Sunset Hills

“Where Everyone Belongs!”

Bullying PreventionParent Education NightSeptember 15, 2011Based on research by Celeste Campbell, Ed.D.

• Raise awareness about bullying behavior

•Develop a better understanding of how girls may bully differently than boys (and why this matters)

•Create a better understanding of the roles involved in a bullying incident

•Share some effective strategies parents can use to support a child who:

Exhibits bullying behavior

Is a target of bullying behavior

Is a bystander/witness

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Social and physical bullying are evident in all ages from preschool through adulthood.

Our young children are using their current relationships to rehearse their roles for adulthood.

What kind of adults do we want our children to be?

Name calling and other lower level forms of bullying behavior escalate if they aren’t addressed head on.

We have the greatest chance of making a positive impact if we act NOW.

What is bullying?

What are some examples of bullying

behavior?

Hitting, pushing, kicking ThreateningName callingHurtful teasingExcludingBossing (controlling what others play or who they play with)Spreading rumors or gossip

VerballyIn writingOn the Internet (Facebook, e-mail, etc.)Texting

Bullying is a pattern of repeated behavior

(physical, verbal, emotional, social)that is meant to hurt someone else

and usually involves an imbalance of power.

o Intent to cause harmIntent to cause harmo Imbalance of powerImbalance of poweroRepeated/patternRepeated/pattern

o VerbalVerbal

o EmotionalEmotional

o SocialSocial “in person” OR electronic assault“in person” OR electronic assault

o PsychologicalPsychological

o SexualSexual

o PhysicalPhysical

(www.stopbullying.gov - Dept. of Health & Human Services, Department of Education, & Department of Justice)

Cyber

Hitting, pushing, kicking

Threatening

Name calling

Hurtful teasing

Excluding

Bossing

Spreading rumors or gossip

IN YOUR FACEIN YOUR FACE

BEHIND YOUR BACKBEHIND YOUR BACK

Do girls bully

differentlythan boys?

How?

Understandingthe

“Girls’ World”

Understandingthe

“Girls’ World”

Girls (more than boys) typically form their identity based on relationships with others.

A girl’s friendship can provide closeness and comfort, but can also be the source of enormous pain and hurt.

1) Person doing bullying behavior

2) Target

3) Bystander

The target is the person receiving the bullying behavior.

A child can be a target without becoming a victim.

THE GOOD NEWS - Bystanders have, by far, the most power to make a positive difference in a bullying situation!!

When bystanders do not stand up for the target, they are probably either afraid or lack the confidence to take a stand.

Bystanders may join in the bullying behavior, overtly or passively, to avoid being targeted themselves.

The Power of One Oath

I will not bully others.I will not stand by while others are

bullied.I will report and deal with bullying

whenever I see it……because I havethe Power of One

IF YOUR CHILD IS THE TARGET

Don’t minimize or explain away the bullying behaviorDon’t blame your child for doing something to aggravate the bullyDon’t rush in to solve the problem for your childDon’t tell your child to fight backDon’t rush to confront the bully or the bully’s parents

IF YOUR CHILD IS A BYSTANDER

Don’t tell your child not to get involved

Intervene immediately with discipline – restitution, resolution & reconciliationNurture empathy Create opportunities for your child to “do good” and compliment themMonitor TV, phone, computer and musicEngage the family in constructive, entertaining and energizing activities

Be a good listenerLet your child know that they are not alone in thisLet your child know that it is not their faultPraise your child for being brave and sharing what happened with you Guide him or her through the problem solving processRole-play ways to handle a future situation assertively

•Don’t join in on the hurtful behavior•If it is safe, tell the bully to “cut it out” or “stop being mean”•Be a friend to the target•Tell an adult•Praise your child if they help a friend•Emphasize that they have the power to make a positive difference!

What did you learn today? What was new information?

What strategies are you going to commit to try with your child?

Please record any burning questions or suggestions you have on the index cards provided and leave them on the table

Thank you for making a difference!!