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Megan and her houseparents laugh as they walk together. The sun-drenched

greens of the grass and trees across the KennedyHome campus in Kinston reverberate their joy as they chatter.

“My houseparents are awesome. They are Jennifer and Blake Lewis,” the eighteen-year-oldsays. “They’ve been very supportive of me.They’ve fought a lot of battles for me since I’ve been here.”

Megan’s life today shines in bright contrastagainst the backdrop of a tumultuous childhood.She still wrestles with past trauma that has carveddeep emotional scars. Growing up, she was exposed to a life that dragged her family intodarkness.

“The drugs got to be too much. The alcohol,the abuse got worse and worse,” according toMegan. “I was so young and didn’t understand a lot of what was going on. I just knew that I wasn’t going to have my dad anymore or my mom anymore.”

It all became too much.It took its toll on Megan asher family was torn apart.

“I kind of felt like I wastrapped and had nowhereelse to go. It was a rough time for me,” she divulges. “I kind of hit rock bottom.”

BCH became a place where Megan could rise out of the darkness and begin to heal andstart the journey of overcoming her struggles and fears. She arrived at Kennedy Home on November 4, 2014.

She found a fresh start and a new home withthe girls and houseparents at Blackwell Cottage.“The girls in the cottage are great. Living with a bunch of girls, of course, there’s going to be

drama. It’s like one big family – it took a whilefor me to figure out they were there for me.”

Megan kept her hurts locked up tightly.She carried a great deal of anger becauseof her past. In her houseparents, she discovered adults who cared for her and were ready to listen.

“They’re great,” she says. “I feel like I can open up to them – and opening up is veryhard for me to do.”

Kennedy Home has also played a crucial role in helping Megan grow in her relationshipwith God. She says that praying more has beenimportant and things have become better.

“I got baptized on June 6 of last year,” sheshares, “and that was kind of a really big deal for me.”

In high school, she flourished as a member ofthe school’s jazz band where her love for music

grew and she honed her ability to play the flute.When visiting churches as part of a BCH

presentation, she often shows her gratitude toNorth Carolina Baptists for their support by performing a beautiful rendition of “AmazingGrace.”

“The support and prayers you put into BCHand all the kids mean a lot to us,” she shared recently with a congregation. “We are able to seethat there is somebody out there reaching outand making an effort to help change our lives.”

In sharing her thankfulness with friends andsupporters, she also challenges them to continueoffering the same hope she received to the otherchildren and families BCH serves.

“What if we could make every child feel lovedand that the things that happened in their pastdon’t matter?” she says. “It’s the greatest feelingin the world to know that you don’t have to goback to that.” (Continued on page 3.)

The trauma of a dark childhood and family turmoil caused formidable struggles for Megan. Through the help she found at Kennedy Home in Kinston, the eighteen-year-old is leaving her past behind while pursuing a brighter future as a stu-

dent at Western Carolina University. Her story is a part of Baptist Children’s Homes’ Annual Offering promotion.

Megan moves into the light__________________________________________________

By J. Blake Ragsdale, Managing Editor

H O P E HOPE changes lives and dispels

darkness.

Celebrating the successful completion of BCH’s Capital CampaignCelebrating the successful completion of BCH’s Capital Campaign – Pages 6-7

Sharing Hope...Changing Lives Campaign at bchfamily.org/campaign____________________________________________________________________

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Charity & Children – Baptist Children’s Homes of North Carolina, Inc., 204 Idol St., PO Box 338, Thomasville, NC 27361-0338. Michael C. Blackwell, publisher; Jim Edminson, editor (wjedminson@bchfamily.org); J. Blake Ragsdale, managing editor (jbragsdale@ bchfamily.org); Marcia Housand, account clerk. Charity & Children (ISSN 0009-1723-09 USPS 100-460) is published 11 times a year for friends and supporters of Baptist Children’s Homes. It is printed at Triangle Web Printing, Durham, NC and mailed by Excalibur,Winston-Salem, NC. Circulation: 62,000 seven times a year, 30,000 four times a year. Periodicals postage paid at Thomasville, NC, and at additional mailing offices. For free subscription or to be removed from the mailing list or make address correction orchange, use the above address and write to Attn: Circulation Manager, send an email to address@bchfamily.org or call at 336-474-1209. Subscribe online at bchfamily.org/charityandchildren. POSTMASTER: Send change of address to Charity & Children, PO Box 338, Thomasville, NC 27361-0338.

Vision: sharing hope . . . changing lives

Mission: To provide the highest quality

of Christian services to children, adults

and families in a caring culture of

measurable excellence

Much of this issue of Charity & Children is devoted to the thrilling

victory celebration of our just-completed Sharing Hope. . .Changing Lives Capital Campaign (SHCL). It’s been a three-yearmarathon that had many of us traversing The Old North State insearch of friends, food,fun, fellowship, andfunds. We secured allfive. . .and then some.

Campaign directorsJerry and Evon Jordandeserve special credit forattending many of thecampaign events. Jerryalso served as BoardChair during 2015, doubling-up on his duties. Evon offered encouragement and support to staff membersand volunteers. Theywere the perfect co-chairs for SHCL.

These last three years have been like a 36-month gestationperiod that resulted in the birth of new hope, the sweet smell of success, the lighting of thetorch, the sprint across the finish line and centerstage in the winner’s circle, the gold medalaround our necks.

Truly, it was a good feeling to see the amazingvictory numbers revealed (See page 6&7). Therewas an audible gasp and much applause when thecampaign team met September 20 in celebrationof the record amount raised and pledged.

But, it was an earned feeling because of hardwork, strong leadership and a fierce commitmentto sharing hope...changing lives.

Many of us have been in living rooms, dining

rooms, boardrooms, and churchrooms. We’ve beenin kitchens, countryclubs, restaurants,

hotels, and motels. We’ve been on highways we’dnever heard of and taken predawn excursions formeetings and midnight drives returning home.

You don’t have a capital campaign while sitting behind a desk. Volunteers hosted scores of meetings and events where we proclaimed thevision and dream of SHCL. My debt of gratitudeknows no bounds: THANK YOU, THANKYOU, THANK YOU. And, oh, by the way –THANK YOU.

We’ve seen the power of true grit in our children: grit – they take a hit but never quit; grit – knock ‘em down and they rebound. And,

we saw adults experience thepower of the Holy Spirit throughpersonal forgiveness and abun-dant salvation.

We saw servant leadership –both staff and volunteer – stepforth boldly to say, “Here am I, send me.” And, we sent – and

they went – not just into places of comfort andconvenience, but into the nooks and crannies of all 100 counties.

We’ve developed thousands – yes, thousands –of new friends and dedicated volunteers. Thename of Baptist Children’s Homes is both whis-pered in awe and shouted with pride. People wholike being part of making life better for babies,children, youth, aging adults, and families in crisis have come to the right place. Pull up a chair. Have a seat. There’s always room at the table for one more.

The dream of John Mills, our Founder, continues. It is an illuminating dream that shines brighter today than ever. And thanks to the Sharing Hope. . .Changing Livescampaign, that dream will never die.

[ MY THOUGHTS }

Capital campaignends with heartsfull of gratitude___________________________________________________

By Michael C. Blackwell, President/CEO

Top, BCH Trustee Abe Elmore and wife Jackie. Abe Elmore also served as a trustee during the two previous BCH capital

campaigns. Right, BCH’s Brenda Gray leads attendees insinging the Doxology at the conclusion of the Campaign Cele-bration. Above, capital campaign honorary chair Paul Broyhillaccepts the first copy of Dr. Blackwell’s new book, Above the

Clouds: 9 Essentials for Thriving at the Peak. Blackwell dedicated the book to Mr. Broyhill.

Through them (faithful friends), Baptist Children’s

Homes is poised for the future.

– Blackwell

Baptist Children’s Homes (BCH) Trusteesmet for their bi-annual meeting on

September 20 at the Colonial Country Club inThomasville prior to BCH’s Capital CampaignCelebration. Board chair Jay Westmoreland, amember of First Baptist Charlotte, opened themeeting and moved for the adoption of the day’sagenda and January board meeting’s minutes.

“Our God is the God who is exceedingly capable,” Westmoreland said. “Today will be aday of celebration – a day when we lift each otherand offer congratulations. But more importantly,it will be a day when we give all glory back toGod.”

Trustees viewed this year’s Annual Offeringvideo entitled “I Am.” Each year, Trustees leadin their churches and Baptist Associations by promoting the Annual Offering. Trustees weregiven promotion packets and encouraged toshare how others could learn more by visitingwww.bchoffering.org.

“This time of year isspecial,” BCH president/CEO Michael C. Blackwellsaid. “It is a time to givethanks. It is a time to befaithful. It is the time when North Carolina Baptists show their love and support by giving to the Annual Offering.”

Blackwell recognized the service of two long-time staff members. Lynn Garner, who directsBCH’s Family Care ministry, marked 30 years.Senior Vice President Sam Barefoot reached 35

years of service. He daily oversees BCH’s proper-ties, investments and insurance.

“BCH is able to maintain a culture of excel-lence because of the commitment of individuals

like Lynn and Sam,” Blackwell said. “I amdeeply grateful for all they do as we servechildren and families.”

Seven Trustees were recognized for theirservice. Outgoing Trustees are: Pam Annas,Jacque Burgess, Jesse Croom, Renea Hen-

derson, Roy Howell, Amelia Johnson, SandySaunders, and Iola Walton.

Trustees approved the 2017 budget and heardvarious committee reports. The next full boardmeeting is slated for January 17. The two fullboard meetings are always the third Tuesday ofJanuary and September.

BCH’s full board met September 20 at the Colonial Country Club in Thomasville prior to the Capital Campaign Celebra-tion. Members heard reports and adopted the 2017 budget. Above, outgoing Trustees are, front row left to right, JacqueBurgess and Iola Walton and, standing left to right, BCH president/CEO Michael C. Blackwell, Pam Annas, Jesse Croom,

Sandy Saunders, Amelia Johnson, and Roy Howell. Not pictured is Renea Henderson.

[ TRUSTEE MEETING}

Trustees commit to promoting annual offering________________________________________________________

By Jim Edminson Editor

Watch Megan at: www.bchfamily.org/voice

(Continued from page 1.)One of the most personal and powerful

testimonies Megan shares with others is a poemshe wrote before graduating high school.

“For my English class, I was asked to write a poem about where I am from,” Megan says.“Given my past, that was very hard for me. Bitsof my past I don’t like to remember – but it’smade me who I am today.”

Megan has stepped confidently into a brightnew day. She recently moved from KennedyHome in eastern North Carolina to the westernmountains. A freshman at Western Carolina University in Cullowhee, the flutist is pursuing a degree in music education and hopes to be-come a band director. The teenager is thankful

for the opportunity to realize that dream. Megan knows the support and safety net she

has in BCH is just as important today as it waswhen she first arrived at Kennedy Home twoyears earlier.

“I’m still growing,” she says. “There are things I struggle with everyday. . .There are stillthings I go through – but I’m confident I will be successful. I think that Kennedy Home and Baptist Children’s Homes have been a big part of that.”Note: Megan’s story is an important part ofBCH’s 2016 Annual Offering promotion. Visitwww.bchoffering.org to watch this year’s video “I Am.” You can also watch Megan share her pow-erful poem by visiting www.bchnc.org/poembch.

Megan’s houseparents Jennifer and Blake Lewis remain a source of care and affirmation while the college fresh-

man attends Western Carolina University.

Megan challenges others to offer same hope she received_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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C A R ECARE and

see lives changedforever.

FAMILY FIRST UPDATE –BCH friends speak outFriends, supporters and alumni have ralliedaround BCH contacting NC Senators in the US Senate and responding to the pro-posed Family First Act. The national bill, in its current form, essentially eliminates thelong-term placement of children to residen-tial care organizations like BCH. SenatorsBurr and Tillis have responded to someconcerns that have been voiced. With thebill yet to go before the US Senate, there isstill time to send a letter, email or make acall and urge them to revise the legislation. To help, visit www.bchfamily.org/voice

The words of Jesus: “I am the light of theworld.” (John 8:12)

We live in a dark world – I see it and you see it every day. But your prayers and support are part of changing the world in which our children and families live today – and for eternity.Last year, Baptist Children’s Homes (BCH), with your help, lifted high the light of Christ to illuminate the journey for 21,876 individualswho came to us in need.

Thank you for shining the light of Christ into the darkness.

Today, William lives in a BCH home for developmentally disabled adults. He did live in a nursing home. While living in the facility, he was placed in a room with a repeat sexual offender who abused him on a regular basis. William was kept heavily medicated.

When William came to BCH, he was very despondent. He just sat with a blank stare androcked back and forth. But that all changed. Hewas taken off the medication that made him cata-tonic. In a short period of time, his dedicatedcare givers discovered he was a teddy bear with a great personality. He smiles now, loves to shakehands, and kiss babies. With a big grin on hisface, he is quick to declare to anyone that he isrunning for President of the United States. He is very grateful to be in a loving home with fiveother residents and BCH staff members who care for him.

I was alone and forgotten.The light pierces his darkness.Now, I am loved!

________________________________________ Rissa was in bondage as a young teen.

Her family allowed others to force her into sextrafficking. Her life was as dark as it gets – shefelt there was no way out. When Rissa came into BCH’s care, she was extremely fearful

and non trusting of anyone – which is under-standable. Today, she is so grateful to be in a safe place.

I was in bondage.The light pierces

her darkness.Now, I am free!

_____________________ All Katy knew was a life

lived around drugs. The homewhere she and her sister lived was unsafe. Because of the danger, they were removed and placed in several foster homes over time.Katy felt like she would never find a place whereshe was safe and loved.

When she and her sister arrived at BCH, Katywas angry. She kept asking herself, “Why?”

Katy has fought the demon of drugs in herown life. The recent death of her stepfather dueto drugs was hard for her. Katy knew she couldnot fight her battles alone and at BCH she found the support she needed.

Her houseparents introduced her to the “lightof the world.” She still has some tough days, butshe does not walk alone. She graduates from highschool this year and plans on attending college.She will be the first one in her family to graduatehigh school.

I was broken.The light pierces her darkness.Now, I am whole.

________________________________________ Siblings Marcia, Felicia, Natasha, and

Jerome are in care at The Good Shepherd Children’s Home, BCH’s affiliate orphanage in Guatemala. Their story is one of darkness and light.

Each day at the orphanage, caring staff mem-bers learn more and more about the children.First, they learned that none of the children knewtheir birthdays. The cut and calloused feet ofMarcia was due to the fact she never ownedshoes. And the children had never held a pencil –a tutor will help jump-start their education.

Marcia told the orphanage’s cook, Mayra, that she never wanted to leave because her bedwas the first bed in which she had ever slept.Marcia shared how her father beat her motherwhen he was drunk and had begun to touchMarcia inappropriately. The father planned to marry Marcia off when she turned 12.

Felicia came with bruises on her back from her father’s beatings. The two-year-old boy’s faceshowed sign of bruising – the child had been

thrown into a trash can. The three girls love to help Mayra in the

kitchen – they really want to please. The caregivers are still working hard to rid them of hairlice and, only recently, the two older sisterssmiled.

We were abused.The light pierces their darkness.Now, we are healed!

________________________________________ Police found a nine-year-old boy and his

four-year-old and six-year-old sisters walking down a road. The brother asked the men, “Could youplease take us to foster care? We can’t live withMom anymore. She beats us and doesn’t feed us.”

He told the policemen that he took his sistersand left home so they would not be hurt anylonger. Just as Jesus welcomed the children, we took them into our care and into our hearts.They are safe now.

We were frightened.The light pierces their darkness.Now, we are safe!

________________________________________Thank you for being faithful stewards of all

that God has given you. Thank you for sharingthe “Light of the World” which shatters the darkness. Through you, each one of these lives have been changed – their world is beingchanged today and for eternity!

In just a few weeks, churches all across NorthCarolina will be gathering their BCH Annual Offering gifts. Please share these stories withyour church. Thank them on our behalf and encourage them to give so that others may find their way through the darkness.

For more information, call me at 336-689-4442 or email me at bbgray@bch-family.org. Brenda Gray’s passion is children. She serves BCH as the executive vice president, development & communications. Gray directs all fund-raising/friend-raising activities for the state-wide services.

Leave a legacy through planned giving. Visit bchlegacy.org

[ WORTHWHILE INVESTMENTS }

The light pierces their darkness –And “I Am” loved, safe, healed__________________________________________________________________________________________________

By Brenda B. Gray, Executive Vice President, Development & Communications

In this month’s column, the names of the children and individuals being lovedand cared for by BCH have been changedfor their protection.

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Your vehicle becomes a part of the BCH ministry when

you donate it!

Call Sam Barefootat 336-474-1224

Schedule a speaker by calling 336.474.1209 or visiting www.bchoffering.org____________________________________________________________________

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SEE & SHARETHE STORY!

Watch the incredible stories of Baptist Children’s Homes’ boys and girlsin this year’s videos. Then, share the stories with others. Encourage yourchurch to share what God is doing through BCH’s ministry by inviting a BCH speaker and ordering the Annual Offering materials. Giving to the Annual Offering changes children’s lives forever!

“I AM” and “MEGAN’S POEM” are available at www.bchoffering.org

houts of joy and audible prayers ofthanksgiving filled the air as Baptist Chil-

dren’s Homes (BCH) leaders, staff membersand supporters celebrated the completion ofthe most extensive capital campaign of thenonprofit’s 131-year existence.

The fruits of the three-year campaign (July 2013 - July 2016) have produced anunprecedented number of projects through-out BCH’s vast infrastructure. But the greatest assets garnered were the friendshipsrepresented by the people who gathered incelebration at the Colonial Country Club in Thomasville on Tuesday, September 20.

“God has been steadfast in every aspect of the Sharing Hope. . .Changing LivesCampaign,” said BCH president/CEOMichael C. Blackwell. The campaign isnamed after BCH’s vision statement. “He has given the children and families we servethe most faithful and dedicated friends imagi-nable. Through them, Baptist Children’sHomes is poised for the future.”

The campaign was launched to meet the mounting needs that lie outside of what BCH’s normalfundraising efforts cover.Growing the ministry’smeager endowment, repairing and renovatingaging residential cot-tages and facilities, andenhancing ongoing operational support required donations thatwere above what BCHraises normally each year.

According to BrendaGray, BCH ExecutiveVice President, Development & Communica-tions, it was through the extraordinary effortsof BCH’s friends, both old and new, that thecampaign’s goals were met.

“I’m glad God called me to go on thisfaith journey with Him, but I am even moregrateful that He called you to go on the jour-ney as well,” Gray shared with those attend-ing the celebration. “Amazing things havehappened because you followed God’s callingon your heart.”

Gray’s presentation of the “amazingthings” resulting during the campaign weremet with cheers and rousing applause:

12,872 constituents participated in thecampaign.

59,005 children, adults and families have

been served. BCH’s endowment grew

by nearly $6,900,000. $406,269 in scholarship

funds were made available toBCH’s boys and girls.

23 residential cottages wererenovated across BCH’sstatewide network.

4 new residential homeswere opened allowing BCH toserve more children and families.

56 vehicles were purchasedto replace aging BCH fleet vansand cars.

115 BCH properties wererenovated.

4 new ministries opened or are in the process of beinglaunched. They are the GoodShepherd Children’s Home inXela, Guatemala, the Claude andLois Smith Family Care Home in Marston,Homebase Student Ministry in Cullowhee,and the Bob and Carolyn Tucker Greater

Vision Ministry.“The campaign

is about sustainingBCH’s ministriesfor years to comeand giving thechildren and fami-lies we serve thestart they need,”said Jerry Jordanwho co-chairedthe campaign withhis wife Evon. Thecouple are major

supporters and Mr. Jordan has served onBCH’s Board of Trustees. “We are able toprovide them that opportunity in an environ-ment that serves God and His greatness.”

Honoring God through their gifts hasbeen a predominant reason why people havegiven to the Sharing Hope. . .ChangingLives Campaign.

“Our gift is given for the glory of God –trusting in faith that it will change children’slives,” said Carolyn Tucker. She and her hus-band Bob, who founded Shoe Show, Inc.,gave $1 million donation, and additional$500,000 matching challenge, to establishthe Tucker Greater Vision Ministry.

The new outreach center, located at MillsHome in Thomasville, will offer an array of

programs and resources to aid communitychildren and families throughout North Carolina.

“We won’t see everything this gift accom-plishes on this side of heaven,” Carolynadded, “but we will one day.”

Necessary maintenance projects and renovations to residential cottagesand facilities arebeing accomplisheddue to the generosityof the Lonnie andCarol Poole FamilyFoundation. Agingroofs on residentialcottages are being replaced and repairsare being completedto ensure childrenhave the highestquality living accommodations.

“It was importantto Mr. Poole that thefoundation’s contri-bution went towardsthose needs so it could free up dollars inBCH’s budget that will directly benefit theboys and girls and meet their specific needs,”says Nancy Hall, one of the directors of thePoole Family Foundation. The foundationdonated $750,000 in cash and established a $3 million trust.

One of the greatestlegacies of support hasbeen with the Broyhillfamily of Lenoir. Therelationship began inthe 1930s when J.E.Broyhill, founder

of Broyhill Furniture Industries, secured a freezer locker for Mills Home to aid withlong-term food storage. Broyhill’s son Paulvisited Mills Home with his parents. Thefriendship with the Broyhill Family has grownthroughout the decades with Paul serving asthe honorary chair for the Sharing Hope. . .Changing Lives Campaign.

“Dr. Blackwell has done a wonderful job of transition-ing BCH from a true orphan-age to a place that serveschildren who are products of abuse and broken homes.BCH has kept up with thosechanges where many otherhomes have not,” Paul sharedwith the audience. “We thankall of the donors and friendswho gave and have been involved in a campaign of such magnitude.”

The campaign may have arrived at its climactic conclu-sion, but Dr. Blackwell, who has now overseen three expansive capital campaigns

since becoming president in 1983, says thatthe work to ensure BCH is able to meet the every day needs of children and families is only beginning.

“The reality is that every dollar that hasbeen generously bestowed to us through theSharing Hope...Changing Lives Campaign

has already been utilized or designated for the goals it was designed to accom-plish,” he explained. “Wecannot take a breath. Wemust continue raising sup-port, beginning next withthe 2016 Annual Offering,to provide daily physical,emotional and spiritual careto all who are entrusted to BCH.

“Thanks to the faithful-ness of Almighty God andthe friends He has broughtto this worthy ministry,Sharing Hope...ChangingLives is a dream that willnever end.”

Learn more about BCH’s statewide ministries by visiting www.bchfamily.org/serve.____________________________________________________________________

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Above, BCH president/CEO Michael C. Blackwell leads in celebrating God’s faithfulnessannouncing the campaign total of $35,284,267 at the Sharing Hope...Changing Lives

Campaign Celebration. Below left, BCH’s Brenda Gray presents one of three Children’sChoice Awards to Bobbie Furr of the Lonnie and Carol Poole Family Foundation. Below,

campaign co-chairs Evon and Jerry Jordan share their appreciation to all who gave tomake the campaign a success. Jerry Jordan served as BCH Trustee chair in 2015.

Top, BCH’s Wiley Doby and his wife Ila with Wiley’s 100-year-old mother Mary Doby (sitting) are joined by BCH Trustee SybilStewart. Above left, Amy Holt and former NC State Senator JimJacumin join the celebration as record breaking campaign totalsare announced. Above, Joann Lutz (left) greets Broyhill FamilyFoundation executive director Sheila Triplett-Brady and PaulBroyhill. Broyhill served as the Campaign’s honorary chair. Left, Bob and Carolyn Tucker gave to establish the Tucker Greater Vision Ministry Center. Bob Tucker is the founder of Shoe Show, Inc.

[ CAPITAL CAMPAIGN CELEBRATION – SEPTEMBER 20, 2016 }

Campaign’s focus on sustaining ministry for years to come,BCH gears up for future_________________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________

By J. Blake Ragsdale, Managing Editor

Cargill Associates’ PaulBlevins and BCH Trustee

Jacque Burgess.

More than 800 guests from North CarolinaBaptist churches in the western area of

the state converged at Broyhill Home in Clydeon September 8 for the 57th Annual WesternArea Conference. The group was treated to cot-tage tours, presentations by Baptist Children’sHomes (BCH) residents and staff members, anda barbecue meal. Over the years, the event hasserved to introduce Baptists and other friends of children to the ministry.

BCH president/CEO Michael C. Blackwellpreached a rousingsermon. He reminded those in attendance of theresponsibility toprovide care forchildren – to offercare to the brokenand hurting.

“I’m con-cerned,” he voicedin a low tremble.“I’m concerned

about the empty chair at the table – a child’schair empty because of neglect and abuse. I’mconcerned about the empty chair when a childneeds food, clothes, love, and protection.”

Blackwell’s comments brought “amens” and other shouts of affirmation. Responding,

he proclaimed, “I want no empty chairs, youwant no empty chairs. No child should go hungry, be beaten and abused – be afraid of the darkness. Every child deserves a home.”

Broyhill Home director Linda Morgan reminded the group that “we keep God at the center.”

“He’s the one that makes a difference in eachchild,” she said. “He is the hope for every child –

today and for eternity.”The 2016 Friend of Children Award was

presented to the members of FISH (Forgiven I Serve Him) for the support of BCH’s westernarea ministries.

“We hope that the children enjoy all we do tohave fun with them,” FISH leader Bill Beal said,“but, honestly, I believe we leave being blessedthe most.”

[ 57th WESTERN AREA CONFERENCE )

Ministry keepsGod at its center___________________________________________________

More than 800 North Carolina Baptists and other friends of children attended the 57th Annual Western Area Conferenceat Broyhill Home in Clyde on September 8. Tours of cottages, testimonies of children in care, and a meal of barbecue withall the trimmings highlighted the event. Above, Broyhill Home houseparent Vivian Johnson celebrates with BCH resident

Mckayla after the group led attendees in worship through song.

Subscribe family and friends online at bchfamily.org/subscribe____________________________________________________________________

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Top left, members of FISH (Forgiven I Serve Him ), led by Bill Beal, received this year’sFriend of Children award. Top right, Amelia Johnson and Linda and Lloyd Fish visit while enjoying the barbecue dinner. Above left, BCH president/CEO shares a personal word ofgratitude with recently retired Broyhill Home houseparent Lou Arnsdorff. Above right, Rev. Wilburn Lefler and Stanley Harkins, both from Henderson County and long time

BCH supporters, take time to reminisce about past conferences.

BCH’s Lewis Smith with middle school student Madi Sutton, aka "Garden Girl,”during the Western Area Conference atBroyhill Home. Each year, Madi donatesmoney she earns selling her home-grownvegetables. This is the fourth year that shehas grown a garden to help the children ofBaptist Children’s Homes. Madi presentedmore than $700 to Smith and pledged toplant a 2017 garden in late March.

GRANDOPENING

FRIDAY 10/14 andSATURDAY 10/15

MILLS HOME / 201-E IDOL STREETTHOMASVILLE, NC 27360 / 704.909.8223

Celebrate the official opening ofBCH’s upscale resale store with sales,

vendors, games, food & fun!

PROCEEDS BENEFIT BCH ANDWILL BE MATCHED DURING

THE TWO-DAY EVENT !

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The Mills Home Alumni Coun-cil members for 2016-2018

are the following: President, BobMayton; First Vice-President-Presi-dent Elect, Sharon DeHart Stiles;2nd Vice-President, Jay Wood; Secretary, Janice Lewis Doherty;Treasurer, Kaye Trantham Mills;Council Members are: James Byrd,Evelyn McDonald Leigh, Pat Jolly,Cecelia Townsend Wilkerson, Barbara Bustle Canipe; and Public-ity/Charity & Children (C&C)Alumni Columnist, Lib Johnson.Bob Mayton welcomes any contactfrom alumni and can be reached byphone at: 704-796-3900, by mail at:1206 Melchor Rd., Albemarle, NC,28001, or by emailing rmayton@yahoo.com.

Many things made Homecoming2016 wonderful, but the effort this year to honor our deceased wasvery touching. A new feature in thechurch service was the display ofphotos of many of our deceased.Deaths reported throughout theyear and also Memorialized atHomecoming are: Barbara Amber-son Kirkpatrick, ‘51-‘56; Joby Beal,‘75-‘85; Eugene Belch, ‘33- ‘41;Frances Burgess Omran, ‘50-‘65;Jackie Byrd Haynes, ‘37-‘44; Majory Carroll Duty, ‘42-‘50; EdnaDavis, ‘42-‘52; Michael Buck Edwards, ‘59-‘70; Donald Foust,‘43-‘53; Berti Ruth Frisbee, ‘70s-‘80s; Margaret Hale Miller, ‘19-‘32;Van D. Hall, ‘33-‘43; Stan Hoyle,‘73-‘82; Leonard Kornegay, ‘42-‘55; Robert (Bobby) Lee, ‘56-‘62;Noel Dean Lewis, ‘52-‘58; ClemMartinez Pridemore, ‘56-‘60; FannyMiller, ‘59-‘80; Walter KennethPepper, ‘59-‘64; Donald DavidPrice, ‘73-‘76; Charlotte SmathersMcElrath, ‘46-‘52; Jimmy Tart; ‘59-‘67; Joyce Teal Fine, ‘39-‘49;Fern Tharrington, ‘57-‘58; VickieTuggle Eaton, ‘57-‘67; Julia Whit-ley Bush, ‘36-‘44; Bertha WillisWells, ‘33-‘45; Mike Withers, ‘54-‘59; Wade Register, ‘63-‘64.

Since Homecoming, we havelearned of the deaths of CharlesLeonard Evans, ‘37-‘45; Clyde Jolly,‘53-‘57; Lynn Turner Hassell, ‘83-‘85; Charles Leonard Evans,

‘37-‘45; Clyde Jolly, ‘53-‘57; WadeRegister, ‘63-‘64 (staff); and JuliaWhitley Bush, ‘36-‘44.

Thanks to Bill Bailey for sharingthe news of the August 28 death ofhis Aunt Annie Belle West Nelson.Annie Belle was part of the Westfamily of the ‘30s & ‘40s that included Talmadge, Flora Clyde, Bonnie Mae, and Mary Lou. She waspreceded in death by her husbandSam, two sons, and three sisters.Annie retired from BASF with 31years of service. She enjoyed garden-ing, feeding the birds, spending timewith her family and fixing biscuitsand gravy. She was a member ofChurch of God of Prophecy. She is survived by three grandchildren,three great grandchildren, and two great, great grandchildren, and her brother Talmadge. Send condolences to Talmadge at: 1477Lafayette Blvd. Lincoln Park, MI,48146.

Our hearts go out to two alumniwho lost sons recently. From JohnPaul “Dusty” Jenkins, we learned he and Mary lost their son Gary to a heart attack on July 17. He wroteto Facebook family and friends: “We know so many of you who havegone through this same, or similar,experience and we now more fullyunderstand the heartache, anguishand despair that happens when welose someone so dear to us. Pleaseremember our families in yourthoughts and prayers.”

And I learned from SandraCorder that Donald McCarson losthis son Chip Temple earlier this sum-mer. Send condolences to Dusty andMary at: 3244 Prairie Ridge St. SW,Los Lunas, NM87031; and to Don-ald and Jo Ann at: 1521 DodgetownRd. Walnut Cove NC, 27052 .

I was very sorry to hear fromRobert Belch’s son that Eugene LeeBelch passed away last March 4. Eu-gene and his brother Robert came to MH in 1933 and Gene left in ‘39.After leaving MH, he served withthe Merchant Marines during WWIIand was very proud to be a veteran.He married Noralie Fae Grove onNovember 22, 1950 and they sharedtwenty-eight years of marriage

before she died in 1978. Gene is survived by one son, one daughter,his brother Robert, and twelvegrandchildren. He retired manyyears ago after working as a chemistfor three major paint producers. Hewas noted for his enjoyment of art,photography, collecting memora-bilia, and hunting. His favorite hunt-ing story involved shooting what hethought was a groundhog, at morethan 200 yards, only to discover itwas a pile of horse manure. Regard-less, it was an impressive shot. Hestruck an imposing figure in his chi-nos, flannel shirt and “Life Is Good”cap, and always kept his beard nicelytrimmed so you could see his dim-ples. He rightly bragged that henever had a headache in his life, although he was known to cause a few from time to time. Gene wasalso proud of his efforts to return toas many Homecomings as possible.

A note from Robert Belch’s sonreads: “Gene will be remembered as a devoted family man and he willbe sadly missed.” He also wrote:“Robert (‘33-‘41) sends his regardsand best wishes. He just turned 94years of age this past June and he isdoing well.” Folks can send condo-lences to Robert (where he still livesindependently) at: 1301 LakeviewDr., Cross Junction, VA, 22625 orphone him at 540-888-3169.

Make up your mind now that you too will live as long as LulaPearl Hodges. Lula came to MH in1924 and left in ‘27. Siblings withher were Alice and Lenore. She livesat: 2364 Chandler Ave. Fort Myers,FL 33907-4247. I’m including heraddress because I am hoping thatmany people will take the time to at least send a card to this “lady ofmany years.” Her friend Jana wrotethe following for her: “My name isPearl Clem and I live in Florida inmy own house. Last April 16, Iturned 107 years old. Since I leftMills Home, I have accomplished a lot. I went to New York and grad-uated from nursing school and it was there that I met the love of mylife, Edward Horchst, with whom I traveled the world visiting differentcountries and meeting many people.I moved to Florida in 1969 and have

been in the Sunshine State ever sinceand volunteered at the Red Crossfor many years. My son lives in Mex-ico, my grandson lives in Los Ange-les, and my beautiful great grandsonJake is six years old.”

Jana took the liberty of writingher own note: “Pearl is the mostamazing and strong woman I haveever met in my entire life! She is funto be around and very intelligent –107 years of pure life!”

Sad news came from DebbieJohnson – the daughter of MaryElgin Fairrington. Mary died thispast August 12. Mary came to MHwith her sister Edna in 1942 andgraduated in 1950. Not long aftergraduation, she moved to Hartsville,SC where she remained affiliatedwith the Baptist faith. Her work ca-reer was spent mainly with Tomlin-son’s and Hartsville ManufacturingCo. Through the years, she enjoyedtraveling to the beach and themountains. She made trips to NorthCarolina and Virginia to see herbrother and sister including her MH brothers and sisters. Mary lovedand was kind to everyone. She lovedreading and cooking for her familyand was always there for them. Anavid reader, she could devour a bookin just an afternoon. She was greatlyloved by her family and friends andwill be greatly missed. She is sur-vived by her daughter, two grand-children, two great grandchildren,and her sister Edna Whitt. Condo-lences may be sent to Edna at: 2801Elliott Ave., Portsmouth VA, 23702.

Mrs. John Roberts (Helen) diedon August 24. Many Mills Homeyoungsters knew and loved her and John as personal friends during the years John served as Editor of C&C and lived next to the Huffmanbuilding. Most of the Roberts children are happily married withfamilies of their own now. Condo-lences may be sent to them at:www.thomasmcafee.com.

Lib Johnson was a resident of MillsHome from 1946 to 1957. Johnsonbegan writing the Mills Home alumnicolumn in 1992.

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Hearts go out to families who’ve lost loved ones —107-year-old accomplished much since leaving MH_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

By Lib Smathers Johnson (336) 299-7412 libsjohnson@triad.rr.com

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_________________________________Blackwells Spend Day at Duncan

Baptist Children’s Homes (BCH) presidentMichael C. Blackwell and wife Catherine spentTuesday, August 23 at Camp Duncan in Aberdeen.“It was an unhurried time with the girls and staff,”Blackwell said. “Great food, fabulous fellowshipand group singing highlighted the day.” CampDuncan is preparing to add a second group of ten girls. The formal announcement was made atCamp Duncan’s Founders Day on September 27._________________________________Fancy Finds

Fancy Finds has a special volunteer in fifteen-year-old resident Ciara who painted and reuphol-stered these beautiful chairs. The furniture, andother creatively restored home decor items, is available for purchase at Fancy Finds. All proceeds benefit BCH’s statewide ministries. The store is open the third Friday and Saturday of each month. Visit www.fancyfinds.org formore information.________________________________Church Support

Leaders at Rocky Hock Baptist in Edenton present Camp Duncan director Paul Daley a $7,100 check. The church raised the funds forBCH through their 8th annual golf tournament.

________________________________Children Helping Children

Sisters Lydia, Laura, Carrie, and Eva Grace Hollandset up a lemonade stand this summer and choseto give their proceeds to Broyhill Home in Clyde.They presented their earnings to Broyhill Homedirector Linda Morgan.________________________________Delaware Church Volunteers

For the second consecutive year, a missions team from High Tide Church in Dagsboro, DEserved as volunteers at Mills Home inThomasville. The group, comprised of all ages,tackled projects including painting cottages and organizing activities with the boys and girls.The church also collected and delivered newbackpacks with supplies for the residents’ newschool year.________________________________Mills Home

Mills Home resident Christian spends time on thewater as part of a summer camp hosted by thestudent ministry of Scotts Hill Baptist Church inWilmington. It is the second year the church hasproduced the camp for BCH’s boys and girls.

________________________________Developmental Disabilities Ministry

This past summer, residents from BCH’s Develop-mental Disabilities Ministry (DDM) homes fromaround the state attended the annual HappinessRetreat. The event is held at Camp Caraway Con-ference Center in Sophia and offers special needsadults an opportunity to have fun, fellowship andgrow in faith. Structured similar to Vacation BibleSchool, this year’s retreat taught participants howto proudly share God’s love with others. Learnmore about DDM at www.hereismyhome.org.________________________________Kennedy Home

Children from Kennedy Home in Kinston recentlyattended a community back-to-school eventhosted by North Side Community Church inRocky Mount. Every resident received a school-week's worth of new clothing and the church presented a monetary gift to Patrick Fuller.Patrick is BCH’s new Director of Development forthe eastern area of the state.________________________________Moody Farmhouse

Recently, volunteers from Pleasant Valley SouthBaptist Church in Silver Creek, GA came to BCH’slocations in Franklin to assist with work projects.The group served at Drake Cottage as well as thefarmhouse on the Moody Home property.

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Every day at churches and BCH facilities “around the state,” residents, staff members and North Carolina Baptists are mak-

ing news. In Charity & Children and through BCH's social media posts, friendscan connect daily, weekly and monthly to learn about all of BCH's happenings.______________________________________________________________________________________

Stay connected online at www.bchfamily.org and on Facebook, Twitter,YouTube, and Vimeo. Also follow NCBAM (www.ncbam.org) and BCH'sDevelopmental Disabilities Ministry (www.hereismyhome.org).

Get Involvedwww.bchfamily.org/getinvolved

You can meet the daily needs ofBCH’s boys and girls by sharingyour time, talents and resources:___________________________________

Food Angels: Through your FoodAngel sponsorship you provide regular meals to Baptist Children'sHomes' boys and girls. For as little as$4.92 a month, you can help provide36 meals to children and families in need. Become a sponsor atbchnc.org/bchfoodangels

Friends of Children Workdays:The perfect one-day missions out-reach. Projects for all ages! StatewideBCH workdays available in May and September. See 2016 dates onpage 8. Call 336-474-1209.

Mile of Pennies: Help by collecting a “Mile of Pennies.” When caring forhundreds of children, it takes every-one working together – one pennyadded to another penny and then another penny. Continue to multiplythe pennies and just imagine how faryou can go in making a real differ-ence! Call 336-474-1209.

Gently-Used Furniture Donationsand Volunteer Opportunities:Fancy Finds takes your gently-usedfurniture and home decor items andcreatively repurposes them to help all of BCH’s ministries. Fancy Findsneeds items as well as volunteers.Learn more at fancyfinds.org or call 704-909-8223.

Recycle Projects: Collect emptyprinter cartridges (laser, inkjet andfax cartridges). Deliver items to anyBCH facility or use prepaid shippinglabels to send items to recycler. Mil-lions of cartridges are thrown awayeach year. Begin collecting and helpthis year-round program earn moneyfor children. You can recycle cellphones, too. Call 336-474-1209.

Sweet Dreams Bed Sponsor: Youcan sponsor a child’s bed and ensurethey know that you care about them.A plaque with your name engraved,and if you choose the name of an individual you honor or memorialize,is affixed on or above a child's bed.Your special gift serves as a reminderto children that you are rememberingthem as they slip away to “sweetdreams.” Call 336-474-1277 or visitbchnc.org/bedsponsor.

Orphan Reach: Be a sponsor for anorphan living at the Good ShepherdChildren’s Home, BCH’s affiliate or-phanage in Xela, Guatemala. A childsponsorship is a perfect outreach fora church, association or group. Tolearn more or to schedule a missionstrip, visit www.orphanreach.org

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/kennedyhomealumni

Aquick personal word: The last week of August was really

a different kind of week for me! I have been having trouble with myheart and lungs since last December.On August 29, I went to the hospi-tal in Greenville for a heart proce-dure. They went from both legs upto my heart and burnt part of myheart as well as freeze part of it. Ithurt all week, but they said that it would get better. I may have to have a pacemaker later. Please remember me in your prayers.

Becky and I live in Jacksonville. I looked out the window and therewas a deer standing in my backyard.I put corn out and she came backwith her baby. That reminded me so much of Kennedy Home.

When I served there, I loved totake children camping at SketterHut, in a tent, and even in the “cowfeed barn.” On the fourth weekendwhen the children could go homeor visit a visiting resource family, I would take camping some of the ones who had no place to go –I couldn’t stand for them not to dosomething special. Almost always,we would see deer. They wouldcome up so close! We would seethem the whole year until huntingseason and then they would all van-ish – smart deer.

I received a note from JamesOdell McNeill at 315 Memas Lane,Lillington, N.C. 27546. Jameswrites: “I went to KH in 1958. It was very different than anything I had ever known. After I got used to it, it was wonderful. Other thanlearning about Jesus, accepting Himas my Savior, and meeting the ladythat I have been married to for fiftyyears, it was perhaps the best thingthat has ever happened to me.

“I have a lot of wonderful memories from when I was there.One of the things I remember mostis roller skating. I had never been on skates before. I learned to skateusing the old metal roller skate –I’m talking about the ones thatclamped onto your shoes and had a key to adjust them. I would putthe skates on and coast down the

hill on the sidewalk in front ofBunker Cottage. I would squatdown and roll down the sidewalkout to the road. After I learned,some of my friends and I would raceon the road. While we were racingas hard as we could, quite often oneof the skates would come off, andwe would hit the pavement. It madefor a lot skinned knees, elbows andtorn clothes – but it was fun.

“Earning money at KH was veryserious business. One way was todrive a school bus – which I neverdid. Another way was to sweep outa bus every day to get the dirt andtrash out. The bus drivers paid us a quarter a week. Working overtimewas another way. We would pick up hay bales, put them on the fourwheel wagons, take them to thebarn, and stack them. Sometimes wewould mow pastures and fields withthe bush hog. All overtime was after6 p.m. or on Saturday afternoon.This work paid twenty-five cents an hour. Time was turned in at the office. Wages were collected at 11:30 on Saturday morning.

“The big money maker for someof us boys was picking up pecans. A ten-quart bucket full could besold for a dollar. In the day time, we would throw sticks and ball bats up into the trees to knock thepecans down – but the best way wasto climb into the trees and shake thebranches. For obvious reasons, thiswas frowned upon by the adults. So,we would wait until it was dark andpick pecans at night. One of theboys would climb the tree and shakethe branches till the pecans fell to the ground. The way you findpecans on the ground at night is to lay and roll around. If we rolledonto something hard, it was proba-bly a pecan. I don’t remember anyof us ever getting caught.

“I remained at KH until I gradu-ated in 1965 and really enjoyed mytime there.”

And now from Barbara Smith(‘67-‘72): “Hello, John. I so enjoymy Charity & Children (C&C)and appreciate the time and energy you put into the alumnicolumn. My sister Penny and

I arrived the year you arrived at KH.I enjoyed singing in the choir – al-though I had more spirit than tal-ent. We lived in both Ferebee andPollock Cottages with Donna Duty.She was younger than the two ofus – sort of a little sister. I remem-ber her as being a little shy. She dida wonderful job writing our C&CKH column before you.

“I hope you’ll read the articleI’ve attached. It’s a little about whathappens after we graduate and leavethe comfort and security that KHprovided through everyone’s loveand guidance. It’s also about thosefolks that played an important partas we journeyed forward. Thanksfor keeping our memories and recollections alive.

“Through C&C, I have read and enjoyed so many stories of our lives while at KH. What I haven’t read are stories about what happened after leaving KH. So many people guided us while at KH. What about those folks that picked up where KH left off?

“We probably all remember oursenior year at North Lenoir HighSchool. My senior year was 1972.But what happened after leavingKH?

“The first thing that stands outfor me is my ‘senior foot locker.’When we left, it went with us. I don’t remember all that was in itwhen I left, but I still have it. Yes,44 years later it is still in my closet.

“My story hop scotches fromwhen Sharon Terrill helped meapply to UNC Wilmington to another wonderful social worker,Ann, doing periodic visits to makesure I was on track. But there wasalso someone else, outside of KH. I bet a lot of us had a ‘someoneelse’ who carried the torch and keptus on point. Maybe it was a relative,a member of the church, or some-one you worked with. My torch was held high by Jean Piner. Whileat UNCW on a student loan pack-age, I worked in the Admissions &Registrar’s Office. Jean was morethan a supervisor – she welcomedme into her family immediately. Shedidn’t really need me in her family.

She already had a wonderful hus-band, Mike and four boys – mostwere older than me. Many times, I ate at their table; one of her sonsfixed my aging ‘66-‘67 VW Bug –a bit of a rust bucket. But as thoseyears passed, I recognized howmuch I needed her.

“Some time back, I reconnectedwith Jean. She was one of my matrons of honor at my wedding 39 years ago! After a lot of missedyears, talking to her again was a truegift – a blessing in so many ways. I don’t return to Wilmington asoften as I used to – mostly for fu-nerals and quick visits. But findingher again makes me remember thepart she played in my life. The PinerFamily are strong Baptists and re-ceive and read Charity & Children.

“My point? Sometime betweenleaving KH and finding your ownfooting, there was ‘a someone.’Maybe a few ‘someones’ that helpedyou. I would love to hear fromsome of my KH brothers and sistersand who those folks were for them.Will you share your ‘someone’ withus?”

Barbara, this is a great addition tothe column and a great suggestion.Thank you for writing.

In the next issue, I will sharesome wonderful memories fromLucy Waughan Walters (‘32-‘42).She had a birthday on August 4,2016 and celebrated 91 years.

As always, I encourage you towrite me a letter and tell me aboutyour years at KH. Please share whatyou have been doing since you leftKH. Your profession? Your family?What were your fondest memories?Your stories are important to thiscolumn’s readers.

Thanks to all who write me. And always remember, my wife of51 years and I love each and everyone of you. – jt

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Alum shares good memories of skinning knees, sweeping school buses, and selling pecans_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

By John Thompson, 2324 Country Club Road, Jacksonville, NC 28546 (252)671-3515 jthompson117@ec.rr.com

John Thompson was the choir director at Kennedy Home from1972-1977. Today, he enjoys a veryactive retirement.

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Calling All State Employees!Choose BCH as your charity in theState Employees Combined Campaign.SECC code is 3641. Encourage others toas well and better the lives of childrenand families in North Carolina.

We participate in these areas:C F C # 3 3 2 4 1

Research Triangle Area CFCCape Fear Area CFCCamp Lejeune/OnslowCounty/New River CFCSoutheastern North Carolina (includes Fort Bragg)

Greater North Carolina CFCCherry Point CFCRowan/Iredell County CFCCFC Central CarolinasCFC of Western NC

South Hampton Roads CFC(Camden, Chowan, Currituck,Dare, Gates, Hertford,Pasquotank, and PerquimansCounties and Albemarle andElizabeth City)

1. Western Area Family ServicesLinda Morgan, Lead Dir. 828-627-9254

2. Central Area Family Services Regina Keener, Dir. 336-474-1200

3. Eastern Area Family Services Brian Baltzell, Dir., 252-522-0811

3. Odum Home Kathy Locklear, Res. Campus Mgr.910-521-3433

4. Cameron Boys Camp Stephen Ashton, Dir. 910-245-4034

5. Camp Duncan for Girls Paul Daley, Dir. 910-944-3077

6. Oak Ranch/Family CareLynn Garner, Dir. 336-474-1240

7. Weekday EducationLinda Russo, Dir., 336-474-1201

8.Dev. Disabilities Ministry Peggy Pennington, Dir. 336-474-1261

9. NC Baptist Aging MinistrySandy Gregory, Dir. 336-474-1221

10.Fancy FindsRenee Gregory, Dir.704-909-8223

11. Good Shepherd MinistriesGuatemala Orphanage & ClinicKeith Henry, BCH COO336-474-1215

Can we help?BCH offers services for children and families. Need help, call 1-800-476-3669.

By Jim Edminson, Editor

It’s an old-fashioned concept, but in our familycircle, we are for each other. Out there, people

and circumstances will come with a mighty force,and sometimes, one of us may be beaten down.But in the circle, we undergird and stand together come whatmay. There’s secu-rity in family.

Our family meet-ings help. This infor-mal gathering existsin families all acrosstime and space andserves the purposeof building unity.We have had count-less family meetings as our children grew, but a few stand out as game-changers.

Our oldest child and only son was an eleven-year-old dynamo who knew how to speak hismind on the occasion of a momentous familymeeting. Sitting around the dining table, weshared news of acing a math test and completingan art project as well as the bonus of giant picklesserved at the canteen. At this particular meeting,the conversation took a serious note when I said,“Mom and I have an announcement.”

Suddenly, three little faces took on solemn expressions and more than a little apprehensionfilled the air. I took the plunge: “We are going tohave a baby! You all will welcome a new brotheror sister in the autumn!” Kathy and I endeavoredto communicate our joy with wide smiles and

expressions of our happiness. The girls joined the excitement, tossing out

plans for naming and making room in hearts.Kyle, however, sat stoically deep in thought.

His silence quieted the room. He took a deepbreath and blew it out his mouth before pro-nouncing, “Okay, you can have a new baby.

As long as she’s a sister.” Months later, Kyle

smiled his very contentedwelcome upon the arrivalof baby sister Mary, andthe oldest and youngest of our children haveformed a strong bond over the years. They areeach other’s firmest sup-porters – they have each

other’s back. They’re family.Family is my heritage.

My siblings, Gerry,Eddie and Kelly, had my backthroughout my childhood.I rememberfamilymeetingswhen myparentscautionedus to bekind

to one another – looking out for each other, promoting each other positively out there.

One of my last conversations with my momwho passed in June centered around recalling a little bunny’s words, “If you can’t say somethingnice, don’t say nothing at all.” My mother, weak-ened by cancer, admonished me to rememberDisney’s Thumper. As she began quoting the familiar adage one last time, I joined her and we spoke the words together. Thumper takes me back to lessons learned from my childhood.

These thoughts promptme to speak comfort, tolook for the positive inothers, to support one another in all that life has in store. The challenges are real and some days are

difficult. As members of thefamily of the living Lord, let’s

present a united front againstall the negatives out there as

we support and uplift ourfellow sojourners. As

scripture admonishes:“Therefore encour-

age one anotherand build each

other up, . . . ”

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Thumper’s words of wisdom remain relevant today_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing

at all.”– Thumper

Edminson is editor of Charity & Children and writes “Homeword” to inspire and encourage families. He is available for preaching and speaking engagements.Email him at wjedminson@bchfamily. org or call 1-800-476-3669, ext. 1217 to schedule a date.