how to eliminate social friction
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Otherwise, you wouldn't slide very fast, and if you were wearing shorts and caught your skin on the plastic, it didn't feel so good.
If you've ever been on a big water slide, you know much faster you can go when much of the friction (between you and the slide) is removed.
When I was in Junior High School, they talked about a frictionless puck (which was quickly transformed into bathroom humor by all the kids),
because talking about friction made everything more complicated.
Air hockey is so much fun because you can hit that puck pretty fast, due to the small cushion of air it's resting on.
In Japan, they have the mag-lev trains, which can go really, really quickly as there's no friction between the train and the track.
And the front of the "bullet trains" actually look like bullets, as they are designed for minimum air resistance.
Humans have friction between each other as well. (And I'm not talking about THAT kind of friction that only happens when the clothes come
off!)
That invisible but powerful force field between you and your boss, or you and that attractive person across the room.
Start off by making it easy on them. Use simple statements that are easy to agree with. Pacing statements, as they are called in hypnosis.
This is why some people seem really friendly, and some people don't, yet nobody can really put there finger on why.
When you eliminate all that inner chit chat and doubt that often comes up before any social interaction, you'll also remove a lot of that friction.
People already feel in rapport with them. People have already decided they are friendly and interesting.
People have already decided, on a deep subconscious level, that whatever they are going to say is likely going to be pretty interesting.