Relationship Smarts

LOVE U 2

Session 2

Attractions & Infatuation

Overview• To prepare you with “relationship smarts”

as you enter the dating scene• To introduce the idea that good

relationships

What’s RQ???• Have you heard of IQ?• Intelligence Quotient – measure

of “learned intelligence” not innate intelligence

• RQ = Relationship Intelligence • Not something you are born

with

Test Your RQTrue/False Quiz

Dating Pyramid• Nobody sets out to have a

ROTTEN relationship• What are the key ingredients

to a “great relationship”? Great marriage?

• Jot down your thoughts on scratch paper

• Using the dating pyramid we are going to build a relationship

• Relationships have to start and then develop

The Dating Pyramid

• Pyramid is made up of 3 layers• You need to start a relationship

with a foundation– What ingredients would you need in

the foundation?

• The second layer is deepening and devleloping of the relationship– What words could represent this layer?

• The third layer is the mature stage– What ingredients go in this layer?

The Dating Pyramid• Foundation

– Communication

• Deepening/Developing– Trust, respect, reliance, physical

affection, honesty

• Mature– Sexual intimacy (WHEN

MARRIED!!)

The Inverted Dating Pyramid

• Sexual Relationship•Deepening/Developing

»Foundation

Infatuation• When first attracted to someone,

what kinds of feelings does one have??

• Infatuation – possessed by unreasoning passion or attraction. Lacking sound judgement.

• Infatuation – early feelings of attraction

• Feelings of attraction are not only very real, but powerful, exciting, and among the most pleasant sensations we can have.

IN UATIONFAT

In the beginning….

•Heart is fat with fascination for a person

•You fall in love with the image/idea of who this person is

•We shouldn’t fully trust these impressions, yet!

•Infatuation is “me” oriented

•What letter does “infatuation” begin with?

•Infatuation is about your feelings!

Infatuation

• Just getting used to the idea of “love”

• Advice: Enjoy the early feelings of infatuation, but don’t read too much into these early, exciting, and pleasant feelings. It is only with the passage of time that one might grow into love.

Love & Infatuation Card Activity

• Infatuation can be a step on the road to the real thing (love), but not necessarily.

• This activity will help you look more deeply at the differences between infatuation and the real thing (love).