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    KLNH ]HNGH IHL P]SHE, IHL PSHKL]H, IHL CLJ

    P]TMFND PJTHNDRH FG@DP] ]SHTKH @DG]SH - CDLOSHM

    Jnfjnhgh Clohvh`

    Fzmhnd Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgthr Cdlorhmuz plmriu Ihghmsid hodg`fnd zh kdmnughrlmgf rhzvln

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    Fzmhnd Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgthr Cdlorhm

    3112 Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgthr CdlorhmKhvhgsih 5, 88111 Cdlorhm, Sdpucjfih Prcfnh

    Qrdjlk> Rdsgh Cdjnhg, 12= 0== 0580thkph> Jhvhju sthkp, (188) 5=5 2? 85

    Ilrditurh> Pthgfsjhvh Jhzhrdvf

    F fzmhgnd

    ]frh> 411

    Pvh prhvh zhmrhvh fzmhvh.^h svhil ilrfdgnd, ukglhvhgnd f sthvjnhgnd u prlkdt mdjh tdisth

    fjf tdisth u `djfgf pltrdcgh nd shojhsglstFg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm.

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    QSDM RHKH ND...

    Qrdmsthvjnhkl Rhk prvu pucjfih`fnu u Prcfnf ilnh olvlrf l md`f fz stvhrglo fvlth sh fsiustvlksdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh fz uojh prhitfhrif sh mvhghdstlolmfgnlk dispdrtfzlk u lcjhstfsdisuhjglo ghsfjnh ghm md`lk f dghkh. T fkd tfkh Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm, ghdfsiustvl fzglsf mr Jnfjnhgh Clohvh`, il-lsgfvhf`h @dgtrh, vlmftdjnf`h tfkh zh rhm sh md`lkilnh su prdfvdjh sdisuhjgl ghsfjnd f dispdrtifgnh ilnh sd u fkd ghdo @dgtrh plnhvjnund ghsumu ihmh fzvdsthg crln lvhivfe sjuhndvh mlspd u irfvfgf plstuphi.

    Phmrhn ghkdgnundkl svfkh vhkh ilnd/f sd plnhvjnundtd u ujlohkh plkhohf`h / plkhohh.Mr Clohvh` d Rhk rdf mh nd hst ihm Rhk sd mdtd plvdrf. djfkl mh vhk prfcjffklsdisuhjgu trhuku ilm mdtdth f klouglstf lplrhvih, putdk 4 stumfnh sjuhndvh, mfghkfiulmglsh prfvrdglstf ilnu plfgfjh` zjlupltrdcjnhvh gh tdtu mdtdth, kdtlm tdrhpfnd irlzforu f fgstrukdgtd ilnd u rhmu u @dgtru ilrfstfkl. Mh nl ndmglk pltvrmfkl mh md`h gdjhu l sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu, vdoh plzghnu irlz ujgl fsiustvl>uiuslk, kfrfslk,

    mlmfrlk, clnlk. H mh sd ghndd, kf lmrhsjd/f, pjhfkl mh mdtd prhvfjgl

    undkl fvdrundkl u gndg / gndolv fsihz. Mh hil plfgfjh` fkh ghkdru mh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnh mdtd,

    mh d tl f ufgftf. F mh md`h gfihm gd mhnu prfsthghi zh sdisuhjgl ghsfjnd. F mh sfourgl gddcftf pluzmhgf svdml`f gh sumu, zhprhvl pl ghln kdrf, kdrf lmrhsjfe. Ghufjd skl mh gdtrdch plmrhzukdvhtf prhvfjgd sthvlvd plkhohf`h / plkhohh,vdfe sthjgl prdfspftfvhtf ffzorhfvhtf.

    Gdkh rdslrh u sfstdku zhtftd md`d lm sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh sh ilnfk ml shmh gfsklshrhfvhjd u svlnln svhilmgdvgln prhisf, cfjl ihl ilgsujthgtifgnd, trdgdrf`d, supdrvfzlrid,lrohgfzhtlrid fjf udsgf`d nhvgfe mlohhnh, ftm. djdjd skl mh prlmucfkl Rhdplzghvhgnd rhmh Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm ihl gdzhvfsgd usthglvd ilnh

    u ilgtfguftdtu rhmf u fgtdrdsu md`d f dgh fzjldgfe sdisuhjglk ghsfjnu. ]hilmnd,djdjd skl mh sirdgdkl phgnu mh nd gdlpelmgl eftgl uvldgnd tdkd ghsfjnh zhsglvhglogh rlmgln prfphmglstf u ghsthvgf pjhg gh svfk gfvlfkh iljlvhgnh f gh tlkd skl hgohlvhgdu livfru ihkphgnd Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm u 3112. olmfgf plm ghzfvlkNh ilnu/ ilndo gfil gd plzghnd.

    Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgthr Cdlorhm nd dgsih gdvjhmfgh lrohgfzh`fnh, zvhgfgl rdofstrlvhgh866=. olmfgd, ilnh pruh psfeljliu hsfstdg`fnu zh prlsdgl 6 prfnhvjndgfe sjuhndvhsdisuhjglo ghsfjnh gdmdjngl f rhmf ihl trdgfgo-`dgthr prdglsdf svlnd fsiustvl mruofkplkhohf`hkh / plkhohfkh. Shzjfftd gh`flghjgd strhtdofnd Sdpucjfid Prcfnd fkhnu u sdcfzvhgfgd sthtfstfid plmhtid ghdo @dgtrh. Olmfgd 3118, lsglvhjd skl f illrmfgfdkl Krdu

    plvdrdgnh prltfv ghsfjnh zhsglvhglo gh rlmgln prfphmglstf, ilnh prdmsthvjnh fgtdrvdgtgf tfkprhitfhrif f prhitfhrh fz 84 usthglvh svfe rdslrh.

    Qucjfih`fnh sd fzmhnd uz pugl pltlvhgnd prl`dmurh plvdrjnfvlstf zh ghd ijfndgtifgnd /ijfndgtd. ^hevhjnundkl sd tl su svlnlk pfskdglk shojhsglu mlprfgdjf tlkd mh nd lghshmh prdm Rhkh. ^clo tloh,sh lvlk pucjfih`fnlk ruiuntd phjnfvl!

    Prmhgl,Muf`h Qlphmf Cdlorhm, nuj 3112.mfrditlrih

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    Phmrhn

    Qrdm Rhkh nd............................................................................................ 0

    ^jlupltrdch lmglsh prfvrdglstf................................................................. 2

    Slmgd ujlod lsglv zh rhzukdvhgnd ghsfjnh............................................... ?

    Mfsirfkfgh`fnd Qrhvl vdfgd gh mdstruitfvglst............................................ 5

    Pdisuhjgh trhukh ilm mdtdth

    (^jlupltrdch klf irlz prl`ds zhvlmndgnh mdtdth)...................................... 6

    Qlstlnf gdiljfil ghfgh gh ilnd mdtd kld mh lcdjlmhgf zjlsthvjnhgnd............ 83

    Gd zghf mh trdch mh sd lcudk ihl ijlvg fjf mrfk trucd gh ujhzu,

    hjf trdch mh ghprhvfk mlchr ilgthit sh mdtdtlk, mh ku mhk nhsgd

    f fsirdgd plruid (fjf Kdtlm> ]drhpfnh irlz foru)............................................ 8=

    Ptumfnh sjuhnh 8....................................................................................... 86

    Ptumfnh sjuhnh 3....................................................................................... 3=

    Ptumfnh sjuhnh 0....................................................................................... 3?

    Ptumfnh sjuhnh =...................................................................................... 36

    Ptumfnh sjuhnh 4...................................................................................... 03

    Ihil sd gdid plruid prfkjndgd u prl`dsu zjlsthvjnhgnh plnhvjnunu

    u `rtdfkh md`d........................................................................................ 04

    ]djl lsdhgnh svdmli ghrudgfe orhgf`h f tdilh putlvhgnh

    irlz tdjl............................................................................................. 05

    Dvl ghs gh irhnu.................................................................................. =8

    Mlmhthi 8............................................................................................ =3

    Mlshmhgnd pucjfih`fnd Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm......................... =0

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    ^JLTQL]SDCH LMGLPH QSFRSDGLP]F

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd md`d prdmsthvjnh kh ilnf vfm dispjlhth`fnd mdtdthkjhdo lm 85 olmfgh u `fjnu sdisuhjglo zhmlvljndgnh f ufvhgnh lmrhsjd lslcd flcuevhth> lps`dgd tdjdblgsid plzfvd, plihzfvhgnd fghd plirfvdgfe mdjlvh tdjh fvlhndrfzhk, kfjlvhgnd, sgfkhgnd plrglorhbsife bltlorhnh, pliuhn mh sd lchvfsdisuhjgf lmgls, sfjlvhgnd, fg`dst f mdfnu prlstftu`fnu.

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd sd lmglsf gh uijnufvhgnd zhvfsglo, rhzvlngl gdzrdjlo mdtdth fhmljds`dgtifgnd / hmljds`dgth u sdisuhjgd hitfvglstf ilnd lgl gd kld mh rhzukd, gh ilndgd kld mh m prfsthghi f ilnd uorlhvh sl`fnhjgd thcud plrlmfglo fvlth. Erhcrlst mh sdihl mrutvl sulfkl sh stvhrglu sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhglo mdtdth mlvlmf ml plvdhgd svdstfl prlcjdku f ltvhrh klouglst stf`hgnh vdtfgh mh sd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd prdplzgh.

    Phkl mdtd sd clrf sh prlghjhdgndk skfsjh fvlth. ^clo nhilo lsdhgnh jlnhjglstf prdkhplfgfl`u ghstlnf mh shirfnd lm liljfgd th ku sd mdhvh. Lvh jlnhjglst, plrdm jnuchvf,plmrhzukdvh zhvfsglst, strhe f zcugndglst.

    Shmdf 83 olmfgh sh md`lk ilnh fkhnu fsiustvl sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh, prfkdtfjh shk mhsd f prfjfilk lcdjlmhgnfvhgnh zjlsthvjnhgnh vlmf rhugh l vrdkdgsiln pdrspditfvf lmrhsjfe,h gd mdtdth. Mli sd sjuhn lmjhd zclo gdvdrf`d lmrhsjfe, zhuzdtlstf fgstftu`fnh, zghtgl sdgdohtfvgl utfd gh hgsd zh lplrhvhi mdtdth, prdifm zjlsthvjnhgnh f klouglst ghsthvihzmrhvlo rhzvlnh mdtdth. H vrdkd nd mdtdtu mrhol`dgl.

    ^htl cfe etdjh mh gh shklk pldtiu ghojhsfk mh nd gh jfgf lmgls prdkh sdisuhjglkzjlsthvjnhgnu lm ghnvdd vhglstf, mh jf vdrundkl mh nd mdtd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl, ihl fgh sthv l ghsfjnu.]hn lmgls f sthv usjlvjnhvhnu mh jf kldkl fjf gd mh prufkl lmolvhrhnuu

    plklmdtdtu f rlmftdjnu ilnf gfnd plfgfjh` (fjf mruoln lslcf lm plmrid mdtdtu). Mh cfsklklojf mh vfmfkl f prfevhtfkl mdtd ilnd nd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl, klrhkl mh plzghndklmdtd u sdcf, ukdkl mh fvfkl u sthjglk ilgthitu sh gnfk.H tl mdtd klrh mh sd sghd usvdtu lmrhsjfe. Ihil tdi ihmh nd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl

    - ^h ghsfjnd nd uvdi f shkl lmolvlrhg lghn il oh vrf.

    - ^h plfgndgl ghsfjnd gdkh prfevhtjnfvlo rhzjloh, lprhvmhgnh f fzvfgndgnh, vd plstlnflmolvlrglst f prlpfshgd zhilgsid plsjdmf`d.

    - Qlfgfjh` svlnfk khgfpujh`fnhkh gdd prlkdgftf ghh chzfgh uvdrdgnh l prfrlmf ghsfjnh,

    jnumsifk f mdfnfk prhvfkh, prhvfkh dgh f lmolvlrglstf zh plfgndgl ghsfjnd.- Ghsfjndk sd irf lsglvgl jnumsil prhvl f prhvl mdtdth9 sprdkgf skl mh gd sirfvhkl sthvl tdkdjngln gdprhvmf ghsfjnh, vdmh cumdkl nhvgf u svlnln hi`fnf.

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    Kfsjftd mh sd svd lvl plmrhzukdvh< Gd plmrhzukdvh sd. P]HR ND RHGFNF LM SDF.

    Jnumsid rdhi`fnd plkhoh(f`)h su mdl prlbdsflghjglo sthvh ihm sd rhmf u ilgtdistu ghsfjnh.Rhgl nd zghtf th lsdhkl mh cfskl klojf mh lsthgdkl tl rh`flghjgfnf f cumdkl vdhplklzh mdtd.

    Shm sh md`lk ilnh su sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh nd kglol vfd lm dkl`flghjglo fzhzlvh. ]lnd f fgtdjdituhjgf fzhzlv, ndr nd rdl sjldglk siupu prlcjdkh, prd svdoh mrutvdglk fpljftfilk, ndr nd rdl cljdstf phtrfnhrehjglo mrutvh, h gd l psfelphtljlofnf plndmfg`h.

    T rhmu sh mdtdtlk nhsgl fzrhhvhk sthv l tdkdjngln gdprhvmf ghsfjnh f vrhhk sd u svlndmdtfgnstvl. Pvhif put ihmh mdtd ltvlrf sr`d f plmdjf sh kglk mdjfgdid svlnd cljgd thngd,

    nh shk pugh pltlvhgnh f mfvjndgnh. ^hevhjgh shk tl nd ch kdgf tl plmhrfjh/l, lsdhk sdprfvfjdolvhglk tl shk tl ch nh. hst kf nd f tl lsdhgnd kd prdpjhvjnund.

    Md`h s ilnlk shk rhmfjh vdrlvhtgl gd zghnu iljfil shk pugl lm gnfe ghufjh l sdcf fmrutvu f iljfil kf fzglvh mhnu sghou mh rhstdk rhmdf s gnfkh f zh gnfe. ^hevhjgh shksvhilk mdtdtu plghlslc.

    SLMGD TJLOD LPGLR ^H SH^TKDRHGND GHPFJNH

    ^h svhil mdtd nd gdlpelmgl mh rhzvfnd lsdhn zh ldifvhgnh u vdzf sh rlmgfk ujlohkh,mh sd rlmgd ujlod tfu mdvlnf`h f mdhih, dgh f kuihrh`h. Ndzfilk mdtdth sd olvlrf lldifvhgnfkh u vdzf sh plghhgndk f lsdhgnfkh ilm mdvlnf`h f mdhih, th nd mlzvljndgl zh

    ndmgd, h th zh mruod. Qrlfrund sd svdst l ujlohkh md`d ihl jhglvh plrlmf`d, muglstfkhu iuf, prhvfjfkh ilnh dstl sputhvhnu mh cumdkl lgl tl ndskl f mh sd gd plmskdvhnugdilkd il nd mruohfnf. Shzukdvhgnd rlmgfe ujloh nd lsglv zh rhzukdvhgnd lsthjfemfsirfkfgh`fnh f lsghund mdtd mh gd mfsirfkfgfd f gd cumd mfsirfkfgfshgl, ghnprd ihl mdtd,h lgmh f pl lsglvu mruofe lcdjdnh rhzjfftlstf (ijhsh, rhsh, fzojdm, fgtdjdituhjgd/zfidsplslcglstf, sdisuhjgh lrfndgth`fnh, gh`flghjgh / dtgfih prfphmglst, vdrsil lprdmdjndgnd).Md`h ilnh su fzjldgh sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu sd lsdhnu lcdjddglk f rhzjfftlk lm mruodmd`d. Irlz plghhgnd ilnd nd ghrhvgl lmrhz dkl`fnh dstl su umgh liljfgf, h shkfk tfkf khgnd prfevhtjnfvh f vfmjnfvh. Shzukdvhgnd rlmgfe ujloh nd f lsglv zh rhzukdvhgnd ghsfjnhghm md`lk (f dghkh).

    Fz fsiustvh Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtrh Cdlorhm, zghk mh nd prlbdsflghj`fkh tdil mh rhzukdnurlmgu ilkplgdgtu ghsfjnh f prfevhtd mh sd ghsfjnd ghm md`lk f dghkh mlohh zclogdrhvglkdrgd rhsplmdjd klf fzkdu pljlvh, f mh prhish u rhmu gh pfthgnu sdisuhjglozjlsthvjnhgnh md`d plihzund mh su plfgfl`f ghndd lslcd kuilo pljh, h md`h f dgd lgfilnf prdfvjnhvhnu ghsfjnd. Qrdkh ghfk sthtfstfifk plmh`fkh ilnf su uvrtdgf u vfd zvhgfgfemrhvgfe mliukdghth, lm = mdtdth ilnd su sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh, 0 su mdvlnf`d f 8 mdhi,mli su lm 4 plfgfjh`h lvlo vfmh ghsfjnh = lslcd kuilo pljh h 8 lslch dgsilo.

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    MFPISFKFGH@FND QSHRL RDFGD GH MDP]STI]FRGLP]

    Md`f rlksid gh`flghjglstf nd ltdhg prfstup hmdivhtgfk fzvlrfkh plklf, ndr sd ihil gnfkhshkfkh, thil f khnihkh ilnd sd plnhvjnunu ihl lslcd lm plmrid gh rhsgln lsglvf gd

    vdrund. Ghsfjnd sd mfsirfkfghtfvgl prfpfsund iujturf f trhmf`fnf, cdz gldgnh lmolvlrglstfzh lzcfjngd plsjdmf`d lvhivfe mdzfgblrkh`fnh. H upfrhgnd prstlk gh rtvdglo nhr`h gddukhgnftf zhstupjndglst sdisuhjglo ghsfjnh kdmnu cdjlk vdfglk. Lm zhndmgf`d zhvfsf mh jfd md`h Slkf cftf ndmghil vhgh ihl mruoh md`h.

    Qfthgnd vhglstf zh zhndmgf`u sd plsthvjnh f u vdzf md`d u mlklvfkh cdz rlmftdjnsilo sthrhgnh(lm 311=. olmfgd, oltlvl 88% sjuhndvh prfnhvjndgfe Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtru Cdlorhm sd tfudkl`flghjglo, zfilo f sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh md`d lm strhgd plkhoh(f`)h zhplsjdgfeu mlklvfkh zh md`u cdz rlmftdjnsilo sthrhgnh, tzv. spd`fnhjgfk iljhkh f usthglvhkh zhtrhngf skdthn md`d sh fgvhjfmftdtlk). ]rdgm erhgftdjnstvh plsdcgl zhetdvh prlvdru rfzfihilkd cfvh plvdrdgl mdtd.

    Md`h sh skdtgnhkh u rhzvlnu sd skhtrhnu fzuzdtilk. Qrdmrhsumh nd mh mdtd sh skdtgnhkhgdd rhzukdtf mh oh gdil sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnh. Ltddgnd sd vfmf ihl chrfndrh mh rhzukd, hgd mh ltddgnd zghf plsdcgu rhgnfvlst f uvdhg rfzfi mh sd ghsfjnd mdsf. dstl ku sd uifmhprhvl gh prfvhtglst, gdkh fzclrh fjf prhvl gh psfeljliu hsfstdg`fnu, mruof olvlrd u gndolvlfkd. Qltrdcgf su lsdtjnfvlst, ujldgl vrdkd f vdtfgd ihil cf sd fzhjl u susrdt hjtdrghtfvgfkkdtlmhkh ilkugfih`fnd lm olvlrh, ihl tl su olvlr zghilvfkh, sfkcljfkh, odstfiujh`fnh.Mdtd sh skdtgnhkh u rhzvlnu gfnd uijnudgl u prlorhkd zhtftd f prdvdg`fnd ghsfjnh.

    Ghndd, zjlsthvjnhgnd plfgnd u mlcf lm 3 ml 4 olmfgh f ghsthvjnh sd ml 84. olmfgd. ^hmd`u ilnh fvd u prfvhtglk skdthnu, u 66% sftuh`fnh, plfgfl`f su sthrhtdjnf / rlmcfgh.

    Ndmglsthvgfnd nd f cdzcdmgfnd ufgftf ghhl mdtdtu sh ilnfk rdtil gdil kld mh ilkugf`frh fplfgfjh` sd f vlmf tfkd mh mdtd gdd cftf u klouglstf mh shlptf. Md`f sh prlcjdkhtfgfkplghhgndk tdil nd vdrlvhtf, ndr lmrhsjfkh gfsu cftgh ihl mruoh md`h, gdkhnu fstddkl`fnd, gdmlsth`fkh sd plirfvh svd zh th nd pltrdcgl gdil mlmhtgl lcnhgndgnd.]hilmnd, skhtrh sd mh lgl tl fzrhhvhnu gfnd lgl tl sevhthnu, vdrlvhtgl mhnu jhgdfznhvd, h hil sd f mlolmf zjlsthvjnhgnd cljnd f gd prdmuzfkhtf gfth, ndr su lgf dkltfvglgdsthcfjgf. Hitfvhg nd f kft gfil sd gd cf srlzhl thil gfsil, mli plmh`f uihzunu mh su md`hsh skdtgnhkh u rhzvlnu mvh puth dd plm rfzfilk lm sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh, lmglsgldtfrf puth dd lm zjlsthvjnhgnh u fgstftu`fnhkh. ^gh`f uplzlrdgnh sd dstl vfmd ihl mdlsfgmrlkh (mdl cljdstf), vhf lgl mh nd uvdi cfjh/l thivh, mh prfvjhd phgnu, plvrdmnunushkd/f sdcd.

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    PDIPTHJGH ]SHTKH ILM MD]D]H(^JLTQL]SDCH KLF ISL^ QSL@DP ^HRLDGNH MD]D]H)

    Pdisuhjgf ghphm nd trhukh ilnh utfd gh rhzvln mdtdth f splslcglst usplsthvjnhgnh lmglshsh mruofkh. Shzhrh chzfgd jnumsid vrdmglstf (plrlmfgd, jnuchvgd, prfnhtdjnsid), sjfiu l

    sdcf f shklpluzmhgnd, sfstdkd vdrlvhgnh. Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd mdtdth nd trhukh ilnuuzrliund lmrhsjh lslch lm plvdrdgnh f hutlrftdth, plsjdmf`h mdjlvhgnh lslcd ilnu mdtdvljf.

    Rhgl nd mh ihm olm plgdkl mh sd pfthkl> Hjf, zhtl tl plfgfjh` rhmf

    - Klghmmdtdtlk (gd klzhmdtd f klshmdtdtlk, ndr cf thmh ihl lmrhsjf cfjfzhtfth f plmstf`hn zh mdtd)

    - ^ghgnd, fsiustvl f vdtfgd

    - Qlmriu liljfgd (lg nd rlmftdjn fjf lslch ilnh vhspfthvh mdtd f crfgd l gndku, td sdldiund f mlputh mh lgmh fkh svh prhvh ghm mdtdtlk)

    - H fzghm svdoh ilrfstf jnuchv f plvdrdgnd mdtdth.

    Qlfgfjh` ilrfstf svlnu klghm mdtdtlk ihl klthnglstf, tdkdjnf sd gh ghsfjnu f u ghkdthgnuvljnd f shgi`fnd prltfv lgfe ilnd sd tln vljnf suprltsthvjnhnu. ]hivh klzhetdvh ilgsthgtguphgnu mdtdth mh gdtl gd plordf f mh svd cumd u rdmu. Kl ghm gdifk sd dstlpdr`fpfrh f ndmfgl prfzghnd u mrutvu ihl prhvh kl.

    Mdtd ilnd nd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl lsdh strhe, irfvf`u, stfm, gdkl, gdplvdrdgnd fkrgnu prdkh sdcf. tl rhgfnd mlcfnd plkl, tl d sd jhid ukhgnftf dbditf zjlsthvjnhgnh>

    shkllirfvjnhvhgnd, gfsil shklpltlvhgnd f shklpluzmhgnd, jld sl`fnhjgl bugi`flgfshgnd,stfm / srhklth f fzljh`fnh.

    Fz pdrspditfvd trhukd zh mdtd, fg`dstlk sd skhtrh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgndmdtdth lm strhgd lmrhsjd lslcd lm plvdrdgnh, ilnh nd u plzf`fnf klf f prdmsthvjnhhutlrftdt zh mdtd. ^ghf mh nd u rhzukdvhgnu trhukd vhgl rhzkltrftf lmgls cjfsilstfmdtdth sh plfgfl`dk, h gfihil sd zhtvlrftf gh irvglk srlmstvu, lorhgfftf sd gpr. ghzhilgsiu mdgf`unu, f plmjdf stdrdltfpu orhmfrhgnh trhukd. Lmgls cjfsilstf s plfgfl`dk(f u livfru tloh irvgl srlmstvl) nd shkl ndmhg bhitlr ilnf lmrdund lzcfjnglst trhukd. Tsutfgf, gdlpelmgl nd rhzukdtf lmgls prfvrdglstf mdtdth prdkh plfgfl`u u svln svlnlnmucfgf, h tfkd f zghdgnd zjlupltrdcd lvlo lmglsh.

    Fg`dst sd lmrhvh thnglu (uthgndk), hkcfvhjdg`fnlk, jlnhjglu / ilgffifitlk jlnhjglstff ghruhvhgndk svfe orhgf`h mdtdth (zfife, psfeljlife, dkl`flghjgfe). Bfzfid orhgf`dghzghunu Rh jfgf prlstlr u ilndk sd lsdhtd sfourgl. Qsfeljlid orhgf`d sd tfu tlohzghtd jf th su Rhd pltrdcd f pltrdcd mruofe. Dkl`flghjgd orhgf`d su l tlkd mh jf sdlsdhtd splslcgfk mh ihdtd ihil Rhk nd (svlnd pltrdcd), h mh sd plsjd tloh lsdhtdprfevhdgfk.

    Mdtd cfvh uvudgl u sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd irlz foru. Qrl`ds zhvldgnh plfgfjh` prdmsthvjnhihl gdtl plsdcgl, gdtl tl mdtd fgf plsdcgfk fjf zjlsthvjnhgnd prdmsthvjnh ihl glrkhjgl,gdtl tl sd mdhvh svhilk mdtdtu. Mli su md`h kjhh, uthgnd sd lsfourhvh f zjlsthvjnhgnd

    plmstfd ghorhmhkh. Ihil su sthrfnh, cfvhnu prfsfjndgh prdtgnhkh f u`dglk. Mdtd ghnrhgfndouzrhsth gd kld mh sevhtf th sd mdhvh, hjf lsdh (zhtl mdtd erhcrfk Rdrun svlk ojhsfufzgutrh f prhtf th tf ihd).

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    Ilgbuzfnh nd prdvdjfil crdkd zh khjl mdtd. ]di ihm ku sd ihd mh nd th forh thngh,plfgnd mh sevhth mh gdtl gfnd u rdmu. ]hngh / uthgnd sd lsfourhvh f kftlk, h fstlvrdkdglplfgfjh` gh mdtd prdch`und irfvf`u f lmolvlrglst. Ghorhmd md`f mhnu zhstrhunuf lsdhn mhsu shudsgf`f, prdtgnhkh cfvhnu zhstrhdgh mh d sd mlolmftf gdtl strhgl hil gdilkdihu. Qrdtgnd klou cftf Hil ihd.... ff d u mlk, ukrdd tf khkh, nh u (plfgfjh`)ff u zhtvlr, h lgmh d khkh mh pljumf, ch`fu td prdil tdrhsd... hil ihd khkf, gdd tf

    vdrlvhtf, gdd td vfd vljdtf, ftm. Mdtd u pltpuglstf u svhiu lvhivu prdtgnu vdrund. Mdtdvdrund cuivhjgl f hpsljutgl.

    tl mud mdtd lsthnd u sftuh`fnf zjlsthvjnhgnh, svd vfd sd lsdh irfvfk f lmolvlrgfk f svdvfd sd hgohund mh sd gf gh ilnf ghfg gd vfmf th ku sd mlohh. Pvd sd tdd glsf shhkcfvhjdgtgfk lsdhgnfkh vljf plfgfl`h, hjf gd f tl tl lg rhmf. Jlnhjglu pliuhvhmh shirfnd svln fvlt, h th jlnhjglst pltfd fz jnuchvf, hjf f zhvfsglstf, strheh f zcugndglstf.Mdtd svd khgnd prdplzghnd svlnd pltrdcd (fjf zhvfsgl lm uzrhsth gh ilndk nd zjlsthvjnhgndpldjl, gfihm f gd ghuf mh fe fkh f ilnd su) f svd khgnd kld mh ihd th lsdh, h mh plsjdtloh cumd prfevhdgl.

    Mdtd sd skhtrh lmolvlrgfk hil sd jld plghh. Phkl plghhgnd, h gd mdtd, ndgdprfevhtjnfvl, ndr tdtf gndku f mruofkh.

    Pirfvdgh plghhgnh ilnh sd nhvjnhnu ihl rdhi`fnh gh trhukuklou plsdcgl ltdhvhtf fvltmdtdth>

    - Pdisuhjfzlvhgl (drltfzlvhgl) plghhgnd md`d dstl sd ivhjfiund ihl mdvfnhgtgl fgdlmolvhrhnud f lvd ivhjfih`fnd utfu gh rhm sh mdtdtlk hjnuf ku plruid ihlmh gdkh plkhih fjf mh sd mdtd nl olrd sghjhzf u liljfgf f plrlmf`f.

    - Mfsl`fnh`fnh

    - Qlsttrhukhtsid ford-thngd, rftuhjgd ford, fkhnu ivhjftdt gholgh (phrhjfnh). (Gpr.ilkpujzfvgl khsturcfrhgnd lm strhgd mdtdth.)

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl mdtd fkh jlu sjfiu l svlk tdju, dstl krzf svlnd tdjl, ndr lgl ndudstvlvhjl u gddku tl nd srhklth, plsdcgl ku stvhrh ilgbuzfnu tl su mlmfrf cfjf fprfnhtgf. Fkh lsdhgnd shudsgftvh, ihl mh nd lgl lmolvlrgl f irfvl zh tl tl sd mdhvhjlf tl gfnd zhusthvfjl. ]l su dstd plruid ilnd mdtd mlcfnh lm plfgfl`h.

    dstl, mh cf prdfvdjf trdgutid zjlsthvjnhgnh, prfcdohvhnu kdehgfzku mfsl`fnh`fnd. Lmrhsjd/fijfndgtifgnd/f nhsgl ihu mh su rhzmvlnfjd/f tdjl f lsdhgnh, gfsu mlzvljfjd/f mh fth lsdhnu,hjf nd lgmh tdjl irfvl ndr gfnd gfth urhmfjl. T rhmu nd zhtl lm fzuzdtgd vhglstf splnftf

    plglvl tdjl f lsdhgnh, rhmftf gh plirdtu f fsihzfvhgnu lsdhgnh f uftf fe pljhil mh plglvlzhvljd svlnd tdjl.

    Gdif lcrhs`f plghhgnh ilnf prlbdsflghjid / `d klou zcugftf>

    - Qhtljlih prfvrdglst plfgfl`u (ndmfgh lslch lm ilnd mdtd u svlnln gdklfzhvfsf)

    - Pthgnd pltpugd prdmhnd (ihl plsjugl mdtd, cdz fihivfe prlcjdkh u lmglsu ghzjlsthvjnhgnd)

    - Pthgnd sthjgd plcudglstf (uolmgl, tlpjl, lczfrgl, fth Rhk djnu fz lfnu,

    prdghojhdgl usjugl)- Pthgnd zhkrzgutd phgnd Gdkh lsdhgnh (lmhnd utfshi skfrdglstf f sthcfjglstf fu sftuh`fnhkh ilnd su uzgdkfrunud zh mruou md`u)

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    - Qdrbdi`flgfzhk

    - Pdisuhjfzlvhgl (drltfzlvhgl) plghhgnd mdtdth.

    Mh jf d mdtd rdf mh ku sd mdhvh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd f ihil d tl ufgftfzhvfsf lm>

    - Tzrhsth- Pplslcglstf vdrchjgd ilkugfih`fnd mdtdth f gndolvlo sghjhdgnh u mrutvu f

    hmdivhtglo lmolvlrh mruofe (lmrhsjfe)

    - Ihil rhzukd svdt u ilkd fvf f ihil vfmf svlnd kdstl u gndku (th nd shshklpltlvhgndk mdtdth f mh jf fkh lslcu lm plvdrdgnh ilnln kld rdf svlnuthngu).

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    QLP]LNF GDILJFIL GHFGH GH ILND MD]D KLD MHLCDJLMHGF ^JLP]HRJNHGND

    8. Kld mh ihd sjuhngl, gdghkdrgl. Kld mh ihd mh gdd vfd mh sd forh ojupfe fohrh

    sh mdmlk, ndr zjlsthvjnhgnd ndstd prdmsthvjndgl ihl forh, h gndku sd vfd td ford gd forhnu.(]l nd ihl u fvltu cdz zjlsthvjnhgnh, ihmh md`f fzkdu sdcd mlshmf mh sd forhnu fstd ford flgmh lmcfnhnu foru. Rrgnh`fkh tl ghndd klou nhsgl mh plihu.)

    Lvl su sftuh`fnd ihmh klrhkl mh fkhkl vrdkdgh mh undkl ilnd su tl ford, mh plstuphklgdgl f strpjnfvl, rhzukdkl ndzfi ilnfk mdtd tl shlpthvh. Ndr, plfgfl`f, plsdcgl ihmh sukhjh md`h u pfthgnu, ilrfstd ndzfi ilnf mruof lmrhsjf gdd sthvftf u ilgtdist zjlsthvjnhgnh.th tl zghf< Ilrfstd gpr. zh svlnd pljgd lrohgd rhzgh fkdgh nughih fz `rthgfe jklvh, shkfg zjlsthvjnhgnh sd ukdd u gdiu mdtdtlvu lkfjndgu chniu f sj. (Gpr. u sjuhnu mdvlnf`d, =olmfgd> Nh shk hrlcgf prfg` f hil tf pljfd kjdil ilnd `urf cfd jdph prfg`dzh).

    Lvhivfk lcdjlmhgnfvhgndk, mdtd fzolvhrh mh sd ghsfjnd mlohh - cdz fihivfe lptucf prdkhplfgfl`u - trhdf plklmh sd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd zhusthvf.

    3. Mdtd kld mh sd plvdrf f ghkdrgl. ]l kld mh cumd ihmh fkh vdgdid fgblrkh`fndl sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu ilnd nd mlcfjl u iljf, vfmdjl gh tdjdvfzfnf f mlcfjl plruiu mh tltrdch plvdrftf lmrhsjln lslcf ilnln vdrund fjf ihmh crfgd f djf mh zhtftf lm zjlsthvjnhgnh kjhusdstru fjf crhth. (Gpr. mdhi, 81 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd ilkfnd, ihmh nd ghtdjdvfzfnf ul l sjuhnu mdvlnf`d ilnh nd ukrjh lm plsjdmf`h sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh, f shkupjhdg mh d ukrdtf, lcdjlmhgfl nd khn`f mh nd f shk cfl sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhg.)

    Ihmh su u pfthgnu pucdrtdtjfnd, zjlsthvjnhgnd kld mh sd lcdjlmhgf u sftuh`fnhkh svhd

    sh rlmftdjndk ilnf gfnd plfgfjh`. (Mdvln

    f`h,84 olmfgh,u svh

    f s khnilk zclo gdurdmgdslcd, cdsgh fzolvhrh Phkl crfgd f vfd ihivh kf nd slch, h ch td crfoh th kf nd tvln

    ku rhmfl. ]l gfsf vfmdjh.)

    T sjuhndvfkh ghkdrglo lcdjlmhgnfvhgnh, mdtd nd splslcgl mh pruf nhsgd fgblrkh`fnd lzjlsthvjnhgnu f khgnd nd upjhdgl. Rrjl dstl mdtd lcdjlmhgnund zjlsthvjnhgnd tdi ihm lglprdsthgd f hil nd mdtd zfif fzmvlndgl lm plfgfl`h, ndr thmh lsdh zfiu sfourglst fcdzcdmglst mh ku sd zjlsthvjnhgnd gdd lpdt mlolmftf. Ml thmh sd kld mlolmftf uiljfil

    nd ulptd shlptfjl, gpr. ghnprd uihzhjl gh plfgfl`h, uiljfil su rdhi`fnd mruofe lmrhsjfe(fz prfvhtglo lirudgnh f/fjf usthglvh) zghfjd gdplvdrdgnd prdkh gndolvlk fsihzu mhfzkdgf fsihz f uihd gh gdiu mruou lslcu ihl tl nd gpr. chih. Lmrhsjfkh ilnf gfsu sprdkgf

    mh vdrunu mdtdtu, prlkdgh fsihzh pltvrund gdpluzmhglst fsihzh mdtdth, mli sd mdtd ghtl lmjuund lcdserhcrdgl rdhi`fnhkh gh ilnd ghfjhzf f uihzunuf gh sdcf cdzcdmgu lslcuilnh, ghrhvgl, gfnd plfgfjh`, hjf fz pdrspditfvd mdtdth vhf gfnd chih, tfkd gd kld gfthgf mh nln sd mdsf. Qrlkdgh fsihzh lm strhgd mdtdth gfihil gd zghf mh sd zjlsthvjnhgndgfnd mlolmfjl. Fstl vhf f zh plvjhdgnd fsihzh lm strhgd mdtdth. Pvhil lcdjlmhgnfvhgndsdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh klrh mh ghs ghvdmd mh rhzkfjnhkl mh sd ghsfjnd lmforhjl f mh ndvhgl fstrhnhtf rhzkltrftf il su hitdrf tlo mlohhnh, omd f ilkd sd lgl mlolmfjl. Hil gfnd,mlcrl nd, ndr tfkd ndmgl mdtd khgnd gfnd prdfvdjl lvu trhuku.

    T svlk mlshmhgndk rhmu gfshk fkhjh gfndmhg sjuhn jhglo prfnhvjnfvhgnh sdisuhjglozjlsthvjnhgnh mdtdth. Hil sd f mlolmf mh plfgfjh` gfnd lsudg, gd zghf mh sd zjlsthvjnhgnd

    gfnd mlolmfjl.0. Hjf, ghndd sd zjlsthvjnhgnd ltirfnd f zhusthvf tdi ihmh tl gdil lm lmrhsjfe prfkdtf f zhtftfmdtd. ]l su sftuh`fnd u ilnfkh kf lmrhsjf prdplzghndkl zghid uplzlrdgnh, zhprhvl sfkptlkd

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    (u fzvdsglk skfsju vdf dbditd) sdisuhjgd trhukd, f pfthkl sd th sd mlohh. ]hmh nd mdtdu rhs`dpu fzkdu djnd mh ihd ihil cf ku sd plklojl f zhusthvfjl zjlsthvjnhgnd - f djnd mhzhtftf plfgfl`h. Ndr, sdtfkl sd mh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd prdmsthvjnh prl`ds udgnh mh

    nd zjlsthvjnhgnd gndolvh lmolvlrglst f irfvf`h f th d cftf sh plfgfl`dk ihm sd tl shzgh.F mdtd uf mh u pltpuglstf crfgd l pltrdchkh lmrhsjd lslcd, lcudgl nd lm plfgfl`hmh fe fspugnhvh. Lvl nd klkdght fdifvhgnh mh mdtd ihd, ihmh plkhohf(`d) ilnf/d sd

    uijnuunu u rhm sh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgfk mdtdtlk trdch mh prlvdrd mh jf su prfprdkjndgf zhlvu vrstu rhmh f mh jf klou mh prfevhtd sthv mh md`h gd jhu l sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu.

    Khjh md`h gdkhnu rdgfi, ilg`dptd, gf fsiustvl ihil cf lpfshjf sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd hiloh gfsu mlfvdjh. Md`h ilnh ojdmhnu plrgl jklvd fjf sjuhnu l sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu,tl klou mh Rhk fsprfhnu thil mh gdihm f sdcd sthvd ihl hitdr(i)d prfh, hjf fsijnufvlgh gfvlu mlohhnh. Ihmh plstlnf fsiustvl ilm mdtdth, lgl d ghk lpfshtf th nd mlfvdjl frhmdf s gnfk, rhmfkl gh ujglk fsiustvu. Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh md`h shlpthvhnu svlndfsiustvl fgtdorfuf ujgd phrhkdtrd ihl tl su kfrfs, uius, clnh, mlmfr. (Ndmfgl Rhk mdtdilnd nd lrhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl kld rdf mh nd thtfgh pfh prvl cfjh kdihgh, ph tvrmh f mh ndlmhtjd fzjhzfjh vhih.)

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    GD ^GHF MH ]SDCH MH PD LCTDK IHL IJLRG FJF MSFK]STCD GH TJH^T, HJF ]SDCH MH GHQSHRFK MLCHS ILG]HI] PHMD]D]LK, MH KT MHK NHPGD F FPISDGD QLSTID (FJF KD]LM>

    ]DSHQFNH ISL^ FOST)

    Klnh eljhgmsih iljdofgf`h, psfeltdrhpdutifgnh spd`fnhjfzlvhgh zh rhm sh sdisuhjglzjlsthvjnhglk md`lk f prlbdslrih gh hkstdrmhksilk Rrfnd Tgfvdrsftdft, o-mnh Brhg`fdgJhkdrs _fgidjkhg, nl mhvgl kd nd plmsdtfjh Gd zghf mh trdch mh sd lcudk ihl ijlvgfjf mrfk trucd gh ujhzu, hjf trdch mh ghprhvfk mlchr ilgthit sh mdtdtlk, mh ku mhk nhsgdf fsirdgd plruid.

    8.Gdu rdf th nd u rhmu sh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhglk md`lk vhgl fjf ghnvhgfnd, vdthnd ndmfgl kloud>

    h) Mfrdithg f ltvlrdg prfstup - Mfrdithg prfstup ltijhgnh sukgnfhvlst, ndr pl

    fgfjh`gfihmh gfnd mfrdithg, uvdi sd forh, khjl prfh, mdjf thngd. Lsthnu ghshkl...

    Ltvlrdglst skhgnund ilgbuzfnu f stfokhtfzh`fnu.

    c) Ptruiturh

    `) Nhsglst (th dkl rhmftf f zhtl mdtd d fkhtf lsdhgnd ilgtrljd, fkd d sdplzftfvgl utf`htf gh fzoucjndgl plvdrdgnd)

    Rldgh forh, uskdrdgnd u rhzolvlru, ltvlrdg f hitfvhg prfstup su gdlpelmgf mh mdtd splzghf fgtdorfd trhukhtsid mlohhnd (lsdhgnh f mlfvjnhnd). Md`h gd klou mh fgf`frhnu mfsiusfnul stvhrfkh ilnd fe prdpjhvjnunu fjf ilnd sirfvhnu shkh lm sdcd fjf gd ukdnu mh hrtfiujfu.

    Md`h ilnh su fzjldgh ghsfjnu fkhnu mlcrd dkl`flghjgd lmcrhgd. Fstlvrdkdgl, u gnfkh sumuclil zhijnuhgh sghgh f zhstrhunuh uvdrdgnh mh su cdsplklgh, jlh, irfvh. Qlzftfvgdplruid ilnd mdtd prfkh u rhmu lm plkhohf`d / plkhohh klrhnu mh lmolvlrd gh lgdprdtelmgl prfkjndgd fgtdgzfvgd gdohtfvgd plruid, f tl gh ghfg mh fe mdtd und, lsdtf, vfmf,vdrund fk. Forh / zhchvh fgf mdtd dkl`flghjgl prfprdkjndgfk thil mh sd sghgd plzftfvgdplruid klou prlcftf irlz mdfnu lmcrhgu. Shm gh trhukf f prl`ds lplrhvih zh mdtd sufgtdgzfvgf f cljgf. Pghgf djdkdgtf ford su pltrdcgf mh mdtd prdfvf, ihl f plruih mh uprilssvdku kld ghsthvftf mhjnd.

    3. Qrfprdkftd sdcd zh rhm sh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgfk mdtdtlk (tn. ihil sd lmrdf jld

    mdklstrh`fnd klf prdkh mdtdtu)Ihmh mdtd stfogd ml plkhohf`d / plkhohh, nhvjnh sd fthv gfz pfthgnh f prlcjdkh>

    8. Ihil usplsthvftf ilgthit sh mdtdtlk ilnd nd fzmhtl f plvrddgl lm strhgd gdiloiloh vljf f zclo tloh lsdh stfm f irfvf`u Irlz lvh = plmrunh irddk sd uz trdgutid lmklrh ihmh sd plstfoguh

    sthcfjfzunu f vlmfk rhugh l vrdkdgu ihmh mdtd f nh irlz rhzjfftd rftuhjd prlsjhvjnhklgndg / gndolv uspde.

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    4. Qlzftfvgd plruid ilnd nd vhgl mh plkhohf(`d) hjnu md`f

    Mfrditgd vdrchjgd plruid nd vhgl sthjgl pltirdpjnfvhtf lmolvhrhnufk plstup`fkh. Ndzfiplzftfvgfe plruih trdch, ghrhvgl, usijhmftf sh uzrhstlk mdtdth.

    Pvfh kf sd...(...tvln `rtd, ...ihil sf nhi ihm rhmfkl sh bliusdrfkh)

    ^hchvgh sf.Cfu fsirdgh s tlclk.

    Gfnd tvlnh ordih.

    ^ghk mh gfsf irfvh, zghk mh kf gdd vdrlvhtf gdil vrdkd.

    Nl uvdi kld mh sd forh.

    Qrvl dkl mh rhmfkl, fkhkl shm zhndmgfif plshl ilnf trdch mh zhvrfkl, hplsjd tloh dkl mh sd zhchvfkl.

    Lvl nd rhm f forh.

    Khkh td vljf. (Gpr. zh khnid ilnd su u lsglvf plmrhvhnud, h kld cftf mhsd gd lsdhnu ilkpdtdgtgl u tlk trdgutiu f fkhnu tdild s rlmftdjnstvlk plltirfvhgnu zjlsthvjnhgnh ilndo gfsu cfjd svdsgd mh sd lmvfnh.)

    Ehnmd mh vfmfkl iljfil lsdhgnh fkh f ihivh su.

    Gdu mh mlzvljfk mh plvrdmf sdcd (fjf kdgd).

    Kld mh fkh mruohrf`d f mruolvd (Kgloh md`h gd zghnu mh sd forhnu fjf fe

    mruoh md`h foglrfu).

    Qlstlnd ghfgf gh ilnd skl fstf ihl mruof, hjf f ghfgf gh ilnd sd mfvglrhzjfiundkl.

    ]vlnd tdjl prfphmh tdcf.

    Gfshk upjhdgh tvlnfk fsiustvlk fjf lsdhgnfkh, gd umfk fk sd, vdrundk u svd tl.

    Nh u td ghuftf mh... (Gpr. prlrhmftf zhndmgl jfgf cdzcdmglsgf pjhg zh mdtd.)

    Nh u td zhtftftf f crfgutf l tdcf... (Gdlpelmgl nd mh Rh `dl olvlr tdjh dkftund

    lvu plruiu.)

    ^ghk th tf sd mdsfjl, svfh kf sd ihivh sf lslch f pltundk td.

    ]u shk, ph zhndmgl kldkl mh sd sulfkl sh prlcjdklk.

    ^hsjuund mh sd l tdcf crfgu, mh sd sh tlclk jdpl plstuph.

    2. T rhmu sh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhglk md`lk u Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtru Cdlorhm ilrfstfk>

    Ghvdu gdid ghd fgstrukdgtd zh rhm f ghplkdgutf mh nd fzclr kdtlmh / tdegfih ilnd sdilrfstd u rhmu gdihmh lmrddg f sdgzfcfjftdtlk plkhohf`d.

    ]dst gdmlvrdgfe rddgf`h (Nh f kln svdt)

    Qrlnditlvhgl prfhgnd prfd

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    Kuzfiu (ihmh mdtd gdd mh prfh, jhid plmglsf tffgu)

    Iuf`u (plolmgh zh sfkujh`fnu fvlth, fgstrukdgt zh rhm u @dgtru)

    Jutid pl fzclru md`d (irpdgd fjf plrlmf`d fvltfgnh lm vrstfe khtdrfnhjh, ftm.)

    Chnid

    @rtdd

    Rhnhgnd

    Qlirdt (rhm gh tdju)

    Qfshgnd pfskh (plruid plklf mruoln md`f u irfzf)

    ]djl lsdhgnh (zh md`u f lslcd ilnd su fk lm plmrid)

    ]djdsgd khpd

    Ihrtd (fgstrukdgt zh rhm u @dgtru ilnf uijnuund rhzjfftd sfkcljd, vrdmglstf,lsdhgnh, ftm., plmstfd prfihz fzvdsglo prlcjdkh f gndolvl rhzrdhvhgnd)

    Jf`h lsdhgnh

    Qfshgd vdcd (Mdsfjl sd..., th rhmfkl nh f klnh plrlmf`h u ndmglk mhgu,ftm.)

    Phklsthjgl forhgnd (plskhtrhgnd mdtdth mh jf ukd mh sd forh f ihil)

    Hrkhtfvgd rddgf`d (zh md`u f lslcd ilnd su fk lm plmrid)

    Forh hsl`fnh`fnh

    Khsid

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    P]TMFNH PJTHNH 8

    Mdvlnf`h, 4,4 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd mdmd (pl l`u). Khnih nd tl ltirfjhthil tl nd ndmglk ujh u slcu u klkdgtu ihmh sd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd mdhvhjl.

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd> vhofghjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd (sfjlvhgnd) f cjumgd rhmgnd. Pjuhn ndprfnhvfjh ghln sjucf.

    Ilm prfnhvjnfvhgnh khnih ihd mh sd sdtfjh mh sd mdvlnf`h u svlnln dtvrtln olmfgf hjfjhmh gd cf vfd mh sd sh mdmlk sthjgl forh umgd ford ilnu lg fzkfjnh. Lfojdmgd fgmf`fndvdzhgd zh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd su lcfgl lfojdmgd shkl u rdtrlspditfvf f tl khnihkhilnd ltirfnu mh fk nd mdtd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl nhsgl ihdk.

    Khniu nd zcugnfvhjl tl drih jnucf lmrhsjd u usth, ndzfilk, ihl f mh vljf mh sdmgd u irfjl fsthjgl plkdrh ouzu, prhvf gdid umgd plirdtd. ]l su prfkdtfjd f vhspfthf`d u lcmhgftu9thil nd jnucfjh md`u, thil nd sdmdjh ilm vhspfthf`d u irfju, olvlrfjd su mh nd lm lgfe

    mdvlnf`h ilnd su thil khjd, h vd

    vr`ihnu f plghhnu sd ihl lmrhsjd dgd. Mlmfrfvhjh ndlsthju md`u f dstl trhfjh mh sd svuiu f mh sd forhnu mlitlrh ilnf prdojdmh ouzu, rfcf`u,

    sfsf`d.

    Shm sh mdvlnf`lk f khnilk nd trhnhl mvd olmfgd u ilgtfguftdtu sh rdmlvgfk mljhs`fkhndmglk gdmdjngl, lmvlndgl. Khnih nd klrhjh mh prld svln prl`ds lplrhvih f prfevhthgnhmh nln nd drih zjlsthvjnhgh. li, irfvf`h, cdsplklglst, lmch`fvhgnd mdtdth, tuoh prl`ds

    nd irlz ilnf nd prljh f stdijh sghou mh cumd plmrih svlk mdtdtu. Ndr, shkl uz plmriukhnif fjf lslch ilnd su lm plmrid zh mdtd, lplrhvhi mdtdth nd pltpug.

    T rhmu sh mdvlnf`lk shk ilrfstfjh `rtdd, tdjl lsdhgnh, tdjdsgd vdcd f tdjdsgd khpd.

    @rtd 8.8> Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh md`h dstl gd klou mh gh`rthnu sdcd vdshkl lcrfsd(gfnd plvdzhgl sh tfk mh jf mdtd ukd mh `rth fjf gd), gdihm tl jff gh vrjnltfgd (ruilk ndrhzkhzfvhjh clnd pl ojhvf f tdju).

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    @rtd 8.3> Ihil nd vrdkd lmkf`hjjl, pljhil, uspdjh nd mh sdcd prdmsthvf nhsgfnd.

    @rtd 8.0> Pdcd shmh vfmf pltpugl nhsgl (plsjd 3 olmfgd). Suid su vdjfid, tl md`h ilnh susdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh dstl `rthnu. ^htl< Ihm std khjf lgmh ruid lmrhsjfe fzojdmhnu lorlkgd,h ruid lslcd ilnh Rhs mlmfrund gh ghfg zh ilnf lsdhtd mh gfnd u rdmu, mlfvjnhvhtd ihl lphsglst(ulptd, svd lgl doh sd pjhd `rthnu vdjfil f nhrifk clnhkh, prftfsihnu ihm `rthnu).

    T rhmu sh mdvlnf`lk shk dstl prdmjhohjh `rthgnd, ndr nd mdvlnf`h nhil vljdjh mh `rth.@rtdfkh nd prdmsthvjnhjh svln fvlt, thil nd ghncljnd mdjfjh f vdrchjgl f gdvdrchjgl svlnhlsdhgnh, ltvhrhjh sd f rhzltirfvhjh th nln sd mdhvhjl, `rthjh nd svlnh lsdhgnh f ilrfstfjhclnd mh cf fe tl cljnd lcnhsgfjh.

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    ]djl lsdhgnh 8.=> ]djl lsdhgnh skl rhmfjd zhndmgl. Shzolvlrlk th fjf il nd fgf

    srdglk, tuglk, doh sd fjf iloh pjhf, ihm sd lsdh irfvlk... f omd tl svd lsdh u svlktdju f th s tfk fgf, mh jf tl plihzund fjf gd f mh jf su ihmh nd gdihmh gdtl cljf tl lgh kdsthomd nd lsdtfjh jlh lsdhgnh. (Mdtd ghnkjhdo uzrhsth rdhound tdjdsgl, cljlvfkh, lsdhgndirfvf`d ghndd skdstf u stlkhi f ihd cljf kd stlkhi, h lsdh sd irfvfk).

    Mdl rhmh nd cfl gh sdisuhjfzlvhglk plghhgnu. Mdvlnf`h nd cfjh ghudgh mh nd tl jnuchvprdkh mdmf f gndolvh prdkh gnln f thil nd f prfkddgh, prfevhdgh, u lvlk sjuhnu cfjhghorhfvhgh rhzgfk plijlgfkh, vldgndk u zll vrt, lclhvhgfk liljhmhkh.

    th nd ghh ujloh< T lvlk sjuhnu nhsgl dmuihtfvgh!Ihdk nln mh sd khjh md`h gd jnucdu usth ndzfilk, tl rhmd lmrhsjf ihmh sd zhjnucd, md`u lmrhsjf klou mh jnucd pl ojhvf, ru`f,

    lcrhzu, f tl hil fk mdtd mlzvljf. Mh dkl nd vljdtf f ihmh ghs gd jnucf thil (Gdiljfil kdsd`ftlilk svhilo mljhsih thil nd pliuhvhjh mh pljnucf f kdgd). Klnh lsdhgnh su, ihl f zhmruoh pfthgnh u rhmu, prdmkdt ghd supdrvfzfnd u @dgtru.

    ]hild, ihm nd `rthjh vljdjh nd mh sdmgd ilm kdgd u irfjl f ouzu nd plirdthjh lghil ihilnd mdmh ghufl, f tl sd mdhvhjl u klkdgtu plrlmfgfe ruilvh ihmh nd lg mrhl uguiu(ghnlkfjndgfnu lm svfe uguf`h) gh irfju f plmstf`hl nd mh prhvf plirdtd ouzlk ilnf sugndku mlglsfjf sdisuhjgl uzcudgnd f zhmlvljnstvl. Gf gh ilnf ghfg gd skdkl rdholvhtflmch`unud. Hil ghstuphkl sh fsirdglu, nhsgl, ltvlrdgl f crfjnfvl skl phjnfvd/f prdkhmdtdtu, svd lgl tl ihdkl f lcnhsgfkl mdtdtu mlgdd rdzujtht. Ndmglk, ph nl ndmglk,strpjnfvl, gd lmusthnhtf.

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    Khniu thild zhkljfk mh urhmf tdjl lsdhgnh (8.4). Ndmgl zh sdcd, mruol th lgh kfsjf ihilfzojdmh tdjl lsdhgnh mdvlnf`d. Lgl kf plkhd mh vfmfk u ihivln su fghd dkl`flghjglnvdzf khnid sh md`lk f gh th cf trdchjl lcrhtftf phgnu u usplsthvjnhgnu lmglsh u pltpuglglvln sftuh`fnf ihmh su ltirfjd mh fk nd mdtd zjlsthvjnhgl. Khnih nd cfjh ghnvfd upjhdgh,gdrvlzgh f cdsgh, lsdhjh sd irfvlk. Kfsjfjh nd mh sd mdvlnf`h lsdh irfvlk f tl skdstfjh u

    tdju lsdhgnh mdvlnf`d u prdmdju odgfthjfnh .

    ]djl lsdhgnh 8.2

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    Lgh nd u pldtiu shzghgnh mh nd mdvlnf`h sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lsdhjh ohdgnd prdkhmdvlnf`f, gfnd klojh mh nd mlmfrgd, zhorjf. Irfvfjh nd mdvlnf`u f vfmdjh nd ihl lmrhsjulslcu, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd plfstlvdtfjh sh sdisuhjgfk fglk ftl ojdmhjh ihl mh nd mdtdrhvglprhvgl udstvlvhjl u tlkd. Evhjh nln gh fsirdglstf! ]hil skl klojd jhid f mucjnd mhrhmfkl gh tlkd. ]l gfnd jhil rdf ihl khnih. Qljhil, rhzukdvhnuf mfghkfiu sdisuhjglozjlsthvjnhgnh f th rhmf plfgfjh` f ihil sd mdtd sghjhzf sh tfk, sdhk sd klkdgth ihmh shk

    lm mdvlnf`d mlcfjh fgblrkh`fnu mh sd khkh prlkdgfjh, mh nln nd uvdd prlfthjh chniu,zhorjfjh nd f pljnucfjh. ^ghjh shk mh nd tl klkdght ihmh d gnfe mvd mhjnd zhndmgl, mh ndkhnih plmrih f lsjlgh` zh mdtd zh mhjnd.

    Fselm> Lth` nd ucrzl plsjd lcdjlmhgnfvhgnh ghpustfl plrlmf`u. Rdrlvhl nd mh sd zjlsthvjnhgndmlolmfjl, hjf gfnd klohl mh sd glsf sh tfk gftf mh cfjl th ihd svlk l`u.

    Mdvlnf`h nd u klkdgtu lplrhvjnhgnh fkhjh f oucfthi, cfjh lsthvjndgh lm strhgd l`h. Kfsjfjhnd mh nd ltfhl zclo gnd, ph skl phrhjdjglrhmfjd f gh oucftiu f tuolvhgnu zh l`dk ilnf vfdgfnd sh gnfkh.

    Ph gdilk md`lk ilnh tl klou f djd, gh irhnu prl`dsh lplrhvih urhmfk f vdcu> Fkh jfgdtl tl cf rdijh, plrufjh, gh`rthjh l plfgfl`u Shzolvhrhjd skl mli nd sdijh phpfr f jdpfjh. Mdmh stlnf gh lchjf, mljhzfndmhg crlm, fsprdm mdmd nd uzcurihgl klrd `rvdgf thjhs. Lg klrh mh ud u crlm ilnf doh lmvdstf mhjdil, mhjdil, gdomd ihil ihd u fzoucjndglk prhv`u.

    Gfth mhjnd gfshk pfthjh. Sdijh shk mh nd `rtd mfvhg, mh sd plglsfk tl nd uspdjh mh ohthil jdpl urhmf. F zhevhjfjh sd!

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    P]TMFNH PJTHNH 3

    Mdvlnf`h, tdi ghpugfjh = olmfgd. Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd lm strhgd lueh, hghjgl f lrhjgl,cjumgd rhmgnd. Khnih nd sjuhn prfnhvfjh ghln sjucf.

    Khnih nd prfkdtfjh sthjgl `rvdgfjl ouzd, klkdgtd ihmh nln sd fgfjl mh mdvlnf`h mli gdtlolvlrf zhsthgd gh kfgut, uilf plojdm, pldjh nd mh lmcfnh mh ndmd f prfh ihil sd forhsh thtlk (luelk) lg fkh ndmgu hrlcgu ijlkpu ilnh sd shirfnd ilm gnd gh ouzu f uusth.

    Rlmfjh nd mdvlnf`u ilm pdmfnhtrh, rhzjlo zh rvdgfjl gfnd prlghdg, shkl nd cfjl prdplrudglmh rdmlvgl pdrd f khd mdvlnf`u. Mdfnf gdurlpsfefnhthr nd ltijlgfl sukgnd mh sd rhmf ldpfjdpsfnf, h mh nd kloud mh erhgu lmcfnh zclo gdilo gdzhmlvljnstvh ilnd mruohfnd gdukd mh plihd. Gh gholvlr prfnhtdjnf`d ilnh nd fthjh tdist l zjlsthvjnhgnu md`d ilnf ndlcnhvjndg u glvfghkh l rhmu ghdo @dgtrh, lcrhtfjh sd ghkh.

    Lvhn sjuhn shk fzmvlnfjh ndr vdlkh mlcrl lmsjfihvh ndzfi ilnfk sd ilrfstd plfgfl`f, h svdnd thil mlcrl fspjhgfrhgl f skfjndgl mh ghk pltpugl zhkhojf klouglst mh undkl mh ndmdtd zhprhvl sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl. T rhmu shk ilrfstfjh `rtdd, tdjdsgd khpd, ojfghklj ffthgnd chnif.

    Mdvlnf`h nd ghnvfd vljdjh mh sd forh ojfghkljlk f shkh skfjnh th d mh ghprhvf. Gh klndprdmjlod th mh ghprhvf ghndd nd rdholvhjh mh gdd f mh d shkh gdtl. T rhmu kf ndjhid sh gdplsjuglk md`lk, sh lglk ilnh zghnu mh gdtl gdd f tl ihu, gdihm sd fghtdu tlkd, gd lmusthnu. ]l olvlrf mh nd nl uvdi shuvhg, gdthigut, ndmhg mdl gnfe f lmhtjd`rpfkl sghou f klouglst mh prdvjhmhkl plsjdmf`d ilnd su mdjl sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh.

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd sd mdhvhjl irlz foru, uvdi f shkl ihmh khnih gfnd cfjh ilm iud.Lue nd olvlrfl mh d sd forhtf chnid> lg nd prfg` ilnf fkh hrlcgu ijlkpu, th ijlkphvljf mh sd shirfnd ilm gndgd ouzd f u usth, mh fz gnd ihm prl`urf hrlcgl kjdil lghtrdch mh oh plpfnd f cfd jdph prfg`dzh, h prfg` srdhg f vljdd nd zhuvdi. Lvhn lpfs ihilsd zjlsthvjnhgnd mdhvhjl mlcfndgl nd irlz fthgnd chnif omd nd mdvlnf`h gh plkfgnhgndprfg`h fkhjh svlnu prfu th prfg` rhmf. Ihmh shk rdijh mh nh thivu chniu gfshk gfihmhujh lmolvlrfjh nd Mh, tl nd shkl ]lkfsjhvlvh (luelvh) chnih, lg nd prfg` sh hrlcglkijlkplk.

    Qugl nd vrdkdgh prljl mli gfnd lmjufjh mh kf lmh thngu ihil fzojdmh th ijlkph. Tzdjhnd crhlg pjhstdjfg, muol ruihkh prftfsihjh, lcjfilvhjh f ihmh nd shkh cfjh zhmlvljngh ihilfzojdmh plihzhjh ]l nd ijlkph, h tl nd cfjl ndmgl muohil f vhjnihstl phrd pjhstdjfgh.Sdijh shk> Kh th nd lvl, ojfsth, zkfnh ]hil fzojdmh hrlcghijlkph, ndshk jf tf rdijh!. Ihmh sd ihl plkhohf f lmrhsjf gd pjhfkl mh undkl, lgmhdkl nhsgl rdf mh nd th ijlkph ]lkfsjhvlv pljgf lrohg, h kjdil ilnd `urf spdrkh f mh tlgfnd forh rdf, vdsdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd.

    Ihmh su md`h khjh, plfgfl`f vrjl dstl zjlsthvjnhnu md`u hghjgl fz mvh rhzjloh> tdd ndmlihzfvl f hghjgf sgitdrnd, zghkl, vdlkh rhstdojnfv td f gd trdch ldifvhtf mh d ghsthtfplvrdmd (f mh d fe mruof ulftf), mli nd uzcudgnd f zhmlvljndgnd crd f jhid. Fz gnfelvdpdrspditfvd, gdrdtil undkl mh su mdtd uvhjf tfkd tl su zjlsthvjnhjf hghjgl, h gdvhofghjgl.

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    @rtd 3.8> Gh `rtdu Lvl shk nh, prfkdund sd ihl f u prdtelmglk mh su ruid,hid, gdsrhzkdrgd u lmglsu gh tdjl.

    @rtd 3.3> Shmlk gh tdjdsgln khpf, plihzhjh nd vrjnhgndk mh nd ouzu mfrhl]lkfsjhv.

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    dtgnlk irlz tdjl (tdjdsgh khph) olvlrfkl l rhzjfihkh fzkdu mdvlnf`h f mdhih, ilnfsu mdjlvf tdjh, th lgf rhmd (lf, uf, ouzh, rfcf`h / pfh), dku sjud, il djnh ilsu, ilpdrd ouzu, th su fgtfkgf mdjlvf tdjh f il skd f ihil mh fe mlmfrund. ^jlsthvjnhgh md`h d utliu rhzolvlrh rdf ihl u lvlk sjuhnu gpr. mh nd ]lkfsjhv mfrhl ouzu f gh pfthgnd thsvd rhmd tvlnh usth - fzolvlrfjh mh sd ijlkph irfjh u ustfkh> zghkl mh nd tl cfjl lrhjglzjlsthvjnhgnd.

    @rtd 3.0> ]lilk zjlsthvjnhgnh lue nd sthjgl olvlrfl mh d sd forhtf mli khkh gdstfogd, mh d ghvftf sht vdjfif cumfjgfi f ihm lg cumd zvlgfl prdsthd mh sd forhnu f dihdkhku. Gh`rthjh nd sdcd f gndoh, tdjl prdmsthvfjh ihl hslvgfi. T @dgtru sd muof gfz kdsd`fforhjh sthjgl sh shtlk. Pvd skl rhughjf iljfil muol sd forhkl, th dkl ihm zvlgf...(Qlvrdkdgl Fkhkl nl 81 kfguth). Shmf sd l lmsjfihvhgnu trhukhtfglo mlohhnh zhmdtd irlz upltrdcu prdmkdth ilnd vdzund zh klkdgtd zjlsthvjnhgnh. F vrdkdglk th forhprdsthgd, mdtdtu ndmglsthvgl irlz prl`ds lplrhvih prdsthgd mh cumd vhgh.

    Fselm> Khnih nd sjuhn prfnhvfjh pljf`fnf f sumsif nd prl`dsufrhg. Qlfgfjh` nd mlcfl ihzguzhtvlrh lm 8 olmfgd f 5 kdsd`f.

    Ilm ghs u @dgthr rdtil mljhzd plfgfl`f (uojhvglk mh lsplrd fsihz mdtdth fjf lslcd ilnhprfnhvjnund zjlsthvjnhgnd, mh jnutftl rdhounu gh gpr. fzrddgu kdru lorhgfdglo vfhgnh fjfzhcrhgd vfhgnh mdtdth ilnu nd `dgthr zh sl`fnhjgf rhm fzrdihl gh lsglvu struglo kfjndgnhghdo tfkh fjf ndmglsthvgl mh uzgdkfrhvhnu fjf zhstrhunu). Lvhn plfgfjh` nd ndmhg lm lgfeilnf su mljf mh ihu mh nd mdtd fgstrufrhgl lm strhgd khnid. Nh gfihmh gd rhzolvhrhk shplfgfl`fkh, vdiljdofgf`hl u tfku.

    Qlsjd 5 kdsd`f prdsthl nd rhm sh mdvlnf`lk. P khnilk shk cfjh u ilgthitu pl pltrdcf.

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    P]TMFNH PJTHNH 0

    Mdhi, ?,4 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd crhth lm strf`h sthrlo 8? olmfgh. Khn`fnd rdihl mh gdd vfd mh fmd ilm strf`h, ndr gdd vfd mh sd sh crhtlk forh thil mh trjnhnu

    pfd ndmhg mruolk. Khnih sd lcrhtfjh ghdk @dgtru.^jlsthvjnhgnd sd mdhvhjl ndmglk gdmdjngl, vfidgmlk ihmh nd sh rlmftdjnfkh lmjhzfl ghruhi ilm strf`h. Crht cf oh lmvlmfl u iuphtfjl, plpdl sd gh tlhjdt ljnu, trhfl lm mdhihmh khsturcfrh h lg plskhtrh f lcrhtgl, ihl f mh mdhi mlmfrund f trjnh gndolvd odgfthjfnd.Mdhiu nd lcnhgnhvhl mh d ku thil plrhstf vdjfih pfh f cfd vdjfif brhndr, hjf mh l tlkdtl rhmf gd ihd gfilkd, ndr d ku sd lgmh khkh f thth rhzvdstf, khkh oh vfd gdd vljdtf,mruoh md`h d rdf mh nd jum f cdhd lm gndoh.

    th sd sh mdhilk mdhvhjl< T iljf nd plsthl hordsfvhg prdkh mruoln md`f, uftdjnf`h ndprfkdtfjh mh sd dstl mlmfrund u prdmdju odgfthjfnh, mh tl vfmd f mruoh md`h, hjf mh lg gd

    lcrhh phgnu, pl

    dl nd mh sd pjhf svdoh f svh

    doh, ihil ihd khnih, shgnhl rugd fstrhgd sglvd f cumfl sd mretdf f pjhuf, uzgdkfrdg.

    Iuf`h 0.8

    Ph gnfk shk u rhmu ilrfstfjh iuf`u, shklsthjgl forhgnd, `rtdd f kuzfiu, u pldtiu, mli sdgfnd lsjlclmfl. Kuzfih kf nd sjufjh ihl vdzfvl f ljhihvhjh klkdgtd ihmh gfnd klohl mhprfh. Md`h thil jhid plmglsd tffgu.

    Iuf`h nd plsjufjh ihl mlcrl srdmstvl zh uplzghvhgnd sh mdhilk, ihil vfmf plrlmf`uf sdcd u gnln, plrlmfgd hitfvglstf. Irlz shklsthjgl forhgnd (md`d ilnh vljd mh sd shkhforhnu, mli nh plskhtrhk gnfelvu foru), u lvlk sjuhnu, cfjh nd fspljndgh hordsfvglst f

    strhelvf. Iuf`h nd plklojh mh ltirfnd f shlptf omd sd zjlsthvjnhgnd mlolmfjl.

    Gdmdjnhkh nd rhsplrdunuf ghkdthn pl iuf`f f lmrdunuf omd d ilnh prlstlrfnh mh cumdfzcdohvhl mh ghprhvf iuphtfjl. Ndmglsthvgl oh u iuf gfnd cfjl. Gh klnd pfthgnd> Omd d

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    uiuhgf mh pfid f ihid Gh `rtdu sd vfmf mh ilstur fkh pljgf lrohg fz iloh fzjhzf jnfoh. Rdrundk mhilkdgthr gfnd pltrdchg.

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    Lvmd cfe gdtl rdijh f l plfgfl`fkh, zhprhvl l khjljdtgfk plfgfl`fkh zh ilnd vdrundk mh,ihmh cf mlcfjf hmdivhtgu hsfstdg`fnu f shgi`fnu, cf cfjl dbdith. Klnd fsiustvl ml shmh olvlrfmh svf khjljdtgf plfgfl`f sh ilnfkh shk fkhjh, gdplsrdmgl fjf plsrdmgl, ilgthit fkhnufsiustvl sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh ihl khjh md`h. ]l nd lgh ndmgh trdfgh uiupglo crlnhplfgfjh`h ilnf fkhnu jfgl fsiustvl prdfvjndglo ghsfjnh f plghvjnhnu oh vdu hmljds`dg`fnf,hjf u suprltgln ujlzf.

    ^clo tloh shk f u lvlk sjuhnu uijnufjh klouglst mh mdhi lm 8? o. ilnf nd zjlsthvjnhlsvlo kjhdo crhth fkh fsiustvl sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh. Klnh iljdofgf`h nd pliuhjh mh shl`dk 8?-lolmfgndo mdhih (ilnf nd ndmglk prfjfilk mlhl sh svlnfk crhtlk gh rhzolvlr u@dgthr) mlolvlrf mh mld sh svlnfk sfglk. Phrhmgnd gfnd cfjl. (Rfmddkl, mli shm plprhvfgdid ndmfgf`d, lcnhsgfl nd lth`.)

    Fselm> Ihl f u prvlk prfihzhglk sjuhnu f lvmd sd mlolmfjl mh nd lth` ghpustfl plrlmf`uuprhvl u fstl vrdkd ihmh nd zjlsthvjnhgnd lcdjlmhgndgl. Phm sd vdkld uzhstlpgl ulftfthild rlmgh ihrhitdrfstfih ghsfjnh, lmglsgl mh d gh mfghkfiu u plrlmf`f zghhngl utf`htfmh jf nd plfgfjh` s khnfgd fjf ldvd strhgd. Fkhjf skl irfzu u rhmu ihmh nd lth` ltfhl.

    Kfsjfl nd mh nd thth thil plstupfl zclo tloh tl nd lg tl rdihl. Shmfjf skl gh lsthvjnhgnu foucftiu f plstdpdgl nd uspdl uz khnfgu plmriu mh tl prdcrlmf.

    P]TMFNH PJTHNH =

    Mdvlnf`h, 81 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh. Cjumgd rhmgnd f pliuhn sfjlvhgnh lm strhgdilkfnd, iuglo prfnhtdjnh sthrlo 20 olmfgd. Slmftdjnf su zjlsthvjnhgnd prvl prfnhvfjf pljf`fnf,

    h lm strhgd pljf`fnd mdtd upudgl ilm ghs.

    Pjuhndvf sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh md`d lm strhgd mdtdtu plzghtd lslcd vhg plrlmf`d sduojhvglk prvl prfnhvd pljf`fnf. Qljf`fnh zhtfk dstl uputf ilm ghs f thivf sjuhndvf jhid (lmsjuhndvh zjlsthvjnhgnh uguthr plrlmf`d) ujhzd u irfvfgf plstuphi.

    Mdvlnf`h nd cfjh u uzrhstu ihmh nd pldjh mh phtf zclo svlo zfilo fzojdmh mdcdjnu`h,glsfjh ghlhrd, zucgu prltdzu, h svd nd tl plmstrdihvhgl ilkdgthrfkh rlmftdjnh mh gd zghnugh iloh nd thivh fsphjh, ihl mh gfnd gnfelvl mdtd...9 svf fe pfthnu, lgf thil jdpf f zolmgf

    h mdtd ihl mh gfnd vhd. ]hild sthjgl nd mlcfnhjh plruiu mh nd gdsprdtgh, gdsghjhjnfvh(lth` nd olvlrfl> Nh shk vdu pdtln olmfgf vlzfl cf`fij cdz ruiu, h tf gd ukd gf mh sdmgd.

    H f ihil mh sdmgd, prlphd lm sfjgfe ilchsf`h u tvlk stlkhiu - f tl irlz skde), tdilphktf, gfnd prlmlrgh, gd ukd mh lmcrusf f mh sd cfnd...

    T glvlk ilkfjfiu sd plnhvfl mdih ilnf nd plsdfvhl gndgd rlmftdjnd f plgumfl sd mh dvlmftf crfou l mdvlnf`f mli su lgf gh plsju f mh jf nd ltfjh gh vrdkd u ilju, mh jf nd ndjh furhmfjh mlkhf, ndmglsthvgl ihl l svlnfk uguffkh. Mdvlnf`h nd cfjh srdgh f zhmlvljnghtl kld mdif mh sd plvdrf ihil gd vljf tl nd mdcdjh f rugh, ihil nd thth f khkh gd vljd,ihil nd u iljf fskdnhvhnu. Lg sd pljhil, strpjnfvl, crfjnfvl mrufl f prfcjfhvhl mdvlnf`f.

    Qrdmsthvfl sd ihl ghsthvgfi zfilo u pdgzfnf, mh d nln plklf vdchkh mh skrh f jdplfzojdmh, mh d vlmftf rhugh mh uzfkh f pugl vfthkfgh f lgmh d sifgutf ghlhrd f prltdzu,mh d vdchgndk plsthtf sprdtgh f vlgnh cf`fijlk d plsthtf khjh hjh zh gnu. Hjf, mhsvd tl tl cumu vdchjf gd olvlrf gfilkd, vdihil vrdkd prld svf d sd shkl fzgdghmftf

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    gndgln prlkdgf. Gf mruohrf`hkh mh gd olvlrf, tl gdih cumd shkl gndg rd`dpt zh vftilstf jdpltu.

    ]hil nd zjlsthvjnhgnd f pldjl. Qlfgfjh` nln nd plihzfvhl rhzgd tdjdsgd vdcd> iljut ghprdm fghzhm, svdu, stln gh ruihkh, zvdzmu. Ghndd f ghnvfd nd vdchjh svdu f stln gh ruihkh.]hil nd ghnjhid klohl mh nd mlmfrund pl orumfkh, cutfghkh, zhmgnf`f. Qlvrdkdgl nd f

    khsfrhl mh cf sd kfff lpustfjf f zhtdojf.

    Ihil nd vrdkd prljhzfjl, trhfl nd mh vdchnu sh tl khgnd lmdd. T pldtiu nd tl cfjlu trdgdr`f, zhtfk u eujhelpihkh, vrdkdglk lg shkl u lr`u, lgh shkl u ohf`hkh

    ndr lgmh zgln jhid lmjhzf sh tdjh f crd d mh krhvf, olvlrfl nd. Qldl nd mh nln mhndilkpjfkdgtd ihl mh nd lmrhsjh dgh f svd vfd mlmfrund fzkdu glou lcnhsgfvf mh sd tughjhzf kffilnf klrh mh cumd ghnzhtdogutfnf f thil d fkhtf ghnjdpd glod u rhzrdmu.

    ]rhfl nd mh rhmf svdu, svd vfd frf glod u strhgu, gndku nd ihil ihd cfjl nhil tdil mh nlnplkhd ndr nd ojhsgl f tdil mfshl, f u ndmglk klkdgtu jdohl gh gnu. Fhil nhil upjhdgh,uspdjh nd mh oh lmourgd f fstrf fz sthgh. Pthnhjh nd u elmgfiu u strheu mh gdil gd ghfd,

    shirfvdgh, f ihm ndujh mh nd lg fzhhl vrhtfjh sd u sthg.

    Slmftdjnfkh nd sutrhmhg rdijh th sd mlolmfjl. Lgf su nln tl plvdrlvhjf, lmkhe prfnhvfjf, hjf uprl`dsu lplrhvih gfsu udstvlvhjf. Chifgh f mdmfgh plklnd cfjh plmrih svd vrdkd.

    Ph gnlk shk rhmfjh gh usplsthvjnhgnu shklpltlvhgnh ilnd hpsljutgl gfnd plstlnhjl.Phklpluzmhgnu ghrhvgl gfnd cfjl thild gf trhoh.

    Rljdjh nd mh `rth jfilvd fvltfgnh ilnd su prdmsthvjnhjd uvdi gndgu plrlmf`u, forhjh sd shfvltfgnhkh (forhihkh) ihl jfilvfkh fz svlo fvlth, pfshjh f fthjh (nhil, ojhsgl, jnutftl,cdsgl, tfel, gdgl) hrkhtfvgd rddgf`d l sdcf f nhil vljdjh tdst gdmlvrdgfe rddgf`h (Nh fkln svdt, strhelvf, djnd f ghmhgnh...).

    Irlz svd lvd tdegfid rhmfjd skl gh gndglk ojhsu, plirdtu, tdju. ]hil nd ghnfzrhhngfndklojh mh fsihd sdcd fzgutrh f svlnd kdstl u spljnglk svdtu, svlnh lsdhgnh.

    @rtd =.8> @rtd gndgd plrlmf`d ihl plrlmf`d tforlvh. Gh pfthgnd> Ihil sf sd lmjufjhzh gnfe

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    @rtd =.3> Qrfkdr hrkhtfvgfe rddgf`h.

    @rtd =.0> ]dst gdmlvrdgfe rddgf`h.

    Fselm> Qlfgfjh` nd lsudg gh ihzgu zhtvlrh lm olmfgu f lshk kdsd`f. Mdvlnf`h nd mljhzfjhu @dgthr olmfgu mhgh, rdmlvgl, ndmglk gdmdjngl, uz prhtgnu f plmriu chid. Rdjfih plmrihsu cfjd f uftdjnf`h f ndmgh mruohrf`h. Lm rlmftdjnh gfshk lmusthnhjh, plvrdkdgl fe plzfvhjh fprdmjhohjh gh rhzgd ghfgd mh sd uijnud u rhm. ]l sd, ghhjlst, gfnd mlolmfjl.

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    P]TMFNH PJTHNH 4

    ^h plsjdmgnf, mdthjngfnd lcrhdg sjuhn, lmhcrhjh shk sjuhn sdstrd, 4 olmfgh, f crhth, ?olmfgh. Mdvlnf`h nd cfjh sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd l`h*, u pfthgnu su cfjd cjumgd

    rhmgnd f mdhi nd klrhl mh cumd u slcf u ilnln sd zjlsthvjnhgnd mdhvhjl. Lg nd f fsprf hlkhn`f th sd mdhvh. Khnih nd sh lch mdtdth mljh u gh @dgthr.

    ^jlsthvjnhgnd sd mdhvhjl ihmh nd khnih cfjh gh plsju. Shmfjh nd muod skdgd pl 83 shtf. ]lnd cfl ndmhg lm rdtife sjuhndvh ihmh nd khnih (cdz strheh lm dvdgtuhjgd rdhi`fnd fgstftu`fnh)ghnnhsgfnd umhjnfjh l`h md`d (svlo crhglo phrtgdrh) fz iud, gfnd ku mlzvljfjh mh fe vfdvfh, cfjh uplrgh u tlkd. Ihm ku nd rdijh mh d oh prfnhvftf pljf`fnf f `dgtru zh sl`fnhjgf rhm,prdsthl nd mh fgsfstfrh mh fe vfh. Rrdkdglk nd pltpugl f prdsthl mh sd fgtdrdsund gh cfjlilnf ghfg zh md`u. Khnih gfnd prfnhvfjh sjuhn `dgtru zh sl`fnhjgf rhm f pljf`fnf. Phkl nln ndcfjl vhgl mh md`h, plsdcgl mdvlnf`h rdmlvgl mljhzf u @dgthr mh plsjdmf`d zjlsthvjnhgnhgd cf usplrfjd rhzvln f lmrhsthgnd, ihil nd rdijh.

    T rhmu sh mdvlnf`lk ilrfstfjh shk jutid, vdjfid irpdgd f ilnd klou mh sd sthvd gh ruiu(thil skl fe zvhjf ihil fe md`h zlvu) f pfshgnd pfshkh (plruid plklf mruoln md`f), shmdhilk ihrtd f prlnditlvhgl prfhgnd prfh.

    Lgf su cfjf gdvdrlvhthg prfkdr plmrid ndmgl mruolk, hjfjh shk tl u tlk ilgirdtglkklkdgtu gfskl fkhjd orupu plmrid zh md`u omd cf cfjf plirdthf f plklgf`f mruoln md`fmh tl cljnd fzhu gh irhn sh svlnfk fsiustvlk zjlsthvjnhgnh. Qlkhohjf su ndmgl mruolk,fgtdrdslvhjf su sd mh jf sd tl mlohh f mruoln md`f.

    Qfskl 4.8> Ghpfshgh pfskh ndsu gnfelv prlmuit rhmh gh jfglk fsiustvu. Lm thmh,ihmh olm prl`dgfk mh nd mdtd u prl`dsu lplrhvih mljl ml thid omd l zjlsthvjnhgnu olvlrf

    nhsgl, f fkh djnu mh tl ihd (plmdjf) f mruoln md`f, pfshgnd pfskh rhml prdmjhdk md`f.

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    Jutid s ilnfkh skl rhmfjf cfjd su vdjfid f irpdgd, pl gndglk fzclru. Qrfkdtfjh shk mh khgnhmd`h vfd vljd vdjfid jutid (f plklu gnfe sd cljnd rhmf). dstl zh lkfjndgu fzhcrhgu jutiupfthnu klou jf mh lmgdsu iuf f uvhnu ml sjdmddo mljhsih. ]l uvdi mlpustfk. Tvdi fevrhhnu.

    Irlz rhm sh jutihkh plihzfvhjh nd ihil sd thth forhl sh gnlk. ]l su cfjf mlmfrf pl odgfthjfnhkh,

    orumfkh, `djlk tdju. Lgh nd kfrfjh f fkhjh nd zhmhthi mh plohh sh iljfil prstfnu nd mfrh,mh jf nd gdhg, mh jf nln nd tlpjl ihm nd mfrh. Gndg crht nd u tfk trdgu`fkh cfl u slcf,

    ojdmhl, lth` oh nd plmstf`hl mh f lg udstvund, hjf lg gfnd etdl olvlrfl nd uvdi mh oh gdtlcljf f mh gd kld. Lth` gfnd fgsfstfrhl.

    * T pdrflmu 866=-311=, lcrhmh uzlrih prfnhvjndgfe sjuhndvh Fg`dst ]rhukh @dgtru Cdlorhm plihzund mh sd cfljlif lth` u prlsdiu plnhvjnund ihl plfgfjh` u 06 % sjuhndvh(mli nd mlmhtgfe 8=% fgfl erhgftdjn, usvlnftdjn (ourh l`h)).

    Iuphjf su sd zhndmgl. Tu svf u ihmu, prvl thth iuph driu, lgmh lgh gndoh. Mdhi sdsrhkfl, lth` oh nd ghzfvhl stfmjnfvilk f sklthgilk.

    Ihrtd 4.3> Mdhi sd rhml forhl ihrthkh ilnd gh sjfihkh md

    gfu lmrddgd prlcjdkd,lsdhgnh, omd su, ihil, ihmh gdtl mlohh, mhtd su jfilvfkh rhzgd ujlod. (Hil gdkhtd

    ihrtd kldtd ilrfstftf rhzgd sjfid gh lsglvu ilnfe sd prfh prfh.)

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    Pijhphl nd uvdi prfd u ilnfkh nd lg cfl edrln f rdhvhl prlcjdkd ilnd nd prhvfl thth. Tvdind sphhvhl sdstru ilnh nd khjh f gfth gd zgh, ilnh zhphmh u ojupd f strhgd sftuh`fndh lg nd ihl edrl fzchvf fz svdoh. T prfhkh ilnd skl fthjf fjf fe nd lg shk fzkfjnhl,jfilvf su cfjf zhkdgndgf jfilvfkh fz gndolvlo fvlth f olvlrfjd su l gndolvfk strhelvfkh,gdklfkh, hjf f th kld mh urhmf f prlkdgf, ihil f sh ifk. Khkh nd uojhvglk cfjh vdjfihf cjhoh lslch.

    Qsfeljlo, mdfnf tdrhpdut Sf`ehrm Ohrmgdr mdthjngl lpfsund prfhgnd prfh u svlnln ignfzf]edrhpdutf` @lkkugf`htflg wfte @efjmrdg. Qrvl mdtd fsprfh prfu h zhtfk nh, ilrfstdf fstdjfilvd, hjf zh mdtd cljnd rddgnd. Qltl nd prfh mdtdth prlndi`fnh lgh d uvdi lmrhzftf gdtllm mdtdtlvd fvltgd sftuh`fnd. Pvhiu prfu zhvrfk jdi`fnlk fjf pluilk. Ihmh sd ilrfstf lvhtdegfih klrh sd zghtf gdtl l fvltu mdtdth ihil cf sd rhzukdjh ojhvgh tdkh.

    Nh shk mlmhjh f tl mh klou mh ilrfstd prfd fz ignfoh, fmdnd sh ]R, jklvh f vfmdjh mh gfthgd skdth hil tl fgd. ]hil fzhcdru lgl tl fe nd, fz gdife shkl gnfkh u tlk klkdgtuzghgfe rhzjloh, prfvuijl f tl uvdi prdrhmd u svlnu jfgu prfu.

    Fselm> Lch mdtdth su tlilk mdvdt kdsd`f ghnrdmlvgfnd mljhzfjh u @dgthr u prhtgnf khnid.Khnih sd rhzvdjh lm phrtgdrh f ghsthvfjh sh fgtdgzfvglk plmrilk md`f u prdvjhmhvhgnughsthjd sftuh`fnd. dstl ghs nd pfthjh zh rhzjfftu strugu jftdrhturu u vdzf prlcjdkh ghsfjnh,plzhnkjnfvhjh nd f fthjh, u ghstlnhgnu mh tl cljnd rhzukd th fk sd mlolmfjl. Mfrditgfplzftfvgf dbditf u rhmu su cfjf vfmjnfvf f zh mdvlnf`u f mdhih.

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    IHIL PD GDID QLSTID QSFKJNDGD T QSL@DPT ^JLP]HRJNHGNHQLNHRJNTNT T @S]DFKH MD@D

    Putfgh rhmh irlz `rtdd nd uvdi u mfrditglk pfthgnu zh mdtd th gnln / gndku `rtd fjf gdtl

    lmrddgl gh shklk rtdu prdmsthvjnh. Gfnd mlputdgl tukhftf rtd mdtdth gf gh ilnf ignfifghfg fjf u sijhmu sh prhv`dk ilndk plkhohf(`d) prfphmhnu (gpr. psfelhghjfzh f sj.).

    Khjljdtgf plfgfl`f ilnf zjlsthvjnhnu md`u h gfsu mdtdtu srlmgf`f, zh rhzjfiu lm lmrhsjfeplfgfjh`h, ilrfstd vrjl nhshg, oruc, pdlrhtfvhg ndzfi zh pljgd lrohgd f ghsfjhg sdisuhjhgfg, thil mh f md`h ilnu zjlsthvjnhnu ilrfstd thihv ndzfi.

    Ihmh undk ihil md`h tfk ghudgfk ndzfilk olvlrd prdfvjndglk zjlsthvjnhgnu, suldghshk sh lorlkglk tdtlk ilnh fk nd ghgdsdgh.

    Pjuhn 2> Mdhi, ? olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd svlo ilkfnd, sfgh iugfeprfnhtdjnh sthrlo 84 olmfgh.

    @rtd 2.8> Pdmklolmfgnf mdhi plihzund omd sd mdhvhjl zjlsthvjnhgnd.

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    @rtd 2.3> @rtd prfihzund gnfe mvlnf`u. Pdcd nd prfihzhl ihl Pgdih Cdjfh. Sdihl nd mhPgdil kld svhilo mh zdzgd shkl sd fstlpf f gfil oh vfd gd vfmf. Mdhi nd f dkl`flghjglf zfif zjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd l`h, khnih nd thild fzjldgh dkl`flghjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu.

    Pjuhn ?> Mdvlnf`h, 4 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd plzghgfih plrlmf`d.Rhofghjgl sfjlvhgnd uz zfil zjlsthvjnhgnd. Mdvlnf`fgf `rtdf, cdz ilkdgthrh.

    @rtd ?.8

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    @rtd ?.3

    Pjuhn 5> Mdvlnf`h, 5 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd lueh. Rhofghjgl f lrhjglzjlsthvjnhgnd f cjumgd rhmgnd.

    @rtd 5> Pdcd nd gh`rthjh uz fzrhdgd sdisuhjgd ihrhitdrfstfid ilnd gd prfphmhnu

    vfdgnu sdcd u tlk uzrhstu uiljfil mdtd gfnd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgl. Lue nln nd olvlrfl mhd fkhtf mlcrd orumf ilnd d kuihr`fkh mh sd svfhnu, mh su nln cutfgd zolmgd, ouzlk dmlcrl ghuftf mh vrtf f fzjufvhd klkid.

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    ]DJL LPDHGNH PRDMLI GHSTDGFE OSHGF@H F ]DILHQT]LRHGNH ISL^ ]DJL

    ]djl lsdhgnh lklouhvh md`f mh ud f ghud mh prdplzghnu svlnd dkl`fnd f dkl`fnd

    mruofe. Qldthi nd ghuftf mdtd mh fkdgund dkl`fnd ilm mruolo gh lsglvu lglo tl vfmf ghjf`u fjf u plghhgnu gdid lslcd f lgmh ilrfstfkJf`h lsdhgnh (kldtd shkf gh`rthtf jf`h ghvrln plmjlzf, ilrfstftf fe sh thchih phpfrh fjf fzrdzhtf f plsthvftf gh mrvdgu mrf`u). Pjdmdd

    nd pliuhn mh fkdgund svlnd dkl`fnd gh lsglvu lgloh tl lsdh, zhtfk mh gh`rth dkl`fndilnd prdplzghnd ilm sdcd f sdcf mrhofe lslch f gh irhnu mh gh`rth svlnd ghndd dkl`fnd.^hgfkjnfvfnf f irdhtfvgfnf nd rhm hil sd ilrfstf Khsih lsdhgnh.

    Ihm mdtd plgd mh fkdgund f fsihzund svlnh lsdhgnh, mh olvlrf l svlnfk prlcjdkfkh fstrhelvfkh, tl nd klkdght ihmh plsthnd lputdgfnd, sfourgfnd, stfd plvdrdgnd f mhnd sdcfmlputdgnd mh ltirfnd f ghncljgfnd thngd. Mhjnd, ufkl mh th lsdhgnh skdstfkl u tdjl fprfhkl ihil mlfvjnhvhkl svlnh lsdhgnh, omd fe lsdhkl, ihil fe lsdhkl, ihil ghs

    lgmh tdrhnu mh sd plghhkl f kfsjfkl, mh jf fe gdilk ihdkl fjf gd f zhtl Mdhi, 88,4 olmfgh, zfif f dkl`flghjgl zjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd l`h, sdisuhjglzjlsthvjnhg lm strhgd sthrfndo mdhih fz Mlkh zh md`u cdz rlmftdjnsilo sthrhgnh. Pdisuhjglzjlsthvjnhl mvh kjhh mdhih, uzrhsth 4 f 2 olmfgh.)

    ]djl lsdhgnh 6

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    Pjuhn 81> Mdvlnf`h, 5 olmfgh, sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd lueh, vhofghjgl f hghjgl,f cjumgd rhmgnd.

    ]djl lsdhgnh 81

    Pjuhn 88> Mdvlnf`h, 84 olmfgh, u uzrhstu lm = ml 81 olm cfjh zfif f dkl`flghjglzjlsthvjnhgh lm strhgd l`h, h lm 81 ml 84 olm. nd sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhl, vhofghjgl f hghjgl.Ph 84 olm nd skdtdgh u Mlk zh md`u cdz rlmftdjnsilo sthrhgnh.

    Pdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd nd lcdjlmhgfjh plsjd gdiljfil kdsd`f prlvdmdgfe u Mlku ihmh sdhmhptfrhjh f fvlt mlcfl mgdvgu struituru. ^ghjh nd mh nd lth` zclo zfilo f dkl`flghjglozjlsthvjnhgnh f ghsfjnh ghm phrtgdrilk (mdvlnf`fglk khdelk) cfl u prftvlru. Lsdtfjh sd

    cdzcdmgl f sfourgl, h plsjd rhmflgf`h l sdisuhjglk zjlsthvjnhgnu f shzghgnh mh sd tl mdhvhf mruofk mdvlnf`hkh, mh gfnd gndgh srhklth f irfvf`h f mh trdch prlghf lmrhsju lslcuilnln vdrund f tl ihd tl shlptfjh svlnln vhspfthf`f. Cfjh nd zhcrfguth mh hil lth` fzhd fzprftvlrh, zjlsthvjnhd f kjhu sdstru. Lth` nd lsudg gh ihzgu zhtvlrh lm 0 olm.

    ]djl lsdhgnh 88.8

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    @rtd 88.3> @rtd gndgfe sglvh ilnf su sd plghvjnhjf, pjhfjf nd f prdpjhvjnfvhjf. Tpldtiu nd tl cfjl umlvftd ilnd uplrgl eld mh nd ucfnd. Ihil nd vrdkd prljhzfjl, umlvftd

    nd mlcfjl jfi kuid ourd l`h.

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    DRL GHP GH ISHNT...

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    Qlkhohfkh, mh svlnfk zghgndk f klf H mdtd gd mlzvljd mh fzolvlrdgdghncljgfnd thngd md`d gd ghu prhvf put.

    Md`f, ilnh fkhnu fsiustvl sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh mh ihu svlnu thngu fgd lmusthnu lm trhdgnh plklf zh sdcd.

    Slmftdjnfkh, mh gd lmusthnu lm pruhgnh plklf f zhtftd svlnd md`d.

    Pkhtrhk vhgfk mh vdrundkl md`f ihl tl lgh vdrunu ghkh. Mh fezhtftfkl f cumdkl gh gnfelvln strhgf.

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    ^hevhjnundk sd svfk svlnfk khjfk f vdjfifk ijfndgtifgnhkh f ijfndgtfkhcdz ilnfe lvhn shmrhn gd cf klohl ghsthtf.

  • 7/22/2019 Incest trauma centar

    42/44

    =3

    MLMH]HI 8

    Ghnvhgfnf ilrhi u prdplzghvhgnu sdisuhjglo zjlsthvjnhgnh md`d / fg`dsth ndsvdst mh nd zjlsthvjnhgnd kloud.

    Gddtd ltirftf sdisuhjgl zjlsthvjnhgnd hil gd vdrundtd mh lgl plstlnf.

    IHIL QSDQL^GH]F ^GHID TQL^LSDGNH