From Blame to Resiliency: What Makes Families In Business Stronger And Their Business More

Sustainable Gaia Marchisio, Ph.D.

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A Disclaimer

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70 Years of Combined Experience

Family business

Conflict management

Family Psychology

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When Working With Families…

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From Heaven

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To Hell

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I did not see this comingShe blames me for not

understanding her and not caring. I can’t believe it!! After all I have done for her, her family and her

business.

Maybe she is right... If we didn’t have the business…

we wouldn’t be in this situation today. It is the

business’ fault!

What do you think? Would you agree?

The Most Recurrent Sentences Dan Shared

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Is the Business to Be Blamed?

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What Does the Genogram Reveal to Us About This Family?

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Whom Else Should Be Blamed?

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The Power of the Past

From Blame to Resilience

The Dimensions of Resilient Family

Food For Thought: A Few Key Ideas

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What We Inherit from the FamilyThe Power of the Past

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Past As Prologue to the Future

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Never Underestimate the Need of “Finishing” Unfinished Business

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Be Intentional in What to Keep And Pass to The Next Generation and What

to Stop

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Looking for the Scapegoat

Problem Family member

From Blaming to Resiliency

(Who is right – who is wrong)

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Seeing the System and Recognizing Dynamics

Problem Multiple

components, and behaviors contribute to

it

From Blaming to Resiliency

(Seeking for understanding and compassion)

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It Takes Two To Tango…

…but one to change a relationship

By changing the way to interact

From Blaming to Resiliency

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Resiliency Is Not Always The Starting Point

1. Commitment (trust)2. Appreciation and affection3. Effective and positive communication patterns4. Desire to spend time together5. Ability to deal with crisis and stress in a positive

way6. Spiritual well-being (compassion and shared

ethical values)

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Resilient families

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Ultimate Goal: to Create

BOTHa sense of togetherness and belonging

ANDindividual family members develop their

own personality, self-esteem, and potential