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LESSON # 5LESSON # 5RELATIONSHIPRELATIONSHIP

(ADAB TOWARDS PARENT)(ADAB TOWARDS PARENT)

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Arabic (plural) of Adab : meanings – “good breeding, decency, nurture, good manners, refinement, cultured, decorum, courteous, etiquette, propriety, social grace, to educate, discipline, the humanities, etc.” sense of proportion and knowledge of their rightful place in the order of things, the absence of which indicates injustice

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ArabicArabic (plural) of (plural) of AdabAdab : meanings – “good breeding, decency, : meanings – “good breeding, decency,

nurture, good manners, refinement, cultured, decorum, courteous, nurture, good manners, refinement, cultured, decorum, courteous,

etiquette, propriety, social grace, to educate, discipline, the etiquette, propriety, social grace, to educate, discipline, the

humanities, etc.”humanities, etc.”

sense of proportion and knowledge of their

rightful place in the order of things, the

absence of which indicates injustice


““We are (much) in need of a little adab, from We are (much) in need of a little adab, from

(that of) going out (seeking) after much of (that of) going out (seeking) after much of

‘ilm (knowledge)” ‘ilm (knowledge)”

– – Imam ‘Abdullah al-MubarakImam ‘Abdullah al-Mubarak


“In understanding our ‘Self’ (Nafs), each one of us as Muslims,

must be reminded of our covenant made is the world of the

Souls – which in this world we, as Muslims, have renewed

alHamdulillah, with our shahadahtain.”

RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON

LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADABBy: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail


“To be as witnesses in attesting Tauhiid, we are commanded to

uphold Justice. By justice, we have the terms “qistw ” and

“‘adalah” with their profound significations quite different from

the English word “justice” generally understood.

Thus our understanding of Adab connotes this imperative

towards Justice, tampered with Ihsan and generosity.




“OUR RELATIONSHIPS”





In our existence, we have to be mindful of our life and

all our responsibilities and commitment which we are

commanded to bind ourselves to, or have taken upon

ourselves towards those whom we have covenanted

(made contract / agreement) with.

Placing them in their rightful place, fulfilling or giving

them their just due.





“And interact with people in the best manner And interact with people in the best manner

of disposition (i.e. adopt a noble character).”of disposition (i.e. adopt a noble character).”

(Hadith reported by at-Tabrani)

In interacting with people, our Prophet s.a.w. commands us to

adopt the best manner in our disposition, which when applied

would require knowledge with “Adab.”




“ “Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he

was nothing--(not even) mentioned?― Verily We created Man was nothing--(not even) mentioned?― Verily We created Man

from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave

him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way: him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way:

whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will).” whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will).”

((Qur’an: Insan: 76: 1-3Qur’an: Insan: 76: 1-3))


Relationship with the SelfRelationship with the Self

THE WORLDTHE WORLD

TIMETIME

SELFSELFBODYBODY

TONGUETONGUE

MINDMINDDESIREDESIRE

HEARTHEART

Initial traits Initial traits ::[1] Appetite, [1] Appetite, [2] Emotion still link to needs,[2] Emotion still link to needs,[3] curiosity, memory,[3] curiosity, memory,[4] imitative, see, listen & do,[4] imitative, see, listen & do,[5] application of[5] application ofbasic sensory feelingsbasic sensory feelings

NAFS al-AMMARAH NAFS al-AMMARAH (Commanding self)(Commanding self)

Link to various Link to various QuwwahQuwwah (powers): (powers):

[1] [1] shahwiyyashahwiyya (desires)(desires)[2] [2] ghadabiyyaghadabiyya (anger)(anger)[3] [3] WahmiyahWahmiyah (imaginative)(imaginative)[4][4] ‘aqliyya‘aqliyya (thoughts)(thoughts)

Importance of linguistics to thoughts:


Relationship with the SelfRelationship with the Self

THE WORLDTHE WORLD

TIMETIME

SELFSELFBODYBODY

TONGUETONGUE

MINDMINDDESIREDESIRE

HEARTHEART

Initial traits Initial traits ::[1] Appetite, [1] Appetite, [2] Emotion still link to needs,[2] Emotion still link to needs,[3] curiosity, memory,[3] curiosity, memory,[4] imitative, see, listen & do,[4] imitative, see, listen & do,[5] application of[5] application ofbasic sensory feelingsbasic sensory feelings

NAFS al-AMMARAH NAFS al-AMMARAH (Commanding self)(Commanding self)

Link to various Link to various QuwwahQuwwah (powers): (powers):

[1] [1] shahwiyyashahwiyya (desires)(desires)[2] [2] ghadabiyyaghadabiyya (anger)(anger)[3] [3] WahmiyahWahmiyah (imaginative)(imaginative)[4][4] ‘aqliyya ‘aqliyya (thoughts)(thoughts)

Importance of linguistics to thoughts:

““He (Allah) has created man: He has imparted He (Allah) has created man: He has imparted unto him articulate thought and speech.” (Q:55: 3-5)unto him articulate thought and speech.” (Q:55: 3-5)


In our relationship regarding our Education – we In our relationship regarding our Education – we

are to encounter, i.e. assisted by our educators - are to encounter, i.e. assisted by our educators -

with what is referred to as, “with what is referred to as, “knowledgeknowledge”.”.



Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared, Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared,

nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and

developed by a developed by a Murabbi’Murabbi’ (EDUCATOR) – the first of (EDUCATOR) – the first of

whom are our PARENTS.whom are our PARENTS.



Relationship with the Parents and TeacherRelationship with the Parents and Teacher

Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared, Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared,

nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and

developed by a developed by a Murabbi’Murabbi’ (EDUCATOR) – the first of (EDUCATOR) – the first of

whom are our PARENTS.whom are our PARENTS.



Islam: to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLDTHE WORLD

TIMETIME

SELFSELFBODY

TONGUE

MINDDESIRE

HEART

Obedience to Parents and teachersObedience to Parents and teachersBeginning of education:[1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc.

Teacher/Educator:[1] Parent[2] Teacher

Although ultimate isKnowledge, (boththeoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial.

PARENTSPARENTSTEACHERSTEACHERS

KNOWLEDGEKNOWLEDGE




TIMETIME

SELFSELFBODY

TONGUE

MINDDESIRE

HEART




TEACHERSTEACHERSKNOWLEDGEKNOWLEDGE


PARENTSPARENTS


““[O man] be grateful towards Me and towards thy parents, [O man] be grateful towards Me and towards thy parents,

[and remember that] with Me is all journeys’ end.”[and remember that] with Me is all journeys’ end.”

((Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14))

TO CONTINUE WITH THIS LESSON # 5TO CONTINUE WITH THIS LESSON # 5


““DO MEN THINK that on their [mere] saying, “We have DO MEN THINK that on their [mere] saying, “We have

attained to faith”, they will be left to themselves, and will attained to faith”, they will be left to themselves, and will

not be put to a test? Yea, indeed, not be put to a test? Yea, indeed, We did test those who We did test those who

lived before them; and so, [too, shall be tested the people lived before them; and so, [too, shall be tested the people

now livingnow living: and] most certainly will God mark out those who : and] most certainly will God mark out those who

prove themselves true, and most certainly will He mark out prove themselves true, and most certainly will He mark out

those who are lying.”those who are lying.”

((Qur’an: Ankabut: 29: 2-3Qur’an: Ankabut: 29: 2-3))


“ “Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he

was nothing--(not even) mentioned?― Verily We created Man was nothing--(not even) mentioned?― Verily We created Man

from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave

him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way: him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way:

whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his willwhether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will).” ).”

((Qur’an: Insan: 76: 1-3Qur’an: Insan: 76: 1-3))


““And [remember the time] when your Sustainer made [this And [remember the time] when your Sustainer made [this

promise] known: 'If you are grateful [to Me], I shall most promise] known: 'If you are grateful [to Me], I shall most

certainly give you more and more; but if you are ungrateful, certainly give you more and more; but if you are ungrateful,

verily, My chastisement will be severe indeed!“verily, My chastisement will be severe indeed!“

((Qur’an: Ibrahim: 14: 7Qur’an: Ibrahim: 14: 7))


The key to succeed in The key to succeed in

this test as well as to deserve this test as well as to deserve

achieving further increase of achieving further increase of

bestowals from Allah.bestowals from Allah.

yet how does one become yet how does one become

grateful? What are the grateful? What are the

important criteria?important criteria?

1.1. Acknowledge and extol praises of the Acknowledge and extol praises of the

true giver, Allah Who alone is God, true giver, Allah Who alone is God,

the Bestower of all favours. Avoid the Bestower of all favours. Avoid

committing “committing “SHIRKSHIRK”. ”.

2.2. Learn the value of what is given, Learn the value of what is given,

appreciating them constantly, do not appreciating them constantly, do not

take any of these favours for granted. take any of these favours for granted.

3.3. Utilize what is given in accordance to Utilize what is given in accordance to

what may please the Giver (i.e. do what may please the Giver (i.e. do

not abuse the gift), so as not to cause not abuse the gift), so as not to cause

His wrath to befall us.His wrath to befall us.

CRITERIACRITERIA


““Begin with what Allah begins with”Begin with what Allah begins with”

((Hadith of Prophet Muhammad s.a.wHadith of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.).)

“O you who have believed, do not put [yourselves] before Allah

and His Messenger but (be conscious of and ) fear Allah. Indeed,

Allah is Hearing and Knowing.” (Qur’an: Hujurat: 49: 1)


““AND WORSHIP (serve) Allah [alone], and do not AND WORSHIP (serve) Allah [alone], and do not

ascribe divinity, in any way, to others beside Him. ascribe divinity, in any way, to others beside Him.

And do good unto your parents,And do good unto your parents,””

((Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 36Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 36))


“ “Allah’s pleasure (acceptance) is in the pleasure (acceptance) of Allah’s pleasure (acceptance) is in the pleasure (acceptance) of

your parents (towards you), and Allah’s displeasure is in the your parents (towards you), and Allah’s displeasure is in the

displeasure of your parents (towards you).”displeasure of your parents (towards you).”(Hadith reported in Subulus Salam narrated from

the Prophet s.a.w. by ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn ‘Ash r.a.)


“ “(A person) is not grateful to Allah, those who are (A person) is not grateful to Allah, those who are

unwilling to (or cannot) be grateful towards people”unwilling to (or cannot) be grateful towards people”

((Hadith reported by TirmidziHadith reported by Tirmidzi))


““[Allah] said, "O John (Yahya), take the Scripture with determination." [Allah] said, "O John (Yahya), take the Scripture with determination."

And We gave him judgement [while yet] a boy. And affection from Us And We gave him judgement [while yet] a boy. And affection from Us

and purity, and he was fearing of Allah. And and purity, and he was fearing of Allah. And dutiful to his parentsdutiful to his parents, and , and

he was not a disobedient tyrant.”he was not a disobedient tyrant.”

((Qur’an: Maryam: 19: 12-14Qur’an: Maryam: 19: 12-14))


““[Jesus] said, "Indeed, I am the servant of Allah. He has [Jesus] said, "Indeed, I am the servant of Allah. He has

given me the Scripture and made me a prophet. And He given me the Scripture and made me a prophet. And He

has made me blessed wherever I am and has enjoined has made me blessed wherever I am and has enjoined

upon me prayer and zakah as long as I remain alive. upon me prayer and zakah as long as I remain alive. And And

[made me] dutiful to my mother,[made me] dutiful to my mother, and He has not made and He has not made

me a wretched tyrant.” me a wretched tyrant.”

((Qur’an: Maryam: 19: 30-32Qur’an: Maryam: 19: 30-32))


And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents:

in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years

twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude

to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.”

(Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14)


““But if they endeavour to make you associate with Me But if they endeavour to make you associate with Me

that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them

but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate

kindness kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to and follow the way of those who turn back to

Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I

will inform you about what you used to do.” will inform you about what you used to do.”

((Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 15Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 15))


A man came to the Prophet s.a.w. seeking his permission to

participate in Jihad (battle in defence of Islam). He was asked: “Are

your parents alive?” He replied: “Yes!” The Prophet s.a.w. said to him :

“Then go and be with them and Jihad (exert service towards them) .”

(Hadith reported by Bukhary and Muslim)


“ ... in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years

twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude

to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.”

(Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14)


“Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye

be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in

thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but

address them in terms of honour.”

(Qur’an: al-Isra: 17:23)


“ “And, out of kindness, And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humilitylower to them the wing of humility, ,

and and saysay: "My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they : "My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they

cherished me in childhood." cherished me in childhood."

((Qur’an: al-Isra: 17:24Qur’an: al-Isra: 17:24))


““Allah’s pleasure (acceptance) is in the pleasure Allah’s pleasure (acceptance) is in the pleasure

(acceptance) of your parents (towards you), and (acceptance) of your parents (towards you), and

Allah’s displeasure is in the displeasure of your Allah’s displeasure is in the displeasure of your

parents (towards you).”parents (towards you).”

RIDHALLAAHI - FEE – RIDHAL-WAA-LI-DAYNWA- SUKH -TWULLAAHI - FEE –

SUKH- TWIL- WAA-LI- DAYN


Get into groupings (not more than 8) and do a Get into groupings (not more than 8) and do a brief self-introduction to each other in this new brief self-introduction to each other in this new group.group.

Discuss briefly regarding what you think are the Discuss briefly regarding what you think are the ADAB and manners towards Parents ADAB and manners towards Parents – and list – and list down your inputs on the given paper.down your inputs on the given paper.When your group have finished, pin up your list When your group have finished, pin up your list on the wall and stand by it.on the wall and stand by it.

(15 minutes) (15 minutes) Then each group shall move to view the others’ Then each group shall move to view the others’ listings – group by group - (until you return to listings – group by group - (until you return to your list).your list).Finally, make whatever necessary amendment Finally, make whatever necessary amendment (your group deem necessary) to your list. (your group deem necessary) to your list.

(15 minutes)(15 minutes)You are given total of You are given total of 30 minutes 30 minutes to complete this assignmentto complete this assignment

TAMRIN

TAMRIN

(EXERCISE

(EXERCISE))

““Can I get to know Can I get to know you ? What are your you ? What are your

views?”views?”

HALAQAH


Do not walk in front (or ahead) of them;

Never call them by their personal names;

Not to sit in front of them;

Do not object to their advise and whatever they enjoin

upon for you;


Do not eat the food which is in front of them;

Do not sit on a place higher than where they are seated;

Do not be disobedient towards them.


To give a sinister look at them (especially when in anger),

including other subtle signs of displeasure towards them;

To consider (even in thought) oneself to be equal to

them;

Arrogance and disrespectful by refusing to kiss their

hands;


Being ashamed to let others know that they are his Being ashamed to let others know that they are his

parents, especially when he has become accomplished and parents, especially when he has become accomplished and

has status;has status;

The worst is to say to them even “The worst is to say to them even “aah! aah! ” or such ” or such

expression of disgust, or any other acts which are meant to expression of disgust, or any other acts which are meant to

hurt their feelings, to demean, to despise, to degrade etc. hurt their feelings, to demean, to despise, to degrade etc.

to make them loose their respect and dignity.to make them loose their respect and dignity.


Abu Bakar r.a. narrated the Rasulullah s.a.w. once said:Abu Bakar r.a. narrated the Rasulullah s.a.w. once said:

““Shall I inform you all of three of the greatest sins (Shall I inform you all of three of the greatest sins (al-kabaa-iral-kabaa-ir)?” We replied: )?” We replied:

“Certainly O Messenger of Allah”. He then said: “To commit ‘“Certainly O Messenger of Allah”. He then said: “To commit ‘ShirkShirk’ (setting up ’ (setting up

partners to Allah), to be partners to Allah), to be disobedient towards parentsdisobedient towards parents, ,

and to speak and to speak falsehoodfalsehood or bear witness to falsehood.” or bear witness to falsehood.”

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To obey parents, except in matters of To obey parents, except in matters of ma’-siyyama’-siyya (sins or (sins or

disobedience towards Allah and His Messenger).disobedience towards Allah and His Messenger).

Bear with their ways with patience, speaking to them Bear with their ways with patience, speaking to them

with respect and soft-toned voice in all situation. with respect and soft-toned voice in all situation.

To stand in respect when they arrive or enter into their To stand in respect when they arrive or enter into their

presence.presence.


When parent speaks, to listen and do not interrupt When parent speaks, to listen and do not interrupt

until he/she has finished what he/she wish to convey. until he/she has finished what he/she wish to convey.

If need to respond or seeking clarification, to seek the If need to respond or seeking clarification, to seek the

said parent’s permission first.said parent’s permission first.

Presenting one’s view to them must be done without Presenting one’s view to them must be done without

being misconstrued as being disrespectful or rebelling.being misconstrued as being disrespectful or rebelling.


To kiss their hands whenever required.To kiss their hands whenever required.

To preserve their good names, their honourable status To preserve their good names, their honourable status

and their properties.and their properties.

To honour them by granting them their requests.

Always involve them in your consultations of matters.


Always make Du’a (supplicate) for their well-being and

seek Allah’s forgiveness for them.

When they receive guests, be ready nearby to serve,

just in case your parents need your assistance

regarding them.


To always do things which will please them, even

though they did not request.

Do not irritate them with being loud in speech, or

using of electronic devises etc. in their presence.

Do not become too involve in whatever you are doing

as to be seen or be regarded as ignoring them.


Do not leave the house or leave their presence without

taking leave from them (i.e. seek their permission)

Do not disturb them in their rest or sleep.

Do not put or exceed others (wife or children; work or

hobby etc.) in preference over them.


Do not criticise them when their opinion may not be Do not criticise them when their opinion may not be

agreeable to you.agreeable to you.

Do not laugh in their presence, lest they may Do not laugh in their presence, lest they may

misinterpret that, as your mocking or making fun of misinterpret that, as your mocking or making fun of

them.them.

Do not begin eating before them, unless they have Do not begin eating before them, unless they have

permitted.permitted.


Do not stretch out to take food before them, when Do not stretch out to take food before them, when

dining together with them.dining together with them.

Do not lie down, slouch or sleep when they are sitting Do not lie down, slouch or sleep when they are sitting

with you, unless they permit.with you, unless they permit.


Do not stretch out your feet at them or in front of

them.

Do not enter before them, or walk ahead of them. If

need to pass in front of them, to respectfully seek their

permission.


Be quick to respond to their call – and response with

“lab-bayk ! ” (meaning – “Yes! at your service”).

To honour and respect all their friends, even after they

(your parents) have passed away - i.e. to continue

showing friendship with their friends.


Do not befriend any person who is disrespectful to

their own parents.

Express your love to them, and for them (i.e. if

speaking with others).


After they have passed away, always supplicate

(Du’a) for them, as this will still benefit them.

Recite frequently, especially this Du’a :

RAB-BIR – HAM-HUMAA KA-MAA ROB-BA-YAA-NEE – SWO-GHEE-RAA

“O my Lord (Allah)! Forgive (be Merciful to) the both of them, as they have shown mercy towards me since young.”


O Allah,O Allah,bless Muhammad, Thy slave and Thy bless Muhammad, Thy slave and Thy messenger,messenger,and his Household, the pure,and his Household, the pure,and single them out for the best of Thy and single them out for the best of Thy blessings, blessings, Thy mercy,Thy mercy,Thy benedictions, and Thy peace! Thy benedictions, and Thy peace!

And single out my parents, O Allah,And single out my parents, O Allah,for honour with Thee and blessings from for honour with Thee and blessings from Thee,Thee,O Most Merciful of the merciful! O Most Merciful of the merciful!

His exemplary Supplication for his Parents (upon them all be peace)

From “al-Shahifa al-Kamaliya al-Sajjadiya”From “al-Shahifa al-Kamaliya al-Sajjadiya”

Imam ‘Ali ibn Hussayn

ibn ‘Ali ibn Abi Tolib with

Fatimah binte Muhammad

HIS LINEAGEHIS LINEAGE


O Allah,O Allah,bless Muhammad and his Household,bless Muhammad and his Household,teach me through inspirationteach me through inspirationknowledge of everything incumbent knowledge of everything incumbent upon me toward them,upon me toward them,and gather within meand gather within meknowledge of all that completely!knowledge of all that completely!Then make me act in accordanceThen make me act in accordancewith what Thou hast inspired mewith what Thou hast inspired meand give me the success to put into and give me the success to put into practice the knowledge Thou hast shown practice the knowledge Thou hast shown to me,to me,lest I fail to act according to something lest I fail to act according to something Thou hast taught me or my limbs feel too Thou hast taught me or my limbs feel too heavy to perform that with which Thou heavy to perform that with which Thou hast inspired me! hast inspired me!


His exemplary Supplication for his Parents (upon them all be peace) Imam ‘Ali ibn Hussayn





O Allah,O Allah,bless Muhammad and his Household,bless Muhammad and his Household,as Thou hast ennobled us through him,as Thou hast ennobled us through him,and bless Muhammad and his and bless Muhammad and his Household,Household,as Thou hast made incumbent upon usas Thou hast made incumbent upon usrights toward the creatures because of rights toward the creatures because of him! him!







O Allah,O Allah,fill me with awe of my parents,fill me with awe of my parents,the awe one has toward a tyrannical the awe one has toward a tyrannical sovereign,sovereign,and let me be devoted to them,and let me be devoted to them,with the devotion of a compassionate with the devotion of a compassionate mother!mother!

Make my obedience and devotion to Make my obedience and devotion to them more gladdening to my eyesthem more gladdening to my eyesthan sleep to the drowsy and more than sleep to the drowsy and more refreshing to my breast than drink to the refreshing to my breast than drink to the thirsty,thirsty,







so that I may prefer their inclinationso that I may prefer their inclinationto my inclination,to my inclination,set their satisfaction before my set their satisfaction before my satisfaction,satisfaction,make much of their devotion to memake much of their devotion to methough it be little,though it be little,and make little of my devotion to themand make little of my devotion to themthough it be great. though it be great.







O Allah,lower before them my voice,make agreeable to them my words,make mild before them my temper,make tender toward them my heart,and turn me into their kind companion,their loving friend!







O Allah,O Allah,thank them for my upbringing,thank them for my upbringing,reward them for honouring me,reward them for honouring me,and guard them as they guarded me in and guard them as they guarded me in my infancy! my infancy!







O Allah,O Allah,and whatever harm has touched them and whatever harm has touched them from me,from me,detested thing has reached them from detested thing has reached them from me,me,or right of theirs which has been or right of theirs which has been neglected by me,neglected by me,allow it to alleviate their sins,allow it to alleviate their sins,raise them in their degrees,raise them in their degrees,and add to their good deeds!and add to their good deeds!

O He who changes evil deeds into O He who changes evil deeds into manifold good deeds! manifold good deeds!







O Allah,O Allah,whatever word through which they have whatever word through which they have transgressed against me,transgressed against me,act through which they have been act through which they have been immoderate with me,immoderate with me,right of mine which they have left right of mine which they have left neglected,neglected,or obligation toward me in which they or obligation toward me in which they have fallen short,have fallen short,I grant it to themI grant it to themand bestow it upon them,and bestow it upon them,







and I beseech Theeand I beseech Theeto remove from them its ill consequence,to remove from them its ill consequence,for I do not accuse them concerning for I do not accuse them concerning myself,myself,(or) find them slow in their devotion (or) find them slow in their devotion toward me,toward me,or dislike the way they have attended to or dislike the way they have attended to my affairs, my Lord! my affairs, my Lord!







They have rights against me which are more They have rights against me which are more incumbent,incumbent,precedence in beneficence toward me that is precedence in beneficence toward me that is greater,greater,and kindness toward me that is mightierand kindness toward me that is mightierthan that I should settle accounts with justice than that I should settle accounts with justice or repay them with equivalents.or repay them with equivalents.

Where then, my God, would be their long Where then, my God, would be their long occupation with bringing me up?occupation with bringing me up?

Where the hardship of their toil in taking care Where the hardship of their toil in taking care of me?of me?

Where the stinting of themselves to provide Where the stinting of themselves to provide me with plenty? me with plenty?







What an idea!What an idea!I can never discharge their right against me, I can never discharge their right against me, fulfil my obligations toward them,fulfil my obligations toward them,or accomplish the duty of serving them.or accomplish the duty of serving them.

So bless Muhammad and his HouseholdSo bless Muhammad and his Householdand help me, O Best of those whose help we and help me, O Best of those whose help we seek!seek!

Give me success, O Most Guiding of those Give me success, O Most Guiding of those whom we beseech!whom we beseech!Place me not among the people of disrespect Place me not among the people of disrespect to fathers and mothersto fathers and motherson the day when every soul will be repaidon the day when every soul will be repaidfor what it has earned,for what it has earned,they shall not be wronged.they shall not be wronged.







O Allah,O Allah,bless Muhammad, his Household, and his bless Muhammad, his Household, and his progenyprogenyand single out my parents for the bestand single out my parents for the bestwhich Thou hast singled out for the fathers and which Thou hast singled out for the fathers and mothers of Thy faithful servants,mothers of Thy faithful servants,

O Most Merciful of the merciful! O Most Merciful of the merciful!

O Allah,O Allah,let me not forget to remember them after my let me not forget to remember them after my ritual prayers,ritual prayers,at every time throughout my night,at every time throughout my night,and in each of the hours of my day! and in each of the hours of my day!







O Allah,O Allah,bless Muhammad and his Household,bless Muhammad and his Household,forgive me through my supplication for my forgive me through my supplication for my parents,parents,forgive them through their devotion forgive them through their devotion toward metoward mewith unfailing forgiveness,with unfailing forgiveness,be well pleased with them through my be well pleased with them through my intercession for themintercession for themwith resolute good pleasure,with resolute good pleasure,and make them reach through Thy and make them reach through Thy generositygenerositythe abodes of safety! the abodes of safety!







O Allah,O Allah,if Thy forgiveness reaches them first,if Thy forgiveness reaches them first,make them my intercessors,make them my intercessors,and if Thy forgiveness reaches me first,and if Thy forgiveness reaches me first,make me their intercessors,make me their intercessors,so that we may gather together through so that we may gather together through Thy gentlenessThy gentlenessin the house of Thy generosityin the house of Thy generosityand the place of Thy forgiveness and and the place of Thy forgiveness and mercy!mercy!

Verily Thou art Possessor of abounding Verily Thou art Possessor of abounding bountybountyand ancient kindness,and ancient kindness,and Thou art the Most Merciful of the and Thou art the Most Merciful of the merciful!merciful! From “al-Shahifa al-Kamaliya al-Sajjadiya”From “al-Shahifa al-Kamaliya al-Sajjadiya”







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