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OMM is pleased to announce new leadership for the Healthcare Team at OMM. While the faces are not new to the community

their roles are – Jacob Will, Administrator for Health Services and Sharel Mayberry,

Director of Assisted Living.

“I am passionate about what I do. Ageism is real and it effects people in devastating ways,” said Jacob

1. Favorite Book: Born to Run by Chris McDougall2. Makes me Laugh: My daily conversations with

my oldest son (almost 4).

3. Growing Up I Wanted to Be: A Dentist4. Go-to Karaoke Song: Stick Shifts and Safety Belts

by Cake

5. Favorite Meal: Sushi6. My Friends Describe Me: Fun loving, maybe a

little talkative. I usually have a story to tell.

7. Can’t Live Without: Snacks. I eat constantly. 8. First Job: Working on farms and grain elevators

in Kansas.

9. Favorite Family Tradition? Pitch games - we don’t mess around with card games.

10. Favorite Movie: Moulin Rouge

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NEW FACES FOR HEALTHCARE

ADMINISTRATION AT THE MANOR

JACOB

JACOB WILL, SHAREL MAYBERRY, STEVE DICKIE

Will, new Administrator of Health Services. “Our Elders should be given the highest respect in our society and too often they are cast aside. We are ignoring our most precious resources of knowledge.”

Jacob will serve as the Licensed Nursing Home Administrator overseeing the six Healthcare Households. He has served the OMM community for 10 years. “My goal is to have people clamoring to get a job here and to have their loved one live here,” said Jacob. One of his objectives in this position is for people to come to work happy, full of energy and leave feeling they made a positive difference in someone’s day.

Also taking on a new role is Sharel Mayberry, who will be the Director of the Holliman Center. She has served for the last three years as the Social Services Coordinator in the Healthcare Households. Sharel is a Licensed Assisted Living Administrator and has extensive management experience, both in traditional assisted living and memory care assisted living. In her new role she will be responsible for the Holliman Center and the new Memory Care Households.

“This is an exciting time for our community and I feel Jacob and Sharel are the right people to move us forward with our top priorities of excellent quality care, effective leadership, and fi nancial stewardship,” said Steve Dickie, CEO.

Steve Dickie

CEO

Scott Morgan

SENIOR VP OF FINANCE

Dennis Graham

VP OF OPERATIONS

Cari Owens

VP OF SALES AND MARKETING

Bill Peterson

VP OF HUMAN RESOURCES

Bonnie J. Polak

VP OF DEVELOPMENTAND PUBLIC RELATIONS

EDITOR

Jennifer Rawlings

VP OF WELLNESS

Jacob Will

ADMINISTRATOR OFHEALTH SERVICES

PHONE NUMBER: (918) 743-2565

WEBSITE: ommtulsa.org

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OKLAHOMA METHODIST MANOR

BY DUB AMBROSE, CHAPLAIN

We are excited to honor two OMM employees for their long-time service to Oklahoma Methodist Manor and our

community members and their families.

5 YEARS OF SERVICE Herbert Muwanguzi - CMA Caregiver, Hopson Lane

and Mabee Point

10 YEARS OF SERVICE Jacob Will - Administration

AWARDService

O M M

DAY DAYBY DAY BY DAY BY DAY

byWHAT DOES YOUR TYPICAL DAY LOOK LIKE? WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU DO ON A DAILY BASIS - DAY BY DAY?

If you’re like me, many of those daily things are done in an almost “autopilot” mode. And

typically, I’m doing them as I think about

other things, make plans, and fi ll my “to do list” for the

day ahead and the days to come.

Mark 1:35 tells us, “Before daybreak the next morning, Jesus got up and went out to an isolated place to pray.” Here are some things I believe about this account:• It was not a one-time moment for Jesus. It

happened regularly - day by day.• The time (early morning) and the place

(isolated) was important to Him.• Perhaps He began with Psalm 118:24, “This is

the day the LORD has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it.”

• This was a time of deep, tender, heart-touching interaction between Christ and His Heavenly Father, our Heavenly Father.

But perhaps the most astonishing thing about this exchange is that you are invited to it too, day by day.

I am reminded of Richard DeWych an orphan who became a priest in the Anglican church

in the mid-13th century. He loved serving small parishes. He became well-known for his counselling and preaching. He eventually became Bishop of Chichester, in southeast England. He died in 1253 and nine years later was canonized as Saint Richard. He is credited with the following prayer…

Dear Lord,Of Thee three things I pray:

To see Thee more clearlyLove Thee more dearly

Follow Thee more nearly,Day by day.

You are invited to walk with Jesus day by day. And, when you do, you will see Him more clearly, which will cause you to love Him more dearly, and out of your love, you will gladly, joyfully follow Him more nearly. Why not begin right now!

Pray, “Dear Lord, Of Thee three things I pray…”

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ROBERTA HAIRSTON........................................................1

FRANCES CONKLING................................................….4

SHIRLEY HOCKETT….......................................................4

BOB INNIS...........................................................................4

DONNA KEENER...............................................................4

PHILELLE MCBRAYER......................................................6

DORIS PIATAK................................................................….9

JOANN BASS…..............................................................….10

MARY STUBBS...............................................................…10

BOBBIE ZIEGLER..............................................................10

JOHN MARQUIS...............................................................11

BILL BAILEY........................................................................12

WANDA VEIT…...................................................................12

RUTH BURCH.....................................................................13

JUNE OWENS..................................................................13

ANITA DEWHURST..........................................................14

CAROLYN EHLERS..........................................................14

LEONARD STUBBS....................................................….14

MARY DAMEWOOD......................................................15

SARAH JENKINS…...........................................................16

LOUISE REID…....................................................................16

JANE WATERS....................................................................16

CAROL TOBLER..........................................................….…17

MARILYN WILSON............................................................18

BILL SPEAR........................................................................18

FRANK DOUGLASS....................................................…19

MARITA MORGAN........................................................….19

MARTHA SWEZEY.....................................................….20

BETTY MILLER….........................................................….24

DAVID THOMAS..........................................................….26

SUE DUNCAN..........................................................…….27

JAN EVANS......................................................................27

BRUCE NIXON................................................................27

MEREDITH GENTRY......................................................30

VIRGINIA KINGSOLVER..............................................31

BY PHYLLIS RHODES

JOHN AND MARILYN BERRY………................10/12/2012

EARL AND JOANNA TUERS….............…….10/19/2002

JIM AND CONNIE DAVIS……...................….10/30/2012

LEWIS “PETE” WHITTET……....................….8/31/2020

KATHERINE REID……...................................….9/15/2020

SEPTEMBER ANNIVERSARIES

IN MEMORY OF....

Please join the Book Club on Tuesday, October 20th at 7 p.m. in the Fleming Center for a great night of literary fun. This month’s book is Home to Harmony by Phillip Gulley.

The story is told from the perspective of Sam Gardner, who grew up in the small town of Harmony and has now returned as the minister of the local Quaker congregation. He begins his inaugural year as pastor to a new fl ock of old friends, family members, and outrageous eccentrics -- in this unforgettable place where earth-shattering events rarely occur, but small life-altering ones happen daily.

This is not like a regular novel. Each chapter is a story in and of itself about life in a small town. The lessons to be learned at the end of each chapter were good to think about during this season of unrest.

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The October STARS Employee of the Month is Beverly Bufford a CNA in Cobb Landing. Beverly is a caregiver in the Alzheimer’s and Dementia Household. She originally started at OMM in 2014, took a short break and has been back since March of 2020.

“I truly love working with the elders in Cobb,” said Beverly. She was born in Tulsa but grew up and attended school in Chicago, IL. She met her husband in high school and they have been married 20 years. They have seven children, four girls and three boys. Her favorite holiday is Thanksgiving because she loves to cook and spend time with her family.

What her supervisor says, “Beverly is such kind soul. She is one of the trainers on Cobb Landing for new employees and is always so thorough and patient with everyone through their learning experience,” said Julie Akers, Household Manager in Cobb Landing.

BEVERLY BUFFORD

NEIGHBORSMEET YOUR OMM

Kay Brown is excited to be here, after researching the area’s retirement options. She said “OMM is the best fi t for me.” She is originally from St. Peter, Minnesota and graduated from The College of St. Scholastica a private Benedictine college in Duluth. She then went on to get her master’s degree in Social Work from the University of Oklahoma.

She worked for the Department of Human Services in Choctaw, OK as a supervisor of social services, for youth. Additionally, she worked for 19 years as an elementary school counselor in McLoud Public Schools. “I just loved working with kids,” said Kay.

Now that she is retired, she enjoys being with family and friends, reading, fi shing, playing games and tracing her genealogy. She has even gone back as far as the 1700s fi nding her lineage. She is looking forward to traveling more and getting involved on campus.

Kay attends the Church of the Resurrection. She has two daughters, one lives here in Tulsa and the other lives in Florida. She is also “Nana” to six grandchildren and one great grandson.

Dan Nickel moved to OMM in late July to be closer to family. He was born and raised in St. Louis, MO and attended Washington University where he received his degree in accounting. Prior to moving to the Manor, he lived in Ballwin, MO at Meramac Bluffs Retirement Community.

He served in the Navy for three years as a Signalman 1st Class from 1943 to 1946 stationed in the Pacifi c on a tanker called the Seafoam. He was married to his late wife, Dorothy, for 69 years. He still remembers how organized, proper, and beautiful she was. In fact, this month would have been their 70th wedding anniversary.

Prior to retiring Dan work as the CFO for the largest Chevrolet dealership in St. Louis for 19 years. He enjoyed playing mens’ fast-pitch softball in his spare time and even pitched three no hitters – wow! Since retiring Dan likes to watch his beloved St. Louis Blues play hockey and really enjoyed watching them win the Stanley Cup last year!

Dan attended St. Paul’s Evangelical Church and was a Shriner who gave tours at the Shriners Hospital for Children while living in St. Louis. He loves living near his son and granddaughter.

University where he received his degree in accounting. Prior to moving to the Manor, he lived in Ballwin, MO at Meramac Bluffs

He served in the Navy for three years as a Signalman 1st Class from 1943 to 1946 stationed in the Pacifi c on a tanker called the Seafoam. He was married to his late wife, Dorothy, for 69 years. He still remembers how organized, proper, and beautiful she was. In fact, this month would have been their 70th wedding

Prior to retiring Dan work as the CFO for the largest Chevrolet dealership in St. Louis for 19 years. He enjoyed playing mens’ fast-pitch softball in his spare time and even pitched three no hitters – wow! Since retiring Dan likes to watch his beloved St. Louis Blues play hockey and really enjoyed watching them win the Stanley

Dan attended St. Paul’s Evangelical Church and was a Shriner who gave tours at the Shriners Hospital for Children while living

Dan Nickel – Crestwood

Kay Brown – Crestwood

WelcomeKAY BROWN

DAN NICKEL He o

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Nan Herber was born and raised in Texline, TX located in the panhandle of Texas right on the New Mexico state line. She and her late husband, Marvin, lived there until 2016 when they moved to Amarillo. They owned a farm and raised cattle and other animals. “I am a country girl at heart,” said Nan.

She spent most of her life on a farm and enjoyed raising their three children. In the summers they would head to Colorado where they owned Riverside Resort located in Lake City, CO. Some of her favorite times were during the summers when they would rent out cabins and entertain the guests.

Nan enjoys reading books, knitting, and crocheting. All you have to do is look around her apartment to see her talent. Her recent move to Tulsa from Amarillo has allowed her to be closer to her family. She has two sons and a daughter as well as fi ve grandchildren and great grandchildren.

Robert Bense joined the OMM community in June and is fi tting right in! He was born and raised in southern Illinois. Robert graduated from University of Illinois where he received his undergraduate degree in Philosophy and the Classics and his master’s degree in English from Southern Illinois University.

Robert served in the Army in Paris, France as a NATO librarian for two years. He really enjoyed that assignment because he met so many interesting people and was able to travel all over eastern Europe.

Prior to retiring he was a college professor for 40 years at several universities including Northern Illinois University, William & Mary, and Bucks Community College. His favorite thing about teaching was “when I would get an enthusiastic student who loved the subject matter.”

In his free time, he truly loves classical music. He is enjoying the OMM Thursday night concerts. His favorite types of music are a good string quartet or bluegrass. He likes working out in Spann Wellness Center and that has allowed him to meet other community members.

Nan Herber was born and raised in Texline, TX located in the panhandle of Texas right on the New Mexico state line. She and her late husband, Marvin, lived there until 2016 when they moved to Amarillo. They owned a farm and raised cattle and other animals. “I am a country girl at

She spent most of her life on a farm and enjoyed raising their three children. In the summers they would head to Colorado where they owned Riverside Resort located in Lake City, CO. Some of her favorite times were during the summers when they would rent out cabins and entertain

Nan enjoys reading books, knitting, and crocheting. All you have to do is look around her apartment to see her talent. Her recent move to Tulsa from Amarillo has allowed her to be closer to her family. She has two sons and a daughter as

Nan Herber – Crestwood

Robert Bense – Felt House

WelcomeROBERT BENSE

NAN HERBERGreetings to

BY JENNIFER RAWLINGS

BY JOHN C. WESTERVELT

Until this new face covering requirement, I never knew how much I depended on reading lips and watching people’s facial expressions. Now I fi nd mysef turning toward to a conversation just to hear better. This pandemic has brought about all kinds of adjustments and adaptations to life and now communication is at the top of that list. As if communication was not already on this list of diffi cult things!

According to a survey from the Hearing Health Foundation, 87 percent of respondents were experiencing communication problems from face masks, so you are not alone when dealing with this frustration. So how can we adapt and try to eliminate some of the frustration that we have all felt while staying safe?

The best tip of all is to remember to be patient, kind and courteous. These three factors are key to all our success! If we are patient, kind and courteous we will all get through this together and be better communicators in the long run!

Tips and Resources pulled from UPMC Health Beat. For more information visit: https://share.upmc.

com/2020/06/hearing-loss-facemasks/

Catherine Crain, the wife of my boyhood pastor, died on the second of August, two days after her 92nd birthday. Her death reminded me of my own journey through life. I fi rst met Catherine when I was a member of the Methodist Youth Fellowship at Wesley Church in Oklahoma City in the 1940s.

I stayed in touch with Nuell and Catherine through the years because I loved them so much. When I would visit my daughter in Dallas, we would have lunch with Catherine, by now a widow,

Hearing Loss + Face Coverings =

FRUSTRATION• UTILIZE TECHNOLOGY. Check your smart

phone for apps or applications like voice to text or hearing aid compatibility. Also, when you go to church or attend a concert or gathering, ask the venue if they have hearing aid assistive devices available.

• BE PREPARED. When you are going to group meetings, concerts, or dinner make sure your hearing aid batteries are new or carry a backup.

• TAKE NOTES. If you are only catching every other word, it might help to write them down so you can go back and try to connect the dots.

• SPEAK SLOWLY AND CLEARLY. Do not

exaggerate or overemphasize your words.

• DO NOT SHOUT. Speaking louder does not always mean speaking clearly. When you shout it can make it harder to understand what you are trying to say.

• THINK ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT. Try to avoid locations with a lot of background noise when having conversations. If this is not possible utilize some of the tips above.

• IT’S OK TO REPEAT YOURSELF. Do not be embarrassed if you need to repeat yourself or if you need to ask someone to repeat themselves. We are all in the same boat!

Most of us have at least gotten used to wearing a face covering

during the pandemic, but what we have not gotten used to is trying to understand what people are saying

under that face covering.

and her daughter. Catherine’s sparkling eyes and infectious laugh were the same as in the days of my youth.

Meditating on the loss of my friend, I imagined once again driving along the journey of life. Most of the journey is about looking out the windshield to view the present and occasionally straining my eyes to see the future on the dim horizon. A glance now and then in the rear-view mirror lets me reminisce about the past.

My life’s journey has been over hills of good times and through valleys of despair. On God’s earth there can be no hills unless there are valleys. I suppose life’s journey must be the same. Similarly, while on the top of the hills of life, I ask Jesus to increase my faith, so I’ll have the reserve to pull through the valleys. If you are struggling in a valley, remember that sooner or later a hill always follows.

LIFE’S HILLS AND VALLEYS

Hearing Loss + Face Coverings =

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Asbury Power & Light Orchestra Outdoor Concert!

Thursday, October 1 at 5:45 p.m., behind CrestwoodRSVP required. Sign up on Wellness Reservation form.

We’ll kick off Fall with a delightful outdoor concert by Asbury United Methodist Church’s praise band, Asbury Power & Light, directed by Ed Morse. The group plays monthly at the 9:15 a.m. Sanctuary service, participates in special services and concerts, and plays for churches in and around Tulsa. They present a wide variety of spiritual and gospel music in many different styles. Chairs will be provided, with thanks to Christ United Methodist Church.

Mike Bennett BandOutdoor Concert

Thursday, October 15 at 4 p.m., behind CrestwoodRSVP required. Sign up on Wellness Reservation form.

We’ll head back outside to hear this quintet play your favoritehits from the Big Band era. Bandleader and trumpeter Mike Bennett has been one of the most sought after trumpeters in the area for decades. After 20 years, playing weekly dances with the Sammy Pagna Orchestra, he now plays regularly with his own band, the Jambalaya Jass Band, the Tulsa Playboys and Bob Wills’ Texas Playboys. Other talented band members will join him on piano, bass, drums and saxophone/clarinet. Tickets and masks required. Chairs will be provided, with thanks to Christ United Methodist Church.

Choral MasterpiecesFridays, October 23 and 30 at 1 p.m. in the Fleming Center

RSVP required. Sign up on Wellness Reservation form.

One of Tulsa’s best known music educators and long-time conductor of the Tulsa Youth Symphony, Ron Wheeler returns. In a time when choral singing is rare, Wheeler delves into the beautiful choral works of some of the world’s greatest composers, with plenty of musical samples. On October 23, he will enlighten us on Verdi’s Requiem and on October 30, Mahler’s Resurrection Symphony.

A Taste of Rio in Tulsa with BossaThurday, October 29 at 7 p.m. in the Fleming Center

RSVP required sign up on Wellness Reservation form.

The month ends with Latin music for the soul and rhythm for your hips by one of Tulsa’s hottest new groups, Bossa. This fabulous group features guitarist Randy Wimer, upright bassist Stephen Schultz, percussionist Michael Bremo, and vocalist Ana Berry (whom you may recognize from TV.) Bossa Nova is beautiful rhythmic music from Brazil and the group will also perform some salsa, samba, mambo, and cha-cha-cha!

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GUESS WHO?

1. I have run 10 marathons.

2. Served as Mayor of Morris, OK for six years.

3. I have been in the home of Ted Turner

and Jane Fonda.

4. I have an identical twin brother.

5. I travel all over the country in an RV with my spouse,

mother-in-law and her sister – and truly enjoy it!

6. Padre Island is named after a member of my

family.

7. I have been a football announcer for 26 years.

8. I am a bass player in a Christian Rock band.

1. Steve Dickie, Administration 2. Ron Brown, Security 3. Chuck Lucia, Dining 4. Shequeel “ Shaq” Smith, Housekeeping 5. Dennis Graham, Operations 6. Lupina Fry, Wellness 7. Darin Jones, Maintenance 8. Thomas Wheat, Priddy Harbor

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