skills and strategies for working with fathers 2014
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Skills and Strategies for Working with Fathers 2014TRANSCRIPT
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Skills and Strategies for Working with Fathers
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Part I
Skills and Strategies for Working with Fathers
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Today’s Learning Objectives
Explain the importance of father involvement and the impact of father absence
Assess personal values and how they influence work with fathers
Explain how different life situations of fathers may impact their involvement
Explain paternity establishment and legitimation processes in Georgia
Identify strategies for identifying and locating non-residential fathers
Recognize different barriers to father involvement
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THE IMPORTANCE OF FATHERS
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Activity: Media Fathers
What makes a “good” father?
1. Think of a male from television, movies, books, or news that you would like to have as a father. Write the name on an index card. Under the name, write why you would like to have this person as your father.
2. Think of a male from television, movies, books, or news that they would not want as a father Write this name on the back of the card. Under the name, write why you would not want this person as their father.
3. Share your two names and reasons you would or would not want this male as a father.
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24 million (1 out of 3 children) live absent their
biological father
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Importance of Father Involvement
Healthy child development Gender identity Responsible sexuality Emotional and social commitment Financial security
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Negative Outcomes of Father Absence
Poverty Child maltreatment Delinquency Emotional and behavioral problems Rates of incarceration Teenage pregnancy Drug and alcohol abuse Low educational achievement
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Critical Father Roles
Provider
Protector
Nurturer
Teacher
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Protector and Provider
The ability to provide and protect is still connected with the average man’s sense of self and sense of manhood.
Feelings of inadequacy in this role can influence father involvement.
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Nurturer and Teacher May look different
in mothers and fathers but father nurturing is just as important to a child’s well-being
Fathers serve as an important guide to the outside world.
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Self-Awareness and Work with Men
Our values in the context of relationships with men
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Fathers in Different SituationsMarriage
Most often associated with
positive outcomes for children
Maltreatment may be an
indication of problems in
the marital relationship
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Fathers in Different Situations cont
Cohabitating parents
A lot like marriage, but not exactly the same, especially when children are involved.
May mean less
commitment and stability
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Fathers in Different Situations cont
Incarcerated fathersMay never have learned to be a good father
Most incarcerated men are fathers, but most have never been married and weren’t living with their children at the time of their arrest.
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Fathers in Different Situations cont
Multiple Fathers Which man is “dad” in the eyes of the child?
Each one can potentially help to keep the child safe. The task is to determine which one will do it.
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Fathers in Different Situations cont
Boyfriends
May not have same
emotional commitment as
a biological father
Poses a higher risk to children
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Fathers in Different Situations cont
StepfathersResearch varies as to the risk
they pose to children. Carefully assess the family dynamics and the role the stepfather plays in the family system.
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Process for Working with Fathers
IDENTIFYLOCATE
and ENGAGE
INVOLVE
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PATERNITY, LEGITIMATION, AND DILIGENT SEARCH
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Father Definitions Biological Father: The man whose
sperm caused the baby to be conceived.
Putative or alleged father: A man who someone claims is the biological father of the baby.
Presumed Father: A man who was married to the baby’s mother at the time of the baby’s birth, or shortly thereafter.
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Father Definitions cont Legal Father: The man who:
a) Has legally adopted the child;
b) Was married to the biological mother of that child at the time the child was conceived or was born, unless such paternity was disproved by a final order
c) Married the legal mother of the child shortly after the child was born and recognized the child as his own
d) Has legitimated the child by a final order
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Paternity vs. Legitimation
Paternity: establishes that a man is the biological father of a child, and therefore has a duty to support the child he has fathered.
Legitimation: establishes a biological father’s legal rights concerning a child who was “born out of wedlock.”
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Paternity Establishment Both parents sign Voluntary Paternity
Acknowledgment form Legal determination of paternity Paternity testing available through OCSS if
father denies paternity Names the biological father, obligates the
biological father to pay child support, but does not entitle the biological father to visitation with the child.
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Legitimation
To legitimate a child in Georgia, the biological father has two options:
(1) Administrative legitimation through completion of the Voluntary Paternity Acknowledgment, including the Legitimation Section.
(2) File a petition for legitimation with the court.
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Process for Working with Fathers
IDENTIFYLOCATE
and ENGAGE
INVOLVE
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IDENTIFYING AND ADDRESSING BARRIERS
TO FATHER INVOLVEMENT
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Barriers Vs. Excuses
Generate a “Top Five List” of the reasons fathers give for being absent, not being involved, or not being more involved in their children’s lives. Record your list on a sheet of paper and then decide if the reason listed is a Barrier or Excuse
Lack of involvement – are there barriers or are we just
hearing excuses?
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Barriers to Father Involvement
Case manager and systemic bias Overburdened case managers
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Barriers to Father Involvement
Personal circumstances of the father Psychological pain
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Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Case manager’s reluctance to involve a male perpetrator
History of intimate partner violence
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Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Not knowing he’s a dad Father has a new family to think about Remarriage of either parent
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Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Geographical distance Lack of finances
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Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Lack of confidence in parenting skills Lack of appropriate male role models
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Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Frustration in dealing with legal system and bureaucracies
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This session brought to you by…….
Thank you…………for your attendance and participation!
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Part 2
Skills and Strategies for Working with Fathers
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Today’s Learning ObjectivesDevelop strategies for addressing barriers to father involvement
Develop strategies for engaging mothers around the issue of father involvement
Decide how to identify, locate and engage fathers in different situations
Identify opportunities for involving fathers in the assessment and case planning processes
Identify formal and informal support services for fathers
Engage in purposeful conversations with fathers
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IDENTIFYING AND ADDRESSING BARRIERS
TO FATHER INVOLVEMENT
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Values Voting
Listen as each statement is read.
Decide which option best represents your position on the statement: Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree Our values about mothers,
fathers, co-parenting, and relationships
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Mothers Gatekeeping
The father’s relationship with the mother (or maternal grandmother) may be the greatest determinant of successful father involvement.
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Strategies for Enlisting Mothers’ Support
Be aware of your approach and the way you communicate with mothers about father involvement
Alleviate fears Demonstrate
respect Be culturally
sensitive Tailor the
approach to fit the family’s situation
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Strategies for Enlisting Mothers’ Support
Explain: The importance of father
involvement Father has a legal right to
see his children (legal father)
Children have a right to know their father
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Strategies for Enlisting Mothers’ Support cont
Listen: To what the mother is saying
about the father. To what the father is saying
about the mother For values/beliefs impacting the
mother’s willingness to involve the father
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Strategies for Enlisting Mothers’ Support cont
Address safety concerns
of mother and child
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Strategies for Enlisting Mothers’ Support cont
Encourage mother to look beyond personal issues with the father
Lifetime benefits to the child Extra support for her during rough times
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement
Five categories for addressing the barriers to father involvement.
Take actions that: Prevent Prepare Establish Involve Support
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement
Prevent Prevent further child maltreatment and emotional harm to children by emphasizing to men their responsibility as fathers.
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Prepare Prepare fathers by helping them attain the knowledge, skills, and financial resources to adequately care for their children.
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement cont
EstablishHelp fathers firmly establish their relationship with their children. This includes the legal relationship and the parenting relationship
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Involve Involve fathers in the child’s life. Most critically, involve the father in the case process.
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Addressing Barriers to Father Involvement cont
Support Provide fathers with ongoing support that will help them sustain beyond the life of the DFCS case
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FATHER INVOLVEMENT: ASSESSMENT, CASE
PLANNING AND SERVICES
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Factors Associated with Fathers and Maltreatment
Poverty, underemployment, or unemployment
Substance abuse Childhood history of abuse Low sense of self-worth
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Child Support TypologyAble & Willing To
PayWilling But
Unable To Pay
Able But Unwilling To Pay
Unwilling And Unable To Pay
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Fathers and Decision Making Meetings
Fathers should be engaged in the same manner as mothers in the planning and decision making process related to their children. This includes non-custodial, alleged or putative fathers.
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Fathers and the Confidentiality Issue
Do not allow concerns about confidentiality to become and excuse for not engaging fathers!
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Father Friendly Services Value fathers and the role they play Address fathers’ needs Are supportive; not punitive Are respectful of gender differences in parenting Where possible, provide positive male role
models Provide services at times and locations that are
accessible to fathers Provide an environment that is inviting to fathers
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Case Managers as a Resource For Fathers
Purposeful visits with fathers: Review of safety, permanency, and well-
being issues and case plan goals/activities Provide relevant resources Follow up – ask if he has accessed the
resources, what he thought about them, additional ideas/resources he came up with, changes made
Share “messages fathers need to hear”
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PURPOSEFUL CONVERSATIONS ABOUT
FATHERS
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Empathy
Father’s perception: CPS is a threat to me and my family. I am a failure because I did not protect my children.
Case Manager’s response: Demonstrate empathy (the ability to perceive and communicate with sensitivity the feelings and experiences of another person)
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Respect
Father’s perception: I am being disrespected by the case manager, “the system.”
Case manager’s response: Don’t provide a reason (by your actions, words, nonverbal communication, “attitude”) for father to accurately conclude that he is being disrespected.
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Genuineness
Father’s perception: I don’t trust DFCS, I don’t trust this case manager. This is going to turn out badly for me.
Case manager’s response: Be honest and authentic. Be consistent with what you say and do. Don’t give fathers a reason to accurately conclude that you are setting him up or “running a game” on him.
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Conversation vs. Interview
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Communication with Male Clients
Acknowledge that it can be difficult for a man to ask for and accept help
Demonstrate expertise ---show that you know something about men and have a toolbox for working with them
Send signals that you actually like men Don’t assume he’s good at talking about his
problems or that he knows what to expect from conversations with you
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Communication with Male Clients
Understand that he may not know specifically what to do in a certain situation with his child or his child’s mother
Don’t assume he’s a stereotypical guy Don’t expect him to use feeling words Acknowledge that he is a father
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This session brought to you by…….
Thank you…………for your attendance and participation!
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“This project was supported in part by the Governor’s Office for Children and Families through the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Community Based Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CFDA 93.590). Points of view or opinions stated in this document are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the Governor’s Office for Children and Families or the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Community Based Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CFDA 93.590)."