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Principles for Engaging &to Effect Change with
Clients and loved others....
Stephen R. Andrew, LCSW, LADC, CCS, CGP [email protected]
www.hetimaine.org
Biography • Stephen R. Andrew, LCSW, LADC, CCS, CGP
“story teller”, trainer, therapist, author... Chief Energizing Officer of Health Education & Training Institute (HETI) and member of MINT (Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers) since 2003. MIA-STEP trainer for ATTC New England since 2007.. Trained MI internationally in 10 countries..He has been a substance abuse counselor in a public school system, and the Executive Director of an adolescent prevention/treatment agency. He is the co-founder of the Men’s Resource Center of Southern Maine whose mission is to support boys, men and fathers and oppose violence. Stephen maintains a compassion-focused private practice in Portland, Maine and facilitates men’s, co-ed and caregivers groups. He is the co-author of the book: “Game Plan: A man’s guide to achieving emotional fitness” with 2 friends. Stephen lives with his sweet wife, Hilary, and is the proud father of eighteen year-old Sebastian, in Portland, Maine USA.
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The nature of the conversation is critical…
What we say - and how we say it– and watching how it lands largely determines what the
person says and what happens next… What we say matters!
What motivates you? Who has been a Change Agent in your life? (e.g., relative, supervisor, teacher, coach, counselor, clergy person, child..ect.)
Had a “major positive influence” • What were their characteristics/values? • What did they do?
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Definition of Listening Presence, Interest & Curiosity
§ Focusing all of one’s purpose, attention, and energy on understanding what the person’s message means to the them..
§ Focus: What is the person is saying?
(simple empathic reflection) § Focus: what does the person MEAN ?
(complex empathic reflection)
Principle #1
• Use Naturally Therapeutic Qualities..
• Empathy & Compassion... • Autonomy & Support.... • Evoking.... • Practice...Pracice...
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Principle/Strategy #2
• Reflect empathy of a competent world view...
The work...
The work is to create a collaborative, person-
centered, guiding process of communication for inspiring the individual, family and community Elements of the communication: Collaboration; autonomy; respect;
compassion… Find the SHY SOUL..
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Strategy # 3
• The greatest gift we can offer anyone is our true presence... Thich Nhat Hanh
Presence ...LISTEN well...
" Undivided Attention " Listen with your “soft”
eyes,”warm” ears and your “open”heart.. " Acceptance " “Wicked lot” of Delight " Silence... 7
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Strategy # 4
• …Practice...
" “you are responsible for the intervention not the outcome” " get feedback of your work...
#5 .....Be comfortable with the “ Mystery”
Extratherapeutic Variables
40% Intentional
Engaging Relationship 30%
Technique 15%
Placebo 15%
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POWER & CONTROL (SOVEREIGNTY)
To love and be loved
CAPABLE
CONNECTION
Principle/Strategy # 7
★ No longer engage in power struggles with the client...
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Practice ... Affirmations ☺ Statements of recognition of
the person’s strengths/values ☺ Build confidence in ability to
change.. Notice courage…. ☺ Must be congruent, genuine
and specific... Principle.. #8
#9 Be disciplined in Practice.... 1. ENGAGE.. Express Accurate Empathy (acceptance, compassion-understands the person’s
competent world view)
2. HEIGHTEN AMBIVALENCE. .Develop the Discrepancy... (Change is motivated by perceived conflict between present behavior and desired goals) 3. EMPOWERMENT.. Support Self-Efficacy (worker believes in and listens for the
whisper/ “change talk” & commitment language)
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★ # 10 Stop all...
★ no “unsolicited” Advise, Suggestions & Feedback...
Framework… ♥ Opening/Purpose... ♥ Identify Target Issue... ♥ Gather Information- Empathic
Reflection...3 to 1 R/Q ♥ Exploring & Resolving Ambivalence
Present and dreams.. ♥ “Change Theory” and/or Plan... ♥ In Closing... Summarize...20/30 seconds
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TRAPS... #11 when working with “resistance”
" Question-Answer Trap " Trap of Taking Sides
" Expert Trap (I know, you don’t) " Labeling Trap
" Premature Focus Trap " Blaming Trap...
Principle/strategy # 12...
★ Again…” “To hold the “ right “ position is to destroy the relationship”…
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Principle # 13....
✦ “all judgement is violent” ...
★ INDEPENDENCE, SEPARATION AND INDIVIDUALISM FREE FROM CONNECTION NEEDS ARE NOT LEGITIMATE GOALS... #14
★ Love is the answer..
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Principle and final #15...
➡ Do you believe that every person has a self-determination towards “Health?’
➡ Practice reflecting with the person on their layers of hopelessness...
Thank You! Stephen R. Andrew LCSW LADC CCS CGP
www.hetimaine.org