now that you’ve said “i do!”
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Now That You’ve Said “I Do!”. South Sound Church of Christ Marriage Workshop?. What Is Marriage? Uniqueness and Acceptance in Marriage Expectations in Marriage Fulfilling Intimacy Needs in Marriage Roles Responsibilities and Decision Making Communication in Marriage - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Now That You’ve Said
“I Do!”South Sound Church of
Christ Marriage Workshop?
Future Sessions
1. What Is Marriage?2. Uniqueness and Acceptance in Marriage3. Expectations in Marriage4. Fulfilling Intimacy Needs in Marriage5. Roles Responsibilities and Decision Making6. Communication in Marriage7. Dealing with Conflict in Marriage8. Sex in Marriage
REVIEWHomework Last Week
For Homework
Review Expectations Worksheet (Handout)
FULFILLING INTIMACY NEEDS IN MARRIAGE
Defining Intimacy
What does intimacy mean to you?
What Is Intimacy?The word intimacy actually means “inmost”. Intimacy suggests a very strong personal relationship that connects to our deepest needs, a special emotional closeness that includes understanding and being understood by someone who is very special.
Intimacy is taking the risk to be close to someone and allowing
that someone to step inside your most personal boundaries.
Intimacy means vulnerability, but it also means security.
Intimacy Needs in Marriage
Q. How has intimacy in your marriage lead you to be vulnerable with one another and how has it created security in your relationship with each other?
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Emotional IntimacyDo you feel close to one another? Do you feel emotionally supported and
cared for by your mate? emotional intimacy means there is a sharing of your hurts and joys and a sense that each of you is genuinely
interested in the well being of the other.
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Social IntimacyDo you have many friends in common as
opposed to socializing separately? Having time together with mutual
friends is an important part of your shared activities.
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Sexual IntimacyTrue sexual intimacy involves more than
the mere performance of the sex act, but sexual expression is an essential
part of the relationship.
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Intellectual IntimacyIntellectual intimacy involves the
sharing of ideas. In short, when you are intellectually intimate, you talk to each
other. More than just superficial conversations about the weather, you seek input from your mate regarding issues of importance. You value your
mate’s opinion and want to share your own.
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Recreational IntimacyYou enjoy and share in many of the
same “just for fun” activities. You have many similar interests.
Evaluating Intimacy in Your Marriage
Spiritual IntimacyFor you to be spiritually intimate, three
criteria must be met:a. You must share common similar beliefs
about God.b. These beliefs must be important and
significant to your lives.c. You must honestly share where you are in
your own spiritual quest.
Emotions Can Affect Intimacy
• Fear• Disappointment• Pleasure• Sadness• Resentment• Hurt
• Frustration• Anxiety• Anger• Joy• Delight• Elation• Love
Dealing with emotions appropriately leads to
intimacy.
Scriptures to Consider
For Discussion
God has promised to meet our intimacy needs.
Q. How do the following passages relate to your needs for intimacy?
Psalm 103:4…who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with
love and compassion
Matthew 6:33-34But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things
will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about
tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough
trouble of its own.
Romans 5:8, 8:35, 39Ro. 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.Ro. 8:35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?Ro. 8:39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Matthew 6:33-34But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things
will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about
tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough
trouble of its own.
For Homework
Take some time together on a date to identify and discuss your intimate needs with each other.•Make plans this week to meet your spouse’s needs.