letter to parents re student discipline matter 2015

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This is the email Briarwood Christian School sent to parents as a result of a drug bust which involved Briarwood students.

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Page 1: Letter to Parents Re Student Discipline Matter 2015

Dear Parents, I am writing to provide you information regarding recent incidences of serious student misconduct and the school’s response to them. It is my hope that this email will provide you the broad outlines of the situation while being appropriately sensitive to those students involved and their parents. Thank you for understanding that we could not communicate until now; we appreciate your patience and support. First and foremost, I want you to know that your children are safe. The safety of our students is always our first concern. The hiring of our Director of Security, the hiring of uniformed officers on both campuses, and the installation of new security cameras on our South campus reflect this priority. Because we were able to investigate and respond to reports of drug use and/or distribution, we believe our students and campus are safer now than before the investigation. Toward the end of February, Mr. Mathews and I received two separate and unrelated tips that some of our students may be engaged in inappropriate conduct involving illegal and/or controlled substances. Upon receiving this information we immediately asked our Director of Security to begin an investigation. As the investigation unfolded, law enforcement (which was already separately investigating related issues) took the lead. Their primary focus was not our students; rather, it was gathering information on drug dealers so they could be taken off the streets. Because law enforcement agencies took the lead on the investigation and did not want to tip off suspects, and because we were dealing with minors and their parents, we were not at liberty to communicate even the slightest bit of information until after the conclusion of the investigation. We hope and anticipate that their investigation as it related to BCS is over. We fully understand that new information could always lead to further investigations. It is also important to know that BCS was not the epicenter of this situation. The epicenter was elsewhere but sadly, some of our students were caught up in it. Everyone engaged in this process has been prayerful, has sought to do what is pleasing to the Lord, has made equitable decisions based on solid factual evidence, has demonstrated mercy, has sought to do what is in the best interest of those directly involved and the entire student body, and has responded in accordance with school policy as outlined in the Student/Parent Handbook. Mr. Mathews and I, along with church and school leadership, have been in constant communication in coordinating our response to this situation.

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This morning we held a chapel with our high school students. We shared many things with them, including life lessons to be learned from this experience. We also shared a number of biblical responses that should guide our conversations and actions. We also had a good season of prayer for those directly involved, for each other, and for our school. At the end of this email I have included few of the things we shared with our students. Please note that this is not a verbatim script of what was shared, but an outline of my speaking notes. I thought you may appreciate knowing what was communicated to your children. You may also be encouraged to know that even prior to these recent events, we were actively reviewing new policies and practices to address just such issues as we have faced over the last week or so. Although it is premature to share the nature of these possible policies and practices, you may rest assured that our desire is to continue to be proactive in educating our students, warning them about dangerous behavior, and discouraging and preventing sinful behavior - not just in addressing it after the fact. My main message to you is that we love your children and we want the best for them. Our core mission is to be used by the Lord to leverage every part of the school’s programs from the Academics to Arts to Athletics to see our students “transformed into the image of Christ,” and to increasingly “become partakers of the divine nature.” Our goal is to partner with you in seeing our children grow into vibrant, loving, and godly disciples of Christ. What Can We As Parents Do? As we reflect upon this situation, I invite each of us to: •  Pray for the students and parents directly involved. Specifically pray that the

Lord will use this situation redemptively in their lives. Pray that that “which was meant for evil,” the Lord will use for good.” Gen. 50:20

•  Pray for all of our students. They are growing up in a profane, ungodly culture. They, like each of us, are pursued and harassed by their own sinful natures, a world set on bending them to its agenda, and the devil seeking to devour them. 1 Peter 5:8

•  Pray that our students will use this situation as a warning and opportunity in their lives. Pray that if they are currently engaged in inappropriate behavior that they will stop and if they are tempted, that they will flee the temptation.

•  Use this situation as another opportunity to talk to your children. Ask them tough questions. Explain to them the dire spiritual, physical, social, academic, and legal consequences of sinful behavior.

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•  Be a courageous parent. Check your children’s phones, know all of their passwords, and check for the types of applications they have on their mobile devices or computers. Know who their friends are. Set clear limits and curfews. Be in their lives.

•  Reflect godliness in our speech. I am reminded of James’s instruction, “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” (James 1:26) Another verse that comes to mind is 1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” This does not mean that love sanctions or ignores sin, it means that we seek to be protective of the reputations of others by not gossiping.

•  Pray for our teachers and those in authority. Pray that that the Lord will grant them wisdom and that they will “not grow weary in doing good.”

Finally, this situation, although very sad and troubling, does not define our students nor our school. God has blessed BCS for 50 years and thousands of lives have been changed by God’s grace using our teachers, coaches, and administrators. He will continue to do so. We will learn from this experience and we will ultimately, by God’s grace, be a stronger school because of it. Thank you for your patience in waiting for this communication. Thank you for your support. Thank you for your prayers. Respectfully, Dr. Barrett Mosbacker, Superintendent “A good man does not ask the way in which is the most pleasant walking, but what is the right way.” High School Chapel Speaking Notes Some of your classmates and friends have been caught up in wrongdoing and sadly, they are no longer with us. Sadly, they are dealing with the consequences of their decisions. We are not angry with them. In fact, we love them and we hurt for and with them. We want only what is best for them. Our prayer and expectation is that the Lord will use for good what others intended for evil. “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today." Gen. 50:20 This situation can be used for your good, the good of those who have been caught up in sin, and good for the school. Here are ways in which God can use this sad

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situation for good. LIFE LESSONS We are here FOR you. We are your advocates. We love you in Christ, We only want the best for you and your families. Sometimes this means “tough love” but it is love. We would not love you if we ignored sinful and destructive behavior. Likewise, you don’t show love for your friends ignoring their sinful and destructive behavior. Be a protector of others and of your school. Do not encourage bad behavior, seek to encourage your friends to do the right things. You will be doing them a favor. You will be showing them love. Illus.: … Pray for your classmates and their families. We can and should learn from the mistakes of others. “For I do not want you to be unaware, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, and all ate the same spiritual food, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and the Rock was Christ. Nevertheless, with most of them God was not pleased, for they were overthrown in the wilderness … All of the people of Israel had the same blessings, experienced God’s provision, and were taught God’s word yet some of these chose to reject that teaching. The same thing happens in our families and school. … Now these things happened to them as an example, but they were written down for our instruction, on whom the end of the ages has come. Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” 1 Cor. 10:1–13 Avoid gossip for love covers a multitude of sins. “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Pet. 4:8 Be humble, remember, everyone in this auditorium is capable of any sin. It is reported of George Whitfield (a great pastor/teacher), that on seeing a poor drunkard reeling along the streets, exclaimed with tears, “But for the grace of God, there goes George Whitfield.” We should say as we reflect on what has happened to several of our students, classmates, and friends, “Were it not for the grace of

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God, there go I.” Choose your friends wisely. “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”. 1 Cor. 15:33 Flee temptation. “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 2 Tim. 2:22 To flee means to avoid putting yourself in a place of temptation or getting out of such a place quickly. Be on your guard. “Be sober- minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” 1 Pet. 5:8 The devil is real. He hates you. He wants to harm and destroy you. Think about how he may try to trap you by what is on your phone, the type of people you spend time with, the places you go, etc. Don’t play with sin, don’t experiment. “But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” Jam. 1:4–15 Remember that your sins will find you out—eventually. “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption,~~~~ but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.” Gal. 6:7–8 The students who are not with us today thought they would get way with sin. They did for a while but eventually it caught up with them. You may think that you are getting away with sins of your own. You probably are-for now. But eventually, sin will catch you. Hold yourself accountable—give your parents access to your mobile devices and computers. I know, you think I am crazy but I am serious. Accountability is protection and prevention. Seek wise, godly counsel from teachers, counselors, administrators, parents, pastors, or youth leaders.

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If you are aware of a problem in the school—tell someone. In the long run you are helping to protect that student or students. No matter where you are now, no matter what you have done, there is forgiveness. You can start fresh. “I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven. And whoever speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven, but whoever speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven, either in this age or in the age to come.” Matt. 12:31 “Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” Matt. 6:11 “”Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”” Luke 7:47ff “Blessed are those whose lawless deeds are forgiven, and whose sins are covered; blessed is the man against whom the Lord will not count his sin.” Rom. 4:7 “And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands.” Col. 2:13 “I am writing to you, little children, because your sins are forgiven for his name’s sake.” 1 Jo. 2:12