http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/picturegalleries/howaboutthat/7892000/Eskil-Ronningsbakken-the-daredevil-who-balances-on-the-edge-of-1000ft-cliffs-in-Norway.html
Turn to Your Neighbor
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Facts and Figures
• Of teens with an online profile, 32% have received some type of harassment online.– 15% have had private info forwarded without
their permission– 13% received threatening messages– 13% said someone spread a rumor about them
online– 6% had someone post an embarrassing picture
of them online without permissionSource: Pew Internet Research, 2009
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How Much Are You Revealing?
And Who is Checking You Out?
Popularity Contest
The Facebook Experiment
"Sexy" or Inappropriate Photos
Images by Laura Reyome, who illustrated the article this drawing is from: “Applying to College? Twelve Facebook Photos you should delete now”http://collegeapps.about.com/od/theartofgettingaccepted/ss/bad-facebook-photos.htm Used for educational purposes only.
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Tag, You’re It!
Photo (used for educational purposes only) from Cult of Mac blog post: http://www.cultofmac.com/157641/this-creepy-app-isnt-just-stalking-women-without-their-knowledge-its-a-wake-up-call-about-facebook-privacy/
Facebook Settings
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Parenting Strategies
Photo by DeviantArt user Loor101 under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license
National Crime Prevention Council www.ncpc.org
Facts and Figures cont.• 2 in 5 teens tell their parents nothing about
what they do online.
• 1 in 4 teens who have restrictions online can find a way around them.
• 44% of parents do not limit what their children do online whatsoever.
Source: Cox Communications, 2009
• 50% of all teens have a computer in their bedroom.
Source: University of Toronto, 2009Source: University of Toronto, 2009
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Get On Facebook
The screenshot of this status update (and other LOL-tastic classics) is from http://myparentsjoinedfacebook.com/.
Turn to Your Neighbor
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Facebook SettingsYou need to know• How to set your privacy settings
appropriately (not at the default level).
• How to block someone.
• How to report someone.
• How to deactivate your account.
• When in doubt, just log out.
Understanding Facebook Settings
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Review Important Settings Together
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Empower Your Teen
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Encourage Teens to Self-Reflect Before they Self-
Reveal
* adapted from “Presentation:Facebook for Parents of teens http://www.iteachithink.com/2012/09/presentation-facebook-for-parents-of.html
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Talk to your Teen about their “Friends”
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Don’t Believe Everything You See
Drawing by DeviantArt user ~xHybridus under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license
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Discuss Page and Settings Frequently
Even When They Don’t Want To
Photo from Flickr User damon.garrett under a CC BY 2.0
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Monitor Internet Use & Time Online
Meme from Lolhappens user bites85: http://www.lolhappens.com/75670/sleeps-late-every-night-regrets-it-every-morning/
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It’s a Balancing Act
CC BY-SA 3.0
Photo from Wikimedia Commons User Usien under a CC BY-SA 3.0 license
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Learn More About Facebook & Teens
Facebook’s Parents Page
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Are you ready for this?
Photo from Flickr User Tanzen80 under a CC BY-SA 2.0
Videos and Further Resources
• Facebook Privacy Shortcuts Tutorial 2013: http://youtu.be/NI92-AcJweA
• Very Short Facebook Settings Tutorial: http://youtu.be/-dJz_5pd33w
• Common Sense Media: http://www.commonsensemedia.org/
• Facebook Parents Page: http://www.facebook.com/safety/groups/parents/
BibliographyBrookhouser, Kevin. "Presentation: Facebook for Parents of Teens." Web log post. I Teach. I Think. N.p., 19 Sept. 2012. Web. 17 Apr. 2013. <http://www.iteachithink.com/2012/09/presentation-facebook-for-parents-of.html>.
Brownlee, John. "This Creepy App Isn’t Just Stalking Women Without Their Knowledge, It’s A Wake-Up Call About Facebook Privacy [Update]." Cult of Mac. Cultomedia Corp, 30 Mar. 2012. Web. 17 Apr. 2013. <http://www.cultofmac.com/157641/this-creepy-app-isnt-just-stalking-women-without-their-knowledge-its-a-wake-up-call-about-facebook-privacy/>.
"Facebook for Parents." Common Sense Media, 3 Oct. 2011. Web. 17 Apr. 2013. <http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/facebook-parents>.
"Global Digital Communication: Texting, Social Networking Popular Worldwide." Pew Global Attitudes Project. Pew Research, 29 Feb. 2012. Web. 15 Apr. 2013. http://www.pewglobal.org/2011/12/20/global-digital-communication-texting-social-networking-popular-worldwide/.
Prensky, Marc. "Our Brains Extended." Educational Leadership 70.6 (2013): 22-27.Educational Leadership. ASCD, Mar. 2013. Web. 15 Apr. 2013.
"Social Networking Tips." Common Sense Media. N.p., 17 Oct. 2011. Web. 17 Apr. 2013. <http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/social-networking-tips>.
"Teens, Kindness and Cruelty on Social Network Sites." Facebook Dominates Teen Social Media Usage. Pew Research, 9 Nov. 2011. Web. 15 Apr. 2013. <http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2011/Teens-and-social-media/Part-1/Facebook.aspx>.