Bonus  Q&A  with  Holly  Rigsby  

September  22,  2015  

   

How  to  Overcome  Your  Two  Biggest  Fitness  Obstacles:  No  Time,  No  Energy?  

 

 

 

 

 

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Jacqueline:   Okay,  fantastic.  So  Holly,  we’ll  dive  right  in  to  our  bonus  Q&A.  Oh,  fantastic  Ann  is  saying  that  she  just  purchased  your  offer,  I  just  love  it,  love  it,  love  it,  love  it,  and   can’t   wait   to…and   please   do   send   Holly   and   I   your   feedback.  Support@greatparentingshow.com   is  how   to   send  me  comments  and   I’m  sure  Holly’s   email   is   even   on   the   /Holly   page   as   well.  www.greatparentingshow.com/Holly.    

  Okay,  so  yeah,  Levanda  says,  “How  easy  is  it  to  get  started?  Do  I  have  to  review  a  lot  of  material?”  Maybe  quickly  answer  that  question?  

Holly:   Well   remember  what   I   said,   you  don’t  have   to  have   it   all   figured  out   to  move  forward.   You   can   just   open   up   the   program   and   just   find   the   introductory  workout.  It  comes  with  the  printable  workout  log,  you  can  choose  to  print  that  out   or   just   have   it   in   your   screen.   Honestly,   if   you   just   go   and   watch   the  introductory   learn   it,   A.   learn   the   moves,   press   A,   an   introductory,   do   it,   A,  boom,  you’re  ready  to  go.  

Jacqueline:   Love  that.  I  think  it’s  absolutely  critical  to  just  get  started  and  to  spend  a  week  thinking  about  it  and  not  do  it.  And  I  think  this  is  really  ideally  a  yes-­‐no  decision,  “yes,  it  resonates.  Let’s  try  it  and  if  doesn’t  work,  we’ll  get  our  refund,”  and  just  jump  in  and  try  it.  And  I  know  that  for  some  of  us,  I  actually  haven’t  delved  into  the  nutrition  part  much  because  that  hasn’t  been  something  I  needed  as  much,  right?   But   fine,   whatever   amount   of   support   you   need   then   you   go   there.  Someone’s   asking,   I   think   it’s   Kiyaba,   saying,   “Well   you   talk   about  PCOS   too.   I  don’t  know  what  PCOS  is.”  

Holly:   That’s  not  my  area  of  expertise  so  I  wouldn’t  be  able  to  tell  you  much  about  it.    

Jacqueline:   Okay.   So   Brenda’s   saying   she’s   strained   her   neck   whenever   she   lifts   heavy  weights  and  can’t  exercise  for  days  afterwards.  What  are  your  suggestions?    

Holly:   I  have  to  see  what  she’s  doing.    

Jacqueline:   Okay.  

Holly:   Yeah,  straining  your  neck,  I  don’t  know  if   it’s  your  form,  if  you’re  not  using  the  right  type  of  weights…  

Jacqueline:   That’s  one  of  the  great  things  about  the  learn  videos,  I  make  myself  watch  them  even  though   I’ve  been   in  your  program  now  for   like  over  three  years.   I  always  watch  them  to  make  sure  that  I  see  what  you’re  suggesting.    

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  Brenda,   if   you  want   to   get   some  more   information,   by   all  means   do.   Chris   is  asking  about  the  order  of  a  strength  training  workout.  Do  you  want  to  comment  on  that?  

Holly:   The  order?  Can  be  more  specific  about  the  order.    

Jacqueline:   “Well,  I’m  wondering  if  you  have  a  suggestion  in  terms  of,”  and  I  suggest  if  she’s  thinking  back  on  the  gym  days  where  they  say,  “Do  your   legs  first  and  do  your  arms  or  whatever.”  

Holly:   I  already  got  that  all  mapped  out.  You  don’t  have  to  think  in  terms  of  body  parts  because   I’m   going   to   give   you   exercises   that   by   the   end   of   15  minutes,   you’ll  have  targeted  your  entire  body.    

  And   one   of   the   most   frequently   asked   questions   is   “What   is   the   super   set?”  because   they   see   the   workout   log   and   they   don’t   get   it.   That’s   why   the   full  Follow  Along  workout  video  helps  you  understand   it.  That’s  why  you  can  even  review   it.   But   definitely   practicing   the   "Learn   It,"   and   when   it   comes   to  scheduling  your  workouts,  because  you  have  a  workout  A  and  workout  B,  you’re  going  to  rotate  through  those  two  workouts  for  4  weeks.    

  The  thing  is,  you  don’t  want  to  do  them  on  back  to  back  dates.  You  want  to  have  a  day   in  between  your   strength   training  workouts.  You  can  choose  an   interval  training  on  the  same  day  so  you  could  choose  a  3  day  a  week  schedule  or  a  6  day   a  week   schedule.   3   day   a  week   schedule  means  on  Monday,  Wednesday,  and   Friday   its   strength   followed   by   interval   training,   strength   followed   by  interval  training,  strength  followed  by  interval  training  and  you’re  done  for  the  week.    

  Or,  if  you’re  doing  6  days  a  week  because  you  don’t  have  more  than  a  15  minute  block   of   time,   strength   training   one   day,   interval   training   the   next,   strength  training  one  day,   interval  training  in  the  next.  So  I  think  that’s  one  of  the  most  frequently   asked   questions   I   get   even   though   there’s   a   workout   calendar   in  there  that  shows  you  your  options.  They  just  see  that  and  get  confused.  So  just  know   that   you’re   rotating   through   your   strength   workouts   or   workout   A,  workout  B,  workout  A,  workout  B,  and  you’re  allowing  that  day  between  each  strength  workout.  

Jacqueline:   Fabulous.  So  Angie’s  asking  something  about  the   impact  on  the   joints  because  she  says  she  has  some  early  knee  degeneration,  and  I  know,  again,  she  doesn’t  want  to  mess  her  knees  up  and  pain  more.  I  know  again  that  is  something  you  

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always   give  modifications   for,   but   do   you  want   to   talk   about   how   the  weight  training  impacts  joints?  

Holly:   Traditional   leg   training   workouts   are   not   typically   high   impact   moves.   If  anything,  during   interval   training,  you  can  actually  go   to  my  YouTube  channel,  I’ve   got   7   low   to   non-­‐impact   moves   that   you   could   do   for   interval   training  workouts.  My  YouTube  channel   is  Holiday   JOI.  Yeah,   I   created   it  when   I  didn’t  know  I  had  to  have  a  catchy  username.    

Jacqueline:   Yes.    

Holly:   So   if   you   want   to   check   out  my   YouTube   channel   and   find   those   low   impact  interval   training   moves,   you   don’t   have   to   bounce   around   for   it   to   be   an  effective   workout!   In   fact,   I’ve   been   doing   yoga   flow-­‐based   interval   training  workouts   and   the   FYMs   are   like   “Oh  my  G.   This   is   challenging!”   So   you   don’t  have   to   think—don’t   associate   interval   training   with   pound,   pound,   pound,  pound,  especially  if  you  have  knee  problems  or  back.    

Jacqueline:   And   I   don’t   know  what   the   truth   is  when   you’ve   got   early   degenerative   knee  issues,  it  sounds  like  a  different  thing,  but  I  know  that  in  general,  all  the  strength  training  is  phenomenal  for  our  overall  body  and  keeping  our  weight  off  is  great  for  our  joints  as  well.  

Holly:   This’ll  be  a  good  point  to  say,  before  you  start  any  new  exercise  program,  please  check  with  your  doctor.  That  should  be  a  given.  

Jacqueline:   Yeah.  

Holly:   So  if  you’ve  not  checked  with  your  doctor  and  you  hurt  yourself,  you  took  down  that  liability.  Please  check  with  the  doctor  especially  for  pre-­‐existing  injuries  or,  like  you  say,  you’re  dealing  with  something  that  is  degenerative  and  you  need  to  make  sure  that  you  get  the  doctor’s  okay  to  start  something  new.    

Jacqueline:   Perfect.  And  again,  I  think  it’s  great  for  people  who  are  taking  advantage  of  your  offer,   they’ve   got   60   day   money   back   guarantee,   and   I   actually   think   it’s   so  critical   to   try   something   because   so   often   we   think,   “Well,   I’ll   think   about   it  later,”  and  realistically  I  do  this  all  the  time.  I  have  something  on  Saturday  that  I  absolutely  wanted  and  I  might  remember  to  get  back  to  it  because  it  just  sprung  into   my   mind   now,   but   there’s   a   good   chance   that   we   forget   a   lot   of   those  things.    

  So  I’m  just  going  through,  cause  we  have  a  lot  of  different  questions  here,  one  of  them  that  was  about…Sylvia  says  she  has  a  hard  time  gaining  weight  and  has  

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to   lose   it,  and  then  she  stops  working  out  and  she  feels  sluggish  and  tired  and  gets  into  a  cycle  there.  Is  that  something  you  can  speak  to?  

Holly:   If  you’re  having  a  hard  time  gaining  weight,  you’re  not  eating  enough,  putting  it  simply.   You   need   to   figure   out   your   portion   sizes   and   if   you   have   been  restricting  the  foods  that  you  eat  because  even  if  you  have  a  high  metabolism,  you’re  going  to  eat  a  lot  more  calories.    

  There  was  a  point  when  I  was  eating  2200,  2300  calories  a  day  and  my  body  was  super  lean,  but  I  was  much  younger  then.  And  my  body’s  different  now,  I’m  at  a  different  point   in  my   lifestyle   in  my  40’s,   and   I   don’t  want   to  be  extreme  and  “look  at  Holly’s  abs”,  that’s  now  what  I’m  at  in  my  life  right  now.  But  if  you  are  lean   and   you   have   a   high   metabolism,   you   better   feed   your   body   otherwise  you’re  going  to  run  into  issues  later  down  the  road.  

Jacqueline:   Okay,   that’s   awesome,   and   again   you   do   have   so   much   great   fitness  information.  I’m  realizing  that  for  everyone  listening  to  the  replay,  I  could  use  to  read  some  more  of   these.  Like  Bridget  says,  she  was  responding  to  Angie,  and  says,  “I’m  a  club  FYM  member  and  I  have  bad  knees,  three  surgeries,”  and  she  talks  about  the  low  impact  workout  which  is  great  and  there  have  been  so  many  people  commenting   things   like   that.  Okay,   I   know  we  got   like  5  more  minutes  here  but—  

Holly:   I  can  talk  for  another  15,  my  husband’s  picking  Tyler  up.  

Jacqueline:   Oh,  okay!  Perfect.  

Holly:   We  have  time.  

Jacqueline:   Okay,   so   go  ahead,   I’ll   look  up   the   top  here  but…oh!   Savannah’s   asking  about  fighting   sugar   dependency.   Do   you   have   anything   specific   you   want   to   say  because  yeah,  a  couple  of  people  are  talking  about  sugar  cravings  and  fighting  that.  

Holly:   Sugar’s  a  drug.  As  long  as  it’s  in  your  system,  you’ll  feel  addicted  to  it.  You  have  to  eliminate  it  in  order  to  manage  it.  I  think  that  JJ  Virgin  gave  a  great  example  of  that.  Do  you  remember  that  story?  Maybe  I  heard  it.  

Jacqueline:   She  was  on.  I  think.  So  go  ahead  and  tell  the  story  but  I  think  I  know  it.  

Holly:   I   probably  will   get   the   story  wrong   but   it   has   to   do  with,   if   you   sit   down   and  there’s  a  tack  on  your  seat,  you  can  rise  up  and  hold  your  own  body  weight  but  eventually  you’re  gonna  sit  back  down  and  be  poked  by  it  again.    

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Jacqueline:   Yes.  

Holly:   The  only  way   to   stop  being  poked   is   to  get  up,  okay   it’s   simple,   it’s  a  process.  You've   got   to   unsew   it,   you   got   to   take   it   out,   and   you   got   to   sew   it   back   up  again.  Then  when  you  go  to  sit  back  down,  you’re  not  being  poked.  You  have  to  eliminate  it.  I  know  it’s  hard  but  what’s  harder,  continuing  to  struggle  with  it  day  in  and  day  out?    

  The   first   three   days   are   the  worst,   that’s  why   you   need   support  when   you’re  doing   it.  After  the  first  three  days,  then  it  becomes  a  matter  of  managing.  You  can   be  more   self-­‐aware,   start   filling   your   body  with   nourishing   foods   so   your  body   doesn’t   have   this   craving   because   you’ve   been…your   body   hasn’t   been  depleted  of  certain  nutrients  so   it’s  trying  to  accommodate  for  that.  But  that’s  the  only  way   to  get  around   it  especially   for  people  who   feel   like   they  have  no  self-­‐control.    

  This  is  not  a  matter  of,  “Oh,  I’ll  just  go  sugar-­‐free  for  three  days,”  then  when  you  add   it   back   in,   you’re   right   back   where   you   started.   It’s   still   in   your   system.  People  talk  about  21  days  because  that’s  how  long  it  takes  to  get  it  out  of  your  system.  So  yes,  you've  got  to  eliminate   it.  You  don’t  substitute   it  with  artificial  sweeteners   or   agave   or   honey   or   anything   else   that   is   substituting   the   sweet  because  then  you’re  just  continuing  the  cycle.  You  have  to  get  rid  of  it.    

Jacqueline:   Okay.  Huge,  that’s  great  to  share.  Abigail  has  something  here  saying  the  link  you  put  up  takes  us  to  The  Great  Parenting  Show  signup  but  how  do  you  get  Holly’s  offer?   Rose,   if   you   could   just   double   check,   it   should,   and   I   know  people   said  they  bought   so   it   should  be  okay,  but  www.greatparentingshow.com/Holly,  H-­‐O-­‐L-­‐L-­‐Y,   that   should   work.   So   yeah,   Angie   was   talking   about   how—Oh   yeah,  Rose  said  she  did  double  check  so  that  should  work.  Rose,  maybe  put   it   in  the  chatbox  one  more  time  please  and  people  could   just  click  on  that.  That  would  be  great.  

  So  Angie  was   talking  about   the  online   support   group   for  people   trying  out,   so  that’s   your   Club   FYM,   and   let’s   talk   about   that   as   well   because   you   got   the  introductory  offer  and  then  you’ve  got  the  for  people  who  want  to  dive  in  and  sign  up  for  your  whole  system,  then  they  can  do  that  as  well.    

Holly:   Yeah,   FYM   is   our…we   call   it   our   safe   circle  of   support  because  when   it   comes  down  to  it,  when  we  go  to  make  changes  to  our  life,  people  who  are  used  to  us  living  in  a  certain  way,  don’t  react  to  it  very  positively  unless  you  step  down  and  have   a   conversation,   you’ve   shared,   you've   opened   up   your   heart   and   you’ve  shared   that   this   change   needs     to   happen   and  why,  many   of   us   start  without  

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telling  anybody  but  ourselves  and  all  of  a  sudden  you’re  doing  things  differently  and  you’re  met  with  this,  “Oh,  what  is  happening?”    

  So   that’s  why   it’s   really   important   to   be   surrounded   by   people  who   get  what  you’re  going  through  and  more  importantly  that  they  want  to  see  you  become  the   best   version   of   you   versus   a   lot   of   people   we   have   personally   around   us  don’t.  They  don’t  want  to  see  us  change  because  that’s  either  going  to  highlight  the  changes   that   they  need   to  make,  or   they  can’t   relate   to  you  anymore  and  there’s  a  loss.    

  And   it’s   also   important   to   have   a   place   where   you   can   come,   especially   for  moms,  a  safe  place  to  come  and  just  vent  because  a  lot  of  times  we  deal  with  a  lot—oh  my  god,  some  of   the  stuff   that   I’ve  been  seeing  on  FYM  as  of   late—to  know  that  you  have  a  safe  place  to  come  and  hide  out  to  get  something  that’s  really   heated   you   up   and   not   be   judged   by   it   but   to   be   heard   and   validated  because  sometimes  we  just  need  to  get  it  out  in  order  to  move  forward.  That’s  a  big  part  of  FYM,   it’s  not   just,  “Oh,  you  got  to  do  these  workouts  each  month.”  No,  we  got   this   safe   circle  of   support  where   you   can   come  and  be   vulnerable  and   be   you   and   be   accepted   for   that,   because   that’s   one   of   the   biggest  proponents  in  order  to  being  able  to  level  up  to  enhance  the  quality  of  your  life.  You  got  to  do  what  works  for  you,  and  if  that  continues  to  be  put  off,  you  won’t  truly  get  there.    

Jacqueline:   Yeah,  and  the  support  is  a  critical  piece.  Just  to  read,  Sandra  says  it’s  really  easy  to  get  started,  just  started  with  her  first  video  a  couple  years  ago,  so  thanks  for  sharing  that.  I  have  a  couple  more  things,  yeah,  because  Lavanda  had  to  ask  that  question  about  being  able  to…you  know,  how  much  do  you  have  to  do  to  start.    

  So  yeah,  there’s  lots  of  specific  questions  like  I’m  not  sure  if  you  can  comment  something   like   Hashimoto’s,   I   think,   is   quite   specific   and   how   that   would  interact  with  the  adrenal  issues,  so  that’s  probably  another  one  for  the  doctors.  Do  you  want  to  make  any  comments  about  some  of  the  health  conditions  that  you  have  seen  ameliorated  by  doing  the  workouts?  

Holly:   Yeah,   there’s   a   handful   of   Fit   Yummy  Mummies  who  have   come   forward   that  said  that  they  have  been  struggling  with  Hashimoto’s,  or  maybe  just  diagnosed  with,   and   doctors   have   been   very   impressed   with   the   results   that   they   have  achieved   despite   that   condition   because   they   are   taking   better   care   of  themselves,   not   just   doing   the   workout   but   they’re   taking   better   care   of  themselves.   Daniella   is   one   of   them   who   just   opened   up   and   shared  about…Jacqueline,  I  don’t  know  if  you  saw  her  story  

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Jacqueline:   Oh  

Holly:   And   you   would   look   at   her   and   wouldn’t   even   know   that   that’s   what   she’s  struggling  with  because  it  was  just  a  couple  of  months  ago,  she  celebrated  her  1  year  anniversary  with  FYM.  So  her  body’s   completely   transformed  despite   the  condition  because  she  started  taking  better  care  of  herself;  working  out  better,  eating   to   nourish,   taking   time   to   tune   in   and   listen   to   her   body,   and   make  choices  that  are  best  serving  her,  huge  change.  

Jacqueline:   What  a  great  example  of  what  you’re  saying  of  surviving  versus  thriving  because  many   people   with   serious   conditions   like   that   are   stuck   in   surviving   because  they  don’t  know  better.  And  I  know  I’ve  heard  crazy  things  about  MS—muscular  sclerosis—like  how  some  of  those  conditions  that  people  who  are  really  fit  can  sometimes  get  themselves  in  remission  state  for  a  long  period  of  time  so  there’s  some   huge   benefits.   I   wanted   to   share   Bridge’s   comment   that   she   says,   “Fit  Yummy  Mummy    has  continually  changed  my   life   through  4  kids  even  through  pregnancy.”    

  Oh,  and   I  guess  this  person  figured   it  out  but  yeah,   if  someone  doesn’t  have  a  credit   card,   I   guess…what’s   the   other   payment   options   for   people   who   don’t  have  a  credit  card?  

Holly:   There’s  PayPal.  Credit  card  or  PayPal.  

Jacqueline:   Okay,   perfect,   so   PayPal   works.   Okay,   couple   others   here.   Yeah,   Angelica’s  commenting   about   how   so  many   of   us   carry   the   weight   of   the   world   on   our  shoulders   and   how   that   can   express   through   our   bodies   and   you   really   are  talking  about  shedding  so  many  of  those  values  and  attitudes  that  are  bringing  us  down,  which  is  a  big  deal.  So  Abigail  wants  to  know  about  doing  this  program  online  instead  of  having  it  shipped  to  us  and  it  is  actually  online,  but  is  there  also  a  physical  component  as  well?  

Holly:   Physical   components   are   going   out   of   style.   Everything   is   instant,   on   your  phone.  If  you  don’t  want  to  wait  and  set  stuff  up,  you  just  press  play.  So  yeah,  this  is  completely  digital  online.  

Jacqueline:   Fantastic.  

Holly:   If   you’re   stuck   at   anything   at   any   point,   my   signature   line   is,   “I’m   always   an  email  away,”  and  yes,  you’re  getting  me.    

Jacqueline:   I   love   it.   And   I   love   how  Abigail   has   the   consciousness   of   not  wanting   to   add  more  stuff  to  the  world,  and  I  think  that’s  just  huge  and  really  important.    

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  Okay,   so   couple   other   things   here,   and   if   you   want   to   keep   putting   your  questions   in,   I  know  Rose  often  puts  a  question   in   front  of   them  so  that  really  helps  me  to  know  which  ones  are  questions.  

  Holly,  you  go  ahead,  I’ll  just  scroll  for  a  sec.  Is  there  anything  else  that  you  want  to   add?   I   know   there’s  many   things,   and   here’s   one   I   could   ask   you   is   about  doing  workouts   in   the  morning  versus   later   in   the  day?   [16:48  distortion]  with  my  show  launch  was  one  of  those  times  where  I  was  reminded  of  the  fact  that  nature  is  not  always  in  balance.  And  I  was  having  the  period  of  time  there  where  I  was  working   just  crazy   insane  hours.  So   I  actually  started  sometimes  working  out  in  the  afternoon  when  I  felt   like  I  needed  more  caffeine  but  I  usually  don’t  drink   more   than   a   cup   a   day   so   instead   of   having   caffeine,   I   was   doing   my  workout  then  to  pick  me  up.  But  I  tend  to  like  morning  workouts.  Do  you  have  a  recommendation  on  what  time  of  day  is  best?    

Holly:   I  say  the  time  of  day  that  allows  you  to  be  consistent.  

Jacqueline:   Perfect,  yeah.  

Holly:   So   think   about  what   commitments   you   have,   your   energy   levels,   but   it  might  fluctuate   and   don’t   try   to   fix   your   workout   schedule   into   this   box.   Maybe  Monday  mornings  are  good  but  on  Wednesdays   it’s  afternoon.   It  doesn’t  have  to  be  a  set  time  every  single  time.  Sometimes  it’s  going  to  be  spontaneous.  “Oh  suddenly  the  neighbors  came  by  and  the  kids  ran  out  to  play,  I  have  a  block  of  time,  I  can  do  my  work  out!”  So  don’t  restrict  yourself.  Yes,  it’s  good  to  plan  but  don’t  restrict  yourself  to  saying,  “Oh,  I  can  only  do  this  at  this  time  and  if  I  can’t  get  it,   it’s  a  fail.”  So  definitely  be  open  and  flexible  in  paying  attention  to  what  works  best  for  you.  Consistency,  consistency,  consistency.    

Jacqueline:   Fabulous.  Okay,  here’s  a  piggyback  on  that,  someone  was  asking  about  starting  with   a   four  minute   workout.  What   do   you   have   to   say?   I   know   you   basically  answered   that   earlier   when   you   said   just   start   and   do  what   you   can,   do   you  want  to  comment  any  more  about  that?  

Holly:   Like   if   you’re   talking   about,   I   see   four   minute   workout   videos   being   posted  everywhere,  that’s  fine,  but  if  you’re  not  following…okay,  this  is  something  that  should’ve  been   talked   about  during   the   first   part.   You   can’t   program  hop  and  expect   to   get   results.   You   have   to   follow   a   program   that’s   been   designed   to  progressively  increase  the  challenge  so  that  way  it's  keeping  in  mind  the  balance  of   the  workouts   and   it’s   knowing  what   level   you   just   completed   so  we   know  what  to  work  on  for  the  next   levels.  Your  body’s  constantly  changing,   if  you’re  hopping  from  one  program  to  the  next,  there’s  no  progression,  and  while  you’re  

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working   out   and   feeling   better,   you  might   not   see   the   results   you’re   going   to  achieve  if  you’re  actually  following  a  system  that’s  been  intelligently  designed  in  order  to  help  you  to  continue  to  achieve.  So  if  it  takes  a  four  minute  workout  to  just   get   into   a   habit,   great,   but   you   have   to   commit   to   a   program   that   is  systemized  to  ensure  that  you  are  gonna  get  results.    

Jacqueline:   Fantastic.  Yeah,  that’s  so  critical.    

  Okay,   Akiba,   I’m   not   sure   I’m   pronouncing   that   right,   is   talking   about…she’s  breastfeeding  and  she  can’t  eat  green  vegetables  and  she  doesn’t  eat  meat.  Do  you   have   suggestions—oh,   apparently   her   digestive   system   was   damaged   by  the—it’s  one  of  those  words—anesthesiologist?  I  can  normally  say  it  but  I’m  not  saying   it   right  today.  But  do  you  have  suggestions   for  her  because  she  can  eat  things   like   pasta,   she   can’t   eat   green   vegetables   and   she   doesn’t   eat   a   lot   of  protein.  Do  you  want  to  comment?  

Holly:   Do  not  eat  a  lot  of  protein  because  you’re  choosing  not  to?  

Jacqueline:   Oh   sorry,   she  does  not  eat  meat.   She  doesn’t   say   she  doesn’t  eat  protein   so   I  trust  that  she  does  eat  it.  

Holly:   I  take  the  approach  of  you  need  to  eat  meat,  you  need  to  have  some  proteins  so  I’m  not  the  best  resource  for  you.  I’m  not  vegan,  I’m  not  vegetarian.  I  see  a  lot  of  people   struggle   that  do  commit   to   that   type  of   lifestyle  but   that’s  probably  for  a  whole  other  call.  I  think  that  you  can  live  a  balanced  healthy  life  by  making  sure  that  everything’s  eaten  in  moderation.    

Jacqueline:   Okay,   thanks,   because   I   know   that   there’s   so  many   different   subtopics  within  this  site,   it’s   like  the  whole  parenting  gift,  that’s   impossible  to  be  an  expert  on  the  whole  thing.  So  another  question  is  “How  to  keep  myself  motivated?  When  I  lose  some  weight   I   tend   to  eat  and  celebrate  and  gain   it  back.  From  following  your  program,   I  could  probably  answer  that  question  and  I’d   love  to  hear  your  answer."  

Holly:   Well,  I  would  say,  in  that  particular  instance,  you  know  that  that  cycle  exists  so  why  are  you  not  catching  yourself?  Because  the  goal  is  to  make  new  mistakes  to  learn  from  them.  If  you’re  making  the  same  mistake  over  and  over  again,  it’s  a  choice.  Why  are  you  choosing  to  sabotage  yourself?  What  are  you  afraid  of  by  getting  results?    

  So   you’re   going   to   have   to   dive   in   to   the   other   aspect   of   this.  What   are   you  scared  of  that’s  causing  you  to  self-­‐sabotage  and  go  back  to  square  one?  What  are   you   getting   out   of   staying   overweight   or   dealing  with   those   extra   pounds  

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that   keep   coming  back?  Because   this   is   a  matter   of   self-­‐sabotage.   I   think   that  that’s   the   best   advice   that   I   can   give   at   this   point   because   motivation   is   a  completely  different   topic,   but   if   you  are   continually   self-­‐sabotaging  and   it’s   a  predictable   cycle,   that   needs   to   be   addressed   ASAP   and   find   out   why   you’re  making  that  choice.    

Jacqueline:   And  I   love,  because  this  has  come  out   in  the  interview  and  in  this  Q&A,   is  that  you  have   that  beautiful  balance  between  being  very  supportive  and  very  clear  that  we  need  to  be  gentle  on  ourselves,  but  at  the  same  time,  really  one  of  the  most  self-­‐loving  things  we  could  do,  as  well  as  the  most  loving  things  we  can  do  for  our   families,   is   take   serious   stock  of  habits  we  have   that  aren’t   serving  us.  And   in   this   case,   and   I   think   it’s   just  wonderful   that   she  made   that   comment  because   by   making   that   comment,   now   it’s   out   there   and   now   she’s   had   a  chance  and  I  actually  had,  by  chance,  didn’t  say  who  it  was  and  I  think  that’s  just  as  well   because   it   doesn’t  matter  who   said   that.   It’s   not   a   criticism  at   all,   but  you’ve  been  given  a   chance   to   say,   “Wait   a  minute.”  Well,   you   talk   about   the  three  C’s.  Do  you  want  to  talk  about  that  because  I  know  choice  is  one  of  them.  

Holly:   Yeah.  Let  me  say  that  you  have  to  take  the  chance  to  make  that  choice  so  your  life  will  never  change.  That  one?    

Jacqueline:   Yes,  yes.  And  again,  you  broke  up  a  little  bit  so  you  want  to  say  that  again?  

Holly:   You  have  to  make  a  chance,  no,  you  have  to  take  a  chance  to  make  a  choice  or  your  life  will  never  change.    

Jacqueline:   Yeah.  

Holly:   I’m   thinking   about   it   like   that,   and   I’m  glad   you  didn’t   use   that   name  or   used  somebody’s   name   because   I’m   sure   a   lot   of  women  who   are   listening   to   this  could  be  like,  “Oh,  that’s  me,”  and  awareness  is  the  first  step.    

Jacqueline:   Yeah.  

Holly:   And  you  can  totally  do  this  cause  once  it’s  out  there,  you  can  manage  it.  And  I  talk  about  this   in  Club  FYM  because  there  are  a   lot  of  women  who  battle  with  emotional  eating  and  keep  continuing  the  same  mistake.  If  you  try  journaling,  so  instead   of   grabbing   a   fork,   grab   a   pen   and   paper.   Sit   down   and   do   not   put  anything   in  your  mouth  and   instead  get  everything  out.  You  will  be  amazed  at  what  comes  out.  And  then  you  have  it,  here,  in  front  of  your  eyes,  and  you  could  do   something  with   it.   You   can   ask   for  more   specific   help,   you   can   have   some  aha!  Moments,  but  instead  of  going,  “I  don’t  know  why  I  keep  doing  that,”  no!  

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Now   it’s  a  matter  of   taking  control  and  doing  something  different  so   that  way  you  can  get  different  results  which  will  end  up  being  better  results.    

Jacqueline:   Yeah,  fantastic.  Just  to  acknowledge  again  someone  else,  Lindy’s  saying,  “I  love  Club   FYM.   There’s   some   amazing   ladies   in   there.   I   just   think   that   the   type   of  support,”   and   when   see   that   when   see   the   other   people   having   the   same  challenges  and  the  fact  that  it’s  all  about  getting  back  on  the  wagon  and  trying  again,   and   trying   again,   and   trying   again,   and   trying   again   and   what   we   are  modeling  for  our  children  when  we  do  that  because  they  have  so  many  things  in  their  lives  there.  

  And  weight   issues,  whether   it’s   the  anorexia  or  your  bulimic  or  stuff,   that’s  on  the   rise,   right?   Eating   disorders   are   dramatically   on   the   rise   in   children.   It’s  something   like,   I   believe   I’ve   heard,   20%   of   children   nowadays,   like   preteens,  whatever  age,  but  under  18,  have  eating  disorders  nowadays.  Now  I’m  pausing  for  a  second  because  we  have  to   let   that  sink   in;  what  are  we  doing  when  we  are  not  handling  that  and  we’re  not  showing  our  kids  how?  And  of  course,  we’re  just   part   of   a   world   that’s   got   some   real   bad   habits.   It’s   not   like   we’ve   done  anything   personally   wrong   but   we   are   given   a   chance   today   to   be   more  conscious  and  make  better  choices.    

Holly:   And  that’s  why   it’s   so  much  more   important   for  moms  to  really   take  a   look  at  how   they   really   treat   fitness   and   the  messages   that   they   are   sending   to   their  children  because  we  have  to  make  sure  we’re  sending  the  right  impression.    

  And   this   reminds  me  of   another  member   of   Club   FYM  who  had   talked   about,  she  had  reflected  on  ‘Do  you  remember  your  first  time?’  and  she  was  like,  she  has  a  daughter  who’s  extremely  tall  so  her  daughter  gets  made  fun  of,  so  she’s  seeing  that  her  daughter’s  taking  that  and  internalizing  it  and  it  is  affecting  the  way  she’s  eating,  and  this  FYM  member  reflected  back  to  the  messages  that  she  received  as  a  child  and   the  damage   that   that  did,  and  was   like,   “You  have   the  ability   to   lead   her   here   and   change   and   shape   her   future   despite   what   she’s  been  hearing.   You’re   going   to   be   the   strength   and   guidance   and   that   support  because   of   the   healthier   changes   that   you   are  making   in   your   life.”   So   it’s   so  vital  for  parents  nowadays  to  set  and  live  the  example.  

Jacqueline:   Uh  huh.  And  maybe   think,   I’m  disappointed   I  didn’t   say   this   sooner,  but  when  people   go   to   that   www.greatparentingshow.com/Holly   page   and   see   the  pictures,   they’re   crazy   good.   And   I’m   sure   that  we’ve   all   had   that   time   in   our  lives  where  we’re  seeing  someone,  and  hopefully  you  had  a  real  compassionate  reaction,   because  when  we’ve   seen   someone  who’s   really   overweight   and  we  imagine   how   that   limits   their   lives   and   how…and   they   are,   thank   goodness,  

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there  are  some  people  overweight  who  are  able  to  not  take  the  invitations  to  be  unhappy   but   even   they   have   some   health   ramifications   usually   from   what’s  going  on.  

  And  seeing  those  pictures,  so  I  know  it  can  be  easy  to  point  out  that  we’re  not  the   exact   size  we  wanted   to   be,   can   be   easy   to   say,   “What’s   the   point?”   But  when  you’ve   seen   the  people  who’ve   gone   from  180  pounds   and  160  pounds  and   you   just   look,   you   see   the   before   and   after   pictures,   honestly   I   hope  everyone,   and   I   know   some   people   talked   about   having   other   programs   that  they  are  using  which   is  great  because  Holly  and  I  both  would  say,  “Wonderful,  you’ve  got  something  that’s  working  for  you.  Keep  doing  it.”  

Holly:   Yes.  

Jacqueline:   And  check  out  that  page  if  you  want  to  keep  being  inspired  because  just  seeing  the  women  who  have  gone  from  140  to  130  or  whatever,  it  doesn’t  have  to  be  a  big  amount,  although  for  some  people  it   is,  but  just  seeing  the  tone  difference  and  even  the  smiles,  cause  I  know  from  being  part  of  your  club  that  these  are  us  taking  pictures,  we’re  not  doing  it  for  you,  so  we’re  taking  pictures  in  our  house.    

  But  a  lot  of  times  the  women,  we  look  happier  afterwards,  right?  And  that’s  just  so  cool  because  none  of  that’s  staged,  because  we  always  wonder  when  we  see  those   before   and   after   wrinkle   pictures   and   things   like   that,   right,   whether  they’re   staged   and   I   know   that   they   aren’t   staged   so…do   you   want   to   even  share?  We’re   just  about  done  here,  but  do  you  want   to   share  even  one  more  story  about  someone  who  you  just  saw  transforming  that  really  inspired  you?  

Holly:   I  would  have  to  look  up  a  story.  

Jacqueline:   Yes,  well  I  know  there’s  so  many.  

Holly:   Yeah!  

Jacqueline:   So  do  we  maybe  have  an  accumulative  one  too.    

Holly:   What’s  a  good  story  I  can  say.  I’m  having  flashes  of  dozens  of  women’s  faces  in  mind.  

Jacqueline:   Yeah!  

Holly:   And   each   of   them   have   opened   up   and   shared   something   so   raw   and   so  empowering.  And  as  of   late,  they  have  not  had  the  spotlight  that  they  deserve  to  be  celebrated,  and  you  know  what,  what   I  see  a   lot  of  times  too   is  that  the  

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before   and   after   photos   are   shared   on   social   media,   it’s   amazing   how   many  women  are  not  supportive  when  we  are  the  only  ones  that  we’ve  got.  

Jacqueline:   Awww.  

Holly:   We  need  to  have  each  other’s  backs.  And  this  is  looking  to,  or  inspiration  to  be,  proud  of  somebody  else  for  the  work  that  they  did  to  earn  those  results.  So,  oh  my  goodness…  

Jacqueline:   Well  not  to  put  you  on  the  spot.  If  you  don’t  pick  one,  that’s  okay,  but  let  me  tell  you  something  

Holly:   [laughs]  

Jacqueline:   I   want   to   take   on   something   that   you’ve   said   there   because   when   you   said  people   aren’t   supportive,   I   imagined   one   of   the   scenarios   that   could   happen.  The  problem   is,  many  women  and  men,  even  women  and  men  who  are  at  an  ideal  body  weight  at   this  point   in  their   lives,  can  be  very   judgmental.  And  that  ‘What’s   the  point?’  attitude  can  result   in  becoming  morbidly  obese,   like   that’s  where  that  attitude  can  get  you.    

  I   think,  unfortunately,   it   can   come  out  and   it’s   really   sad  but  most  of  us  need  and   we   all   thrive   when   we’re   in   an   environment   where   people   are   really  supportive   and   that’s   what   you’re   all   about   and   all   about   progress,   not  perfection,  and  so   I  do  always  think  when   I  see  people,  and  that’s  why   I   loved  that  you  shared  that  you  weren’t  always  the  perfectly  beautiful  role  model  that  you  are  now  and  that’s  so  critical  because  otherwise  it’s  easy  for  people  to  say,  “Oh,  you’re  one  of  the  beautiful  people.  You’re  always  have  looked  like  this,  no  big  deal,”  and  it’s  really  critical  for  people  to  know  that  it  doesn’t  matter  where  you  are  now,  you  can  feel  by  now  that  it’s  somewhere  you  want  to  get  to.    

Holly:   Yes,  I   love  it.  And  going  off  by  what  you  are  saying,  and  thank  you  for  the  kind  words,  I’m  blushing,  you  can't  see.    

  I   think   that   too   many   of   us   get   caught   up   in   the   comparison   trap.   So   we’re  constantly   comparing   ourselves   and   we’re   comparing   our   behind   the   scenes  with   other   people’s   highlight   reels.   And  we   need   to   see  more   the   process   of  what   actually   takes   place.   We’re   not   seeing   that   somebody   took,   it   took  somebody  two  years   to  go  from  this   to  this.  We  only  see  the  before  and  after  and   then   look   at   ourselves   and   go,   “Well   uh,   that  will   never   happen   for  me.”  And  comparison   is   the  thief  of   joy,   the  only  person  you  need  to  be  comparing  yourself   to   is  who   you  were   yesterday.   Let   the   goal   be   each  day,   “What   am   I  doing   to   get   better?”   And   then   it’s   going   to   help   you   keep   that   perspective,  

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you’re   going   to   stop   comparing   and   fueling   that   feeling   of   hopelessness   and  that’s   only   distracting   you   from   being   present   and   living   your   life   and   doing  what  it  takes  to  get  better.  

Jacqueline:   Beautiful.  

Holly:   So   the   comparison  has   to   stop.  Use  others   as   guides   not   goals.  Use  others   as  guides  not  goals.  When  you  keep  it  in  perspective,  when  you  have  that  healthy  balance,  you’re  just  gonna  just  jet  ski  forward.  

Jacqueline:   Yeah,  fabulous!  Wait,  what?    

Holly:   Put  a  smile  on  your  face!  

Jacqueline:   Yeah!  

Holly:   And  enjoy  the  journey!  You  have  to  enjoy  the  journey!  

Jacqueline:   So  what  a  beautiful  place  to  end  on  then  because  it  totally  is  about  enjoying  the  journey.   When   you   said   you’re   blushing,   and   the   fact   is,   Holly,   I   was   quite  persistent  because  you’re  quite  a  busy  woman  and   I   sent  you  a   few  emails   to  get  your  attention  because  I  just  had  to  have  you  back  on  this  show.  

Holly:   Aww.  

Jacqueline:   And  I  totally  agree  that  there  are  some  men  out  there  who  are  doing  great  work  and   if  you’ve  got  a  guy’s  program  that’s  working   for  you,  awesome,  but   I   love  that  you’re  a  mom  and  you  get  that  mom  part  so  much  and  you’re  such  a  role  model  and  so  inspiring.  So  thank  you,  Holly,  so,  so  much  once  again  for  being  on  the  show  and  for  all  the  fabulous  work  that  you  are  doing  in  this  world.  

Holly:   Well,  thank  you  for  allowing  me  to  be  able  to  share  it  with  some  new  eyes  that  maybe  didn’t  know  that  the  struggle  could  end.  So  I  appreciate  this  opportunity  and  I  feel  very  loved.  Thank  you.    

Jacqueline:   Wonderful.  Okay,  well   I’ll   let  you  go  for  now,  and   I’ll   see  you   inside  Club  FYM.  So,  bye  for  now.    

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