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Foundations for SuccessCadet Etiquette Guide

Chapter 10: Planning Skills and Social ResponsibilityLesson 4: Cadet Etiquette Guide

Cadet EtiquettMILITARY BALL



Energizer (Candy Activity)

- One team eat candy (or food provided in bowls) with forks and knives.

- The other team tape your fingers together or put on mittens, and then try to eat from the bowl.

- Discuss how easy or difficult it is to change how something is usually done.



Reflection: (Candy Activity)

- How do you usually eat these foods?

- How did you feel as you tried to eat your food?

- What foods do you eat one way in public, but eat another

way at home?



Bad Table Manner

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AGENDA• Standards of Dress• Formal Introductions• Key Note Terms / Question• Receiving Line / Hands Shakes• Dining Tips (Methods, Manners, and Courtesies

of Eating)• Other courtesies• Practical Exercise



Agree or Disagree Practical Exercise



What is “Etiquette”?A) To engage a person for duty in the armed forces.B) Behaviors based on rules of a polite society.C) The proper way to wear a military uniform.D) An uncritical or formalized conception, notion, or attitude.

What is “Manners”?

A) A decision on how to proceed; a plan.B) A trusted counselor or guide.C) To display respect, care, and consideration towards others.D) The arrangement of people or elements of a unit in a

prescribed manner.

Etiquette vs. Manners



During your JROTC experience, and life after graduation, there will be occasions when you will be encouraged to interact with people on a social level.



Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.

A formal military dinner for military members only is known as _____________.

A) Dining -in

B) Dining-out

C) Protocol

D) Receiving line



Formal - Men (uniform or tuxedo) uniform with white shirt and bow tie- Women (long or short evening gown)

Informal - Men (sport coat and tie)- Women (daytime dress or nice pantsuit)

Casual - Men (nice slacks and sport/collared shirt)- Women (sundress or nice pants and blouse)

Standards of Dress




Traditionally, a/an __________ is a man who attends a social

affair without an escort/date.

A) Protocol

B) Etiquette

C) Stag

D) Sorbet



Formal Introductions

- Simple, and direct; speak slow and clear

- The most generally accepted introductions are…

(May I introduce…” or”…, I would like you to meet…” You should not say”…, Meet…)

- Use titles (Doctor, Reverend, Pastor…and other guests as Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Ms.)

- Return a courtesy such as, “Nice to meet you,” “Hello, “”I am really glad to meet you,” or “How do you do?”



Receiving Line

- Customary and mandatory- SAI, spouse, honored guests- Ladies precede the gentlemen through the line; ladies are

introduced first- Adjutant announces the names to the host



Shaking Hands

- When a hand is offered, then take it- Handshakes are brief, a feeling of strength, and warmth- Maintain eye contact- Don’t shake violently or too firm or keep shaking for a

long time or offer only your fingertips- If seated rise to acknowledge- Remove gloves unless in the Color Guard or otherwise

inconvenient




You shouldn’t _____________ or take control of a conversation.

A) Manners

B) Monopolize

C) Tines

D) Place cards



Receiving Line / Hand Shake Demo




The intent of the dining-in is to promote cordiality, ___________, and esprit de corps.

A) Repast

B) Comradeship

C) Receiving Line

D) Curtly



Dining Tips

- Be relaxed, politeness is the key

- Gentlemen do not sit down until all the ladies are seated

- Help with the seating by holding the chair

- Posture at the table; straight but not stiff

- When a lady leaves the table; the gentleman who seated her rises

- When a lady returns to the table, then the gentleman who seated her rises



Dining Tips

- Dinner guest do not touch anything on the table until after the invocation

- Napkin: unfold partially on your lap; never unfold completely or above the table

- Start with the outside piece of silverware and work inwards

- # of pieces of silverware indicate the # of courses to expect



Dining Tips

– Eating : hold the fork in your left hand with the tines down when cutting food

– Cut no more than two or three bites of food, then place the knife on the plate and transfer the fork to your right hand (zigzag method)

– When not using your fork and knife : place them together across the top of your plate

– When you have finished eating : place the fork and knife together on the plate diagonally from 10 to 4




A ___________ is a fruit-flavored ice served for dessert.

A) Tines

B) Place cards

C) Sorbet

D) Stag



Dining Tips

(Silverware)

- After using silverware, do not place it back on the table

- Do not leave a used spoon in a cup, place it on the saucer

- Leave unused silverware on the table in its proper position



Other Tips

- Sip your soup from the side of the spoon, do not slurp

- Do not blow on your soup to cool it

- Break your bread, then butter and eat it one piece at a time

- Do not tuck your napkin under your belt or wear it like a bib

- Dab with a napkin; never blow your nose with it; never lick your fingers

- If you must leave the table, then say “Excuse me please” with no explanation required



Other Tips Do’s and Don’t

- Take small bites; not mouthfuls

- If you burp, say excuse me

- Hats, gloves, cameras, etc do not belong on the table

- Don’t ask for a doggy bag

- Don’t reach across the table for something, ask for it to be passed

- Keep the conversation light, nothing serious

- Be a good listener; do not interrupt



Other Courtesies/Tips

- Walking with a lady - Opening doors- Unacceptable to use slang and poor grammar (yeah, nope, etc) - Never address a senior person by their first or last name - Good grooming (no second chance to make a first impression)- Good grooming is an individual responsibility; it should not be

necessary for an instructor or senior cadet to tell you to maintain good hygiene

- Don’t chew gum



Final Words of Wisdom

- Your are responsible for your guest’s behavior

- Practice good manners

- Observe the basic courtesies, traditions, and customs

- Enjoy yourself and have fun

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