Self-EsteemSelf-Esteem

September 2006September 2006

How to estimate yourselfHow to estimate yourself

• Do I like myself? Do I like myself?

• Do I think I'm a good human being? Do I think I'm a good human being?

• Am I someone deserving of love? Am I someone deserving of love?

• Do I deserve happiness? Do I deserve happiness?

How to improve your How to improve your self-esteemself-esteem

• Realise you are not alone in how you Realise you are not alone in how you feelfeel

• You are wonderful, unique & specialYou are wonderful, unique & special

• You have a right to make mistakesYou have a right to make mistakes

• Your rights, opinions and ideas are Your rights, opinions and ideas are just as valid as anyone else'sjust as valid as anyone else's

• Learn to say noLearn to say no

Accentuate the positiveAccentuate the positive

• Be positiveBe positive

• List 50 things you like about yourselfList 50 things you like about yourself

Taking criticismTaking criticism

• People with low self-esteem find it People with low self-esteem find it hard to take (and give!) criticismhard to take (and give!) criticism

• Try:Try:– listeninglistening– agree where possibleagree where possible– ask for clarificationask for clarification– when you're wrong, admit itwhen you're wrong, admit it– Reply gently if criticism is wrong or Reply gently if criticism is wrong or

unfairunfair

Giving criticismGiving criticism

• Use the word 'I', not the word 'you‘Use the word 'I', not the word 'you‘

• Always try to criticise a person's Always try to criticise a person's behaviour rather than the person. behaviour rather than the person.

Giving criticism –Giving criticism –Pendleton’s RulesPendleton’s Rules

• What did you do well?What did you do well?

• What could you have done better?What could you have done better?

• I think you did this well…I think you did this well…

• I think you could have improved by…I think you could have improved by…

10 minute technique10 minute technique

• Give yourself some spaceGive yourself some space

• Find 10 minutes to be alone & do Find 10 minutes to be alone & do nothingnothing

• You can try meditation or just You can try meditation or just imagine a nice scene & relaximagine a nice scene & relax

For more informationFor more information

• Want to test your self-esteem?Want to test your self-esteem?

• http://testyourself.netdoctor.co.uk/inthttp://testyourself.netdoctor.co.uk/interactivetests/selfesteem.phperactivetests/selfesteem.php

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