Note from CEO Steve Dickie: Finding ways to provide support for people living with dementia and their caregivers is a growing concern in our society. Oklahoma Methodist Manor’s mission of serving in the spirit of Christ calls us to learn, to grow and to improve the services we offer. Lately we have learned about the Dementia Action Alliance (DAA) and we are partnering with its Executive Director Karen Love to discover how we can improve the quality of life of people living with dementia. You can learn more about resources available from DAA at http://daanow.org. We hope you find this article written by Karen to be helpful.

At the age of 49 Kate Swaffer received a diagnosis of younger

onset dementia and was told to quit her job, put her affairs in order, and look into long-term care options. This spunky Australian lady decided not to heed the doctor’s advice.

“If I had received a diagnosis of a stroke or brain injury, I would have been enrolled in various therapies to address symptoms of the condition. Dementia is the only illness I know of where we are basically told to go home and give up.”

Kate coined the term ‘prescribed disengagement’ for the societal mentality of giving up on people with dementia. Prescribed disengagement™ creates a mindset for individuals diagnosed with dementia that they have no future and destroys his/her sense of well-being. This mentality lowers a person’s own expectations about how they can live and what they can do, and it lowers other’s expectations about how the person who has dementia can function and live.  

The majority of people who care about someone living with dementia don’t realize active efforts are needed to keep the individual engaged. It’s essential to the individual’s emotional well-being. A study conducted by Harris Interactive in 2012 found that over 90 percent of care partners didn’t realize the importance of helping keep individuals actively engaged throughout the day. Most people are quick to recognize when a person needs help with something obvious such as opening a door for a person with arms full of groceries. The recognition is not as obvious when the help needed is a result of invisible brain changes from dementia. When an individual living with dementia is not capable of processing the cognitive steps for staying meaningfully engaged, they can become marginalized and diminished which erodes his/her emotional well-being.

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LIVING BEYOND A DEMENTIA DIAGNOSIS: POSITIVE ENGAGEMENT

BY KAREN LOVE, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR ~ DEMENTIA ACTION ALLIANCE

MM

September 2016 . Focus on Vocational Wellness

Reflecting Manor Life

Manor Mirror

INSIDE THIS ISSUE

CHAPLAIN 2COVER CONTINUED 2VOCATIONAL WELLNESS 3ADS 3GRANDPA JOHN 460TH BIRTHDAY PARTY 5SPECIAL ANNIVERSARY 6BIRTHDAYS 6TRANSITIONS 6FEATURED EVENTS 7

Pictured Above: Kate Swaffer

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MARK IT ON YOUR CALENDAR…THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 22, 3 P.M., FLEMING CENTER!

This will be The Manor Community’s second CALL TO PRAYER.

When we gather in the Fleming Center, we will be focusing on praying for our country as we approach the elections coming up in November. We will be guided through the powerful promise-filled verse

2 Chronicles 7:14, which reads……if My people who are called by My name will humble

themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

Our time together will be experiential. You will hear brief, insightful devotional thoughts, see images that call us closer to the Lord, sing songs to inspire our petitions, reflect in silence to sense the leading of God’s Spirit, and leave with resources for further prayer and meditation.

Would you join me in praying even now?

Psalm 3312 Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord,The people He has chosen as His own inheritance…

20 Our soul waits for the Lord;He is our help and our shield.21 For our heart shall rejoice in Him,Because we have trusted in His holy name.22 Let Your mercy, O Lord, be upon us,Just as we hope in You.

I will see you on the 22nd.

IF MY PEOPLE WILL…BY DUB AMBROSE, CHAPLAIN

“Being meaningfully and positively engaged is essential to humans’ well-being, our ability to be resilient, our motivation to stay positive, and our ability to better manage the emotional toll of the condition.” Fortunately Kate decided not to give up or consider any boundaries to what she could do or achieve, and instead has become an active advocate. Kate chairs the Dementia Alliance International and serves on the World Dementia Council. She writes a poignant and insightful blog about her journey living with dementia at http://kateswaffer.com/daily-blog.

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The OMM Care Line is a new prayer link. People often say, “Please pray for me.” When hearing of a life change, many people begin praying for the person in need. “I will pray for you.” The new Care Line is designed to share prayer requests and offer a way to request prayers.

When you call the Care Line at 918-346-6668, you will hear our Chaplain’s voice welcoming you. Navigate through the menu to learn who has requested prayer or leave your prayer request.

We ask thee to mercifully hear us who have made our prayers and supplications; and to grant that those things which we have faithfully asked according to thy will, may be obtained, to the relief of our necessity, and to the setting forth of thy glory; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

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Vocational Wellness includes any meaningful activity which

occupies your time, and adds purpose to your life. Vocational wellness affects our lives in 5 areas. These areas include sleep, work,

education, social interaction and leisure.

Sleep is essential to overall wellness and it affects our ability to perform our vocation. The recommended hours of sleep per day are 6-7.5. Sleeping outside of these parameters can cause greater functional limitations, slower mobility, decreased neuromuscular performance, increase in heart conditions and mood fluctuations. When we engage in education we are strengthening our vocational wellness which results in improved overall health, decreased chronic pain, increased self-management and improvement in long-term exercise participation. “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”-Henry Ford. Vocational wellness and a job/work are not necessarily the same things. A vocation or job is a committed occupation that is performed with or without financial reward.” (AOTA, 2014) Continuing in a vocation or occupation

can result in improved health and well-being reflected in better mental outcomes such as lower levels of depression, a positive view of life and a greater life satisfaction. Participating in vocational wellness through leisure results in increased longevity, better coping skills and improved wellbeing. Leisure is anything that is a nonobligatory activity that is intrinsically motivated and engaged in during discretionary time.” (AOTA, 2014) Finally there is social participation which is the interweaving of occupations or vocations to support desired engagement in community and family activities as well as those involving peers and friends” (AOTA, 2014) Social engagement encompasses many of the dimensions of wellness and most of the 5 areas of vocational wellness. Social engagement increases cognitive abilities, decreases physical decline, improves functional performance, results in fewer chronic diseases.

Vocational wellness is the opportunity to continue to grow mentally, physically and socially. Remember what Sir Isaac Newton said, “An object in motion tends to stay in motion and an object at rest tends to stay at rest.” Keep everything moving and growing for the best life possible.

VOCATIONAL WELLNESSBY KATIE COX, WELLNESS DIRECTOR

 

Ac%ve  Aging  Week  2016  

September  26-­‐30  

See  the  Life  Enrichment  Calendar  for  Details

September 26-30

See the Life Enrichment Calendar for Details.

2016 ACTIVE AGING WEEK

A CELEBRATION OF GENERATIONSGRANDPARENTS DAY 2016

Sunday, September 112:00-3:30 p.m.

Petting zoo, Carnival, Old-time cartoons with popcorn, Cool cars, Wii Bowling, Ice cream treats, and Bingo

RSVP for yourself & your guests by picking up tickets from the Concierge or Receptionist by September 4.

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Grandpa JohnREMEMBERS

A FATHER AND SON AND TOOLS (2014)BY JOHN C. WESTERVELT

A month before getting married in Oklahoma in 1954, I built a redwood car top carrier for the move to New Jersey for my job with Bell Telephone Laboratories in New York City. Back in Tulsa a year and a half later, I set the four- by six- foot car top carrier on 8-inch concrete blocks, added two shelves and a drop down worktop, and nailed it to the garage wall.

It was fifty years ago. Nelda, Paul, Mary Kim and I lived on 23rd street in Tulsa near Hoover Elementary School. Paul was seven-years-old. Any time I was at my workbench, Paul was close by watching me work and handing me tools. When Paul was eight, we moved to our new house on 53rd street near Salk Elementary School. The fold-down workbench was installed on the wall opposite the garage door. A seven-foot wide raised workspace meant I did not need to move the car to use the workbench. Paul continued to watch me work and hand me tools. By the time Paul was a young teenager, he was doing projects on his own.

Paul and his wife Sandy live in Katy near Houston. After Sandy’s mom Nancy died, Paul and Sandy worked in Tulsa several weekends over the past year getting her house ready to sell.

In early November 2013, Paul arrived in Tulsa on a Saturday morning flight at ten. Sandy stayed home to administer a women’s conference on Friday night and Saturday. Paul went by the carpet store and picked up carpet samples. I had met

the carpet salesman at Nancy’s house during the week to measure the floor space. When I arrived at the empty house with my toolbox, Paul was taking down ceiling fans and light fixtures in two bedrooms.

At Home Depot on 41st, Paul picked out two ceiling light fixtures. He looked over several dozen bins of kitchen knobs to find the one that matched the one that Sandy had selected in Katy. We needed 34 more knobs. The bin held 24. We drove south to the 71st street Home Depot and bought ten more knobs.

As Paul stood on a ladder installing ceiling light fixtures, I handed him a hand screwdriver to start the long screws into the ceiling electric box. Next I handed him the electric screwdriver to drive the long screws until tight.

In the kitchen I held the wastebasket next to Paul while he used the electric screwdriver to remove kitchen cabinet knobs. We both installed knobs. I asked Paul to tighten the screws on the knobs I put in place.

This story began with Paul at age seven watching me work and handing me tools. On this Saturday, I watched Paul work and handed him tools. I hope he enjoyed watching his daddy work and handing him tools when he was seven as much as I enjoyed watching Paul work and handing him tools when I was eighty-five.

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Get ready to party, celebrating 60 years of history at Oklahoma Methodist Manor! The theme of the party

is the 1950’s. So put on your poodle skirts, jeans, and fun 1950’s attire. In October we will enjoy 1950’s music; 1950’s movies; Tree Top Specials; and decorations. Looking around the campus you will find many decorations such as a lighted outdoor “60” sign; Banner, Posters and Signs; a Jukebox; Elvis; and Record Sculptures. Phyllis Rhodes and Joyce Peace have done an excellent job decorating for the anniversary and we are thankful for members who volunteered to help create some of the decorations and centerpieces. Vicki Treiber and Lori Johnson have gone all out to have decorations and entertainment for Holliman and the Health Center. Thursday evening will be an informal fun party time for all the members on campus.

You will be able to have a choice of timing: 4:30 p.m. Dinner in Charter Oak and 6:00 p.m. Entertain-ment in Fleming Center OR 4:30 p.m. Entertainment in Fleming Center and 6:00 p.m. Dinner in Charter Oak

The party favor will be a complimentary OMM History DVD available for OMM Members (one per household). This is an Oral History of early members, a few staff members, and some old photos of OMM. They will be given out as you leave your 6:00 p.m. venue - Charter Oak or Fleming Center.

Entertainment will include The Bop Cats with 1950’s music and “Elvis” will make an appearance, so practice up on your swing dancing and, of course, the twist. The dinner will be served in baskets and will represent food choices popular during that time period. Save the date and watch for your invitation coming later in September.

In addition there is an Open House for the Public and for those who have not had an opportunity to see the campus. The Open House will be held on Sunday, October 23 from 2:00 p.m. until 4:00 p.m. Our own OMM Ambassadors will be helping with hospitality at the Open

House. There will be refreshments; a presentation of our campus expansion with Steve Dickie and Bob Funk; bus tours of the campus, tours of Crestwood, and OMM History Rooms set up in the two Hobby Room on the first floor of Crestwood with Memory Books, Old Photos and Memorabilia.

The OMM History Rooms in the two Hobby Rooms of Crestwood will be available to OMM Members on Monday, October 24 and Tuesday, October 25 from 10:00 a.m. until 3:00 p.m. At this time if you did not have an opportunity to pick up your complimentary Anniversary History DVD they will be available in the Hobby Rooms. If you need additional DVD’s for your family, you can pick them up at this time.

Look around on campus and you will see decorations, signs, and activities begin as we celebrate the 60th anniversary of Oklahoma Methodist Manor.

CELEBRATE OMM’S 60TH BIRTHDAY ON THURSDAY, OCTOBER 20TH

60TH ANNIVERSARY CO-CHAIRMEN: CAROLYN & JERRY EHLERS AND GAYLE & STAN TETER

The 60th Anniversary Steering Committee: front row, left to right Mike Davis, Jacob Will, Charlene Fabian, Carolyn Ehlers, Steve Dickie, Gayle & Stan Teter; back row: Matt Loyd, Melanie Fugatt, Jerry Ehlers, Dennis Graham, Irene Brown, Cari Owens

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SEPTEMBER BIRTHDAYS Betty Sue McNabb ...................1Warren Danskin ........................2Lorraine Goodson ....................2Vera McCloud ...........................2Freda Coffey .............................3Lou Taylor .................................4JoAnn Bingham ........................6Barbara McClintock ..................6Julia Greenlee ..........................7Myrna Snediker.........................8Luther Boring ............................9

Frances Chandler......................9Earl Smith .................................9Peggy Jackson ........................10Sue Phelps ..............................10Kitty Brumbaugh ....................12Elsie Kuck ...............................13Eleanor Shirk ...........................13Berl Babiak .............................14Armenda Cann .......................14Pete Whittet ...........................14

Joyce Taylor ............................15Richard Ziglar ..........................22Mabel Fuhrmann ..................24Virginia Gray ...........................25Emma Jean Crowell ................26Gary VanFossen ......................27Jack Cearing ...........................29Betty Pearson .........................29Cherlyn Sunflower ..................29Nadean Todd ........................ 30

ANNIVERSARIESRichard & Dolores Hedger ................Sept. 5, 1955Glenn & Kitty Brumbaugh ...............Sept. 10, 1945

Bob & Pat Graf ................................Sept. 10, 1994Al & Glenna Anderson .................... Sept. 20, 1963

In Memory of: Hershel A. Witt ............... July 29

MABEL AND CLINTON FUHRMANN 70TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY

Mabel and Clinton Fuhrmann celebrated their 70th Wedding

Anniversary September 1, 2016 at a family party at the Oklahoma Methodist Manor in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

Mabel Marie Morgan is a 1942 graduate and valedictorian of Healdton High School. Clinton Roy Fuhrmann is a 1940 graduate of Hennessey, Oklahoma, High School.

Mabel and Clinton met through Wesley Foundation at McFarlin Methodist Church in Norman, Oklahoma, where they both were attending the University of Oklahoma. They graduated in 1945.

Mabel and Clinton were married in Bartlesville, Oklahoma on September 1, 1946, at the First Methodist Church. They lived there, raising their family, until 1969 when Clinton’s employer Cities Service Petroleum Company moved to Tulsa. While in Tulsa, Mabel taught mathematics in the Tulsa Public Schools and at Tulsa Junior College. Clinton retired from Cities Service/Occidental Petroleum in 1986.

In 2004 they moved to the Oklahoma Methodist Manor where they now reside.

Mabel and Clinton are members of Boston Avenue United Methodist Church and the Wesley Fellowship Class.

BY MARY WHITE, DAUGHTER OF MABEL AND CLINTON

Featured Life Enrichment Events

MAKING BEAUTIFUL MUSIC TOGETHER: PIANO AND RECORDER RECITALTuesday, September 13 at 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

The husband-and-wife duo of Dr. Lester Brothers (piano)

and Jan Brothers (recorder) will present beautiful music including selections by Handel, Chopin, Richard Rogers, and hymn tunes. Les recently retired from a career as college music professor and Jan is an accomplished clarinetist who has also mastered the Baroque Recorder. No reservations necessary.

OMM’S OWN MEMBER’S MOMENT IN HISTORY: DONNA GOES TO MARSFriday September 16 at 3:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

From her early teens, OMM Member Donna Shirley was fascinated by science fiction and dreamed of exploring Mars. She began flying lessons and, before she was out of her teens, she was soloing and earning her pilot’s licenses. She earned a degree in Aerospace Engineering from OU and a master’s in Aerospace Engineering from the University of Southern California. Shortly after graduation, Donna won a job with NASA’s Jet Propulsion Laboratories. She worked on the very first unmanned mission to Mars in 1966, eventually becoming Manager of Mars Exploration. Her work came to splendid fruition on July 4, 1997, when the entire world watched as the Mars Pathfinder and the Sojourner Rover successfully landed on Mars. Not only was this event one of the U.S. space program’s greatest successes, but it may well provide the

world with some of the most important scientific data of the 20th and 21st centuries. Using slides and video, Donna will share her insider’s story of her involvement in this fascinating moment in history. No reservations necessary.

OMM CHORUS OPEN HOUSEMonday, September 26, 3:30-4:15 p.m. in Crestwood Theatre

Love to sing? Enjoy music? Want to lift your spirits? If you

answered yes to any of these questions then come to the OMM Chorus Open House. Dan & Kathy Call, Director and Associate Director of Music Ministries at University United Methodist Church, return to lead us. They are dynamos and generously give their expertise and energy to OMM’s Chorus. Come meet them, enjoy refreshments and camaraderie, talk about music you’d like to sing and what you’d like the OMM Chorus to be, and, of course, we’ll sing! Researchers have discovered that “singing is like an infusion of the perfect tranquilizer, the kind that both soothes your nerves and elevates your spirits.” Coming to the Open House does not obligate you to join the chorus. Try us out and lift your spirits too! No reservations necessary.

THREE B’S: BACH, BEETHOVEN, AND BRAHMS WITH VIOLIST DEBRA MORGAN AND PIANIST GINNY LEDOUX

Tuesday, September 27, at 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center

OMM favorite Debra Morgan, professional violist and violinist, is a member of the Tulsa Symphony Orchestra and also performs with Tulsa Opera, Tulsa Ballet and the Signature Symphony. She is married to OMM’s Senior Vice President of Finance, Scott Morgan. Ginny LeDoux is the founder and Artistic Director/Conductor Emerita of the Tulsa Children’s Chorus and the Director of Children’s Music Ministries at Boston Avenue United Methodist Church. You won’t want to miss this beautiful program.No reservations necessary.

BY IRENE BROWN, LIFE ENRICHMENT COORDINATOR

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OMM IS NOT ALONE IN TURNING 60.

We celebrated Steve Dickie’s birthday on August 5th. Pictured in front of the Anniversary logo with wife Faith and children Bethany and Daniel.