homework 9-1-1 presented by ali meyers, msw. relax. it’s not that kind of talk
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Homework 9-1-1
Presented by Ali Meyers, MSW
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Relax. It’s not that kind of talk.
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Welcome
Who I am Why “Homework 9-1-1”?
Laying the groundwork The struggles are real, and so
are the benefits Maximize learning Peace in your house
Caveats: No silver bullets Help yourself: an a la carte
presentation
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6 Questions (There will be a quiz!)1. What is the purpose of homework?2. Name two benefits of homework.3. How do parents inadvertently increase the
stress associated with homework?4. How can parents decrease the stress
associated with homework? Name three specific action steps we can take.
5. In what ways can we use homework as a tool to foster learning and life skills in our children?
6. What do a farmer and a fly have to do with your child’s education?
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Tonight’s AgendaHomeworkHomework
WhyWhy
Stress Stress
Action StepsAction Steps
Parental InvolvementParental Involvement
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HomeworkHomework
WhyWhy
Practice: reinforces learning and helps students master skills.
Extension: enables students to apply skills they already have to new situations.
Preparation: introduces material to be covered in future lessons, orienting students to new material before it’s taught.
Integration: students apply different skills to a single task (i.e. science projects or term papers).
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Benefits
Homework can teach children: How to work independently How to prioritize and use time effectively How to problem-solve Self-help and self-management skills
Homework also provides parents with: A window into their children’s learning,
strengths, and weaknesses Regular opportunities to participate actively in
their child’s education Awareness about what’s happening in school Opportunities to express positive attitudes
about learning and the child’s accomplishments
HomeworkHomework
WhyWhy
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HomeworkHomework
StressStress
• Context: 21st century, U.S., Silicon Valley
• What we do (intentionally or inadvertently):
• Supplement
• Subtract
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Modern Life Schedules, activities, pressure to achieve,
competition and pressure associated with college admissions.
National Association of Health Education Centers In a survey of almost 1000 young people
(ages 9-13) regarding stress, grades, school, and homework topped the list of stressors identified by kids (even over bullying or family problems). KidsHealth KidsPoll. (2005).
Lucile Packard Foundation for Children’s Health: In a survey of almost 2000 Bay Area parents,
54% reported that their children experience moderate to very high levels of stress.
School and homework accounted for 65% of that stress (in the ranges of “somewhat to very much”). (KidsData.org, 2005).
HomeworkHomework
StressStressHomework Stress:
Context
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Homework: How much is too much? Seeking balance: too much HW can detract from
important developmental needs like: Exercise Socializing “Down time” to enable creative problem-solving
& imaginative play Sleep Vital family time
U.S. Department of Education’s rule of thumb for homework: approximately 10 minutes per grade, per night (1st grade=10 minutes, 5th grade=50 minutes, etc.
If your child lacks an hour a day of time “to do nothing”, it’s time to reconstruct the family schedule.
HomeworkHomework
StressStress
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Attitudes and Mindsets Homework grades life success Reconsidering success Parenting Guidelines Emphasis on grades
Better evaluation of a child's progress comes from parent-teacher conferences: the teacher discusses a child's attention, study skills, and successes.
The main purpose of elementary school: building a solid learning foundation
HomeworkHomework
StressStressSupplementing
Stress
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Reconsidering Success
We live in a culture that increasingly insists that success is about numbers--test scores, acceptance rates, and salaries.
We know that success is complex. It includes a wide range of skills and traits
like integrity, creativity, and cooperation that can’t easily be measured, but are critical for success in life.
http://www.challengesuccess.org/Parents/YourRole/tabid/855/Default.aspx
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Subtract: Taking the “OW” out of HOmeWork
Coaching Your Child
Collaborative Approach Not adversarial. You’re on the same team.
Prioritization Order of events: HW First tough, then easy Flexibility and attention to our children's
learning styles (maximize the time)
HomeworkHomework
StressStress
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Subtract: Taking the “OW” out of HOmeWork Dealing with stress in the moment
Enable your child to take short, defined breaks when facing continuous difficulty or a fading attention span
Breaks Elementary-age kids can generally work for 20-
40 minutes intensively without a break. This is typically an appropriate length of time for them to absorb and work with academic concepts.
Good break activities: 10 minutes of exercise (riding bike, stretching, running around), a low-maintenance snack, or playtime with a pet
Use a timer to reduce difficulties around transitioning back to work.
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StressStress
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HomeworkHomework
Action StepsAction Steps
1) Establish clear routines for homework, including when and where homework gets done, as well as setting up daily schedules for homework.
HW Center (Study Space)HW TimeHW Habits (ROUTINE)
2) Build in rewards or incentives to use with children for whom learning or academic achievement is not an intrinsic motivator
Goal settingMotivation
What Parents Can Do to Support Kids’ Homework Learning
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Positive Transitions: School to Home Unwind Time
“… 20 or 30 minutes of exercise—taking a walk, playing in the backyard, doing some jumping jacks—can help a child focus for about 45 minutes to an hour afterward.” John Ratey, M.D., Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
Read your child Kids may not want to discuss their day. That’s okay. Ask open-ended questions. Give time and space to regroup, unwind, de-stress. Kids will often open up later, while doing an activity
with you (i.e. setting the table, clearing dishes, etc.)
HomeworkHomework
Action StepsAction Steps
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Sample After-school Routine for 5th grader
3:20-4:00 Home from school. Snack, relax. 4:00-4:05 Planner check, organize,
prioritize. 4:05-4:40 Homework (HW)/study time. 4:40-4:50 Break 4:50-5:15 HW time 5:15 Wrap up, pack up.
Check work, check off planner, put materials away.
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Rewards and Incentives
Rewarding progress Not all kids need rewards, but some benefit tremendously
from them. Incentive systems (sticker charts or time tokens for special
privileges) can work well for many K-5 kids. Teach “First things first.”
Unrealized privilegesConsider each thing your child may consider a birthright…
Access to… Kitchen/snacks Play time Pet time Screen time (TV, DVD, Computer)
These are privileges, not rights. Use them for limit-setting and effective habit-building.
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Action Steps
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Encouragement vs. Praise
Connect success with effort. Although parents and teachers have long
believed they could build kids' confidence by praising their abilities, the opposite is true.
Dr. Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Encouragement vs. Praise handout The message: effort and perseverance lead to
success.
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Attitude Adjustments
Kids follow your lead. Consider deeply-held thoughts and attitudes you may
hold regarding homework. How might these affect the way you approach homework with your child?
Perspective Shift - Are you “the boss” approaching every assignment with heavy sighs, eye-rolls, and a barrage of negativity? -If you're (un)consciously conveying how much you hate the daily drudgery of homework, your child won’t feel enthusiastic about it either.
- Work on your own attitudes regarding homework, if negative. If you can frame it in a positive light, your children will have an easier time doing that too.
Jamie Woolf: founder of “The Parent Leader” and author of Mom-in-Chief
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Action Steps
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HomeworkHomework
Parental Involvement
Parental Involvement
Fostering Learning and Life Skills Through Homework
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Homework: Your job is to create the conditions…
Be a farmer …not a fly
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Parental Involvement: Create the Conditions FIRST: Encourage independence and self-help
skills (for all ages) Begin as you mean to go on—set the
expectation: HW is your child’s responsibility. Provide optimal space, time, and structure for
your situation Ensure adequate sleep and nutrition for your
child Preschoolers need 11-14 hours of sleep
each night 5-12 year olds need 10-11 hours Teens need 9-10 hours of sleep nightly National Sleep Foundation (2006)
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Parental Involvement: How much is too much? Homework is an important way for kids to develop
independent, lifelong learning skills. Make sure your children know that you're available when
they hit a snag, but enable them to work independently. When asked for help, provide guidance (through inquiry),
not answers. Giving too much help can convey to children that:
They are helpless. They cannot solve their own problems.
When the going gets tough, someone else will do the work for them.
Encouraging effort, determination, and praising hard work are key motivation and confidence builders.
HomeworkHomework
Parental Involvement
Parental Involvement
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Student works
independently. (approx grades 4-5
and beyond)
Parent steps away, to another room nearby.
(approx. grades 3-4)
Parent steps away from the table,but is in the same room.
(approx. grades 1-3)
Parent and child at the same table.(approx. grades K-1)
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Parental Involvement: final thoughts As age, maturity, and readiness progress, step back
and enable the child to assume more responsibility. When in doubt, communicate with the teacher about
what is reasonable to expect and how to best support the child .
Keep lines of communication open and active with school.
Avoid Egypt Report situations. Keep perspective—what matters most
Family meals are the single strongest predictor of better achievement scores and fewer behavioral problems for children ages 3-12.
Hofferth, S.L. (2001). How American Children Spend Their Time. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 63, 295-308
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6 Questions (Time for a quiz!)
1. What is the purpose of homework?2. Name two benefits of homework.3. How do parents inadvertently increase the
stress associated with homework?4. How can parents decrease the stress
associated with homework? Name three specific action steps we can take.
5. In what ways can we use homework as a tool to foster learning and life skills in our children?
6. What do a farmer and a fly have to do with your child’s education?
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Questions?
Homework 9-1-1
Ali Zidel Meyers, MSW
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