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Achieving Work-Life Balance
Using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) to Learn to
“Flex”
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Brian Fitch, Ph.D.
February 27, 2006
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MBTI Helps us Learn to be Flexible!
Greater self-awareness See others more clearly Understand differences Flex by accommodating others
constructively Think “type,” not “stereotype”—
preference, not capability
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Approach to Work-Life Balance Today . . .
Explore relationship with spouse/ significant other (S/SO) as a major avenue to work-life balance
Enhance relationship by flexing Two outcomes
1. Enable the differences2. Develop and enjoy a new “side” to
ourselves
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More Factors in Work-Life Balance
Children and other family members
Spiritual dimension Health Fitness Happiness with job Other . . .
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The MBTI?
It Is NOT A test A measure of
intelligence An indicator of
pathology A measure of skill
It IS A self-reporting
instrument Reliable and valid Most widely used
psychological indicator
A preference indicator
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Four Temperament Scales
2. Information-Gathering
3. Decision-Making
4. Life Style
Extrovert: With People
Sensing: Facts and Data
Thinking: Logical, Rational
Judging: Systematic, Organized
Feeling: Impact on Others
INtuitive: Big Picture
Introvert: Independent
SPontaneous: Changes Direction
1. Energy Source
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Sixteen MBTI Types
ISTJ-7
ESTJ-7
ISFP-1
ESTP-3
ISTP-3
INTJ-3 INFJ-2ISFJ-4
INTP-6 INFP-3
ENFP-9ESFP-4
ESFJ-5 ENFJ-6 ENTJ-11
ENTP-12
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Preference Clarity Categories
RAW POINT RANGES
Slight Moderate Clear Very Clear
E or I 11-13 14-16 17-19 20-21
S or N 13-15 16-20 21-24 25-26
T or F 12-14 15-18 19-22 23-24
J or P 11-13 14-16 17-20 21-22
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Scale 1. Energy SourceExtravert Introvert Talkative IntrospectiveOpen ReservedExternal InternalActive ThoughtfulWith a group AloneTalks first Thinks first“Party on!” “I’m out of here!”
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Extraverts (E)
Like variety and action Comfortable with impromptu
meetings Close door to keep themselves in Think through ideas with others Aren’t bothered by interruptions Like to have people around Interests have breadth
Like variety and action Comfortable with impromptu
meetings Close door to keep themselves in Think through ideas with others Aren’t bothered by interruptions Like to have people around Interests have breadth
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Introverts (I)
Like quiet for concentration Prefer scheduled meetings Close door to keep others out Think through ideas alone Dislike interruptions Work contentedly alone Interests have depth
Like quiet for concentration Prefer scheduled meetings Close door to keep others out Think through ideas alone Dislike interruptions Work contentedly alone Interests have depth
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Scale 2. Information Gathering
Sensors IntuitorsConcrete TheoreticalFacts PossibilitiesDetails PatternsPresent FutureLiteral FigurativeTangible AbstractPractical Ingenious5 Senses “6th Sense”
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Sensors (S)
Want standard solutions to problems Follow established ways of doing
things Use current skills instead of learning
new ones Think step by step Patient with routine detail Less likely to make factual errors Tend to be good at precise work
Want standard solutions to problems Follow established ways of doing
things Use current skills instead of learning
new ones Think step by step Patient with routine detail Less likely to make factual errors Tend to be good at precise work
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INtuitors (N)
Like solving new problems Dislike doing the same thing repeatedly Want to learn new skills, not use old
ones Try to reach conclusions by intuitive
leaps Impatient with routine details More likely to make factual errors Dislike taking time for precise work
Like solving new problems Dislike doing the same thing repeatedly Want to learn new skills, not use old
ones Try to reach conclusions by intuitive
leaps Impatient with routine details More likely to make factual errors Dislike taking time for precise work
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Scale 3. Decision Making
Thinkers FeelersObjective SubjectiveImpersonal
InterpersonalJustice MercyWhy WhoHead HeartLogical PersonalClarity HarmonyTruth Tact
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Thinkers (T)
Brief and businesslike Analytical – will follow your logic May hurt your feelings and not know it Can get along without harmony Make decisions impersonally Don’t show emotions readily Need to be treated fairly Tend to be firm-minded
Brief and businesslike Analytical – will follow your logic May hurt your feelings and not know it Can get along without harmony Make decisions impersonally Don’t show emotions readily Need to be treated fairly Tend to be firm-minded
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Feelers (F) Personable in the office People oriented – focus on your values Enjoy pleasing others Like and need harmony Consider others when making
decisions Aware of, and show, emotions Need feedback and praise Tend to be sympathetic
Personable in the office People oriented – focus on your values Enjoy pleasing others Like and need harmony Consider others when making
decisions Aware of, and show, emotions Need feedback and praise Tend to be sympathetic
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Scale 4. Life Style
JudgersSpontaneous
Decisive CuriousDefinite OptionalPlanful FlexibleScheduled AdaptableDeadline GuidelineClosure Open-endedNow LaterUse list Lose list
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Judgers (J)
Work best with a plan Get things settled and finished Make decisions quickly Are satisfied once they make a
decision about anything (!) Organize projects before beginning Care about deadlines
Work best with a plan Get things settled and finished Make decisions quickly Are satisfied once they make a
decision about anything (!) Organize projects before beginning Care about deadlines
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SPontaneous (P)
Adapt well to changes Don’t mind leaving things open for
alteration Postpone decisions easily Will always welcome new information Tend to dive into projects without
organizing Could care less about deadlines
Adapt well to changes Don’t mind leaving things open for
alteration Postpone decisions easily Will always welcome new information Tend to dive into projects without
organizing Could care less about deadlines
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Your Types
Write down: Your type __ __ __ __
Your S/SO’s type __ __ __ __
Need to guess?
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If Your S/SO Did Not Take the MBTI
Guess Your S/SO’s Type:E___ I___S___ N___T___ F___J___ P___
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How Can You Flex Toward the Other’s Preferences?
Using Slides 7-9 for ideas, list the descriptors that best describe your S/SO’s Energy Source (E-I): Using Slides 16-18 for ideas, list the descriptors that best describe your S/SO’s Life Style (J-P) preferences: If you wanted to flex toward, or accommodate, your S/SO’s preferences, how could you do that?
Examples on 24-25
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Example of E-I Flexing
You are ESTJ and your S/SO is ISTJ Your E, her I – “very clear” You have trouble “connecting” at the end
of the work day—she seems unresponsive to you, you seem insensitive to her
Consider flexing by: Having “alone” time for an hour when you get
home at the end of the work day to “recharge” Spending a quiet night at home on Friday and
then going out with friends on Saturday
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Example of J-P Flexing You are ENTP and your S/SO is ENTJ
Your P, his J – “clear” You have trouble planning the getaway that you
agree you need Consider flexing by:
Scheduling some of the itinerary closely, to suit him
Leaving some time unscheduled and open to completely new adventures, to suit you
Discussing how you can have fun doing each other’s “thing,” and being open to that possibility
Back to Slide 21
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Possible Outcomes from Your Flexing?
Attitudes? Balance?
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“In the Grip”—We Will Examine:
Energizers Stressors How the grip “gets us” How to create balance You and your S/SO in the grip!
(earmark pages with your types as we move ahead)
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Extraverted Thinking: ESTJ (7), ENTJ (11)
Energizers Work Leading others Predictability Closure Logic Achieving
Stressors Lack of control Change Disorganization Interruptions Lack of logic Incompetence
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Extraverted Thinking: ESTJ, ENTJ
Grip Reactions Anger Loss of control Inflexibility Domineering Avoidance Conviction that
others dislike them
Remedies Someone to talk to Refocusing Time alone Help to face
problem Physical activity Emotional support
from trusted others
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Introverted Feeling: ISFP (1), INFP (3)
Energizers Personal values Helping and
affirming Congeniality Appreciation Recognition and
respect Flexibility
Stressors Multiple demands Rigid time frames Conflict Not working alone Controlling by
others Demands for
conformity
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Introverted Feeling: ISFP, INFP
Grip Reactions Disappointment Negativity Martyr Depression Active/passive
aggression Loss of
competence
Remedies Reflection, meditation
Take time for fun Talk to close friends
Take time alone Focus on what is right
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Introverted Thinking: ISTP (3), INTP (6)
Energizers Freedom Tangible results Appreciation Respect Being heard Autonomy
Stressors Strict rules Incompetence Dependence on
others Lack of logic,
fairness Too much
extraversion Strong emotions
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Introverted Thinking: ISTP, INTP Grip Reactions Upset Alienation Fear of losing
control Passive-
aggressiveness Complain, pout Hypersensitive
Remedies Resist inner fears Try out new
behaviors Disengage Take time alone Understanding
from others
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Extraverted Feeling: ESFJ (5), ENFJ (6)
Energizers Control schedule Supportive
environment Valued as individual In tune with others Open
communication Frequent
appreciation
Stressors Undermining Confrontation Sudden change Personal criticism Treating others
impersonally Insufficient time Violating personal
values
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Extraverted Feeling: ESFJ, ENFJ Grip Reactions Negativity Controlling, rigid Insensitivity Withdrawal,
depression Self-doubt Inefficiency,
scatteredness
Remedies Talk it through Spend time alone Spiritual values Support group Help in
transforming Take time to
nurture self
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Extraverted Sensing: ESTP (3), ESFP (4)
Energizers Variety and flexibility Freedom Remembering specifics Options Clarity Teamwork
Stressors Deadlines Rigid routine Long-term planning Circumstances out
of control Vague directions Commitment
without flexibility
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Extraverted Sensing: ESTP, ESFP Grip Reactions Seeing negative
implications Withdrawal “Paranoid” Sense of
incompetence Spinning wheels
Remedies Change focus Avoid distractions Ask others for help Reassurance Help finding
options Help getting to the
point
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Introverted Intuition: INTJ (3), INFJ (2)
Energizers Flexibility, control Autonomy Clarity of role Organized life Directness and
honesty Achieving closure
Stressors Details Irrational people Too much extraverting Noise, disorganization Violating standards Lack of follow-through
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Introverted Intuition: INTJ, INFJ
Grip Reactions Anger, agitation,
fatigue Overdoing sensory
activities—e.g., eating, cleaning, repairing
Physical stress Seeing details as
obstacles Obsession about
stress Sleeplessness
Remedies Quiet time to reenergize Recreation Time off Simple sensing activities Change the schedule Accept help with details Caring from others
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Introverted Sensing: ISTJ (7), ISFJ (4)
Energizers Organizing facts
and details Reaching closure Quiet workspace Few interruptions Stability Adequate time and
support Control of schedule
Stressors Deadlines Sloppy work Sudden change Inefficiency Winging it,
brainstorming
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Introverted Sensing: ISTJ, ISFJ Grip Reactions Negativity Accommodating,
then resisting Blaming others Decreased efficiency Obsessive thinking
about problems Shut down, get
depressed
Remedies Getting away Validation of
competence Not getting too
much advice Organizing, finishing
projects Help with priorities Others’ concrete
support
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Extraverted Intuition: ENTP (12), ENFP (9)
Energizers Variety, challenge Autonomy Being taken
seriously Innovative, effective
solutions Delegating details
to others Unstructured time
Stressors Reaching closure Disrespected Too many details Close, distrusting
supervision Too little
stimulation Rules that inhibit
creativity
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Extraverted Intuition: ENTP, ENFP Grip Reactions Passive-
aggressiveness Work harder less
effectively Worry, chronic
anxiety Withdraw No follow-through Extreme emotion,
activity
Remedies Rest Physical exercise Setting boundaries Prioritizing tasks Delegating to others Relaxing sensing
activities Planning, list-making
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Getting a Grip!Turn to your S/SO’s type in Slides 26-41 and list his/her main stressors:
Again from Slides 26-41, list your S/SO’s main grip reactions:
ESTJ, ENTJ 26-27
ISTP, INTP 28-29
ISFP, INFP 30-31
ESTJ, ENFJ 32-33
ESTP, ESFP 34-35
INTJ, INFJ 36-37
ISTJ, ISFJ 38-39
ENTP, ENFP 40-41
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How Different Approaches Can Benefit Us T-F and J-P approach life differently Flex to find balance and benefit
from the differences between you and your S/SO
Flex to another preference just to develop your perspective on that side, regardless of your S/SO’s type
Examples?
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T-F Approaches: the T Focus
What the difference is between us Opinions and principles Analyzing the difference Succinct, to the point Firm stance
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T-F Approaches: the F Focus
Who is involved Needs and values Accepting, appreciating differences Tactful Give and take
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J-P Approaches: the J Focus
Sort it out Solve it Focus on the past and future Be concerned primarily with
outcome Be happy when the difference is
resolved
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J-P Approaches: the P Focus
Seek clarification Work it through Focus on the present Be concerned with other’s input Be happy when difference is
addressed
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Use Differences to Advantage!
1. Create space (P)
2. Make Suggestions (T)
3. Make Suggestions (F)
4. Seek closure (J)
THE FLEXING MODEL
Here’s how
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1. Create Space (P)—Include and Understand Each Other’s Views
Change location—neutral, pleasant Keep listening and asking for more
information Relax!
1. Create Space (P)
2. Make Suggestions (T)
3. Make Suggestions (F)
4. Seek Closure (J)
FLEX
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2 and 3. Make Suggestions (T & F)
2. T: What do we know? What is logical based on the alternatives?
3. F: How do we feel? Why should we care?
1. Create Space (P)
2. Make Suggestions (T)
3. Make Suggestions (F)
4. Seek Closure (J)
FLEX
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4. Seek Closure (J) Consider the possibilities Agree on next steps Take one step at a time Move on—turn out the lights!
1. Create Space (P)
2. Make Suggestions (T)
3. Make Suggestions (F)
4. Seek Closure (J)
FLEX
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Put It To WorkConsidering what you have written on Slides 19, 21, and 42, fill in the blanks in the Flexing Model to suggest what you and your S/SO will do to help each other create balance concerning your energy, life style, stressors, and grip reactions:
1. We will flex to create space (P) by:
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_____________
2. We will flex to be more logical (T) by:
_________________________
_________________________
_________________________
3. We will flex to be more feeling (F) by:
_________________________
_________________________
_________________________
4. We will flex to seek closure and move on (J) by:
______________
______________
______________
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Examples from the Group
See if any might work for you . . .
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