how to write an amazing online profile
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Sami Wunder Be Wildly Successful At Love
How To Write An Amazing Online Profile
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Get Noticed Online!
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Hi,
This is Sami Wunder,
your Get-Wildly-Successful-At-Love coach.
You can find me on my
website and on my
popular relationship
support group.
As a certified dating
and relationship coach
that teaches women
how to attract and keep
soul level love, I get
asked all the time: “Sami, yes, I want to attract soul-
level love, but where do I even find men to date?“
You see, not every woman has the luxury of being
able to meet new men daily and organically in her
social circle.
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Actually, the older we get, the more permanent
our circle of friends becomes and the harder it gets
to meet someone through it.
In fact, some of my clients, in their late 30s and 40s
are already getting out of failed marriages or
broken relationships and they too are looking to
start again and don’t have a clue on what the first
step is.
My Answer, As always Is:
Start With Online Dating.
With the click of a mouse modern technology has
made it possible to access profiles of 1000s of
eligible men all at the same time while sitting in
the comfort of our homes. You can match for
interests, filter height, age, location, or education.
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It’s a world with limitless possibilities, if you
approach it with an open mind.
Yes, there are creepy and weird men online, like
they are everywhere else including real life – but,
when you possess the skills to navigate online
dating, you will LOVE the process instead of
hating it. I will address this issue at the end of this
guide.
But for now let’s assume, you DO open yourself to
online dating.
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Next Step: Which Websites To
Register On?
Well given that there are so many out there, I trust
the analysis of the professionals. My personal
favourite is the comprehensive guide by
Reviews.com, that helps daters find the best
dating site for their specific needs (best overall,
best for long-term relationships, best app, and best
niche dating sites).
Check out the guide here:
www.reviews.com/online-dating-sites/
Now here’s what happens a lot: you register on the
best dating sites and yet you don’t get noticed. In
fact, in spite of being on the best dating websites,
you only get clicks by scammers and weird men
and start to feel discouraged and frustrated by the
whole process.
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“What is going on here, Sami?” you ask.
“Is there something wrong with me?“
Well, here’s what’s going on. In my experience…
… It’s not about you, but about
the way your online profile writes
about you.
In the online world, impressions matter, and if
your profile reads like the profile of 10000 other
women out there, the probability that a quality
man will notice you reduces drastically.
On the other hand, when your profile is well
written, when it represents your unique fire and
energy, when your soul shines through those
written words, your online experience turns
overnight, from boring to happening, from
ignored to desired – all in a jiffy!
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Tangible Results Of A Well
Written Online Profile:
Getting noticed by quality men;
Increased number of hits on your profile;
Increased inflow of messages from quality men;
Increased response rate to your messages;
A much higher probability of getting compatible matches online;
More men to date;
Better quality men to date;
Many more dates;
An increased probability to meet your “one“;
A higher return on investment on your dating website subscriptions which cost money.
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A Multitude Of Concrete Benefits!
As you can see, it’s totally worth it to spend some
time writing a good profile or investing in a
professional to write one for you.
And that’s what I am going to help you with
today.
Here are my 7 sure-shot ways to write an online
profile that will make you stand out and get
quality men to notice you and come knocking at
your door!
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Tip 1:
Keep it short
Less is more when it comes to your online profile.
Be true to yourself: Do you actually feel inspired to
read page long profiles of men yourself? What you
wouldn’t do, don’t expect a man to do either.
Lesson: Keep it short. Remember, he doesn’t have
to know everything about your life through your
profile. He has to date you to get access to all those
juicy details.
So reveal some interesting things about you, but
not everything. 5-6 sentences profiles, when well
written, do wonders.
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Tip 2:
Avoid Generic Adjectives
Woman A says she is
“fun, passionate and loves
dancing”.
Woman B says she is “fun,
passionate and loves
dancing”.
While woman A’s fun
comprises “late night
parties“, woman B’s fun
comprises “ice skating.“
While woman A loves to
dance salsa, woman B is
crazy about tango.
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The point I am making here is that these are two
completely different women using the same
generic adjectives to represent themselves. These
generic adjectives are in effect HIDING what
makes these women unique.
When your profile doesn’t shine light on what’s
unique about you, not only do you attract
incompatible matches, you also run the risk of
passing off on your soulmate, because he is simply
unable to recognize your uniqueness amongst that
bunch of loosely thrown, vague adjectives.
This brings me to the next point: How can you
avoid these generic adjectives and let your unique
light shine through the written word? Give specific
examples.
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Tip 3:
Give Specific Examples
Let’s show you what I mean by demonstrating
with Woman A’s profile.
Instead of expressing herself in this “general“ way,
she now gives a specific example of what it does to
her to dance her favourite dance of Salsa. It could
look like:
“I feel alive and like a total diva when I dance
Salsa at the local girls club in downtown SF.”
Can you see how the specific example makes
Woman A stand out uniquely? You picture her
dancing Salsa like a diva at the local girls club in
downtown San Francisco, and she draws an
exciting picture in your mind.
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Who would you want to know at this point?
Woman A, or Woman B with her old “fun,
passionate and loves dancing“?
The answer is easy. The more specific you can get,
the more you can stand out in a man’s mind and
get his mental juices and excitement flowing for
you even without having met you.
It works like a subtle, non-sexual mind seduction.
Equally effective, and no less powerful than the
real thing.
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Tip 4:
Paint The Picture
When it comes to describing what you want in a
man or in a relationship, instead of using loaded
adjectives to DESCRIBE what you want, paint the
picture of what you desire.
Let’s take an example.
Description Format looks like: “My man should be
fun, relaxed and like hiking.“
Painting the picture looks like:
“It would feel so good to sit by the couch, relax
with him on a Saturday night while munching
popcorn.”
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OR:
“The idea of going on an adventurous hike up
an Appalachian trail with him fills me up with
childlike excitement.“
Can you see the difference?
When you just describe what you want, you don’t
evoke any feelings within the man reading it
because he doesn’t know how these particular
adjectives of “relaxed and hiking“ would look like
in your life.
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For instance, for another woman who uses the
same adjectives, “relaxed“ could look like sitting in
the park and reading a book.
When you take the time to paint the picture, you
ensure that the man reading your profile is getting
a glimpse of what being close to you may feel like
to him.
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Tip 5:
Avoid Demands
Very often, you will find Internet dating gurus
giving advice that you should let the men know
what you will be expecting from them in the
relationship.
I say: Not the best idea, and especially not if it
sounds like a demand!
Let’s see some examples and how men would read
them.
Woman A: “I like my men to take the lead, to pay on
dates and court me during the dating process.“
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Man’s reaction:
He probably would pay
anyway and would
court the lady anyway,
but reading that written
on a profile makes him
go: “Eeeww! Demanding.
Not sure I can deliver all
of that so strictly.“
Demands make men
want to shut down,
instead of inspiring
them to deliver.
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Here’s another example.
Woman B: “It is an absolute must that he want kids
and family, because that is what is an imperative for
me.“
Man’s reaction:
He probably does want kids and family too, but
the way this message is worded feels like too much
pressure to deliver.
He would rather decide this organically and in
conversation with the woman in question.
As a result, he will probably skip contacting
woman B.
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Tip 6:
Avoid Negative Statements
My experience with writing online profiles has led
to the recognition of this annoying, but true,
golden nugget:
Most men try their luck with an attractive woman
anyway.
Negative statements about what you don’t want in
a man, or written attempts to disqualify older or
creepy men from contacting you will not be very
successful.
Just a waste of your precious writing space and
word count!
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It will also diminish your exciting and upbeat vibe,
and make you look negative before an otherwise
healthy, quality man.
Examples of negative statements that you should
avoid look like:
“Please do not contact if you are looking for
hook ups.“
“Men who just want sex, stay out.“
“Please do not send messages like, ‘Hey What’s
up?’“
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Tip 7:
End With A Hook
Close your profile in a way that prods men to take
some action.
A hook reads like a subtle invitation to ACT after
reading the profile.
It inspires the man reading to send you a message
and start some kind of a dialogue with you based
on what the hook reads like.
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Examples of hooks could look like:
“I can imagine us playing in the water on that
Puerto Rican beach. And you? ;) ”
“I can almost feel you want to know more.
Easy then! Just write me ;) “”And you know
what?
“After all of that, there’s still so much more ;)
But you’d have to ask me out on a date to know
it.... “
Qualities of Good Hooks:
1. They are subtle.
2. They are positive.
3. They are teasing (feel free to wink).
4. They inspire to act (not demand or force).
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So divas, that’s how you write an amazing profile
that gets you noticed.
If you follow those 7 simple (not easy, but simple)
guidelines to write your online profile, you are
guaranteed to get immediate results!
Will This Profile Keep The
Scammers And Weird Men Away?
Unfortunately, no.
It helps to be aware that there are indeed
scammers out there, who may want to take
advantage of your trust. This is why I wrote an
article about how you can identify them.
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As we already mentioned, most men try their luck
with an attractive woman, even if they know they
don’t stand a chance.
However, what a well written online profile does
do, is that it increases the number of quality men
who write to you as well.
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So You Got Noticed Online.
Now What?
To avoid the overwhelm that comes with receiving
100s of messages daily, and to navigate online
dating effectively and efficiently, it helps to follow
a very SPECIFIC PROCESS, which reduces the
time you spend online, and which gets you results
(phone calls, real dates) quickly.
This process, that I teach and recommend to my
private coaching clients, is laid out extensively in
Call 5 of my audio training program, Attract Your
Soulmate.
The nuts and bolts of online dating are explored in
one full hour of intense, powerful information.
This will save you a lot of time and heartache, by
teaching you how to easily filter out the low-effort
men who are only looking for flings or hook ups.
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Once your online profile is well written, Attract
Your Soulmate is going to empower you for the
next steps of real-life dating.
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Attract Your Soulmate is a complete dating course,
which will also help you to:
Set yourself up for success by adopting the
mindset of a real Diva;
Conquer the negative beliefs that might be
keeping you stuck in your love life;
Understand how men really think about
commitment;
Harness the power of your feminine energy
and effortlessly become an attraction magnet;
Learn what rotational dating is, and how it
will prevent you from losing yourself for any
one man;
Prepare for every possible dating situation
and scenario;
Become confident and actually enjoy the
dating process.
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This audio training program shows how easy it
can be, when we have the right knowledge, to
attract and keep the love of a quality man.
Attract Your Soulmate has already been a life-
changer for dozens of women out there – you can
read their experiences on this page:
http://www.samiwundercoaching.com/attract-
your-soulmate-program/
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I wish you tons of luck and success in your love
life, and would love to hear back from you on how
this is working out for you.
Love,
Sami Wunder
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