mindful leadership through emotional intelligence
TRANSCRIPT
Mindful Leadership
Through Emotional Intelligence
http://www.flickr.com/photos/tomas_sobek/4649690892/sizes/l/in/photostream
OPAL Conference | August 5, 2016Peter Bromberg | peterbromberg.com
I Believe that…We all exert influence
We can make conscious choices that will improve our influence
We can learn to make better choices
more consciously and consistently
I Believe that…
Emotional and social intelligence correlates with our ability to have
positive influence in the world and…
These competencies can be developed.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/tomas_sobek/4649690892/sizes/l/in/photostream
Influence is something we do
not something we are (i.e. “a LEADER”) or a position we hold.
Influence is situational It’s about the choices we make
moment by moment that either move things in the direction of a desired
goal or not. If not, we can choose again.
Why Are We Here Today?
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Here
Why Are We Here Today?
Today
Today
Today
Today
Today
Today
Why Are We Here Today?
World population: 7,400,000,000Ever Lived: 108,000,000,000
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nationallibrarynz_commons/3326203787/sizes/z/in/photostream/ (no known copyright)
David: Too much, there's too much *#%ing perspective now.
Nigel: It really puts perspective on things, though, doesn't it?
Why Are We Here Today?
Why Are We Here Today?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM&t=1m25s
Why Are We Here Today?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM&t=1m25s
Think about someone who’s
made a difference in your life
Warren Bennis says leadership is management
of:AttentionSelfMeaningTrust
AttentionDo you consciously
direct your attention and
focus it in ways that help you direct energy effectively?
SelfAre you tuned into, and take ownership for,
your needs, wants, behaviors, and
emotions?Meaning
Do you distinguish between the data you observe and the meaning you
create?
TrustAre your values, words, &actions congruent? Does
your behavior inspire the trust of
others?
Emotional and Social IntelligenceDefinition of EQ from Daniel Goleman
• Self-awareness • Self-regulation • Social skill • Empathy • Self-Motivation
EQ can be developed
SELF SOCIAL
AWARENESS
SELF AWARENESS
• Accurate Self-awareness
• Owns personal power• Self-Confident• Self-deprecating
humor
SOCIAL AWARENESS
• Empathy• Service Ethic• Organizational awareness• Cross-cultural sensitivity
MANAGEMENT
SELF MANAGEMENT
• Integrity/Trustworthy• Transparent• Optimism• Intentionality• Achievement Focused• Creative• Adaptable
RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT
• Builds Trust• Develops Others• Communication• Inspirational• Builds bonds• Collaboration/Teamwork
It’s Not About Being Nice
Image: CC by 2.0 http://www.flickr.com/photos/dirigentens/4592361218/sizes/l/in/photostream
Increasing Resourcefulness
http://www.flickr.com/photos/danisarda/4043404303/sizes/l/in/photostream/ (CC BY-NC-SA 2.0) Flickr user: ~Oryctes~
The Neurobiology of EQ
DeadlinesFeedbackEmail OverloadDisagreementsConflictOverworkingResponsibilityOver-commitment
The Neurobiology of EQ
How to Renew and RechargeGratitude Helping others
Mindfulness Exercise
Nature Resonant Relationships
Journaling Prayer Touch
Playfulness Petting a pet
Visioning Expressing Appreciation
MindfulnessAnd
EmotionalIntelligence
It’s not just Google…
The pace of change is accelerating and the progression is
exponential.
Indeed … we find not just simple exponential growth, but “double”
exponential growth, meaning that
the rate of exponential growth is itself growing exponentially.
- Ray Kurzweil, Author, Inventor, Futurist
https://www.facebook.com/blog/blog.php?post=112344532130 http://www.kurzweilai.net/the-law-of-accelerating-returns
Where our attention goes, our energy goesWhere our energy goes, action followsWhere actions are taken, results follow
It all starts with Attention
Emotional Contagion
Peter Bromberg | Peterbromberg.com
Flickr User: roujo https://www.flickr.com/photos/23258232@N00/456104222 (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)
Think about a bad boss or
supervisor you’ve had.
Peter Bromberg | Peterbromberg.com
The Influence of Emotional Contagion
CC BY 2.0 www.flickr.com/photos/93393982@N00/3822687027 | CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 www.flickr.com/photos/83261600@N00/4944691233CC BY-NC-SA 2.0 www.flickr.com/photos/9304463@N08/2217777720/
“Being able to change your internal state might be one of the most powerful
techniques you learn in becoming an effective leader– one who inspires others
to learn, adapt and perform at their best.” -Richard Boyatzis
The Influence of Emotional Contagion
Energy is contagious, especially so if you’re a leader. The way you’re feeling at any
given moment profoundly influences how the people who work for you feel.
How they’re feeling, in turn, profoundly influences how well they perform.
A leader’s responsibility is to fuel them in every possible way to bring the best of themselves to their jobs
every day. - Tony Schwartz , The Energy Project
Negative Emotional Attractors
• Activate your sympathetic nervous system• Activate the task positive network of your brain• Result in stress and decreased cognitive,
emotional, perceptual, and creative capacity.
Negative Emotional Attractors include:• Getting
feedback• Analyzing• Problem Solving• Conflict• Expectations
• Fear• Pessimism• “Should do”s• Dissonant
relationships• Focus on weakness
Positive Emotional Attractors
• Activate your parasympathetic nervous system• Activate the default mode network of your brain• Result in relaxation and increased cognitive,
emotional, perceptual, and creative capacity.
Positive Emotional Attractors include:• Mindfulness• Resonant
relationships• Experimenting• Focus on strengths• Visioning
• Learning• Practicing• Hope/optimism• Play• Gratitude
The Power of Stories
For Sale. Baby
Shoes. Never Worn.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/6wordstwincities
Painful nerd kid, happy nerd adult.
- Linda Williamson
http://www.npr.org/2008/02/07/18768430/six-word-memoirs-life-stories-distilled
Who we are (Origin)Where we going (Vision)
How we act (Values)Change/Learning (Growth)
From: Circle of the 9 Muses by David Hutchens
Four Organizational Stories
Stories of Values in Action
Story MiningBuilding Culture with
Stories
The most fundamental job of a leader is to recruit, mobilize, inspire, focus, direct, and regularly refuel the energy of those they lead.-Tony Schwartz
http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/radiorover/2787677403/
“My job is to awaken possibility
in other people” -Benjamin Zander
Thank you!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/2602728681