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Rachel Cipriano, MHSE3+Fire
Speaker/ Author/ Coach
630-701-4827
Blog: http://www.rachelcipriano.com under ‘Musings’
SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM
• SELF ACCEPTANCE------Embracing all facets of ourselves; strengths, weaknesses. Acceptance of our humanity.
• SELF-ESTEEM-------How valuable/ worthwhile we see ourselves.
SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM
PERFECTIONISM
A disposition to regard anything short of perfection unacceptable.
DAVID BURNS, MD
• “Remember that fear always lurks lurks behind behind perfectionism.
• Confronting your fears and allowing allowing you yourself the right to be human can be human ca paradoxically, make you a happier, make you a f more productive person.”
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SYMPTOMS OF PERFECTIONISM
1) Judgmental 2) Chronic dissatisfaction 3) Controlling 4) Negativity 5) Anxiety 6) Depression
PERFECTIONISM AND ITS SPECIFIC FEARS
• Rejection
• Failure
• Success
• Inadequacy
MASK FEAR WITH PRIDE
TOOLS FOR SELF-ACCEPTANCE
• Accept yourself like you would accept a good friend
• See your “bad” traits in a positive light• Stop judging yourself• Allow yourself the luxury of failure
PARADOX OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND SELF-ACTUALIZATION
THEY REQUIRE-------- HUMILITY:
“The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance; lowliness of mind; a modest estimate of one's own worth.”
“Humility does not mean a person is low in self-acceptance, is self-sacrificing or self-critical. It is self-assurance that is without self-centeredness and which has the courage to value other people.”
SELF-ACTUALIZATION
• Self-acceptance • Humility• Leadership/ Service to others• Cooperation• Joy• Humor• Passion• Energy
Rachel Cipriano, MHSE3+Fire
Speaker/ Author/ Coach
www.rachelcipriano.com
630-701-4827