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BELL WORK:

Answer on a piece of paper:When people choose a

marriage partner they are also choosing a parent for their children. What qualities would you look for?

OBJECTIVES:

• List the costs related to having and raising a child. (1.5)

• Name reasons for family planning. (1.6)

• List factors that influence family planning decisions. (1.7)

UNIT 1 – THE PARENTHOOD DECISIONOBJECTIVES:

1.5 - List the costs related to having and raising a child.

*List two from each category.

FurnitureBedChanging tableRocker

EquipmentBath tubStrollerSwing

SuppliesDiaper/wipesFormulaFeeding supplies

ClothesT-shirtsGownsSocks

ToysRattlesStuffed animalsBath toys

ChildcareTypes and cost vary

LIST COSTS RELATED TO HAVING AND RAISING A CHILD—1.5

1.6 - WHY PLAN YOUR FAMILY?

1. Make sure children are truly wanted.

2. Allow time to build a solid relationship with your spouse or partner before having children.

3. Make sure you are prepared to raise children.

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?

1. The relationship is satisfying.

2. Each person treats the other respectfully.

3. The relationship is stable.

4. Both people work to resolve conflicts and reach compromises.

5. The couple shares a common philosophy about having and raising children.

6. The couple doesn’t have serious differences or problems.

RELATIONSHIPS..

Stability - firmness in position; continuance without change; permanence

Having children strengthens stable relationships but...

Having a baby makes a weak relationship weaker.

LESS FREE TIME

How do you think children would affect a marriage relationship?

Less couple time

Sleepless nights

More STRESSLess money to

spend on you

Disciplineissues

MORE Chaos

1.7 - SO, WHAT SHOULD YOU CONSIDER BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO BECOME A PARENT?

? Do you like children?

? Are you READY?

? Is your relationship strong enough?

? Is your bank account big enough?

? Is this the right time in your life for children?

? Am I healthy enough to have children?

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF(AND YOUR SPOUSE): DISCUSS AT YOUR TABLE(P. 146)

Do we share common values on raising/disciplining children?

How soon do we want to begin a family?How many kids do we want?How far apart in years do we want them

to be spaced?How will we balance work and family?Who will take care of the children?

“MY IDEALISTIC TIMELINE”

o Plan your future family.o Tell when you’ll have your first, second,

third, etc. child.o Determine what year it will be for each

birth.o Highlight other life accomplishments on

your time line.

o Your birth yearo Turn 5, start

kindergarten o Turn 16o Turn 18o Turn 21o Turn 40o Turn 50

o Turn 60o Turn 75o Turn 85o Turn 90o Death (??)

ALL ABOUT YOU!!

o Schoolo 1st caro Collegeo Jobso 1st houseo Retirement

(usually around 70)

o Fun! o Marriage (if

applicable)10th anniversary25th anniversary50th anniversary

ACCOMPLISHMENTS

o Birth year.o Turn 5, Start

kindergarten.

o Turn 18, Graduate high school.

o When they have children (your grandchildren).

YOUR CHILD OR CHILDREN:

o In chronological order!

o Complete!Neat!

o Accomplishment (s) – List the year.

o You do not have to have something for every year of your life.

YOUR TIMELINE SHOULD BE…