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Maximizing Success: Mindset and Tools to Enhance Self-Awareness

and Effective Self-LeadershipTCVSCPA Specialized Knowledge Day

October 30, 2019

(c) 2019 MP6 Consulting LLC

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The Definition

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“Emotional intelligence is an individual’s ability to recognize, understand, and manage his or her

emotions and those of others.”- Psychology Today


Our Brain

Source: https://coachmargetty.com/2013/06/21/the-reptilian-mamalian-and-visual-brain/


Characteristics of Emotional Hijacking

Physiological:

• Diminished capacity of the neocortex to handle complexity

• Increased heart rate & blood pressure

• Inhibits the secretions in the digestive system

Mindset:

• Automatic responses

• Loss of perspective


Why does this happen?

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Values

Source: https://medium.com/darius-foroux/8-core-values-i-base-my-life-on-edc30c9d6a53


Increasing Self-Awareness• Get fluent in the language of emotions

• Name your emotions – emotions are data

• Notice your triggers

• Notice what value is being tested

• Recognize recurring patterns

• Feel how the emotions show up in your body

• CHALLENGE YOUR STORIES


Increasing Self-Management• Practice Distancing; Bust the myth of bad emotions • Step back and process your reaction

• Why did I react the way I did? • Did my reaction help me or harm me? • How does this situation fit into the big picture of my life? • What may I have misunderstood or be getting wrong, especially in the heat of the

moment? • What would I change if I could do it again? • What could I say to myself next time that would help me think more clearly?

• Remember emotions are data


Thinking Path

Source: Coaching Strategies Inc


EQ Reset Practices


Emotional Intelligence → Emotional Health and Better Results• Manage Stress and Everyday Pressures

• Enhanced Cooperation and Teamwork

• Effective Decision Making and Leadership

• Better Adjustment to Change

• Responsiveness and Delivery on Commitments

• Increased Job Satisfaction

• Productive Work Environments

• Higher Organizational Performance

• Improvements in Physical Wellness


Takeaways, Reflection, and Commitment to Action

Takeaways• Manage your emotions or your emotions will manage you

• Keep emotions IN your decisions

• Don’t manage around the emotions

• Identify your triggers

• Know how you react (what is your “armor”)

• Determine what is fact vs story

• Develop a plan and practice to “get back to good”

• Reflection and Commitment to Action


Final Note

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Thank you!


For Questions/Feedback/Comments/Inquiries:

Rachel Verlik, MS, PCC, CDTLF

Email: [email protected]

Phone: 703-688-2914

Web: www.mp6consulting.com

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VALUES ASSESSMENT Determine your core values from the list below. Circle every core value that you believe you possess and model. If you know of a value that isn’t listed, feel free to add it. Don’t overthink your selections. Next, identify five (5) that are the most important to you. Then, rank order each of the five (5) values with 1 being the most important to you and 5 being the least important to you of your top 5 values.

Abundance Acceptance Accountability Achievement Advancement Adventure Advocacy Ambition Appreciation

Authenticity Autonomy Balance Being the Best Benevolence Boldness Brilliance Calmness Courtesy Challenge Charity Connectivity Cheerfulness Cleverness Collaboration Comradery Commitment Compassion Cooperation Consistency Contribution Creativity Credibility

Decisiveness Dedication Dependability Diversity Empathy Encouragement Enthusiasm Ethics Excellence Expressiveness Fairness Family Friendships Flexibility Freedom Fun Generosity Grace Growth Happiness Health Honesty Humility Humor Inclusion Independence Individuality Innovation Inspiration Integrity Intelligence Intuition Joy

Kindness Knowledge Leadership Learning Love Loyalty Making a Difference Mindfulness Motivation Optimism Open-mindedness Originality Passion Peace Perfection Performance Personal Development Playfulness Popularity Power Proactive Preparedness Professionalism Punctuality Recognition Relationships Reliability Resourcefulness Responsibility Responsiveness Safety Security Self-Control Selflessness

Service Simplicity Spirituality Stability Stewardship Success Support Sustainability Teamwork Thankfulness Thoughtfulness Traditionalism Trustworthiness Understanding Uniqueness Usefulness Versatility Vision Vulnerability Warmth Wealth Well-Being Wisdom Zeal

REFLECTION AND COMMITMENT TO ACTION

The situation was….

The value that was being tested was….

What thoughts and feelings did I have?

What “stories” might I have made up?

What actions and results came next?

What might be another way my “Best Self” could have handled it?

What would be the outcome I want instead?

What new behavior do I commit to trying to move towards a desired outcome?

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