Marriage

By David Caron MD

Proposal

Ephesians 5:22

• 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

• What comes before 22– 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

• Applies to the whole church:– Ephesians ***– James 4:2

Submit

• Note verse 21 that submission is to “one another”• Etymology of the word to set in order – to “subject oneself”… – to “submit voluntarily”…– does not mean so much “to obey”—though this may

result from selfsubordination—or to do the will of someone but rather “to lose or surrender one’s own rights or will.”…

– “to humble oneself before Him”– Daniel 6:14 … “to set one’s heart on”

I Peter 3:7

• 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Understanding

Understanding

• To know • Greek- gnosis • Hebrew- Yada ַד�ע� ָי– Root word is Yad or hand– to get to know by touching– Coming to know by experience– A knowledge that accepts the consequences of

knowledge

I Peter 3:7

• 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Giving Honor

• Giving – To cause – To assign to– To impart

• Honor– With money/provision– To reward– To determine the worth (Proverbs 31:10)– To value

• Together the phrase means– To anticipate the needs of your wife. (Philippians 4:19)

I Peter 3:7

• 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Weaker Vessel

• Mast of a ship• Vessels of great worth• Goodly features of the church vessel– Romans 9:21– I Cor 3:10– 2 Timothy 2:20

• Recall story of baptism (water/fire)

I Peter 3:7

• 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Hosea 2

• Your homework Men • Read Hosea pay close attention to 2:19-20…

pick out your role for your bride.

Ephesians 5:21-33• 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.22 Wives, submit to your own

husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Man’s duty

• submitting to one another • love your wives• gave Himself for her (give up yourself)• sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of

water by the word• love their own wives as their own bodies• leave his father and mother and be joined to his

wife• become one flesh or cleave

Genesis 2:21-23

• 21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said:“This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”

Genesis 21:24-25

• 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.