personality growth and maturity

8/18/2019 Personality Growth and Maturity

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Personality Growth and

Maturity

Being Ready for Marriage


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Being Ready for Marriage Psycho–Social Readiness

Personality Growth and Christian Maturity

The Need for Christian Maturity

Personality and Its Influence

Growing towards Christian Maturity:

Deterrents

Maintaining and Improving Christian Maturity


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Personality The characteristic pattern of thoughts, feelings

and behavior that make a person unique.


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Personal growth A process that produces change and progress.

And it starts from within you.

Personal development will happen when onemakes:

a firm decision to understand oneself,

improve one’s awareness,

work on one’s attitude,

believe in oneself and one’s potential,

developing skills, and goals.


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Maturity The stage of growing up that is reached when a

person sufficiently develops powers of the body and

mind to understand what he/she wants. Maturity is having the capacity to become a

productive and contributor to society, with the

process of becoming more, deliberate, and decisive;

More considerate and charitable in traitsencompassed by higher levels of emotional stability,

consciousness, and agreeableness


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The Need for Christian Maturity A man and woman in marriage are not simply

two human persons relating to and loving

each other. It is a Christian man and a Christian woman

loving each other as Christ loves them.

It requires one to improve one’s personality in

terms of maturity; To look to Christ and His grace in loving

relationship with Him.


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Predisposing Factor that Shape

Personality: Influences

Heredity = genetic inheritance makes person

distinct

Environment = conditioned by the people

Education = opportunity to acquire right

knowledge & influence

Sanctifying Grace = the gratuitous gift ofGod’s life to us, infused by the Holy Spirit.


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Characteristics of a Christian Mature

Person

Flexibility – quality of being adaptable to a newsituation

Responsible – reliable and independent of his actionsand decisions in life; competent, decisive, facesconsequences, also penitent

Fidelity – faithfulness, true to one’s promise or

commitment or obligation Prayerful and humble – always in communication

with God


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Characteristics of a Christian Mature

Person

Full of Christian hope: looks at the brighter side ofthe future; exerts effort for excellence but leaves the

rest to God's mercy. Morally upright: prudent, self-disciplined, just and

courageous

Loving: forgiving, compassionate, respectful, helpful

Self-sacrificing: patient, perseveres in doing good


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Maintaining Improving Christian

Maturity To be vigilant in maintaining one’s responsible-

mindedness and ability to act correctly. This willmaintain and also strengthen a mature Christian

personality. Human virtues acquired by education, deliberate acts

and by perseverance are purified and elevated bydivine grace.

Everyone should ask for grace and strength, frequentthe sacraments, docile to the Holy Spirit, and followhis calls to love what is good and reject evil (CCC1811).


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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total

Woman (pp.122-126) Sex and sex-related matters are discussed openly due

to print and media

Misinformation and misinterpretation led tocorruption of morals

Women’s revolution of the 60’s; women

emancipation 70’s; Scourge of AIDS

Sexuality: vital role in formation of personal identity

Sexuality: affecting many if not all


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Woman (pp.122-126)

God’s Design for Human Sexuality

Bible: not detailed teaching especially in its

scientific aspect

Gives origin, purpose and final end of sexual

nature


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Woman (pp.122-126)

God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Maleness &

Femaleness

Gen. 1:27 – Imago Dei

Gen. 1:28 – “Be fruitful…”

Gen. 5:1-2 – “Male and Female He created…”


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Woman (pp.122-126)

The tremendous impact of our sexuality that

there arises a great need to find its proper place and meaning in our lives.


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Woman (pp.122-125)

God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original

Solitude

“It is not good for the man to be alone, I will

make him a helpmate,”

Gen. 2:18-20


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Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original

Solitude

Observations by PJP II -Understanding that he is unique

Exclusive relationship with God

Does not completely fulfill himself: fundamentaldeficient

All generations proceed from this occasion


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Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original

Solitude

The union of man and woman in marriage is away of imitating in the flesh the Creator’s

generosity and fecundity.

All generations proceed from this occasion.It is through sexuality that we can assist in

God’s power to love and to create.


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Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Creation of

Woman

Gen. 2:21-24

The woman is an aid to the humanity of man.

She completes it, fulfills it and creates in a special way.

Woman fulfills the creation of a human person.

Gen.2:24

The summit of the whole account of creation: Man andwoman are made for an intimate communion of

persons in reciprocity


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God’s Design for Human Sexuality:


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What is Sex? Not exclusively biological = generation

Immediate aim: genital activity

Real purpose is being missed: procreation and

education of children;

Act of having/engaging in sexual activity

Other ways of describing


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S…E…X Totality of one’s personality, that gives distinction;

That makes man as man, woman as woman;

Mode of relating to other human being;

Being with other sexual being: interrelate, communicate andcommune;

Capacity to form a stable relationship

Integration of somatic, emotional, intellectual and socialaspects (WHO)

Determinant of human personality

Sexual expression is communicative

Cannot be separated from love: maturity


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Sex Education: Is there a need? To attain maximum fulfillment in attainment of

infinite good through knowledge and love and moral

behavior Determination of one’s sexual role

SIECUS

Far beyond the facts on reproduction

Parents questioned the recent need for sex education

Sex education aims to develop men and women


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SIECUS Instruction to strengthen family life;

Increase self-understanding & respect;

Develop capacities for wholesome human

relationship;

Build sexual and social responsibility and

Enhance competency for responsiblecourtship, marriage and parenthood.


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Role of Parents First educators especially during childhood and

adolescence

To counteract unhealthy influences thatcontaminated sex education

Prevent imparting sex information dissociated frommoral principles.

PAREF: individualized formation with moralexplanation; chastity and sexuality understood in thecontext of love; provide information with care,clarity and propriety


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Male-Female Differences Awareness for better understanding and

acceptance of opposite sex

Male and female differ in their ways ofthinking, feeling and acting but not absolute

Maleness or femaleness is a matter of

predominance of attributes Differences reveal God’s plan for marriage


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Male-Female Differences: Identify

More intuitiveMore logical

More religiousLess religious

Learn sex through loveLearn love through sex

More idealisticMore realistic

Live longer Shorter life span

More patience, enduranceLess patience, endurance


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Sex Attraction Natural attraction that complements male and

female

Classification: General Sex Attraction: intriguing interest

towards opposite sex

Personal Sex Attraction: plays a role in God’s

plan of marriage


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Sexual Ethics Man is a sexual being but also a moral being

Sex is a divine gift

Sacred function

In marriage, it is given in unique expression

of union that is associated in God’s creativity.

Anything that contradicts this sacred reality ofsex involves an essential degradation


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Sexual Ethics:

When giving in to their animal instinct,

They become more like animals;

Less able to respect one another as persons;

One sees the other as an object

Respect becomes meaningless &

impossible


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Sexual Ethics:

What act is Permissible or Not? Human being is a moral agent.

Active participant in moral development

A responsible being

Knows how to relate

How he/she should become

Knows how to act


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Sexual Ethics:

What act is Permissible or Not? Declaration on Some Questions of Sexual

Ethics upholds Judeo Christian Morality

Sex is morally acceptable only in marriage To procreate

Raise children in a stable family

Sexual expressions outside marriage are immoral


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Sexual Ethics:

Sexual Expressions Outside Marriage Pre-Marital sex –

Sex before marriage

Living together

Having an affair

Declaration on Sexual Ethics:

Not lawful

Contrary to Christian Doctrine:

No indissoluble union demanded by the Lord

Sexual Intercourse outside marriage is formallycondemned (1Cor. 5:1; 6:9: Eph 5:5; 1Tim 1:10)


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Sexual Ethics:

Education in and for Chastity The authentic sex education is education for

chastity

6th Beatitudes: “The pure of heart shall seeGod”

CCC: Chastity = the successful integration of

sexuality within the person and the inner unityof man in his bodily and spiritual being.


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Integrity of Person: 6th Commandment The chaste maintains the integrity of life and love

placed in him.

Chastity is self-mastery; training in human freedom;governing his passion; choosing good

Comes under the cardinal virtue of temperance

Has laws of growth which progress through stages

Personal task; also cultural effort

Moral virtue: a gift from God, grace, fruit of spiritualeffort


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Integrality of the Gift of Self Chastity influenced by charity appears as a

school of the gift of the person

A practice to become a witness to hisneighbor of God’s fidelity and loving

kindness

Chastity blossoms in friendship with one’sneighbor and leads to spiritual communion.


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Various Forms of Chastity Who are called to live a chaste life?

All the Baptized. All Christ’s faithful are called tolive a chaste life.

Consecrated celibacy to give themselves to Godwith undivided heart

As prescribed by the moral law

Single

Married are called to conjugal chastity

Those who are engaged to marry. “Reserve”


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Offenses Against Chastity Lust: inordinate desire for sexual pleasure

Masturbation: deliberate stimulation

Fornication: carnal union of 2 unmarried

Pornography: removing real sexual acts

Prostitution: “sex for hire’

Rape: forcible violation of another person

Homosexuality: sexual attraction of same sex


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9th Commandment Forbids all malicious and evil thoughts that are

impure.

Warns against lust or carnal concupiscence. Demands Purification of the Heart: prayer, practice

of chastity, purity of intention and vision.

Purity of heart requires: modesty; patience, decency

and discretion Purity of heart enables us to see God; see things

according to God.


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Catholic: 10 Commandments I. I am the Lord your

God: you shall not havestrange gods before me.You shall not make foryourself a graven image.

II. You shall not take thename of the Lord yourGod in vain.

III. Remember to keepholy the Lord's Day.

IV. Honor your fatherand mother.

V. You shall not kill.

VI. You shall not commitadultery.

VII. You shall not steal

VIII. You shall not bearfalse witness againstyour neighbor.

IX. You shall not covetyour neighbor's wife.

X. You shall not covetyour neighbor's goods


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