section viii the week at camp! confronting abuse ● changing lives 1 rfk inc. 2012
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SECTION VIIITHE WEEK AT CAMP!
Confronting Abuse ● Changing Lives1RFK Inc. 2012
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1.GETTING READY
FOR CAMP
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DRESS CODE
• Modest camp attire for men and women –don’t become part of the problem
• Closed-toe athletic and/or hiking shoes
• Modest swimwear• Underwear and Sleepwear
closed toed sandals
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WHAT TO PACK• Enough clothes for 5-6 days (based on the Dress Code),
without use of laundry facilities• Closed-toed shoes to wear around camp• Open toed sandals / Flip flops for the pool or swimming
area ONLY• Windbreaker, sweatshirt, or rain jacket• Hat or visor recommended• Linens and pillow or sleeping bag • Toiletries and shower items• Bug spray, Sun screen, Chapstick• Snacks (eaten out of sight of children and NOT in
cabins)• Flashlight• Bible• OPTIONAL: CD player, fan for rooms
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BE AWARE OF…• Medications
– IF YOU ARE STAYING IN CLOSE QUARTERS WITH CHILDREN, all medications must be checked in with the camp medical professional.
• Mouthwash– Mouthwash should not be in reach of
children due to alcohol content (perceived or real).
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WHO GOES, WHO STAYS
Team One- Counselors and Staff to help set up camp on Sunday & be there when children arrive.
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Team Two – Smaller team of people need to be at registration and available to ride on the bus to camp
Team Three- Those who help set up camp or with registration but don’t go or stay at camp
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ATTITUDE
• Attitude is everything at Camp. Going in with a positive, flexible attitude is needed from every adult at camp.
• “For the Kids” • Support Your Director! Support
each other!
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NON-COUNCSELING STAFF
• Counselors are in for a long, hard week
• Some will hesitate to ask for help or relief
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Typical Thursday Counselor Position
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NON-COUNCSELING STAFF
Your role:–Lift them up in prayer throughout camp
–Watch for signs of fatigue and stress
–Help them whenever and wherever you can
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2.CAMP POLICY
AND RULE REVIEW
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CAMP POLICIES
2 ADULTSOPEN
DOORS
PRIVATEBEDS
NOCAMERAS ORCELL PHONE
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POOL TIME
• Pool Time Sign in/out Log Sheet• The lifeguard will make sure they’re
safe but your eyes are helpful. • Your role (counselor or staff) is
–to have fun!–be mindful of what’s happening underwater
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THE RULES, POLICIES & SCHEDULES
Backed By Decades Of RFKC Experience
• Rules and policies: – Protect the children– Protect you– Protect the integrity of
this camp and the national organization.
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THE RULES, POLICIES & SCHEDULES
Backed By Decades Of RFKC Experience
The schedule:– Takes into account the balance of restful
time with big activity time.– Accommodates the children without making
them feel rushed.– Is in conjunction with the camp facility and
their staff.
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NEVER BE ALONE WITH A CHILD
For any reason. Period. No exceptions.• Always be in sight of another adult. This
means:– A 2nd adult has to wait with you if your
camper is slow getting dressed in the morning and you’re late for meal time.
– A 2nd adult must be in sight if you need a private conversation with a child.
– A 2nd adult must accompany you to take a child to the bathroom.
– A 2nd adult must accompany you to take a child to the nurse’s station.
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REMEMBER 2 QUESTIONS
• How does this look or sound to the child (who’s been groomed, abused, etc)?
• How would this look or sound to social services? • Campers like to WILL tell their
Foster Parents and Social Workers everything about camp.
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3.OWNERSHIP
Foster children have few possessions
What do they have are hand-me-downs and worn out
Ownership of a new, personal item is rare for them
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OWNING A BIBLE
• Having a Bible is a powerful symbol of God’s Love for them
• Counselors should personally present it to their campers shortly after arrival
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OWNING YOUR NAME• Research camper’s
name for meaning and spiritual reference
• Hope is given when they discover they are valuable, and they matter
• May be the first time their name is used in a positive, affirming way.
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OWNING A NEW T-SHIRT
Campers are given 2 RFKC shirts.
First shirt on Monday • Visually identifies them as
part of the group
Second on Friday • Presents a clean, “taken
care of” image to the care givers
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• Memory book or photo album for each camper
• If possible, personalize them by adding a quick note or affirming words
• The photo album will be held onto longer than anything else!
OWNING YOUR MEMORIES
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• Name Banner• RFKC Memory Bag• T-shirts• Bible• Schedule• Bible Chapel Workbook• Memory Book/Photo Album• CD/Ipod of RFKC Music• Water Bottle w/Name
ITEMS GIVEN AT OUR CAMP
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4.WHAT
HAPPENSAT CAMP
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SUNDAYPREPARE FOR CAMPERS’ ARRIVAL
• Commissioning Ceremony at Church then off to camp ground.
• Decorate cabins for the campers - Make it feel warm and welcoming!
• Create signs with the children’s names for their arrival
• Set up Activity Centers• Circles of Prayer• Go to Bed by 10pm!
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MONDAY: THE ROYAL WELCOME
Staff should be lined up and waiting with their signs
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Make it a big deal, go crazy, it’s camp - go camp crazy!
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5.CAMP
SCHEDULE
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THE SCHEDULE • Subject to change at your director’s discretion• A balance of restful and big muscle activities • Consistent throughout the week• Gives the campers a routine they can count
on and trust• While it’s important to go at the pace of the
child, it’s also important to stay on time
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THE SCHEDULE • Think of the schedule as a boundary, not a
recommendation• Be where you’re supposed to be when you’re
supposed to be there• Do not deviate from the schedule or your
assignment without permission from the director
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A SAMPLE SCHEDULE• 7:00 a.m. – 7:45 a.m. LIGHTS ON: Wake up, get dressed• 8:00 a.m. – 8:30 a.m. Breakfast• 8:40 a.m. – 9:00 a.m. Group Game• 9:10 a.m. – 10:10 a.m. Breakfast Club/Counselor Meeting & Break• 10:20 a.m. – 11:45 a.m. Activity Centers• 12:00 p.m. – 1:30 p.m. Lunch and 30/30 time• 1:45 p.m. – 4:45 p.m. Swimming and Activities Centers • (90 minutes each)• 5:00 p.m. – 5:45 p.m. Dinner• 6:00 p.m. – 7:15 p.m. Evening Activities or Group Game• 7:30 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. Evening Event• 8:30 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. Stories and handbooks in rooms/group
hikes• 9:30 p.m. Bedtime/Relief Counselors on duty• 10:00 p.m. LIGHTS OUT
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GRADUATION(recommendation)
• For 11/12 year olds–Use them throughout the week in
leadership roles–Have special, separate events for
boys and girls one night (during cabin time at night)
–Graduation Program on Friday • Make them feel extra special
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SPECIAL EVENTS
• Several events are scheduled for the week
• EVERYBODY’S BIRTHDAY PARTY!
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ACTIVITY CENTERS• Activity centers set up to provide variety and
choices in a non-competitive environment• The activities are short and easy to complete,
focused on the PROCESS versus the PRODUCT • Great opportunity for non-
counseling staff to interact
with the campers
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TEACHABLE MOMENTS
• A moment where a camper opens up, wants to learn more
• Can happen anytime, anywhere• Most often happens walking to and from
events and activity times
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CLOSING CEREMONY
• Closure for the children and staff• Simple ceremony to remind
them of what they’ve learned• Allows an opportunity to “leave their cares behind”
– Tree-planting– Time capsule– Balloons released
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6.GOING HOME FROM CAMP
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GOING HOME LOGISTICS
• Make last-day logistics as stress-free as possible for the campers
• Counselors may ride home on the bus with their campers if there is room aboard.
• The ride home can be very somber. Have tissues, barf bags, and a long movie ready if possible.
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ARRIVING BACK AT THE CHURCH
• Counselors – stay with the children– There will be a check-out process for the
caregivers– Help find and retrieve your campers’ belongings – Help find and retrieve your campers’
medications from the camp nurse/doctor
• Non-counselor staff must take care of unloading all children’s belongings FIRST and sort for easy identification. Staff belongings and camp materials take second priority.
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DEALING WITH CAREGIVERS
• Be prepared for any kind of behavior from the caregivers
• Be prepared for the defensive walls from your campers
• STAY POSITIVE AND AFFIRMINGIf a caregiver shows up overly belligerent
and/or under the influence, notify the director immediately
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CHILDREN’S PROGRAM
• Upon return, a brief program for caregivers that includes:–“Public” video or slide show–Children sing 2-3 songs–Caregiver and child leave
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DEBIEF(recommendation)
After a week of affirming children, it’s important to affirm each other
• Meet in small groups or one large group
• Share “Stories of the One” and experiences and camp’s impact
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WELCOME HOME BANQUET
• In the spirit of giving EVERYONE the Royal Treatment
• Held in your honor with family and friends
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WELCOME HOME BANQUET
• A time to thank the staff and acknowledge their service
• A time to serve those who have served.
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3 FOR 3
Before we move on…
Let’s have three questions about this section.
AND / ORThree Take-a-ways
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