PeaceBuilders Can Prevent PeaceBuilders Can Prevent BullyingBullying

1.1. Quiz on BullyingQuiz on Bullying2.2. Are you a Bully?Are you a Bully?3.3. VictimsVictims4.4. Circle of BullyingCircle of Bullying5.5. Banish Bullying!Banish Bullying!By: Miss Taylor with great help from her 2008-09 4By: Miss Taylor with great help from her 2008-09 4thth Grade Grade

ClassClassNorth Tamarind Elementary SchoolNorth Tamarind Elementary School

Statements: Myth or Fact? Statements: Myth or Fact? 11. Only boys bully.. Only boys bully. 2.Bullies are insecure and have low self-esteem.2.Bullies are insecure and have low self-esteem. 3.Bullies don’t have friends.3.Bullies don’t have friends. 4.Bullies are usually failing in school.4.Bullies are usually failing in school. 5.Bullies are physically larger than their victims.5.Bullies are physically larger than their victims. 6.Bullies don’t really mean to hurt .6.Bullies don’t really mean to hurt . 7. Bullies usually feel bad about their actions, but they just can’t seem 7. Bullies usually feel bad about their actions, but they just can’t seem

to help themselves.to help themselves. 8. Looking different is the main reason children get bullied.8. Looking different is the main reason children get bullied. 9. If the victim fights back the bully will back down.9. If the victim fights back the bully will back down. 10. Telling on a bully will only make the situation worse.10. Telling on a bully will only make the situation worse. 11. Other children should stay away from the bully/victim situation or 11. Other children should stay away from the bully/victim situation or

they will get bullied as well.they will get bullied as well. 12. All leaders can learn to handle a bully.12. All leaders can learn to handle a bully. 13. Unless you change the bully’s home life, nothing will help.13. Unless you change the bully’s home life, nothing will help. 14. Bullies need therapy to stop bullying.14. Bullies need therapy to stop bullying. 15. Bringing the parents of the victim and the parents of the bully 15. Bringing the parents of the victim and the parents of the bully

together is a good idea.together is a good idea. 16. Once a victim, always a victim.16. Once a victim, always a victim. 17. Victims have usually brought the trouble upon themselves.17. Victims have usually brought the trouble upon themselves. 18.Learning-disabled children are at higher risk of being victimized.18.Learning-disabled children are at higher risk of being victimized.

Are you correct?Are you correct?

All the statements are:All the statements are:

MYTHSMYTHS except for the last except for the last statement.statement.

It is a It is a FACTFACT that learning that learning disabled children are at higher disabled children are at higher risk of being victimized by a risk of being victimized by a bullybully..

I might be a I might be a bullybully if I… if I… I tease others in a nasty way.I tease others in a nasty way. Taunt others. (Chicken!)Taunt others. (Chicken!) Call others names.Call others names. Make fun of others.Make fun of others. Ridicule others.Ridicule others. Push others around.Push others around. ShoveShove HitHit KickKick Damage things that belong to others.Damage things that belong to others.

Bullying can happen in Bullying can happen in many different ways:many different ways:

Physical BullyingPhysical Bullying: pushing, shoving, poking, pinching, hitting, : pushing, shoving, poking, pinching, hitting, slapping, punching, tripping, kicking, graffiti, vandalism, damage slapping, punching, tripping, kicking, graffiti, vandalism, damage to property or equipment.to property or equipment.

Verbal BullyingVerbal Bullying: yelling, answering back, name-calling, put-: yelling, answering back, name-calling, put-downs, swearing, abusive or obscene language.downs, swearing, abusive or obscene language.

Bullying by GesturesBullying by Gestures: threatening gestures, fists, put downs to : threatening gestures, fists, put downs to family, culture, home, and origins; mocking, derogatory written family, culture, home, and origins; mocking, derogatory written material. Gang bullying can happen in this form.material. Gang bullying can happen in this form.

Extortion BullyingExtortion Bullying: intimidating the victim with threats of : intimidating the victim with threats of physical violence or some other form of violence in order to physical violence or some other form of violence in order to obtain something they desire.obtain something they desire.

Exclusion BullyingExclusion Bullying: isolating, ignoring, spreading rumors, : isolating, ignoring, spreading rumors, derogatory remarks, condemning, non-physical but very socially derogatory remarks, condemning, non-physical but very socially hurtful actions are present.hurtful actions are present.

Emotional BullyingEmotional Bullying: excluding, teasing, spreading rumors, : excluding, teasing, spreading rumors, gossiping, vilifying, humiliating remarks, extortion and blackmail gossiping, vilifying, humiliating remarks, extortion and blackmail occur.occur.

Telephone and Cyber-BullyingTelephone and Cyber-Bullying: the victim is repeatedly : the victim is repeatedly telephoned or sent text messages, instant messages and/or telephoned or sent text messages, instant messages and/or email meant to harass or cause distress and discomfort to the email meant to harass or cause distress and discomfort to the victim.victim.

I might be a victim of I might be a victim of bullying if I’ve…bullying if I’ve…

Repeatedly teased in a nasty way, called names.Repeatedly teased in a nasty way, called names. Made fun of and laughed atMade fun of and laughed at Picked on, pushed around, shoved, hit, kickedPicked on, pushed around, shoved, hit, kicked Involved in fights even though I tried to get awayInvolved in fights even though I tried to get away Have had personal items taken or damagedHave had personal items taken or damaged Bruised, cut, scratched, or have clothing tornBruised, cut, scratched, or have clothing torn Always aloneAlways alone Always last chosen in team gamesAlways last chosen in team games Always stay close to a teacher or adult at recess Always stay close to a teacher or adult at recess

timetime I don’t like to speak up in class…I makes me I don’t like to speak up in class…I makes me

anxiousanxious My school work is always sloppy and rarely gets My school work is always sloppy and rarely gets

finishedfinished

There are two types of There are two types of victims…victims…

Passive VictimsPassive Victims: do not fight back : do not fight back and tend to be more shy, anxious, and tend to be more shy, anxious, and fragile than provocative victims.and fragile than provocative victims.

Provoking VictimsProvoking Victims: are only a very : are only a very small portion of the victims. They small portion of the victims. They provoke others and try provoke others and try unsuccessfully to fight back against unsuccessfully to fight back against bullies.bullies.

I might be a Bystander in I might be a Bystander in “The Bullying Circle” “The Bullying Circle” Which letter best describes you?Which letter best describes you? A.A. Bully/BulliesBully/Bullies: start the bullying and take : start the bullying and take

active parts.active parts. B.B. Followers/HenchmenFollowers/Henchmen: take an active part : take an active part

but do not start the bullying.but do not start the bullying. C. SupportersC. Supporters: Passive Bully/Bullies: support : Passive Bully/Bullies: support

the bullying but do not take an active part.the bullying but do not take an active part. D. Passive SupporterD. Passive Supporter: Possible Bullies: like : Possible Bullies: like

the bullying but do not display open support.the bullying but do not display open support. E. Disengaged OnlookersE. Disengaged Onlookers: watch what : watch what

happens while saying, “It’s none of my happens while saying, “It’s none of my business.” These witnesses don’t take a stand.business.” These witnesses don’t take a stand.

F. Possible DefendersF. Possible Defenders: dislike the bullying : dislike the bullying and think they ought to help out the target, and think they ought to help out the target, but they don’t help out.but they don’t help out.

I could also be this in the I could also be this in the “Bullying Circle”“Bullying Circle”

G. Defenders of the G. Defenders of the TargetTarget: dislike the : dislike the bullying and help or bullying and help or try to help the targettry to help the target

We can :We can :

BANISH BULLYING!BANISH BULLYING! Praise peoplePraise people Give up put downsGive up put downs Notice hurtsNotice hurts Think of many ways to right wrongsThink of many ways to right wrongs Seek wise peopleSeek wise people Make good choicesMake good choices Give someone a Praise noteGive someone a Praise note Be a good PeaceBuilder!Be a good PeaceBuilder!

Power Words Increase the Peace! Power Words Increase the Peace! (Be a good PeaceBuilder)(Be a good PeaceBuilder) PleasePlease Thank youThank you Helping us not say bad wordsHelping us not say bad words Excuse meExcuse me May I help you?May I help you? Your welcomeYour welcome Be nice pleaseBe nice please Will you please help me?Will you please help me? Bless you!Bless you!

Praise PeoplePraise People: What can we say?: What can we say? Would you like to be my friend? Would you like to be my friend?

(forever)(forever) You’re a good friend.You’re a good friend. You’re not all the bad things people You’re not all the bad things people

have been calling you.have been calling you. You’re friendly.You’re friendly. You’re the greatest friend!You’re the greatest friend! You’re awesome!You’re awesome! Thank you for helping me.Thank you for helping me. Would you like to play with me?Would you like to play with me? I hope you feel better.I hope you feel better. Thank you for being my friend.Thank you for being my friend.

Notice HurtsNotice Hurts: What can : What can we say or do?we say or do?

Did the bullying hurt your feelings?Did the bullying hurt your feelings? That must of hurt a lot!That must of hurt a lot! Are you OK?Are you OK? Why did they do that to you?Why did they do that to you? I hope like our “new student” someone I hope like our “new student” someone

put a band-aide on your hurt.put a band-aide on your hurt. This should not have happened.This should not have happened. We should Seek a Wise Person to help.We should Seek a Wise Person to help.

Right WrongsRight Wrongs: How do : How do we do this?we do this?

I regret what I did to you.I regret what I did to you. I apologize for___________. (calling you I apologize for___________. (calling you

names)names) I wish this had never happened.I wish this had never happened. I’m sorry that I ____________you.I’m sorry that I ____________you. I’m so sorry that I almost crushed your heart.I’m so sorry that I almost crushed your heart. You didn’t deserve it.You didn’t deserve it. Is there anything I can do to make this up to Is there anything I can do to make this up to

you? (Anything you want for Christmas?)you? (Anything you want for Christmas?) I was so wrong to hurt you.I was so wrong to hurt you.