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All Rights Reserved © 2015 Make Him A Monogamy Junkie: Trigger His Commitment Chemical And Make Him BEG To Be Yours Forever

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“Make Him A Monogamy Junkie”

Trigger His Commitment Chemical And Make Him BEG To Be Yours Forever

by By Gloria Lee

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Module 9: The Honesty Chemical

Lesson 23: Why Men Lie . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4

Get your hands on the Honesty Conditioning script! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

Lesson 24: Is He Your Everything? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

Here’s why this is important … . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10

Lesson 25: The Honesty Conditioning Script . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10

Here’s the script itself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12

Lesson 26: Questions? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14

So now that you know what the Honesty Conditioning script is, why it works so well, and HOW to use it, here’s what I want you to do: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17

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Lesson 23: Why Men Lie

Molly stood in the lounge, frustrated, hands gripping her hair in frustration.

‘I know you’re not telling me the truth!’ she shouted. ‘Why can’t you just open up and LET ME IN?’

Alex glared at her wordlessly … then turned around and walked out of the apartment.

Molly heard the ‘snick’ of the door closing behind him, and then she was alone in the echoing room with only her frustration and tears for company.

In that moment, she took a deep breath and decided to stop ASKING him to tell her the truth … and instead, to just do what WORKS.

She felt a little silly at first thinking about using a prepared script, instead of her own natural words, to communicate with her husband … but she decided to do it anyway. Nothing else had worked, so what did she have to lose?

Three hours later, when Alex finally returned, she approached him as he stood in the hall taking off his jacket. At first he was stony and resistant, still angry about their fight. But Molly hugged him gently from behind, took another deep breath, and she did it …

She whispered the Honesty Conditioning script in his ear.

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There was a moment of silence.

Then Alex turned and, with tears shining in his eyes, wrapped his arms around her and pulled her close, pressing a kiss into her hair.

‘I’m sorry for being such a jerk,’ he whispered. ‘I really love you and I need you to know that. If this is what you need, then I’m ready to tell you anything you want to know.’

Welcome to Module 9, where you’ll get your hands on the Honesty Conditioning script!

Using this will allow you to read him perfectly and always know EXACTLY what he thinks, wants, and needs from you.

So, let's get into it!

First: why does he lie to you in the first place?

Yup, it's the plain and honest truth: ALL men lie … especially to the women they love.

Why?

Well, the answer is simple and it usually comes from the right place:

Usually, when your man is lying to you, it's out of a weird desire to protect you …

… because 99% of the time when a man lies, it's because he thinks the truth

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will hurt you. And as you know by now, men are biologically hardwired to protect you and provide for you, not hurt you.

That said, there are times when you just need to know the truth. No matter what. And that's what this technique is all about.

Onward …

Lesson 24: Is He Your Everything?

This is something I say a lot, but …

It's not healthy or helpful to expect a man to be your ‘everything'.

When your relationship with him is at the very CENTER of your universe, and you've shaped your life, self esteem, and dreams around him …

And ON TOP OF THAT secretly hope and expect that he will fulfill every last one of your hopes and dreams …

That's when guys will often start to lie. Because the PRESSURE is just too much …

… and yet, he doesn't want to hurt you by letting you down …

So, he lies.

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Just a little bit at first.

And then … more and more.

(Disclaimer: some guys will lie no matter what you do. But if you've been doing the assignments as they come, you'll already have weeded out those types of guys, and be able to identify any remaining ones.)

Let me give you a few examples.

I'm generalizing here to make my point, but …

GENERALLY SPEAKING, there are particular ‘types' of men. And if a man falls into ONE category, he generally won't be able to fulfill your dreams in the OTHER category.

For instance, if your guy is a ‘strong and silent rock’ type, then you can probably rely on him pretty well to fulfill your need for a strong shoulder to cry on, a protector, a ‘fixer', and someone who will FIGHT for your happiness against the entire damn world.

But a ‘rock' type guy like this probably won’t have it in him for the long emotional talks … hours-long sensitive heart-sharing conversations … and in-depth character analysis of your personality, needs, hopes and dreams that most women also want from their chosen person.

On the other hand, if your guy is a ‘sensitive artist’ type, then he might be well in tune with his feelings and emotions, and perfectly equipped to spend HOURS talking about your feelings, your needs, and connecting deeply on a truly emotional level.

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But he might collapse under the weight of your expectations if you ALSO expect that same guy to fight your battles for you, intimidate other men who hit on you, and be a fount of unflinching masculine silent strength when you just want a strong shoulder to cry on.

See where I'm going with this?

No man can be your ‘everything’.

Just like YOU can't be his everything.

Now, if you have secret hopes that your guy CAN fulfill all of your needs, physical and emotional, in this way …

… then it's actually not your fault. I mean that. Romance novels, movies, and pop culture at large tends to instill INCREDIBLY unrealistic expectations in people.

(I know that, personally, the very first time I read the Outlander books by Diana Gabaldon - featuring the strong and sexy ‘warrior-type' muscular sexpot Jamie, who on top of being an incredible warrior and protector was ALSO incredibly cultured, self aware, emotionally sensitive, deeply perceptive, and picked up on every last nuance of his wife's personality and mood swings … oh, and he was funny, rich, and well endowed too) …

I spent the remainder of the day in kind of … well, a SULK.

I'm embarrassed to admit this now. But that novel, and the character of Jamie in particular, appealed to my unspoken romantic wish for a man who could be my ‘everything' … and when I looked at my own (frankly, wonderful) man in the cold hard light of day … I did a little unconscious

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comparing, and my man came up lacking.

And I felt SAD about it.

Well, for about six hours, until I got a grip and realized that OF COURSE my man would come up ‘lacking' in comparison to a fictional character who was specifically designed to fulfill the unspoken dreams and fantasies of just about every single woman on the planet.

And that's my point:

Romance novels and movies can shape our expectations without us even knowing it.

But they are not REAL.

So first things first, I need you to just take a step back and become AWARE of the insidious expectations that may have formed deep in your mind – maybe without you even consciously realizing it – that are making you wish that he could be your … well, your everything.

Because NO MAN will ever be your everything. And wishing that he could be spells death for your relationship.

You don't need to do anything else for now. Just be AWARE of this. It's important.

Got it?

Good.

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Here’s why this is important …

Because the main reason a man will lie to you is because he doesn't want to hurt you, and he doesn't think he can fulfill all of your needs.

So by removing some of the pressure on him to fulfill your (frankly unrealistic) deep-seated expectations, you remove his need to lie at the core level.

Now move on to lesson 25, where I'll give you the Honesty Conditioning script!

Lesson 25: The Honesty Conditioning Script

This script is based on neurolinguistic programming, which works on the human brain in a very specific way to QUICKLY create the changes you want.

It's literally like programming a computer with a new piece of software.

And the best part is, you don't have to do anything crazy or awkward … in fact, you can drop this script into everyday conversation with him, and he won’t even know you’re doing it.

This works by planting an ‘expectation seed' inside of his brain, which sits there until the exact moment you need it to kick into action.

Sound like malarkey?

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Think again. In 1968, two researchers conducted a study that proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that positive expectations create a massive uptick in actual behavior.

It's known as the Pygmalion Effect, or in plain English, a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Why planting the ‘expectation seed’ works so darn well to create an honest man …

So what's the big deal with expectations??

Well, first of all, in case you hadn't noticed, most men are pretty proud creatures.

If you expect them to do something (and don't nag them to do it), they tend to react incredibly well to it, because you're appealing to his PRIDE.

Plus, as if that wasn't enough, they are literally genetically hardwired to please you.

(Evolutionarily, the human race depends on his ability to put a smile on your face – because if a man doesn't please you, you'll end up choosing someone else, and his gene pool will be unapologetically weeded out of existence.)

So literally, he’s biologically programmed to strongly want to please you and fulfill your wishes.

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Unfortunately, most women don't understand how to use this fact to their advantage, so they end up doing exactly what DOESN'T work:

Using negative reinforcement, repeated requests, and nagging.

Does it work?

Hell no. You know that as well as I do.

Subtly setting your expectations via this script is the best way to make sure he always tells you the truth, because you're relating it to his primal masculine drives:

his PRIDE, and

his biological need to please you.

So, that's enough chit-chat.

Here’s the script itself .

o “I love the way you’re such an honest man. Integrity is so rare and it’s one of the things I’ve always been most drawn to in you.”

Yup – that's it! Told you it was simple, didn't I?

Now, you're going to want some variations on this, because if you just say the same old thing over and over, it's going to lose its luster.

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Other little gems include:

o ‘I’m so proud that you’re mine. Honesty is a big one for me and it makes me look up to you that I can trust you so much.’

o ‘I trust you with everything.’

o ‘I know you’d never let me down. You’re my rock.’

o ‘You’re the one person I can tell anything to and you always understand. I hope you know that I’ll always do the same for you.’

o ‘Whatever you need from me, I’m here.’

o ‘I love that I can rely on you.’

o ‘This will sound weird, but … it kind of turns me on how you’re such a man of your word. Integrity is sexy.’

o ‘I love how we always tell the truth to each other.’

o ‘I want you to know that you can tell me anything and I’ll never judge you. I’m always on your side, baby. Always.’

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Lesson 26: Questions?

Okay, let's answer some questions!

‘What, so I just say one of these and he automatically blurts out all his secrets??”

Um, no J Not exactly.

These scripts have a cumulative effect. By that I mean that if you only ever use these scripts when you already suspect that he's being dishonest or not quite truthful about something, it won't work because he'll sense that you're trying to manipulate him. Instant no-no.

Instead, they're CUMULATIVE. Which means you've got to start using them now. And every time you do, you add another layer to the ‘truth and honesty' bond between you, and make sure that he will always tell you the truth in future.

It's cumulative, people.

‘What if I’ve been using the scripts regularly and it’s still not working?’

That can be painful and even heartbreaking. But the truth is, if a man can't be honest with you, is that really the type of man you want to commit to?

Is that really the kind of relationship you want?

The kind you deserve?

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I think if you're truly honest with yourself, you'll know that you deserve a man who is HONEST with you.

My suggestion in this case would be, that if you're with a man who is consistently dishonest and untrustworthy … and who shows no signs of changing …

… that it's time to bite the bullet and move on. You deserve a man who wants you to know the real him, not just some fake façade.

‘I’ve been using the scripts and they’re working … he’s starting to open up to me! Only problem is, I’m not so sure I actually like what he’s telling me. I had no idea he had all these skeletons in his closet. It’s actually kinda freaking me out. Help!!’

Hehehe. This is something that actually happens A LOT.

When a man really starts to open up, it can be like a floodgate effect: all of a sudden, he just wants to tell you everything.

And honestly? It's a beautiful thing. Most men hide way more stuff than we, as women, realize, because they're trying to protect us. Bless their little hearts.

So getting a peek behind the velvet curtain and seeing that your ‘strong, manly man' is actually scared, afraid, unconfident and racked with low self esteem and neediness …

It can be actually kind of a turn-off, at first, for a lot of women.

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So the first thing is: remember, he’s only human. EVERYONE has esteem problems from time to time. EVERYONE has doubts and fears.

Next thing (and this is a big one): when a man starts to open up, he's going to NEED you to be able to handle the truth.

If you react to his outpourings with judgment, fright, or shock (‘What?? You mean you LOST all that money gambling? How could you be so stupid?!') …

Then don't be surprised if he clams right up and never lets you in again. With some men (heck, with most men), as far as ‘seeing the real him' goes, you get one chance and one chance only. If you mess up and shame him for revealing his real self, he'll never let you in again.

So: if this is the case, I want you to go back and reread the start of this lesson where I talk about the VITAL IMPORTANCE of not making a man your ‘everything'.

Next, remember to keep your own life full and exciting. Helps to keep the pressure off of him to be ‘perfect'.

And finally: an incredible relationship is all about reciprocity. That means he trusts you with his shadow side … and you trust him with yours.

If you can let him open up to you now, then you can trust him to have your back when you need his support in future.

Oh, and finally: all humans have a dark side. A big part of accepting someone else's ‘shadow side' is accepting your OWN. How hard are you on yourself? Do you know how to accept and forgive your own flaws? It's

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going to be pretty hard for you to be cool with his if you can't handle your own.

Ultimately, it's better to be HUMAN, flaws and all, than it is to hide behind a false face of perfection and flawlessness. Real love is seeing someone as they ARE, warts and all (and we all have our own warts) and accepting them as they are.

So now that you know what the Honesty Conditioning script is, why it works so well, and HOW to use it, here’s what I want you to do:

Go to the downloads section for this module and check out the 2 worksheets for this module that I’ve put together for you.

Fill them out.

Then, come back to the program, and move on to Module 10, where I’ll teach you about the Forgiveness chemical … and you’ll get your hands on the ‘forgive and forget’ technique!

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