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Multiple miscarriage:Psychosocial implications
Uschi Van den BroeckMaster in Psychology
University Hospital of Leuven, BelgiumDepartment of Gynaecology/Fertility Center
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
1. Psychology of pregnancy
‘Pregnancy begins psychologically, long before it occurs physically.’
Socialization: imaginative play ‘playing house’
Society has certain expectations for women and men: motherhood is often placed on a ‘pedestal’
1. Psychology of pregnancy
Sense of control:Women have multiple roles (career, family, social,…)
Birth control: freedom to decide when ‘not’ to get pregnant
Illusion of control
Couples talk about their plans for the future
Pregnancy is ‘planned’, ‘timed’
1. Psychology of pregnancy
Bonding and prenatal attachment starts sooner because of modern technology Ultrasounds 3D images …
1. Psychology of pregnancy
Pregnancy = unique experience
Influenced by: Cultural factors Personal history: family of origin Personality Relationship: ‘early days’, ‘long term’, ‘single’, .. Expectations and beliefs Social environment
1. Psychology of pregnancy
Growing towards motherhood fatherhood
Fantasies and dreams about life with future child
Experiences with parenting in family of origin are evaluated
‘New goal’
1. Psychology of pregnancy
Social event:
Grandparents and changing family structure: a new generation
Work-related issues: maternity leave, part-time work etc.
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
1. Psychology of pregnancy loss
‘A crisis within a crisis’
Conflicting emotions: Sometimes first experience with death for
couples Elation of pregnancy followed by despair of
pregnancy loss Loss of a baby, a part of yourself, your health,
control, potential, reproductive capacity etc. …
1. Psychology of pregnancy loss
Loss is multi-layered Individual loss Family loss (parents, siblings, grandparents, etc.) Impact on relationships Impact on life conditions Impact on future plans, goals
GRIEVING
1. Psychology of pregnancy loss
Expectations and beliefs about future life are destroyed
Idea of ‘controllable world’ challenged
Confrontation with ‘sterile’ medical world is often painful ‘Unrecognized loss’ Miscarriage is ‘normal’
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
3. The grieving process
Grief is a normal, healthy, dynamic, universal and individual respons to loss
Kaleidoscope
Healing process: surviving and continuing to live
3. The grieving process
Grief (Covington, 2000) ‘Tidal wave’:
growing and cresting with time
Intense feelings of shock, disbelief, anger, self-blame, rage, guilt, anxiety, depression unpredictable and repetitive pattern
Expressions of grief: physical/somatic, psychological, social, emotional, cognitive
‘Triggers’: reminders and rekindlers
‘Shadow grief’: it’s always there
3. The grieving process
Unique aspects of perinatal grief
Prospective: few memories
Multidimensional: individual’s unique experience
Little anticipatory grieving: sudden and without warning
No or little public acknowledgement
Absence of visible ‘object’ to mourn
Few socially acceptable avenues for mourning
Lack of social support
‘Pain of not ever knowing’
3. The grieving process
Mourning characteristics
Parents’ expectations and attitude towards the pregnancy: influences respons to the potential or actual loss
Personal beliefs: ideas, hopes, dreams and dreads about the pregnancy
Cultural background
Gestational age/postnatal age affects the grief process
Attachment to the pregnancy and future baby or babies is formed prenatal
time alone is not necessarily an indicator of the level or degree of attachment (Moulder, 1994)
3. The grieving process
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted
with multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Multiple miscarriage?
World Health Organization (WHO)
At least 3 or more consecutive pregnancy losses before the 22nd gestational week
1% of couples (Bagchi & Friedman, 1999) Recurrent pregnancy loss:
Traumatic event Symptoms of depression, anxiety, lowered self-
esteem, …
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Every loss is followed by a new period of grieving
Increasing ambivalence about each consecutive pregnancy
Protective mechanism: distancing from a new pregnancy, beginning bereavementprocess and seperation before an actual loss occurs
Degree of attachment is a better predictor for severity of grief reactions than gestational age
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Major life-event: individual differences
Sadness Regret
Shocked Confused Angry
Guilty Responsible
Emptiness Panicky
Loneliness Stressed
Lack of self-confidence
Longing Despair
Out of control
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
Headache Stomach achees
Shortness of breath constipated
Tightness in the chest
Problems with sleeping
Lack of appetite …….
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Physical and emotional lossdifferent for women and men
Self-blaming possibilities
‘Injustice’: Why is this happening to me? Feelings of helplessness Need to blame someone Desire to bring a sense of control to the event Hope that if a cause can be identified, a
recurrence can be prevented
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Feeling that they’ve disappointed their partners, their family
Doubts about reproductive competence
Marital strain: differences can be misinterpreted
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Gender differences: mothers and fathers:
Loss is equally important but the experience can be very different
Different ways of experiencing feelings + at different times
It’s a journey, not a destination
Dance of closeness and distance (Rosenblatt, 2006)
Fathers are often overlooked, feel ignored or excluded: have to deal with organisational tasks
Sexual relationship can be difficult for a while physical reminder of the pregnancy
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Risk of more intense or longer lasting destress: Pregnancy strongly desired Waited a long time to conceive No living children Elective abortions Other losses in history Few warning signs that a loss might occur Experienced the loss relatively late in
pregnancy Little social support History of coping poorly
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage (Cuisinier, 1996)
Recurrent miscarriage = recurrent disappointment
In general couples cope fairly well
Already having children >< no live children Thoughts about a future pregnancy Will I ever conceive? Will I be able to keep the pregnancy? Need for a succesful pregnancy becomes
overwhelming Secondary childwish: often incomprehension of
environment ‘Why do you need another child?’
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
‘How long will I feel like this?’
Expectations from environment
Bad times even when you feel better (process of grief!!)
‘Shadow’ grief
4. Common feelings when confronted with multiple miscarriage
Social environment Many different expectations Confrontation with pregnancy: painful, often
avoidance or trying to be brave People often don’t know how to respond:
minimalizing Reactions can be hurtful Seek out supporting contacts No matter what people ‘recommend’, seek what
is right for you and feels right for you. Grandparents and other relatives have lost a
‘family member’ too.
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
5. Coping with grief and loss
There is no right or wrong. ‘There are no rules.’
‘I think I should be over it by now.’ ‘Some people go through worse things.’
There is only one way, and that is your way.
5. Coping with grief and loss
Accepting the reality of the loss
Experiencing the pain and the loss in your life
Adjusting to a life without the pregnancy and without your babies
Trying to make sense of it and give life meaning again
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
6. Infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss
Infertility and miscarriage are both devastating experiences
Together: larger impact
Physical component of treatment can become more invasive and traumatic with each repeated reproductive failure
Impact on partner relationship
Impact on social relationships
‘Invisible loss’
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
7. Trying again…
Timing? Too soon Not soon enough
Sexual relationship can become pressured
‘Careless’ pregnancy is gone
Rituals and superstition
Sharing the good news with friends and family
Extra check-up and honest reassurance from the medical team can help reduce anxieties
Overview
1. The psychology of pregnancy 2. The psychology of pregnancy loss3. The grieving process4. Common feelings when confronted with
multiple miscarriage5. Coping with grief and loss6. Infertility and pregnancy loss7. Trying again…8. Helpful interventions
8. Helpful interventions
Reality reinforcing interventions
Decision making is up to the couple but ‘informed’ choice
‘Joining’ the couple
Creating a safe ‘holding environment’
Listening without judging
8. Helpful interventions
Creating mementos
Memorial activities
Self care
Keeping a journal: writing things down
Reaching out: talking with friends, support groups, etc.