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ISSUE 3

SUPERHERO ALERTMEET CANTERBURY’S REAL LIFE HEROES, FLAT MAN AND QUAKE KID

GYPSY PIRATE HEYDAY CHATS TO SONGSTRESS, JAMIE MCDELL

NOWHY IS THIS TWO LETTER WORD SO HARD TO SAY?

YOUNG AND FREE?WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A YOUNG PERSON LIVING IN NEW ZEALAND?

WANNA BEA HAIRDRESSER? GRAPHIC DESIGNER? YOUTH WORKER? GET THE LOWDOWN HERE!

EDITORIAL

Amanda Watson

Hello Heyday readers!

Welcome to theSummer edition of Heyday!

In this issue we ask ‘What does it mean to be a young person in New Zealand today?’ Check out the

responses of some of our readers on page 15. We’d love to hear your opinion too, so let us know by emailing

awatson@youthline.co.nz

With the warmer months approaching you’ll no doubt be planning to hit the beach – just remember to be sun

smart! Check out this great video called ‘Dear 16 year old me’, which is all about skin cancer prevention!

In this issue we meet the gorgeous and talented Jamie McDell, who has just released her debut album Six Strings

and a Sailboat, chat to Christchurch’s very own superheroes Flat Man and Quake Kid, learn how to cope with those

dreaded exams and a whole heap more!

Until the next issue I’ll leave you with the wise words of a guy called Chad Sugg:

“Enjoy your youth. You’ll never be younger than you are at this very moment.”

Amanda.

Editor

WANNABE12.. HAIRDRESSER

Anthony Bayer

08. YOUTH WORKER

Victor Kalolo

ROAMING REPORT16. MAGENTA THOMPSON

A Kiwi perspective on Germany

HOBBY23. CUPCAKE AFFAIR

YOUR STORY18. SHOOTING FOR THE STARS

Tem’s dream to be a Basketball star

UNZIPPED29. MORGYN HARTDEGEN FROM THE ZM SEALED SECTION ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS

SPOTTED30. A COLLECTION OF COOL WEB LINKS FOR YOU TO CHECK OUT TODAY!

HEALTH FREAK43. WHAT ARE YOUTH HEALTH COUNCILS AND HOW CAN YOU GET INVOLVED?

MUSIC / ENTERTAINMENT06. JAMIE MCDELL

On why all she really needs is the beach, a

melody and a guitar!

TOPICAL26. SAYING NO

How to deal with peer pressure

22. EXAM STRESS

Tips and tricks on how to cope during this

stressful time

15. GENERATION 12

What does it mean to be a young person in

NZ today?

INSPIRE22. COMING OUT

The real lives of Asian Queers living in NZ

14. FACE IT!

Kenny Ardouin on living with Cleft Palate

IN THIS ISSUE

CONTENTS

20. CHRISTINA PARIE

The former X factor star is 16

and unstoppable…

10. GRAPHIC DESIGNER

Marie Holdaway

04. BE A BRUV SHARE DA LUV

Meet Christchurch superheroes Flat Man

and Quake Kid!

If you have any cool stories you want to

share or have ideas on what stories you

want to see in HEYDAY, then we want to

hear from you.

Email: awatson@youthline.co.nz

24. ATTITUDE

Check out our brand new column brought

to you by the Attitude team

CONTRIBUTE

BE A BRUV, SHARE DA LUV

4“It’s okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are our teachers - they help us to learn.” - John Bradshaw

They may not have a sixth sense, be able to scale tall buildings or crush metal with

their pinkies, but what they can do is much more powerful. Meet Flat Man and

Quake Kid, the lycra clad student superheroes with the ability to bring smiles to the

faces of Cantabrian’s.

“I came up with the idea after the February

earthquake when I was crashing at friends

places and was able to see firsthand how

difficult it was for them. Students don’t

generally have a lot of spare cash, so anything

comes in handy,” explains Flat Man.

What resulted was anonymous ‘night drops’,

where Flat Man would deliver parcels to flats,

occupied by students he knew.

“Toilet paper, dishwashing liquid, canned

food and a few extras as well – I just wanted

to brighten my friend’s days. When I realized

what a hit it was, I expanded it to include

flats of strangers.”

Operations were so successful that Flat

Man, whose motto is ‘Be a bruv, share da

luv’ had to enlist a trusty sidekick, now

known as ‘Quake Kid’. Apart from Flat

Man’s mum (Flat Mum), Quake Kid is the

only other person who knows about Flat

Man’s antics.

“Quake Kid and I are on the same vibe

– we love making people’s days, and I

couldn’t think of a better person to help me

out”, says Flat Man.

Together the pair has absorbed the costs of

their heroic adventures, but the public has

gotten behind them 100% with some very

generous donations – including food from

Pak N’ Save and a bright yellow 1970’s

Chevrolet Camaro, suitably named

‘The Flatmobile.’

“The motto for Stadium Cars, who have

lent us the car is ‘Home of the good guys’

and that couldn’t be a better slogan –

before they approached me I was doing my

deliveries on a $2 skateboard!”.

With so much support behind them they

have managed to also branch out to help

not only students, but families in need and

young children who just need a

good giggle.

“When we rock up to a primary school

in the Flatmobile the kids just lose their

minds. I even had one kid ask if I could

adopt him – when you see those sorts of

reactions you remember why you’ve got a

lycra suit on!”

Of course all superheroes have an arch

nemesis – I hear you – who would have an

issue with these two?

Inspire

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“There’s Lieutenant Liquefaction, to name

just one, but we just go about our thing!”

Not much can deter these two, and they

have no plans to slow down anytime soon.

In fact operations are set to get bigger.

“We’re working on a number of things

including trying to get the Christchurch

City Council on board and looking at the

possibility of doing a New Zealand tour…

not to mention the game we have coming

out soon….as long as Christchurch needs

us, we’ll be here!!!”

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Music

Entertainment

She’s been touted as New Zealand’s answer to Taylor Swift, but there’s no chance

self-confessed tree-climber, Jamie McDell will let that go to her head.

I meet the 19 year old songstress on a Thursday morning – she’s

dressed in plain jeans and a t-shirt. Token woven bracelets adorn

her arms and there’s not a trace of makeup to be seen - it all

seems a bit at odds with the swanky record company offices.

“This is me, this is how I’m most comfortable” she explains, “I’d

live in bare feet at the beach if I could!”

Jamie’s love for all things beachy stemmed from her upbringing,

which was aboard a sailing boat in the Mediterranean. This lifestyle

also provided the inspiration for her early song writing.

“The first song I wrote was when I was 7 – it was about a dolphin!”

Since then Jamie’s song writing has come a long way.

“As I grew up, I experienced a lot of different issues and song

writing became my outlet, it’s 100% therapeutic. The main themes

I sing about are missing the ocean and wanting to get back to

simpler things.”

At 16, with about 100 songs written, Jamie realised that this was

her ‘thing’ and that she wanted to pursue it as more than a hobby.

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She recorded a demo CD of 3 of her best songs which she sent

into EMI records.

“Luckily someone listened to it and put me on a development

deal, so I was basically coming up here every week and playing

them new songs I had written.”

Over this time Jamie began putting her music on YouTube.

“At first I wasn’t very outgoing with my music, so it was a real leap

of faith to put it out there for everyone to have an opinion on.”

It didn’t take long for Jamie to build up a large contingent of ‘gypsy

pirates’, her affectionate name for her fans.

With a strong following, Jamie and EMI decided to release her

first single ‘You’ll never take that away’, which was certified gold in

New Zealand and spent ten weeks on the charts.

“The song was really about appreciating the things I have in my

life and the things I love to do. It’s about not caring what other

people think and not letting anyone bring you down.”

Jamie admits everyone was surprised by its success.

“It was such an organic process – my friend filmed the video, but

people seemed to really like the grass roots approach.”

Following on from single, Jamie released an acoustic ep and then

her second single ‘Rewind’ which again proved very popular.

Over the past few months Jamie has been working on her debut album

‘Six Strings and a Sailboat’ which was realeased on the 16th

of November.

The album took Jamie and the York Street Session Band about a

month in the studio to pull together.

“I don’t like to over-think things, I just went into the studio with the

band and went with the vibe, you can’t force anything and there’s

nothing I would change about the album – I’m really happy with it!”

Jamie’s favourite song on the album is called ‘Lie’ which was

written for her best friend who thought she wasn’t very attractive.

“It’s definitely my most selfless song and I hope other people will

take the message away that they are beautiful and really believe it!”

Getting messages across to her fans about the things she cares

about is the most rewarding part of the job, says Jamie.

“I’m really interested in the ocean and one thing I’m quite

passionate about is building awareness around shark finning, so if

I can use my little bit of influence to get people to take a stand on

these sorts of things, then I’m happy!”

Jamie is also an ambassador for Surf Life Saving New Zealand and

is looking forward to getting involved in more projects in 2013.

“I have a lot to look forward to – I’m in my second year of graphic design

at AUT so I’ll be continuing with that, I’m performing at Christmas in the

Park this year and am opening for Owl City, so it’s all go!”

Want to be a singer songwriter? Here are

Jamie’s tips:

Believe in yourself, you have to have a thick skin in this industry

Give yourself a point of difference and be original

If something doesn’t work out, try again

What will Jamie be up to this Summer?

Hanging around surf clubs in Pauanui, Whiritoa and Mangawhai

Doing her boat masters course

Performing at small gigs

Rescue training for the Jonah Project (whale stranding)

Surfing and scuba diving!

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YOUTH WORKER

How I decided I wanted to be a Youth Worker:

I was attending a youth group in Newmarket and my youth leader

was so awesome I decided I wanted to do what he was doing!

Path that I took to get there:

While still attending Youth Group, I was lucky that a friend of mine

was working for Youthline and a youth worker position came up – I

knew that was what I wanted to do, so I applied and to cut a long

story short, I got the job!

Highlight of my job:

I really enjoy interacting with the youth at the schools that we attend

to run seminars, programs, BBQ’S and other fun events such as

athletics days or graduations.

Challenges I have faced getting to where I am today:

I used to have people in my life that didn’t want me to succeed

and tried to pull me down. I wanted a better future for myself, so I

stopped hanging out with those people.

Advice I would give to young people wanting career as a

youth worker:

Hang around good youth leaders or mentors and watch how they act

around or treat youth. Chase your dreams and don’t let anything get

in your way!

Name: Victor Kalolo

Occupation: Youth Worker

If you are interested in

becoming a Youth Worker,

there are a number of

places you can go to find

information or do courses

Youthline

AUT

Auckland University

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HOW I DECIDED I WANTED TO BE A GRAPHIC DESIGNER?

I’ve always been more creative than book smart. I’d tried out a

few different things that I thought would suit my creativity, like

hairdressing and writing, but it didn’t feel right. It wasn’t until I

started taking Graphic Design at high school, and really loved it,

that I knew it was something I wanted to pursue.

THE PATH I TOOK TO GET THERE:

I studied at Natcoll Design Technology (now called YOOBEE), where

I got 2 Diplomas (Diploma of Graphic Design, Diploma of Digital

Media Advanced).The cool thing about Natcoll is that the Diplomas

are very industry-focused and hands on, and the atmosphere there

is amazing - everyone’s there to help you do your best.

WHAT I’M CURRENTLY DOING:

I’m living over in New York City and have been interning at 2

different companies for a few months now. My role at both of the

places is ‘Junior Designer’, so I do all the smaller jobs which is the

perfect introduction to the massive industry that is design.

WHAT INFLUENCES MY WORK?

Any artist, designer, or person in general who’s making a name

for themselves and chasing their dream influences me greatly,

and motivates me to ensure I do work that I believe in. I’m also

influenced by my surroundings, textures, colours, and trends are

always subconsciously influencing my work.

CHALLENGES I’VE HAD TO OVERCOME TO GET WHERE I AM TODAY:

Living so far from home and out of my comfort zone has been a

challenge. When I’m exhausted and hungry and home sick from

applying for a zillion jobs, it can be hard to see the light at the

end of the tunnel, but I’ve learnt to just keep going, and besides -

without challenges, victory wouldn’t taste so sweet!

ADVICE FOR PEOPLE WANTING A CAREER AS A GRAPHIC DESIGNER:

If you’ve got the passion for it, then do it. It’s an

amazingly adaptive industry with many different paths

and opportunities. Don’t get disheartened by the

success of other designer’s, but be inspired by them.

What you put in is what you get out, so aim for

the stars!

“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” - Aldous Huxley

Marie Holdaway

GRAPHIC DESIGNERwww.marieholdaway.com

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STYLEDIRECTOR

ANTHONY BAYERHow I decided I wanted to be a Hairdresser:

I always loved getting my hair done and I’m really into art and

fashion, so it seemed like a good fit.

The path I took to get there:

I started my hairdressing apprenticeship at the age of 16 and

completed my NZQA Certificate in Hairdressing at the age of 20. I

received several awards at regional competitions, such as NZARH

and Wella YPS.

In 2008 I moved to Melbourne to further my career and landed my

dream job with Toni and Guy at Melbourne Central. I had to retrain

with what they call the ‘Vardering training programme’.

I moved up the ranks in the company and was eventually

promoted to top stylist and staff trainer. I also did shows for

Melbourne Fashion Week and Fashion Festival and received third

place at the HBIA Australian Hairdressing championships

in cutting.

I returned to New Zealand to be closer to family and began

working for Toni and Guy in Auckland as a Style Director. I’m

currently working on my Technical Vardering Diploma.

This year I received second place in the Wella Trend Vision Young

Talent competition.

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Favourite part of my job:

I love changing a person’s look and making people feel good. The

competitions are always fun too!

Advice for people wanting a career as a hairdresser:

Pop into a salon you would like to work for and offer to do some

work experience just to get a taste for it. You could also start a six

month hairdressing course to get your level 1 & 2, and then try for

an apprenticeship.

Wella Trend Vision Young Talent competition:

This year Anthony received 2nd place in the International Wella

Trend Vision competition.

The trend he chose was called ‘Grace’

“Grace was all about having a luxurious expensive feel, working

with tones such as gold, bronze and soft blondes,” he says.

To become a finalist Anthony had to create his own look from the

‘Grace’ trend and do a photo-shoot.

“It’s not just about doing a great cut and colour it’s also about the

overall look - makeup, clothes/styling.”

On the day Anthony had to re-create the look from his photo entry

- check out some of the pics below!

Top hair Tips

1) If you have a sweeping side

fringe, blow-dry the opposite

way you want it to go, it will

sweep and sit better.

2) If you like texture and

volume a product like Label M

Resurrection dust is fab!

3) A ‘Dry Shampoo’ is great to

freshen your style rather than

washing every day.

Inspire

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Face It. Growing up with a facial difference is tough, but we’re tougher.

Being different is never easy, and being born with a facial difference brings an entire

set of different challenges and obstacles with it, but with a bit of encouragement,

support and a good sense of humour, we manage to get through it!

Kenny Ardouin on living with a Cleft Palate.

When I was born in a little hospital in the seaside town of Hastings

in England back in 1991, I, along with my parents, embarked on

quite a journey. I took everyone by surprise when I was born with

a previously undiagnosed cleft lip and palate, which as it turns out

is the world’s most common facial birth defect, affecting about 1

in 700 in the UK, and about the same proportion of the population

here in NZ. Yet, surprisingly, much of the population haven’t heard

of it and don’t know much about it.

To put it very simply, a cleft lip occurs when there is a gap between

the nose and lip where they have failed to join up to one another

early in pregnancy – this can happen on one side or both sides of

the face, and can be a complete or incomplete gap. A cleft palate

occurs when the palate bones and tissue fail to join up to one

another also leaving a gap. There is currently no known cause.

Naturally, this will create some hurdles for a child and teenager as

they grow up, from surgeries to braces to speech therapy not to

mention the hospital appointments that seem to be never-ending!

It is fair to say that for the first 20-25 years of life, a child with a

cleft lip and palate will spend a good amount of time in and out of

hospitals and clinics!

Sadly, there are also some other hurdles, such as teasing and

bullying by people who, for the most part, are just plain ignorant.

But, we try not to let that hold us back, educating ignorant people

about the condition usually works, but of course you are always

going to get one or two who are just downright rude. You learn

to become quite tough, and quickly realise that anyone whose

opinion is actually worth listening to, has already got to know you

for who you are, not what you look or sound like.

To find out more about cleft palate visit:

Cleft New Zealand – www.cleft.org.nz, freephone 0800 425 338,

freeTXT ‘CLEFT’, a space, then your message to ‘234’

Cleft NZ Teens/Youth Facebook Page

www.facebook.com/FaceItNZ

Kenny Ardouin, National Youth Co-ordinator for Cleft NZ

kenny@cleft.org.nz

FACE IT!

“Believe that you will succeed, and you will.” - Dale Carnegie

Topical

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Youthline Wellington has just had a motley crew of incredible young people (aged

15-18) graduate from their 2012 Youth Development Programme and they go by the

name of Generation 12.

Generation 12 are an eclectic bunch, a myriad

of different backgrounds and cultures, but

where they are similar is in their acceptance

and appreciation of difference. These diverse

young people from all around the greater

Wellington region opted into Youthline

Wellington’s Youth Development Programme

this year.

“Generation 12” has become a solidly

supportive group. 14 young people and 5

facilitators have met fortnightly to explore

relevant issues, develop self-awareness and

peer support skills, and to link in with other

community resources. Over the course of the

year, we have also tackled fears and given new

things a go, for example high ropes, theatre

sports, photography, hip-hop dance and

barista training!

As the group’s time together draws to a

close, we ask some participants about

what it means to be a young person living

in New Zealand...

Growing up in New Zealand is like freedom.

There are so many opportunities available

to youth it is incredible. For the most part,

it’s a generally safe place to live. In terms

of the law, I think we are very lucky to

have our own Youth Law set out for us and

have different protocols to follow in minor

offenses which I know a lot of countries

don’t have. - Maddie Hume -

It is challenging sometimes because as a

young person, people try to enforce rules

on me that I might not go by, sometimes I

feel as if my parents think that they know

what it is like to be a youth in New Zealand

in 2012, but they don’t because when

they were a youth it would’ve been way

different - there are way more expectations

now of what I should be or do with my life.

- William Dawson -

I believe that youth in New Zealand

are very fortunate to live in a place/

environment where things such as war or

poverty do not have much of a presence in

society. For me as a young person I believe

that I am lucky to be living in a clean

green nation.

- Anthony Harteman -

Our society is getting better at meeting the

needs of young people but I believe it still

needs some work. Sometimes the young

people tend to be overlooked as immature

and reckless and we don’t receive as

GENERATION 12: What does it mean to be a young person in New Zealand?

much respect as we should. I also believe

that the issues that young people are

constantly facing everyday should be given

more consideration. - Meghan Hall -

I was born in the UK and moved here

when I was 9, and I can honestly say I feel

so safe in New Zealand and I plan to raise

my children here. My oldest sister grew

up in the UK and really struggled to keep

safe because crime rate is higher than

New Zealand. But how do I feel? I feel

so blessed that I can be who I want and

no one can tell me I can’t be that person,

that I live in a city that gives youth such

massive opportunities to be who they are.

Being a youth in New Zealand is about

being accepted, whoever you are.

- Joely Harris -

What does being a young person in

New Zealand mean to you? We’d like to

hear your opinion!

Email awatson@youthline.co.nz and

your blurb could end up in the next

issue of Heyday!

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ROAMINGREPORT

Aucklander, Magenta Thompson is

currently working as an Au Pair in

Dusseldorf, Germany. She tells Heyday

her thoughts on everything from the

thrilling driving to the strange art...

Awesome things:

Multiculturalism: Sure my hometown Auckland has a lot of

variety, but in Europe I’ve made friends literally from all over the

world. It really makes for interesting conversations.

Politeness: Germans are good at introducing themselves and

making you feel very welcome in their homes. (Or maybe they just

love to meet New Zealanders!)

The Food!: Back home we have fish ‘n’ chips; here the mighty

Bratwurst is the iconic German food. You can get all kinds of really

tasty sausages here and my favourite is definitely Currywurst;

you’ll have to try it one day to see why!

Beer: Even little old German ladies love the stuff. A really great

concept here are the ‘Biergartens’ (beer gardens). People grab

a pint of beer from a kiosk and have a picnic with food freshly

bought at the farmers markets; even strangers will chat with other

people sharing their table.

Name

Magenta Thompson

Occupation

Au Pair

Fun Facts About Germany

• Germans are the second largest beer

consumers in the world, after the Irish

• There are over 300 kinds of bread in Germany

• 65% of the Autobahn (highway) has no

speed limit

• When John F. Kennedy (US president 1960)

visited Berlin, he infamously said “Ich bin

ein Berliner,” which also translates to “I am

a jelly donut”

• Germany borders 9 countries

• The Christmas tree (Tannenbaum) tradition

came from Germany

• There are over 1,000 kinds of sausages

in Germany

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Kiwi songs on the radio: We are slowly infiltrating Europe!

The Language: Learning another language is challenging but

rewarding. I’m so envious of the people I met who speak three

languages like it’s no big deal. Also, German-English translations

can be very funny due to our grammatical differences.

Driving: Going over 130kmh will get you into some serious

trouble back home, but here it’s the cruising speed on the no limit

highways. It’s pretty thrilling! Getting back into a 50kmh zone feels

like going in slow motion.

Public Transport: Trains, trams and buses can take you pretty

much anywhere and they run very regularly. I guess it’s not as

economically feasible in NZ with so few people. I’ll definitely miss

the ease with which I can get around here.

Odd things:

Rules: It doesn’t even matter how deserted the road is. If you

cross the road when it’s a red light you’ll probably be given a

funny look.

Art: Sometimes it’s cool, sometimes it’s gross and sometimes it’s

just confusing. For example, near my language school is a huge

metal sculpture. One alien-looking being is spewing up on a table

whilst another is casually eating from a bowl at the same table.

And there is a snake too… Not sure how that all

fits together!

Humour Differences: Kiwis seem to be a lot more sarcastic and

I’ve accidently offended a few people here… luckily I was able to

redeem myself with my Kiwi charm!

The German ‘stare’: This contrasts with the Kiwi ‘quickly-look-

away’ and it was a bit intimidating when I first arrived here.

A German friend basically explained it as “if someone seems

interesting we like to have a long look.”

Not so good things:

Smoking: It’s really prevalent here! I think us Kiwis are definitely

more advanced with anti-smoking legislation.

The Climate: Maybe I’m a bit of a sissy but it’s definitely pretty

chilly here. I guess hardened South Islanders would not find it a

problem here!

Tell us your dreams and aspirations just like Temapara

and you could feature in the next issue of Heyday! Email

your story to awatson@youthline.co.nz

Your Story

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17 years old, born and raised in South Auckland, Mangere. My name is

Temapara Takiari and I study Business Administration at BEST Training.

Although studying at BEST is what I do for education, my dream is

to become a famous Basketball player, the sport I fell in love with

while at Sir Douglas Bader Intermediate School.

I played basketball for all the colleges I went to, mimicking my idol

LeBron James – incorporating his style of play and even wearing

his attire gives me a feeling of invincibility, the feeling like I am the

best in the world!

In 2011 I left Auckland and moved to a small town in Northland

called Kaikohe. I enrolled in Northland College and met some

awesome people who were into Basketball just as much as me!

I joined the school team and we played in heaps of different

tournaments.

One stand out competition was when we dominated the whole

time and got through to the finals against Whangarei Boys High

School. Unfortunately we were all feeling pretty fatigued by the

end of it and we didn’t win, but we sure had a lot of fun and that’s

all that really matters!!!

Now that I’m studying Business Administration at BEST I want to

use the knowledge I gain to eventually become a basketball coach

or even to own a team one day, like JAY-Z owning the Brooklyn

Nets or Michael Jordan owning the Charlotte Bobcats.

SHOOTING FOR THE STARS

I really want to finish off with some magnificent quotes by two of

the GREATEST PLAYERS of ALL-TIME

“I Play to win, whether its practice or a real game. And I will not

let anything get in my way of me and my competitive enthusiasm

to win” - Michael Jordan -

“Commitment is a big part of what I am and what I believe. How

committed are you to winning? How committed are you to being

a good friend? To being trustworthy? To being successful? How

committed are you to being a good teammate, a good role model?

There’s that moment every morning when you look in the mirror:

Are you committed, or are you not?” - LeBron James -

... Did you know?

• Wilt Chamberlain set the single-game scoring record in the

National Basketball Association (NBA) by scoring 100 points

for the Philadelphia Warriors

• LeBron James was the second Player in NBA history to be

drafted straight out of high school

• Philadelphia Warriors are the first champions in NBA history

back in 1942

“Life is a learning experience, only if you learn.” - Yogi Berra

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From a young age Christina enjoyed the performing arts, and

dabbled in dance, drama, and singing.

“It was the singing that came naturally to me and my

singing teacher really fostered that talent and he’s still my

mentor and singing coach today.”

Christina joined a band and began playing pub gigs. When she

was 15 she auditioned for X Factor Australia, which proved to be

the launching pad for her career.

“I never imagined myself doing reality television and it was

a last minute decision to enter, but I was so overwhelmed

with how far I managed to get.”

Christina made it through to the top 6, but was eliminated after

being pitted against the eventual winner – Reece Mastin, with

whom she was reported to be in a relationship with.

“I just thought it was funny, I was hearing new things in

the media all the time, but no we have never been together,

we’re just good friends! If there’s one thing I have learnt from

X factor it’s that you can’t take things to heart!”

After leaving the show Christina had to finish her school exams,

but after visiting her school one lunch-time she knew she couldn’t

go back as a full time student.

“I literally had the whole school following me – it was

insane!, My schedule was also really busy as I was doing the

X factor winners tour then went straight into the studio to

start recording, so it wasn’t practical for me to stay anyway.

I come from a strict Greek upbringing so it was hard for my

parents to deal with me leaving school, but now they’re fully

on board!”

Since dedicating herself to her music Christina has had so

many doors open up for her.

“It’s been a complete whirlwind. I was lucky to have a

great team who were willing to produce an EP with me and

during the recording of it, Jess from The Veronica’s pitched me

a song her and Lisa had written called ‘Back to Life’ and gave

me some awesome tips for my own songwriting.”

She’s performed live on our television screens, opened for Simple Plan, been signed by Warner Music, had The Veronica’s pitch her a song and released her own EP – yep

Christina Parie is 16 and unstoppable.

Christina says she gets her ideas for songs from every

day events.

“So many random things inspire me in my songwriting,

particularly situations myself or others are experiencing.

Sometimes it’s just a really simple idea that will spark

something.”

The eventual EP which Christina says is influenced by the

sound of musicians such as Avril Lavigne and Pink was presented

to Warner Music who signed Christina on.

Another significant milestone was when she was asked to

perform Jet Lag for Simple Plan on the Australian leg of their world

tour.

“That was honestly a dream come true, I’ve always been a

big fan, so to work alongside them was just incredible!”

Despite all this success, Christina’s definitely not resting on her

laurels just yet.

“When you think you’ve done enough you have to do 1000x

more – I’ve made the decision to live breathe and sleep what I

do! You’ve got to keep persisting and making the most of every

opportunity!”

In the coming months Christina is hoping to head to the UK to

do some more song writing and collaborations with others and is

busy doing promotions for her next single.

christinaparie.com

Music

Entertainment

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There is no denying that exams are stressful. Often the anxiety about the exam is

scarier than the exam itself. That said, there are a number of tips and tricks to help

you through.

Getting started

Work out when each exam will be and how much time you will

have to study for each subject. You may also want to consider

which subjects you already feel confident about, and which

subjects may take more time or effort to understand. Keep in mind

that for some subjects, the exam may be worth more of the final

grade than exams for other subjects. For example, an exam worth

75% of the final grade versus an exam worth 40% of the final

grade.

To make exam preparation more manageable, create a study

timetable. Break your time into realistic chunks which give you

enough time to cover particularly important subject material. If

you are doing a full day of study, remember to schedule in regular

breaks, including meal times. Concentration spans vary, but make

sure you take a break every 50 minutes. If using a computer, you

may want to take short breaks more frequently in order to rest

your eyes.

While you are on study leave, remember to keep some time in

your week free for socialising and relaxing. This will help give your

body and mind time to rest and replenish before your next study

session. When you are studying, remember that as well as being

disciplined, focused and committed for the time you are studying,

use your breaks well. Instead of considering checking Facebook

or txting at your desk as a break, get up from your desk, go for a

quick walk or stretch and take deep breaths. Remember to grab

a snack and some water and then go back to your desk. Effective

breaks and a healthy mind and body is more likely to lead to

effective study.

Cast a critical eye over where you study. Is it clean and tidy with

minimal distractions? Your study area should be comfortable and well

lit. Make space that is for work only and a separate space for relaxing.

Doing the deed

It can seem overwhelming to try and learn a whole semester or

years work in one go. One way to manage this is to break each

subject down into mini topics. Each topic has a number of key points.

The idea is to remember these topics and some key points about

each one.

We all have different ways of learning. Some ideas are:

• Make concise notes in your own words

• Create rhymes, songs or acronyms

• Draw diagrams or pictures

• Make flash cards

• Use different coloured pens or paper as memory keys

• Tell a friend, family member or pet about the subject

• Have a go at answering last years exam questions

• Study with a friend or group

• Test how much you have remembered. See if you can write

or rehearse a list of key points. Revise the ones that are

missing.

On the day:

• Make sure you know where your exam will be held, and

give yourself plenty of time to get there early

• Make sure you have a healthy breakfast and/or lunch before

your exam and bring a water bottle to stay hydrated

• Relax. Be confident in your revision

• Check you have plenty of working pens, paper and equipment

• Remember to breathe deeply throughout the exam,

especially when feeling under pressure

• Take time to map out a plan for each question and mark

how much time you will give yourself to answer each

section

• Start with the questions you feel most confident about

• If you do not have time to finish off a question, complete it in

note form, you may still get marks for this

• Reward yourself afterwards for all your hard work

• Remember that it is normal to feel a bit of pressure and

stress around exam time, so it’s important to make sure

you have some support as part of taking care of yourself

during this time. Talk to friends, family, and trusted adults like

the school counsellor, tutors/teachers and Youthline’s

counsellors.

EXAM TIME

Hobby

Krystine Broadbent

“Impossibilities are merely things which we have not yet learned.” - Charles W. Chesnutt 23

How/ when did you decide to make cupcake making

your hobby?

When I was planning my ‘garden party’ themed 21st birthday! I

have always been creative and love doing things myself. I made

cupcakes with edible flowers on top like hydrangeas, roses and

carnations. It is a time consuming hobby but it’s so rewarding

when a pretty cupcake can attract so many compliments by the

lucky people who get to eat them!

Did you take lessons or is it something that you’ve

self -taught?

I’m pretty crafty at most things so I have taught myself a lot.

YouTube is great for learning tricks and tips but perfecting

cupcakes and techniques takes practice and you can only get that

from trial and error.

Where do you get inspiration from for your cupcakes?|

I get some of my inspiration from images on the internet and

added my own twist to suit my girly style. Sometimes I get

inspiration from something completely random and ideas naturally

flow and get me thinking “how can I incorporate that into a

cupcake design”?

What’s your best-seller?

Chocolate! I make them very rich tasting so one cupcake is so

satisfying! (Chocolate is my favourite!)

Do you have a favourite cupcake that you’ve made?

I had lots of fun making pinky bar cupcakes for Mother’s

day orders! The cupcakes were chocolate flavoured with

homemade caramel drizzles between a homemade mountainous

marshmallow swirl *drool*

Any disaster stories?

Nothing too disastrous, getting used to a new oven can be

tricky though!

Would you ever consider making this a business rather than

a hobby?

I would love to! Cupcakes are a bit of a passion for me, but maybe

I will consider it when I have more time and money to invest.

Right now, I am happy working hard and playing hard with my

hobby on the side.

What tricks of the trade would you be willing to share with

other aspiring cupcake makers?

It’s something that requires a lot of love and patience! Little edible

flowers can be quite intricate - it’s best not to overdo anything,

simple is more effective.

Check out Cupcake Affair

on Facebook.

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My job is awesome, I talk to teenagers full-time about the stuff

other adults don’t want to talk to them about.

Because I spend so much time in high schools, a couple of things

that are impossible for me to escape are: being recognised in

public places as ‘the sex guy” and being surrounded by the music

students’ play on their cell phones.

The song on repeat in most hallways is the Macklemore and

Ryan Lewis single ‘Thrift Shop’. I love how Macklemore can make

wearing your granddad’s mothball sweater sound so cool.

The song makes me ask the question, “Does what we wear make

us who we are?”

If I busted my dad wearing a snap back, basketball singlet with

rolled up chinos I wouldn’t think my dad had “mad swag”, I’d vomit

in my mouth a little bit. The idea of trying really hard to be cool is

really not cool.

Don’t get me wrong, it feels good to look good, and we should

put some effort into choosing what we wear – the question is how

much effort?

My biggest try-hard fail was one mufti day when I was at school

(during my white-boy break-dancing hip hop phase, think LMFAO

meets Jersey Shore). I tried on way too many outfits before

settling on what I thought was the perfect/most outrageous mufti

I’LL WEARYOUR GRANDDAD’S CLOTHES

BY CHRISTIAN GALLEN

Each issue of Heyday will feature a column

written by one the Attitude presenters. Got a

topic you’d like them to cover? Let us know

and we’ll see what we can do!!!

Attitude, the youth division of Parents

Inc. (now trading as The Parenting Place),

was established in 1996. Our eight high

school presenters travel the country

inspiring and encouraging young people

to make life enhancing choices. Attitude

provides a package of resources including:

presentations, handbooks, teaching resources

and a website. For more information visit

www.attitude.org.nz

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That’s Christian

day combo. My get-up contained a good selection of sweat bands;

I rolled up one leg of my pants and rocked a gold chain. I thought I

looked amazing.

When I rolled up to school I quickly realised how stupid I actually

looked. It was so obvious that I had tried too hard to look cool that

day, and it was just unnatural. My friend thought that I was trying

to be funny and complimented me on my hilarious costume, I just

went along with it… ha ha I am so funny in my ridiculous clothes.

I felt like a total idiot. There is something so cringey about trying

too hard.

Sometimes we get so stressed about looking cool that it controls

our lives. We often worry too much about not having the right

clothes, haircut or headphones and think that we’re not good

enough without them. We end up believing that if only we had

those “Beats by Dre” then we would be happier.

If you want to be happy I think you should start with yourself, not

your wardrobe.

Life is not a fashion show. If you are surrounded by people who

only like you because of how you look you are going to find life

stressful. If you hang out with people who don’t think you’re cool

when you pull out your mums old Nokia brick phone then you will

always struggle to be happy.

At Attitude we teach that the happiest people are the ones who

have found something they are passionate about. Athletes for

example, stroll around in skins. Skins aren’t cool. They look like

you’re wearing a rash top for your legs. But athletes don’t care

because they are doing something they love.

Maybe you love fashion and there’s nothing wrong with that. But

for so many young people clothes and style define who they are.

Honestly, there is nothing cooler than confidence. Wear that hand-

me-down outfit with the self assurance that you are OK no matter

what anyone else thinks. That, my friend, is cool. You can totally do

it too. Remind yourself that it’s more important how you feel about

yourself than how others feel about you.

Trust me on this, people don’t actually think about you nearly

as much as you think they think about you. I guess this is what

Macklemore is getting at when he says people who spend $50 on

a T-shirt are getting tricked by a business. Because the ironic thing

is the people who don’t need to try to be cool are usually

the coolest.

My challenge to you is next time you have an opportunity to wear

mufti, don’t wear your best gears. Put together the most ridiculous

get-up you can and rock that outfit like a boss.

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Saying NO can be one of

the biggest challenges. So

why is it so hard to say

this little, two letter word?

Often we just want to fit in or be cool, so

we go along with the crowd and block out

that guilty feeling and the image of our

parents disappointed faces, putting off the

consequences until later. But learning to

say no is something we all have to do at

some stage, kind of like learning to tie your

shoelaces, ride a bike or tell the time.

Actually it can be a pretty handy word,

especially when it comes to dealing with

peer pressure, which can be obvious and

direct - when someone actually tells you to

do something, or not so obvious, when

it’s unspoken or indirect.

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and try new things. Knowing your personal

boundaries and sticking to them can help

you to make smart decisions you feel

comfortable with and avoid situations where

you or one of your mates might get hurt.

If a whole group of people are peer-

pressuring you to do something you feel

uncomfortable with; be assertive and firm

when you say “NO!” Even though at the

time this will be extremely difficult, it’s

something that everyone has to go through

and will define who you are. If the group

continues to hassle you, leave the situation

as there are worse things than being called

a dork or a loser, like being grounded for

three months or landing in hospital. Just

remember that real friends will stick up for

you rather than join in with the crowd and

try to embarrass you into doing something.

These kinds of situations can also show

you who your real friends are.

Avoid pressuring others by respecting

someone’s choices and values. Try not to

be judgmental about the choices someone

is making to not do something - they

are sticking to what feels okay for them.

Remember that sometimes it is hard to

know when you are pressuring someone →-

have you ever thought you were just having

a good laugh, wanting someone to feel

included and then they got really upset?

That is probably because they were feeling

pressured by you in that moment.

Do you want to be the kind of friend that is

cool with people doing what feels right for

them or the friend that disrespected their

choices and made them feel pressured to

do something they didn’t want to do?

Stick up for someone when you can see

they’re being pressured - often this can be

all it takes for others to back down and let

it go.

Like anything, saying NO the first time

is always the hardest and once you take

that first step it will only get easier. Even

though this sounds corny, it really is alright

to say no and more importantly sticking to

your personal boundaries will give you a

sense of self-worth, self-respect and will

make you more confident in yourself!

Article courtesy of: www.urge.co.nz

Direct peer pressure is when a whole

group of your mates or acquaintances try

to force you into doing or trying something

you don’t want to do. Peer pressure can

also be more indirect and subtle - it is the

internal pressure that you may be putting

on yourself. For example in order to feel

part of the group you may act a certain way

with certain friends or be less likely to pay

attention in class with certain friends so

that you feel more included.

There are heaps of situations which could

involve peer pressure, especially when

it comes to drinking or taking drugs. You

might be at a party having a good time, just

chilling out with your mates and next thing

you know someone offers you a drink, a

joint or asks if you want to take a pill. You

politely decline, but everyone is staring at

you to see what you say and you start to

feel your cheeks go bright red. Next thing

you know, everyone is on your case, telling

you it’s harmless fun and to stop being

such a loser.

Even though you might be afraid of saying

no, there are ways of dealing with this type

of scenario. First of all you need to know

what your personal limits are and what you

do and don’t feel comfortable with. This

is different for everyone and the reality is

that as teenagers we want to experiment

If you need support around any of the

issues raised in this section please get in

contact with Youthline:

Phone: 0800 37 66 33

Free Txt: 234

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Giang Pham is 24, Vietnamese and... openly gay.

Although sexual orientation is no longer a ‘taboo’ subject,

Giang says there’s still a lot of prejudice, particularly in Asian

communities.

“Coming out was really scary. I was 19, and it took a year of living

away from home to figure out who I was.”

Although her friends took the revelation well, it was a different

story with her family.

“My sister went straight into denial mode and shut down the

conversation, it took years for her to grasp the concept”, recalls Giang.

Giang says what made it even more difficult was that she had no

role models or people she could share her experiences with.

“It was really isolating, so I went searching for forums and found

one for gay young people – to hear the experiences of other

people was really liberating.”

Becoming part of this forum was the starting point for Giang to

become an advocate for gay Asian people.

“In the debate around gay marriage in New Zealand I noticed that

¾ of the Asian MP’s voted against the Marriage Equality Bill – this

is what really sparked my interest in this issue.”

I rallied around a bunch of friends and we decided that in order to

be able to have a conversation around this we needed to establish

that queer Asians existed – that it wasn’t something that could be

pushed under the carpet.”

As a platform to show this, the group set up a blog allowing

queer Asians living in New Zealand to tell their stories.

“The aim of the blog is to create a sense of community and

support, and once we’ve built up a good network we plan to

write to the Asian MPs who didn’t support marriage equality,

Asian media and community groups, in the hope they and

others will listen to an issue that affects lots of young people,

and has a big impact on the lives of families.”

COMING OUT

There is no “right” or “wrong” way to tell others who

you are. Some find it more challenging than others. Many

people find that acknowledging who you are is a freeing

experience and a courageous moment.

Coming out can start by acknowledging to yourself who

you are and working to accept and love yourself for who

you are

You may not feel very sure of your sexual orientation, or

may not be able to find the right words to define it. That’s

okay. Working this out takes time and your understanding

of your sexual identity can change over time

Be gentle with yourself. Coming out is a really brave thing

to do

Get support from others you can trust. This could be

through counselling, linking in with a support group or

talking to Youthline or Rainbow Youth

or

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I feel like my boyfriend never

listens to me! Every time I try to talk

to him he gets distracted and doesn’t

seem to care. Is every guy like this? Am I

expecting too much of him?

Well we can’t really say that

every guy is like this, because every

person is different and every relationship

is different. The most important thing for

you to do is let him know without blame

or judging him how you feel about him not

listening, so that you’re not just assuming

he is acting this way because he doesn’t

care about you. There are several reasons

he could be coming across as distracted or

distant. He could be going through some

hard stuff at the moment that he’s trying to

process on his own, or maybe he isn’t even

aware that he’s making you feel this way.

People tend to communicate in different

ways, and although you may not feel he

is listening, he may be hearing everything

you have to say but isn’t sure how to show

you he understands. If you can both talk

it out, and meet in the middle about your

expectations around communication, that’s

a great first step!

My girl and I have been going

out for a while now, but as hard as I’ve

tried to make it work – it’s just not right

for me anymore! I still care about her

and really don’t want to hurt her... How

do I tell her I want to break up?

It’s never easy to break up

with someone. No one ever gets into

relationships thinking that it is going to end

badly. It’s easy to see that you really care

about her, but for whatever reason, it’s just

not working for you anymore. You may want

to write down how you have been feeling,

so that it is clear in your mind. Rather

than using blaming statements like “you

always...” or “you are ...” use statements

that begin with I – like “I feel that ...” Then

pick a time and place where you will have

space to really be present with each other

and let her know how you feel. It will be

better that she knows the truth, rather than

being with her only because it’s too hard

for you to leave. Break ups hurt, so make

sure that you let someone that you trust

know what’s happened, so you can get

some support afterwards.

Got a question for Morgyn? Email your question to awatson@youthline.co.nz

and look out for the answer in the next issue of Heyday.

ASK MORGYN

Q:

A:

If you need any support around any of the

issues raised in this section please get in

contact with Youthline:

Phone: 0800 37 66 33

Free Txt: 234

Q:

A: 25 year old, Morgyn Hartdegen works at

Youthline where she oversees young people

and families as they access our face-to face

services. You can listen out for Morgyn on

ZM’s ‘Sealed Section’ on Monday nights from

9.30pm – tune in!!!

PROJECT JONAH

Their vision is to create a world where

these animals are respected and protected.

RED VS BLUE

Hilarious web episodes using the the video

game Halo multiplayer to construct stories

that will amaze and leave you ROTFLYAO.

DO SOMETHING

‘Do Something’ inspires, supports, and

celebrates young people changing

their world.

SPOTTED

CUTE OVERLOAD

All the cute things you’ve ever seen all in one

handy place!

EVENT FINDER

Find cool events happening in your local area!

Snopes

Weird and wonderful

“urban legends” like

eating pop rocks and fizzy

drinks will cause your head

to explode.

www.snopes.com

Endangered Sounds

A collection of sounds

from technologies of

the yesteryears, from

the sound of internet

connection on a phoneline

to the start up sound of

Windows 95.

savethesounds.info

2leep

Fancy wasting some

time? 2leep is the place to

go to find a collection of

blogs about the weird and

wonderful things on the

internet.

www.2leep.com

9 gagHilarious blog about

A collection of weird funny

stuff from all over the net.

www.9gag.com

www.cuteoverload.com

www.eventfinder.co.nz

A BIT ON THE SIDETEACH YOUR MUM GANGNAM

Could you teach your Mum to Gangnam

style???

www.projectjonah.org.nz Click Here

www.roosterteeth.com

www.dosomething.org

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Youth Health Councils are groups of young people who are

passionate about youth health.

Together they increase the health status of young people by:

• Identifying and discussing key youth health needs

• Creating resources

• Ensuring that health information, services and programs are

relevant, responsive and are accessible to young people

• Promoting healthy lifestyles

A Youth Health Council steps up and takes responsibility for being

proactive about addressing youth health needs, and making a

positive difference in their school and community.

Youth Health Councils provide real opportunities to become

involved in advising policies and policy makers so that the voices

of young people are heard on decisions that affect their wellbeing.

Youth Health Councils can work on a wide range of projects;

fitness and exercise, healthy eating and nutrition, peer pressure,

stress, relationships, service gaps, youth rights and much more!

Want to get involved?

Check if one exists in your school or community group, and if not

take charge and set one up. If you’re in Auckland contact Youthline

who can assist you with this.

Youthline Manukau: (09) 252 0019

YOUTH HEALTHCOUNCILS

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0800 37 66 33

Do you enjoy writing? Are you doing something you think other young people would

like to know about? Know of someone we should interview?

If you are interested in contributing in any way, please email

awatson@youthline.co.nz - everyone who contributes goes in the draw to win a $40

itunes voucher and a Youthline T-shirt, designed by Illicit.

About Youthline:

Since 1970 Youthline has helped youth, families, individuals and communities

through counselling, information, youth work, training and leadership development

programmes, best practice and advocacy. Youthline is an NZQA registered Private

Training Establishment.

Phone: 0800 37 66 33

Free Txt: 234

A big THANKS to all the people who contributed:

Jamie McDell and Karis Wolfgramm from EMI records, Christina Parie, Flat Man and Quake

Kid, Youthline Wellington and the Generation 12 crew, Giang Pham, Kenny Ardouin, Anthony

Bayer, Victor Kalolo, Marie Holdaway, Magenta Thompson, Krystine Broadbent, Temapara Takiari,

Morgyn Hartdegen, Christian Gallen and the team at Attitude.