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PLEASE RETURN YOUR PLEDGE CARD THIS MONTH Grace Church runs a balanced, prudent budget for ministry. Knowing anticipated income helps us to be better planners for the Kingdom. The SPIRIT of GRACE GRACE EPISCOPAL CHURCH, 820 Howard St, PO Box 596, Carthage MO 64836 417-358-4631, fax 417-358-6775 [email protected] website: gracecarthage.org The Maple Leaf parade this year will feature something newa float with your parish’s name on it. A group of ladies from our Thurs morning exercise group, “Tai Chi and Tea,” decided months ago that it would be a phenomenal use of some battered old wooden chairs, chairs with character one might say, to have them painted by local artists and craftspersons, and to auction them off to benefit the new infusion/ chemotherapy unit which is going into our hospital here in Carthage this winter. “Come Sit a Spell,” the project is called. Now, how does one advertise chairs to the sitting public? Well, those same ladies got some friends, and their husbands, and showed up at Bill and Libby Wilson’s barn one weekend to make a float on which the chairs, and perhaps some of the artists too, will glide down the street. This is how ministry works. People, men and women, listen to the promptings of the Spirit. Prompt- ings that call us to reach out to our neighbors in need, to offer what we have. We all know people who have suffered from cancerand very few of us are oncologists (Dr. Carter might be the only exception in the parish….) or certified infusion nurses (Chalaine Bell, are you the only one on our roles?). However, everyone can help find a way to make that process of infusion more com- fortable. We can help fund a cushy, heated, massaging chair, probably the best infu- sion chair available anywhere in the state. Or we can paint a wooden chair to help fund it. Or put some tissue paper in chicken wire to advertise it. Or talk this project up to our neighbors who are just aching to have a chair with Monet’s water lilies on the cushion, or the Carthage court house on the back, or the Lorax on the seat. We do what we can, creatively, and cooperatively. And so we make a differ- ence that matters. When the Church is do- ing ministry, when people are exercising their gifts together for greater purposes, well, that’s when the Church matters. At the September Vestry meeting, we dis- cussed what our project should be for the Easter 2019 birthday of this parish, our sesquicentennial. Of course, we’ll have a dinner and festival Eucharist and commis- sion throw pillows of the rose window or mugs with the building on them or some- thing. But maybe we should do more than just have a nice little party? Shouldn’t we change the town for the better? Shoudn’t we do ministry, together? In other words, isn’t it time to do something crazy, like paint chairs for cancer? Something that isn’t crazy at all, because it’s faithful, hope- ful, love-full? I’m asking you for your ideas on how we can do that. How we can change lives, creatively and cooperatively. Because this Church matters. It has for almost 150 years. And we’re just getting started…. October 2014 FROM the RECTORY: The Very Rev STEVEN C WILSON Coffee Hosts Tom & Anita Flanigan

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The Maple Leaf parade this year will feature something new—a float with your parish’s name on it. A group of ladies from our Thurs morning exercise group, “Tai Chi and Tea,” decided months ago that it would be a phenomenal use of some battered old wooden chairs, chairs with character one might say, to have them painted by local artists and craftspersons, and to auction them off to benefit the new infusion/chemotherapy unit which is going into our hospital here in Carthage this winter. “Come Sit a Spell,” the project is called. Now, how does one advertise chairs to the sitting public? Well, those same ladies got some friends, and their husbands, and showed up at Bill and Libby Wilson’s barn one weekend to make a float on which the chairs, and perhaps some of the artists too, will glide down the street. This is how ministry works. People, men and women, listen to the promptings of the Spirit. Prompt-ings that call us to reach out to our neighbors in need, to offer what we have. We all know people who have suffered from cancer—and very few of us are oncologists (Dr. Carter might be the only exception in the parish….) or certified infusion nurses (Chalaine Bell, are you the only one on our roles?). However, everyone can help find a way to

make that process of infusion more com-fortable. We can help fund a cushy, heated, massaging chair, probably the best infu-sion chair available anywhere in the state. Or we can paint a wooden chair to help fund it. Or put some tissue paper in chicken wire to advertise it. Or talk this project up to our neighbors who are just aching to have a chair with Monet’s water lilies on the cushion, or the Carthage court house on the back, or the Lorax on the seat. We do what we can, creatively, and cooperatively. And so we make a differ-ence that matters. When the Church is do-ing ministry, when people are exercising their gifts together for greater purposes, well, that’s when the Church matters. At the September Vestry meeting, we dis-cussed what our project should be for the Easter 2019 birthday of this parish, our sesquicentennial. Of course, we’ll have a dinner and festival Eucharist and commis-sion throw pillows of the rose window or mugs with the building on them or some-thing. But maybe we should do more than just have a nice little party? Shouldn’t we change the town for the better? Shoudn’t we do ministry, together? In other words, isn’t it time to do something crazy, like paint chairs for cancer? Something that isn’t crazy at all, because it’s faithful, hope-ful, love-full? I’m asking you for your ideas on how we can do that. How we can change lives, creatively and cooperatively. Because this Church matters. It has for almost 150 years. And we’re just getting started….

October 2014 FROM the RECTORY:

The Very Rev STEVEN C WILSON

Coffee Hosts Tom & Anita

Flanigan

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OCTOBER BIRTHDAYS

1 Chris Hunter, Mike Wilkowski, Ceri Otero, Dillon Kendall 2 Bill Lee 3 Rev. Jeff Bell 4 Robert Denning, Ron Ferguson, Shary Lee 5 Cathy Thompson 8 Pam White Schaffer 9 Kirk Pierce 10 Kenneth Johnson, Sue Godsey 11 Simone Dowell, Gregg Vinson 12 Dennis Connell 13 Robin Frink, Madison Kyger 14 Annette Mora Hernandez, Dylan Alejandro

Mora Hernandez 15 Wesley Campbell Jr., Crystal Stiles 16 Eric Ferrell 17 Charlyn Mansfield 18 Madi Berry 19 Dr Brad Cameron, Michael Sneed, Alicia

Dickinson-Hoffman 20 Katie Rollins, Naydean Kuhns 21 Donna Bowman, Allen Hopp, Amber Kenagy 23 Michael Cartright, Steve Jespersen 24 Omar Vasquez 25 Cathy Hauser, Harry Kester 26 Will Mansfield 27 Pat Cowen 28 Scott Stone, William Rhoads, Karma

McGinnis 29 Julio Ovalle

ANNIVERSARIES 2 David & Liz Foster 10 Daniel & Stephanie Lynch 17 Roy & Bonny Douglas, Kirk & Piper Pierce, Michael & Bonnie Tolle 18 Chris & Beth Kang 21 Daniel & Elaine Wurst Lanham 23 Dale & Cathy Moomaw 30 Joe & Susan Barfield

SEPT VESTRY

At the Sept 16 Vestry meeting: Rector’s report: Our new secretarial arrangement is working out well. Sally is a very solid and friendly presence in the office three days a week, and our Mon and Fri volunteers have been a great help. We have requested information from some agencies regarding their policies on accepting and disposing of real estate and other real assets, since we have recently been the recipient of several such gifts or informed that we shall be in the fu-ture. In Oct my term as dean of the Southern Deanery ends. Fr. Ted’s report: Sunday school and Youth group curriculum and staffing have been reworked, and the program is off to a great start. The home visi-tation ministry, St Barnabas’ Guild, has begun and been well received. Junior Warden’s Report: We’ve had a number of light bulbs burn out, but we can’t replace them quickly, as they are fluorescent-only and those are on back order. Treasurer’s Report: July & Aug were about nor-mal in income, but expenses are higher with a sec-ond priest. Year to date, pledges are very slow—$10,873 behind anticipated. Please return your pledge cards soon and seek to bring pledges “up to date” if possible. New Business: A motion was made and passed to remove half of the front pew on the south to provide for more accessible handicapped seating. A motion was made and passed to allow the Rec-tor to find a second nursery helper for Sunday mornings—our nursery population is growing rapidly, a good thing indeed! A required IRS hous-ing resolution for Fr. Ted was accepted. Computer updates from memorial accounts were approved to Fr. Ted and Sally’s equipment. A new closet was approved for Spencer Hall for $1261. The nominating committee for 2015 Vestry was ap-proved.

Next meeting: 5:30 pm Tues, Oct 21

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St Luke’s: Evelyn Jackson, Edith Pemberton, Barbara Robert-son, Joan Heidlage, Mary Lou Yarbrough, Evelyn Shockey, George Flanigan, Frieda Martin, Dorothy Alumbaugh KC: Dick Rush Nixa Life Enhancement: Eric Adams College View Manor: Hop & Ellie Flanigan, Nell Jones Chicago: Elida Jara Maple Tree Terrace: Betty Hoover Lawrence County Manor: Raelene Nickols (Homebound) Jean Page, Becky Steele, Vi Wampler, Art Fuller, Lon Orr, Nancy Platt, Joseph Waers, Thom McCulloch, Ear-leen Fauvergue (Immediate Needs) Sylvia Bauer, Rayella Lindsey, Izaiah Hill, Syl-via Knost, Lida McCulloch, Lon Orr, Brooks Gubser, Hop Flanigan, Jeanne Fanning, Rev. Jose Palma, Richard Roske, Amy Potter, Connor Wilkowski, Ann Marie Hunter, Cheryl Charles-ton, Addi Daniel, Ann Mitts, Jim & Nancy, Jeff Wagner, Jerry Pennington, Richard Hardwicke, Lorene Glidewell, Terri Byrd, Jim Wilkowski, Simone & Jimmy Sneed, Sandra Brinker, Deb-bie Davis, Janet Seitz, Mark Matlock, Harpo Clapper, Mike B., Jamey Smith, Colin, Marty, Donna Field, Alice Erdy, Janice Luttrell, Andy & Emma Ross, Steve Harris, Rick, Shelly, Sarah, Misty, Sharon Maynard (Military service) Zashius Grigsby, Adam Hertzberg, Catlin Hill, Doug Snodgrass, Will Flanigan, Taylor Burks, Michael Craig, Jake Douglas, Michael Franco, Danny Hughes, Rich Jones, Sa-vas Kyriakidis, Joey Olson, Jeffrey Robinson, Steven Sample, Trey Schesser, Josh Sherrill, Grant Short, Kenny Sweet, Toby Waters, Andrew Watts, Josh Wilson, Caleb Dye

Anglican Cycle of Prayer Ife, Ife East, Ifo, Igbomina, Igbomina West, Ihiala, Ijebu, Ijebu North, Ijesa, Ijesa NE, Ijesa North, Ijumu, Ikara, Ikeduru, Ikka, Ikwere, Ikwo, Ikwuano, Ilaje, Ile-Oluji, Ilesa, Ilesa SW, Irele-Eseodo, Isial-Ngwa South, Isial-Ngwa, Isikwuato, Jalingo, Jebba (Nigeria) Indianapolis (The Episcopal Church) Iran (Jerusalem) Jabalpur (North India) Jaffna (South India) Jamaica & Cayman Is-lands (West Indies) Johannesburg (Southern Africa)

Diocesan Cycle of Prayer Christ Church Warrensburg, All Saints West Plains, St Luke’s Hospital Health System, Bishop Spencer Place, St Luke’s Nurs-ing Center

TRANSITIONS in SEPT

DIRECTORY CHANGES Steve & Michelle Hender-son, Heidi & Layne Scheerer,

CONGRATULATIONS to…

Jeb and Elizabeth Cook, on the birth of their daugh-ter Finley Faye, on Sept 17

The FAITHFUL DEPARTED

Lynette Sell, step-grand mother of Elaine Wurst, departed this life Aug 30 Mary Viadero, aunt of Stephanie Lynch, departed this life Sept 9 Fred Campbell, departed this life Sept 9 buried from the church Sept 15 Robin Page, friend of Robert Denning, departed this life Sept 8 Drew Babcock, friend of Kirby Newport, departed this life Sept 12 Wayne Palmer, uncle of Carolyn Cole, departed this life Sept 19

LETTERS of TRANSFER

David & Gaye Dalley, from First Presbyterian Carthage Neil, Amanda & Tanner Marney, from St Stephen’s Monett

PARISH PRAYER LIST

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Sunday, Oct 5, 8 am Reader: Jacqui Johnson Chalice: Michael Sneed Prayers: Gary Cole Subdeacon: Wayne Ytell Server: Peggy Ralston Sacristan: Jacqui Johnson

10:30 am OT: Barbara Mountjoy NT: Mark Sponaugle Chalice: Cary Lee/Heather Grills Prayers/Chalice: George Platt Acolyte Mentor: Brad Cameron Servers: Emma Charleston Capt Cross: Alex Wilkowski Torches: Ana Wilkowski, Cambry Erdman Ushers: Mike Goolsby/Larry Hartman AV: Elisa White Sacristan: Cathy Thompson Flower Delivery: Ann & Delores Home Comm. Bell/Wampler

Sunday, Oct 12: 8 am Reader: Jason Otero Chalice: Cary Lee Prayers: Peggy Ralston Subdeacon: Wayne Ytell Servers: Nancy Dymott/Ashleigh Wilson Sacristan: Beth Simmons

10:30 am OT: Julie Anderson NT: Donna Lane Chalice: Rayella Lindsey Prayers/Chalice: Michael Goolsby Acolyte Mentor: Michele Sexton Servers: Matt Goolsby Capt., Sarah Wilson Cross: Olivia Pierce Torches: Tristan Lynch Sacristan: Marcia McGuire Ushers: Larry McGuire/Richard Ralston AV: Jim Wakefield Flower Delivery: Julie & Diann F.

Wed Oct 1: 6 pm Sacristan: Barbara Mountjoy Reader: Julie Anderson Chalice: Ron Ferguson

Fri Oct 3: Office am: Connie Moss pm: Bonnie Jones

Sat Oct 4: 5 pm 9 am Sacristan: Beth Simmons 5 pm Reader: Jack Slates Chalice: Scott Stone Sacristan: Jacqui Johnson

Mon Oct 6: Office am: Trish Charleston pm: Diann Ferguson

Wed Oct 8: 6 pm Sacristan: Barbara Mountjoy Reader: Mark Sponaugle Chalice: Cary Lee

Fri Oct 10 Office am: Bob Young pm: Diann Hays

Sat Oct 11: 5 pm 9 am Sacristan: Cathy Thompson 5 pm Reader: Ruth Hartman Chalice: Larry Hartman Sacristan: Beth Simmons

There’s still time to sign up for the autumn dinner clubs, St Octet’s! Groups of

eight share dinner and fellowship four times, getting to know one another more

deeply. Who doesn’t eat? And who doesn’t long for more and richer friendships?

Sign up on the white table in the parish house...

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Sunday, Oct 19: 8 am Reader/Chalice: Larry Hartman Prayers: Ruth Hartman Subdeacon: Wayne Ytell Server: Brad Cameron Sacristan: Marcia McGuire Home Communion: Bell/Ytell-Orr

10:30 am OT: Kaylee Washburn NT: Jerry Sample Chalice: Tanner Marney Prayers/Chalice: Michael Goolsby Acolyte Mentor: Elisa White Servers: Will Mansfield Capt., Katie Mans-field Crosses: Taylor Mansfiled, Matthew Beatty Torches: Joseph & Christopher Beatty Sacristan: Pam White Usher: Kevin Beatty/Steve Friede AV: Mike Robertson Flower Delivery: Trish Charleston

Sunday Oct 26: 8 am Reader/Chalice: Kirby Newport Prayers: Jacqui Johnson Subdeacon: Wayne Ytell Server: Jason Otero/Gabriel Wilson Sacristan: Beth Simmons

10:30 am OT: Rosalie Griffin NT: Marty Griffin Chalice: Ruth Hartman Prayers/Chalice: Larry Hartman Acolyte Mentor: Elaine Wurst Servers: Elle Lanham Capt., Jay Lanham Cross: Ashlee Myers Sacristan: Pam White Ushers: Jim Creighton/Chuck Erwin AV: Scott & Will Mansfield Home Communion: Bell-N. Kuhns Flower Delivery: Volunteer needed…...

Mon Oct 13: Office am: Wendy Cope pm: Connie Moss

Wed Oct 15: 6 pm Sacristan: Barbara Mountjoy Reader/Chalice: Scott Stone

Fri Oct 17 Office am: Bob Young pm: Diann Hays

Sat Oct 18: 5 pm

9 am Sacristan: Jacqui Johnson 5 pm Reader: Jimmy Grimes Chalice: Mark Sponaugle Sacristan: Cathy Thompson

Mon Oct 20: Office am: Trish Charleston pm: Diann Ferguson

Wed Oct 22: 6 pm Sacristan: Barbara Mountjoy Reader: Ruth Hartman Chalice: Larry Hartman

Fri Oct 24 Office am: Mark Sponaugle pm: Connie Moss

Sat Oct 25: 5pm 9 am Sacristan: All Clean

5 pm Reader: Glenda Erwin Chalice: Scott Stone Sacristan: Pam White

Mon Oct 27 Office am: Wendy Cope pm: Diann Hays

Wed Oct 29: 6 pm Sacristan: Barbara Mountjoy OT: Matthew Beatty NT: Katie Mansfield Chalice: Scott Stone

:Fri Oct 31 Office am: Bonnie Jones pm: Mark Sponaugle

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October 2014

Sunday 8 am Holy Eucha-rist 9 am Coffee Hour 9:15 am Acolyte Practice 9:30 am Sunday 10:30 am Holy Eucharist 11:45 am Coffee Hour 12 La Santa Misa

Monday 11 am Bible Study 1 pm Quilters 7 pm Narcotics Anon

Tuesday 9:30 am Men’s Social St Luke’s 10:00 am Move & Groove St Luke’s 5 pm Coro Espa-nol

Wednesday 5:30 pm Choir Practice 6 pm Holy Eucharist 6:30 pm Dinner 7 pm Youth Groups/Adult Bible Study

Thursday 9:30 am Move Exercise Class 2 pm Holy Eucharist St Luke’s 3 pm Friends Anon

Friday 10 am Holy Eucharist All Fridays in the year are days of special devotion (BCP 17) +

Saturday 5 pm Holy Eucharist

1 Remigius of Rheims

2 3 + 4 Francis of Assisi, Friar 2 pm White / Wilingham Wedding

5 XVII PEN-TECOST Proper 22 6 pm Augustine’s Table

6 William Tyndale 7 8 Noon Perpet-ual Trust Cttee 7:15-8:15 pm St Francis Event

9 Robert Gros-seteste Noon Steward-ship Cttee

10 + Vida Scudder Noon Encore Lunch

11 Philip, Deacon and Evangelist 8 Garden brick installation 10 Diocesan Council here 5 pm Ferrell/ Newman wed-ding (Spfld)

12 XVIII PEN-TECOST Proper 23 3 pm Pet Bless-ing 6 pm Harp Con-cert

13 14 Samuel Isaac Joseph Schere-schewsky

15 Teresa of Avila 6:30 pm Gos-pel Sing

16 Latimer, Ridley, and Cranmer, the Oxford Martyrs 2 pm Blessing of Hands @ St Luke’s

17 + Ignatius of Antioch

18 ST LUKE 6 pm Bonfire at Beatty Farm

19 XIX PEN-TECOST Proper 24

20 21 5:30 pm Vestry

22 23 ST JAMES of JERUSA-LEM

24 + 25

26 XX PENTE-COST Proper 25

27 6 pm Blended Family work-shop at St Philip’s Joplin

28 SS SIMON & JUDE

29 James Han-nington 3 pm Folding Party 6 pm Costume Blessing 7:15-8:15 pm All Hallows’ Party

30 31 + All Hal-lows’ Eve

Season: After Pentecost Color: Green (except martyrs—Sts Luke, James, Simon & Jude, red, and commemora-tions of the departed, All Hallows’ Eve, black)

Clergy gone to College of

Presbyters meeting through

Wed early afternoon

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PARISH LIFE

MEN of GRACE Sat Oct 4, 8 am

Gentlemen, please join us for coffee, fellowship and prayer.

AUGUSTINE’S TABLE Sun, Oct 5, 6 pm

20s and 30s? Single or married? With kids or without? We gather once or twice a month to get to know one an-other….bring a drink and a snack to share! Childcare always provided.

BRICK INSTALLATION Sat, Oct 11, 9 am

Join us with work gloves to lay memo-rial bricks in our “amphitheater.”

ENCORE LUNCH Fri, Oct 8, Noon

Program: The “Come Sit a Spell” chairs will on display and we’ll hear about this project to benefit local health.

Sun, Oct 12, 3 pm at Central Park Join us as part of the Carthage Hu-

mane Society’s day of pet pageants and activities! Four blessing stations: dogs, cats, small animals in cages or bowls, and large animals.

NO MOVIE NIGHT in OCT Maple Leaf Week activities interfere with our regular schedule

AUGUSTINE’S TABLE/ MIDLIFE ChristIS BONFIRE

Sat, Oct 18 , 6 pm All are invited to join the Beatty family for a coun-try bonfire and party at their farm in Carl Junction. Bring a side dish or a dessert to share. And folding chairs never hurt either…. 28367 Fir Road, just west of Briarbrook main entrance.

MAPLE LEAF EVENTS Oct 12: Harp Con-cert at the Grand Avenue Bed & Breakfast. Classical music for the start of Maple Leaf, with fine food and great fellowship. Oct 15: Maple L e a f G o s p e l Sing—our choir is getting prepared to knock another one out of the “gospel park”

COSTUME BLESSING Wed, Oct 28, 6 pm

Come in your church appropriate costume, boys and girls of all ages, and get blessed in style! A boo-ffet of terror and fun activities follow for everyone.

NAMES for ALL SAINTS Please print the names of your departed family and friends on the sheets in the parish house, and turn them into the office no later than Wed, Oct 28.

NOMINATIONS COMMITTEE for VESTRY

Jim Creighton, Jinny Hopp and Ann Ulmer are so-liciting your nominations for vestry. Any confirmed communicant “known to the treasurer” aged 16 or older on Jan 1, 2015, is eligible to serve 2015-2017.

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FR TED’S TIME

What type of Parent am I? Love and Logic teacher, Jim Fay, describes 3 parenting styles: Love and Logic Parent (LLP), Helicopter Parent (HP), and Drill Sergeant Parent (DSP). Fay favors the Love & Logic approach as the best for parents & kids. The fact is, none of us parents use one of these styles 100% of the time. Most of us use a mixture of Helicopter and Drill Sergeant styles and occasionally use a Love & Logic approach. In some families, one of the parents tends toward the HP style and one favors DSP style, this leads to confusion and encourages kids to “play one parent against the other.” All of us can improve our parenting/grandparenting styles. Check out these descriptions of LLP, HP, and DSP and see how you can grow your parenting skills. The Love & Logic Parenting Style is characterized by guiding the child through a framework in which the child owns and solves her own problems. The Love & Logic Parent (LLP) provides a structure that guides and prepares their children for the real world. The LLP rarely mentions re-sponsibilities, but demonstrates how to take care of self and be responsible. The LLP models do-ing a good job, finishing it, cleaning up, and expressing positive feelings about the process. When a problem or responsibility arises, the LLP asks “Who owns the problem?” If it belongs to the child, the LLP helps the child explore alternative solutions to problems or ways to approach a re-sponsibility and then allows the child to make the decision. The LLP provides “time frames” in which the child completes responsibilities, and allows the child to experience life’s natural conse-quences which serve as the best teacher. The LLP uses lots of actions, but very few words. The result for the child is feeling competent to deal with the real world, being able to adapt to a chang-ing environment, and being a valued contributor to the family and other groups. The Helicopter Parenting Style is characterized by “hovering” over the child, ready to swoop in and “save” the child from the consequences of their behavior. Messages emphasize the child’s weakness and low personal worth. The Helicopter Parent (HP) makes excuses for the child, com-plains about how they mishandle responsibility, and then “takes on” the responsibility of the child. HPs feels a need to protect the child from any possible negative feelings, and yet, their actions en-sure negative feelings for the child. The HP doesn’t give the child time to think through a solution or provide a frame work within which to complete responsibilities. Instead, HPs make decisions for the child and robs them of the learning that comes from experiencing the consequences of their actions. An HP often uses guilt as the teacher instead of natural consequences and may say. “Look at all I have to do for you!” The result for the child is one of feeling inadequate and incom-petent. They often spend their lives connected to the HP or finding another rescuer. The Drill Sergeant Parenting Style is characterized by the parent making demands and directing the child’s behavior. The Drill Sergeant Parent (DSP) makes demands, sets high expectations, tells their children how they should handle their responsibilities, and how they should feel. The DSP takes over responsibility for the child’s problems by using threats and orders the child to solve the problem in the way dictated by the parent. The DSP uses lots of threats, harsh words, punish-ment, pain, and humiliation to teach their children. The result for the child is feelings of low self worth, resentment, and often rebellion. The good news is that Parenting Styles can be changed and we can improve our parenting ap-proach and skills. It is never too late to learn to be a Love and Logic Parent instead of a Helicop-ter or Drill Sergeant. See Fr. Ted Estes for more information.

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SPEAKING of HEALTH: Nurse Barbara Mountjoy

You may think that influenza (the flu) is just a slightly worse version of the common cold, but the flu is a specific and serious respiratory disease. The flu and its complications can cost you time away from work, family activities and social events. In severe cases, flu may cause hospitalization and even lead to death. Two basic viruses cause the flu, A and B. Both are particularly serious. Flu vaccines work by helping your body make special proteins, called antibodies, that your immune system uses to fight off the flu virus. On average, antibodies are activated within 2 weeks after vacci-nation. When you get your flu vaccine you have a choice: vaccines that cover 3 strains of flu, and those that cover 4 strains. Four-strain vaccines offer broader coverage. There are different types of flu viruses every year. The ones most likely to cause illness in the upcoming flu season are selected for that season’s vaccine. This means you may get broader coverage against the flu with the 4-strain vac-cine. The CDC (Center for Disease Control) recommends you talk to hour healthcare provider—your doctor , pharmacist , or other healthcare professional—about the best option for you and your loved ones. They recommend everyone eligible receives an annual vaccination. Those over 65, or anyone with a compromised immune system, should get the 4-strain vaccine. Of course the signs, symptoms and impact of the flu aren't the same for every person. Typically, you start feeling sick rather suddenly from the flu. You might develop a high fever, aching muscles, sore throat, and a dry cough. Other symptoms include a runny or stuffy nose, fever, headache, and muscle aches. Stomach symptoms may include nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea. These are more com-mon in children than adults. For most people, flu symptoms last a few days. The flu is highly contagious. It is primarily a respiratory disease and spreads easily through coughs, sneezes and nasal secretions. There is a tv commercial that demonstrates how far droplets spray in a sneeze—I think it's approximately ten feet. A fact that is rather disturbing (and makes getting the flu shot even more imperative!) is that a healthy adult who doesn't get the shot and catches the flu may be able to infect others the day before symptoms develop and up to 5 days after they begin! The first and most important step in protecting against flu viruses is to get the flu vaccine. If you don't get the vaccine and you get the flu, a doctor can prescribe antiviral medication to treat the ill-ness. These medicines come in pill, liquid or in the form of a powder that is inhaled. Medicine can make you less sick from the flu and help you better faster. For flu medicine to work, you must get it fast, within the first 2 days of flu symptoms. There are special vaccination instructions for children aged 6 months through 8 years of age. Chil-dren in this age group who are getting vaccinated for the first time, as well as some who have been vaccinated previously, will need two doses of the vaccine. Your child's health care provider can tell you whether two doses are recommended for your child. But it is very important you inquire about this as soon as possible, and that they are protected by getting the required vaccines. The first dose is available now, and the second dose at least 28 days following the first dose. This is not advertising for Walgreen's, but I wanted to pass along that they have joined forces with the United Nations to provide vaccines in 3rd world countries. The campaign is "If you get a shot, you will give a shot." I checked: they have both 3- and 4-strain vaccine available and they accept all insurances. Medicare, according to our local Walgreen's manager, pays the complete cost of the vac-cine. By getting the vaccine we not only protect ourselves, but all those we come in contact with!

Coming next month: Men’s Health Issues

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La Tradición ayuda a interpretar la Biblia De la tradición se aceptan: los tres credos: el de los apóstoles, el niceno, y el de san Atana-

sio; las enseñanzas de los Santos Padres de la Iglesia; los cuatro primeros concilios ecuménicos (Nicea 325; Constantinopla 381; Éfeso 431, Calcedonia 451); liturgias antiguas: propios, colectas, salmos, lecturas; los cinco siglos después de Cristo; los Artículos de la Fe (1571).

Estos 39 artículos, compuestos en su mayoría por Thomas Cranmer no son ni un formula-rio de la fe cristiana ni un credo. Son un sumario oficial del punto de vista de la Iglesia con rela-ción a ciertas verdades discutidas en tiempo de la Reforma. Los artículos no obligan en conciencia, son más bien un documento histórico.

Como la Biblia, la tradición también debe ser interpretada, de acuerdo a la experiencia y a las ciencias modernas.

La razón está siempre dispuesta a interpretar el espíritu de los tiempos. La razón desempeña una función especial en el discernimiento de la voluntad de Dios. La gracia de Dios siempre está presente en la razón haciendo posible que el Espíritu Santo nos guíe en la verdad.

La razón no es infalible. Es la facultad que Dios nos ha dado para ayudarnos, con la Biblia, la Tradición y la asistencia del Espíritu Santo, a encontrar la verdad en el momento presente.

Estos tres fundamentos se mantienen en tensión, por eso, es necesario vivir “con humildad, mansedumbre y paciencia, soportándonos unos a otros por amor, poniendo empeño en conservar la unida del Espíritu con el vínculo de la paz” (Efesios 4, 1-3).

c. Lo distintivo del Anglicanismo Lo típico del Anglicanismo es su modo de acercarse a posturas opuestas tratando de recon-

ciliarlas y trascender los conflictos en cuestión. No se trata, sólo de mantener una via media, un compromiso, un puente, entre dos visiones opuestas, sino de encontrar un equilibrio, una postura moderada.

Esta actitud se basa en la constatación de que los destellos que de la Verdad absoluta nos llegan, nos son elusivos. Tratar de convertirlos en fórmulas fijas nos ha llevado, en el pasado, a más de un error. Es preferible mantenerse bajo una postura abierta, en expectativa, en tensión, hasta lograr captar la verdad, si es posible, en su genuina manifestación. La historia y la experiencia nos demuestran que es preferible una prudente espera a un impetuoso espíritu condenatorio y dictato-rial que presume de controlar la verdad.

El Anglicanismo, en casi todas las esferas de la vida litúrgica, pastoral e intelectual, manifes-tará siempre una actitud acogedora, flexible, comprensiva, moderada, respetuosa y democrática.

Según esto el Anglicanismo en modo alguno implica una ruptura con la Iglesia primitiva. Antes bien, significa un desarrollo, una toma de conciencia de aquel espíritu original en el cual los patriarcados existentes (Jerusalén, Constantinopla, Alejandría, Antioquia y Roma) se respetaban con una autoridad de paridad y buscaban un consenso armónico en consulta mutua. En oposición a aquel armónico entendimiento fue surgiendo otra manera nueva de tomar decisiones fundamen-tada más en el poder que en el respeto y el amor. Y surgieron instituciones que impartían miedo, y condenaban cuando no se asentía a afirmaciones que no estaban confirmadas de una manera científica.

PLATICANDO en ESPANOL: Padre Jose Palma

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EDUCATION

DISCERNMENT GROUP Discernment Group meets on Mon, October 20th at 7:00 pm

MON BIBLE STUDY at 11 AM Oct 6 Acts of the Apostles Oct 13 Acts of the Apostles Oct 20 Acts of the Apostles Oct 27 Acts of the Apostles

SUN STUDY: Sun, 9:30 am Oct 5: Wrap up from Love and Logic: Skills for Relationships Oct 12, 19 & 26: The spooky stuff—what the Church teaches about angels and demons, ghosts and goblins, the paranormal and palm reading. With a brief examination of exorcism and an exercise asking why we human find this stuff so blasted interest-ing...Fr. Steve helps us walk on the dark side a bit, so we can understand the Light even better.

OCT WED STUDY: Wed, 7-8:15 pm

CLOUD of WITNESSES

Join us for a 3 part series on Saints in the Church. This adult presentation will look at: the history of saints in the church, how people are named as saints, how different commun-ions understand saints, and the sto-ries and pictures of several famous and obscure saints. Wednesdays, Oc-tober 1, 15, and 22 after the 6:00pm service and dinner. Fr. Ted will teach this Saints Series. Wednesday Oct. 4 will be a St. Francis of Assisi event and Wednesday, October 29, will be an All Hallows Celebration. These special events will be for all ages.

OUTREACH

MEN’S FELLOWSHIP@ ST LUKE’S 9:30 Every Tues

Join the gentlemen of our parish in the small dining room for donuts and fellowship with the fellows at St Luke’s. It’s a great way to get to know our neighbors who live in “our” Episco-pal nursing center.

MOVE & GROOVE @ ST LUKE’S 10 am Every Tues

A new low-impact exercise class at St Luke’s, every Tues, 10:00-10:30 am. Join Julie Anderson and the gang! Work off those donuts from the men’s group!

CAREGIVERS SUPPORT GROUP 1:00 the second Wednesday

Free support group sessions for family caregivers (caring for spouse, aging parents, or other relative) Mercy Hospital in Carthage—meeting from 1:00 to 2:00 pm on the second Wednesday of the month. The sessions will address the con-cerns of caregivers and explore resources available. AARP Volunteer, Jinny Hopp, will facilitate the sessions. Call the hospital at 417-358-8121 to reserve a spot. Materials are provided, sessions are free. Bring your lunch if desired.

COME SIT A SPELL Have you read about the Thurs morning exercise group’s great idea? Old wooden chairs are now being decorated by artists from around the area, and will be on display in a float for the Maple Leaf parade before being auctioned off in No-vember! The proceeds will, hopefully, go to one of the new, comfortable, maybe even massage-and-heated chairs for the infusion unit being put into Mercy Carthage (McCune Brooks) this fall. We are working on sale dates.

UTO FALL INGATHERING UTO offerings were down this fall, $800.08 as opposed to $1506.02 in autumn 2013. Remember that you can send in your UTO pledge late and it still counts...

BLENDED FAMILY WORKSHOP Mon, Oct 27, 6 pm at St Phiip’s Church Joplin

Don’t forget the ongoing workshop for blended families sponsored by our daughter congregation at Byers & 7th. Sue Utter, Joplin school counselor, will speak.

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DAILY READINGS in OCT 2014

Wed, Oct 1: Hosea 4:11-19; Acts 21:15-26; Luke 5:27-39 Thurs, Oct 2: Hosea 5:8—6:6; Acts 21:27-36; Luke 6:1-11 Fri, Oct 3: Hosea 10:1-15; Acts 21:37—22:16; Luke 6:12-26 Sat, Oct 4, St Francis: Hosea 11:1-9; Acts 22:17-29; Luke 6:27-38 Sun, Oct 5 XVII PENTECOST (Proper 22) Isaiah 5:1-7; Philippians 3:4b-14; Matthew 21:33-46 Mon, Oct 6: Hosea 14:1-9; Acts 22:30—23:11; Luke 6:39-49 Tues, Oct 7: Micah 1:1-9; Acts 23:12-24; Luke 7:1-17 Wed, Oct 8: Micah 2:1-13; Acts 23-35; Luke 7:18-35 Thurs, Oct 9: Micah 3:1-8; Acts 24:1-23; Luke 7:36-50 Fri, Oct 10: Micah 3:9—4:5; Acts 24:24—25:12; Luke 8:1-15 Sat, Oct 11: Micah 5:1-4, 10-15; Acts 25:13-27; Luke 8:16-25 Sun, Oct 12 XVIII PENTECOST (Proper 23) Isaiah 25:1-9; Philippi-ans 4:1-9; Matthew 22:1-14 Mon, Oct 13 Micah 7:1-7; Acts 26:1-23; Luke 8:26-39 Tues, Oct 14: Jonah 1:1-17a; Acts 26:24—27:8; Luke 8:40-56 Wed, Oct 15: Jonah 1:17—2:10; Acts 27:9-26; Luke 9:1-17 Thurs, Oct 16: Jonah 3:1—4:11; Acts 27:27-44; Luke 9:18-27 Fri, Oct 17: Ecclesiasticus 1:1-10, 18-27; Acts 28:1-16; Luke 9:28-36 Sat, Oct 18, ST LUKE: Ecclesiasticus 38:1-4, 6-10, 12-14; 2 Timothy 4:5-13; Luke 4:14-21 Sun, Oct 19 XIX PENTECOST (Proper 24) Isaiah 45:1-7; Matthew 22:15-22 Mon, Oct 20: Ecclesiasticus 4:20—5:7; Revelation 7:1-8; Luke 9:51-62 Tues, Oct 21: Ecclesiasticus 6:5-17; Revelation 7:9-17; Luke 10:1-16 Wed, Oct 22: Ecclesiasticus 7:4-14; Revelation 8:1-13; Luke 10:17-24 Thurs, Oct 23, ST JAMES of JERUSALEM: Acts 15:12-22a; 1 Co-rinthians 15:1-11; Matthew 13:54-58 Fri, Oct 24: Ecclesiasticus 11:2-20; Revelation 9:13-21; Luke 10:38-42 Sat, Oct 25: Ecclesiasticus 15:9-20; Revelation 10:1-11; Luke 11:1-13 Sun, Oct 26 XX PENTECOST (Proper 25) Leviticus 19:1-2, 15-18; 1 Thessalonians 2:1-8; Matthew 22:34-46 Mon, Oct 27: Ecclesiasticus 19:4-17; Revelation 11:1-14; Luke 11:14-26 Tues, Oct 28, SS SIMON & JUDE: Deuteronomy 32:1-4; Ephesians 2:13-22; John 15:17-27 Wed, Oct 29: Ecclesiasticus 28:14-26; Revelation 12:1-6; Luke 11:37-52 Thurs, Oct 30: Ecclesiasticus 31:12-18,25—32:2; Revelation 12:7-17; Luke 11:53—12:12 Fri, Oct 31, All Hallows’ Eve: Ecclesiasticus 34:1-8, 18-22; Revelation 13:1-10; Luke 12:13-31