habits of great parents
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Habits are repeated
behaviours.Whatever habit you would like to
develop consciously behave the sameway for 21 days continuously.
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1. Great Parents
Communicate their love.
(Consistently )
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2. Great Parents Have one-on-one
time with each child.
Kids like their parents one at a time and will
often compete for parental attention. Set
aside some regular time for eachchild and give them A-grade
attention on your terms.
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2. Great Parents - Parent differently
for each child.
What worked with one child wont work
with another so be flexible
with your behaviour management,
communication
and relationship-building skills. etc.
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3. Great Parents Make it easy for their
kids to behave well.
Kids usually want to behave well but many
find behaving well hard.
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Make it easy for them not by lowering your
standards but by
giving gentle reminders,
setting up simple routines and giving
simple verbal and non verbal cues.
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4. Great Parents Know the difference
between incompetence and
rebelliousness. If you child does something out of
incompetence, then take the time to teach
your child how to do it right.
If your child acts out ofrebellion toward your
authority as a parent, then this behaviorneeds to be disciplined or punished, andcannot be tolerated or accepted.
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Great Parents Pick the battles
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5. Rules, Consequences,
Privileges
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6.Great parents let children
experience natural consequences.
Natural consequences are
fabulous teachers so step backand allow kids to experience the
outcome of their decision,
whether pleasant or unpleasant.
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7. Great parents Focus on feelings not
just behaviour.
Next time a child asks for an extension to T.V.time because they enjoying a program , resistgoing into behaviour management mode andmove into emotional intelligence mode. Its
great to see you happy and really enjoying thatprogram. Whats it like having so much fun?Then move them to bed while you are listening.
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8. Great parents Use of Teachable
moments
The best teaching moments aren't ones that
are planned-they happen unexpectedly. Look
for moral issues to talk about as they come up.
Take advantage of those moments because
they help your child develop solid moral
beliefs that will help guide his behavior the
rest of his life.
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9. Great Parents are aware of Whats
influencing children
As parents we must control the flow of ideas
and images that are influencing our children.
Great parents have an eye and ear for what
children are absorbing.
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10. Standing by your partner
Dont contradict your partner in front of them,
dont fight with each other in front of them, and
most definitely dont ever abuse each other.
How you treat your partner affects their self-
esteem, and the way they will treat themselves
and their partner when they grow up. Be kind
and respectful and loving of each other. Andalways work as a team never contradicting
statements of the other.
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10a. Keep your partner informed.
It helps if the primary parent, usually mothers,
can keep partners informed about whats
going on in childrens lives. These can include
updates about behaviour, educational
achievements and their general well-
being
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11. Divide areas of responsibility.
Dont keep all the responsibilities to yourself.
Bring your partner into the loop, and give
them a share of the parenting jobs.
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12. Make their problem, their
problem.
Sometimes we as adults can take on their
concerns and make them our own.
If something doesnt bother a child, and
there is no risk involved or no infringement
on other peoples rights then let them be.
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13 .Make Peace with Clutter
When they are little, they absolutely should
learn to clean up their messes, but your house
shouldnt be sterile. Its a home. Kids live
there. And kids are messy.
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14 .Get down and Dirty often
Guidelines to get down and dirty with your
kids:
Be an idiot.
Face your fears.
Enjoy the unknown.
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15. Learn when to break rules
Part of a parents job is knowing what rules to
make, how to enforce them, and when to
break them.
And then comes the hard part: explaining
why to your other kids.
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16 . Warning Time
Give Warning Time: Give children a 5- 10
minute warning time to allow him to
finish what he is doing before you
expect him to do something else. For
example, if your child is playing, you may say,
"Youve 5 minutes to complete your game and
then its study time
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17 .Allowing experiences
Provide opportunity: Children need
opportunities to explore different things.
Let your child try things that they find
interesting and enjoy the process of getting
better rather than just the final outcome.
The trip to the grocery store offers wonderful
learning opportunities, from reading labels to
using money to budgeting.
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18 .Give your child some control over
his life:
Kids want a little independence from you.
From the time they wake up, let kids make
their own choices for small decisions such as
whether they want toast or cereal forbreakfast, or allowing them to choose which
shoes to wear. This helps to learn decision
making.
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19 .Encourage kids to be self-
occupiers.
Kids ability to keep themselves occupied
cannot be underestimated. Avoid rushing in
when they seem bored.
Suggest ideas rather than provide
entertainment. Self-occupiers readily get into
the state of flow and get lost in play which is
great for achievement and mental health.
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20. Build layers of community around
kids.
Family, friends, teachers, coaches, people in thebroader community form a protective circle
around kids, help keep them safe and preventthem from falling through the cracks. Encourage asense of community.
Let them bring friends home. Encourage them to
take up community-based activities and valuerelationships they have with coaches, teachers
and people in their neighbourhood.
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21. Understand child development.
Some stages are harder than others and differentstages require different things of kids.
Early childhood is about bonding and then breakingaway.
Middle childhood is about developing competencies
and self-esteem and adolescence is about identityformation and breaking away.
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Each stage has its own joys andchallenges for parents. Appreciate
each stage and dont wish them
away.
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22. Have regular family
meetings.
They dont have to be too
formal, and they are a great wayfor both parents address family
issues together with their
children.
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23 .Have fun as a family.
Its hard to fight when youre havingfun and enjoying each others company
so look for ways to inject some fun andgames into family life.
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24. Talk with other parents.
Draw strength from other
parents
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Bad Habits
Dwelling on the past
Nagging and Lecturing
Feeling guilty
Children are tender unique and
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Children are tender, unique and
precious;
they are not here to make you happy,
meet your expectations,
help you experience what you missed out in
life,
or to fulfill your needs.
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Our sincere appreciation for doing a
Great Job as a parent!!!.