REASONS FOR DIVORCE

some of the reasons married couples separate

These days divorce is fairly common place, with around fifty percent of total marriages, and thirty percent of first marriages, not standing the test of time.

The reasons for divorce can be complex with so many potential underlying reasons for a marriage coming to an end. Therefore a list of the reasons for divorce can never be exhaustive.

In the following slides are some of the more common reasons that can lead to relationship problems and can ultimately lead to a permanent separation.

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Some of the Reasons

• Adultery• Desertion• Lack of Communication• Personal Differences• Family & Friends• Work • Finance

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Adultery

Adultery was until recently the most common reason of all for divorce in the UK, and from the victims point of view, it is one of the more emotionally painful. Adultery can be defined as anything from a long-term relationship with another person to a one-off mistake.

Although some marriages survive post-adultery, it is the death knell of many others. It strikes at the heart of what makes a successful marriage…… trust. When the trust has gone it makes it difficult to rediscover it, with many couples who attempt to move on eventually finding they are unable to.

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Desertion

Desertion is one of the official reasons that can be given for divorce. Divorce is automatically granted if one person deserted the other and they have been apart for five years or more. If both people within a marriage agree this will be the case after two years.

Desertion is not one of the most common underlying reasons for divorce, but more of a consequence of other factors. If a couple is having problems, one of them may leave the marital home, possibly meaning they are judged to have deserted their spouse. There are times when someone leaves their spouse for no apparent reason but this is rare.

Where desertion has happened it is fairly clear that a marriage is not working, and this is one of the reasons why a divorce is automatically granted where this is the case.

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Lack of Communication

Any relationship is built on communication, and if communication is poor then problems are inevitable. The nature of a marriage means that a couple, in many respects, live their life as one. If they are unable or unwilling to communicate with one another then doing this successfully becomes almost impossible.

A lack of communication also makes it difficult to overcome problems within a marriage as any issues tends to be swept under the carpet rather than them being dealt with, thus leading to resentment and further unhappiness.

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Personal Differences

Different lifestyles and ambitions are one of the top reasons why couples separate. We are all different and marriages between different characters can work, but there are times when these differences are just too great and have a negative impact.

Where two very different personalities are married then compromise is required. If one person dominates with the other never getting a say in how their marriage works, then this is likely to lead to resentment.

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Family & Friends

There are times when family and friends can have an impact on a marriage. If a couple doesn’t get along with one another’s family or friends then it can cause friction. This is particularly the case if they are particular close to their family or friends and see them on a regular basis.

If others dictate what happens within a marriage then it can lead to problems. This can also include cultural differences, for example where one persons family puts pressure on a couple to continue certain traditions.

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Work

In a number of ways someone’s work can impact their marriage. Someone who works all hours of the day might not be able to dedicate themselves to their family as much as they, or their spouse, may wish them to. Rarely seeing each other is not likely to lead to a healthy relationship.

Difference in career goals can also cause conflict. If one person is very career orientated while the other wants to spend more time together then this can be an area of strain.

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Money

Unfortunately money is a fact of life and serious money problems can have an impact on all aspect of our lives. This is the case with marriage as much as anything. Money worries causes stress which can lead to couples being angry and, in some cases, blaming each other.

If money worries are due to one person making a mistake it can lead to guilt on their part and anger on their partner’s part.

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Useful Links

• Resolution• Relate• Affairs no longer the leading reason for divorce• Family Solicitors London