marriage was god’s idea and parenting was his plan for reproducing his image on the earth. so…
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Mad About YouWays To Bury Conflict
• Stay too busy• Change the subject• Become passive• Play the peace at any price game• Rejection of feelings
Mad About YouQuick Tips to Remember During
Conflict.*Calm Down*Make understanding your aim*Listen / Eye Contact.*Do not attack - verbally or physically*Avoid making “You” statements.*Do not defend yourself.
Mad About YouQuick Tips to Remember During
Conflict.*Leave the past in the past.*Keep short accounts.*Act wisely not foolishly.*He/She is not the enemy.
ParentingEveryone has an opinion on how to develop
and maintain a healthy family/home life.
H umor
O pportunity
M eeting Needs
E quipping
ParentingHumor
One of the marks of maturity is to be able to laugh at yourself.
- Let your kids see you laugh at yourself.
ParentingEquipping“Teach them to your children, and talk about
them when you sit at home and walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them down and tie them to your hands as a sign. Tie them on your forehead to remind you, and write them on your doors and gates.” Deut. 6:7-9
Everything a child hears, sees and does is stored---at least sub-consciously and though the child may be unaware of it, these deposits help make him what he is as he matures. -Jerry Jenkins
Rebellion: When the Beaver Starts Acting Like Beavis
Rebellion is . . . Arise against authority.
Rebellion is . . . The deliberate avoidance, neglect, or turning away from a faith they once held as their own.
Rebellion: When the Beaver Starts Acting Like Beavis
There Are Two Kinds of Rebellion:
• Passive
• Active
Focus on the Family Parent Survey Results:
33% said their children did not rebel.
37% said their children definitely rebelled.
30% said their children went through periods of minor rebellion.
Facts About Dealing with Rebellion
• Rules without a relationship result in rebellion.
• Rules with a relationship result in respect.
• Clear expectations during the early years can lessen the chances for strong rebellion in the teen years.
Facts About Dealing with Rebellion (cont.)
• Saying “No” all the time leads to rebellion. It could be passive rebellion. Mom and Dad are a “no win” situation.
• Strong love overcomes rebellion.
• If Mom and Dad are not together regarding kids’ issues, rebellion is maximized.
How to Minimize Rebellion:
• Start early talking and listening to your children.• Realize not everything is a big deal.• Be Calm.• Give them experiential knowledge of the truth
about consequences.• Do not discipline when you are Hungry, Angry,
or Tired.• Do not let conflict consume your life.
Forgiveness•What is Forgiveness?
1. To cancel punishment.2. To erase what is due.3. To give up resentment.
Forgiveness• What Forgiveness Is Not
1. Forgiveness is not just saying “I’m sorry.”
2. Forgiveness is not conditional.3. Forgiveness is not a feeling.4. Forgiveness is not keeping score.5. Forgiveness is not pretending the situation
never happened.6. Forgiveness is not indifference.
Forgiveness• What Forgiveness Is Not
7. Forgiveness is not condoning the wrong.
8. Forgiveness is not saying, “Let’s just forgetabout it.”
9. Forgiveness does not strive to teach theoffender a lesson.
Forgiveness• What Forgiveness Is Not
10. Forgiveness does not mean there won’t be
consequences.11. Forgiveness does not mean the person you
forgave will change.12. Forgiveness deals effectively with past
wounds, but doesn’t insulate from futurehurts.