survival skills for parenting tweens & teens · if the child makes a poor choice, don’t...
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Survival Skills for Parenting Tweens & Teens
A complimentary training webinar from Positive Parenting Solutions and Invisalign Teen The Teen Brain You’re right; he is a little crazy! _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________
Top 3 Parenting Blunders with Tweens & Teens
1. _________________ instead of disciplining.
A Positive Discipline definition of “Punishment” • Blame • Shame • Pain Punishment encourages ______________. “Where did we ever get the crazy idea that we
could make kids DO BETTER by making them
FEEL WORSE?” --Jane Nelsen, Ph.D.
2. Exerting too much __________________.
3. Not being on their __________________.
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Mind, Body & Soul Time The first and most important tool in The Tool Box! Be the ROCK STAR in your family and show you’re on their team.
Defined…
Time spent with each child individually…
when we are emotionally available…
and doing what she wants to do.
The Prescription:
•10 minutes
•2X per day
•One-on-one time
•Doing what your teen wants to do
•No distractions!
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MORNING AFTER SCHOOL EVENING
Teen _____________________ are not the same as parent ___________________. Every request and reminder is an opportunity for a __________________________.
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When-Then Hailed as “magical” in its effectiveness! ________________ or denies a
_________________ (Y) until (X) is done.
Important points: •Emphasize the __________ and ___________.
•The privilege must be something the child
________________ about.
•You MUST walk away - _______________!
Walking away says:
I’m not going to argue or negotiate.
I have complete faith you’ll get it done.
Allows the child to “save face” and still do
what you’ve asked.
It’s not ____________-THEN.
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ON Their Team Communication “What is your plan for _________?”
It allows your teen to think it through and demonstrates that you have faith that she has a plan in place. If not, it allows her to save face as she quickly develops one!
“I hear ya!” Show empathy without giving in.
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Invisalign: A Better Solution This Time Around
The Real Truth About Invisalign vs. Metal Braces
Comparable in price to metal braces. Covered by most dental insurance plans
with an orthodontia benefit. Flexible financing usually available. Treatment time is about the same Compliance indicators allow you to
monitor use. _______________________________________________
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Invisalign Works for Complex Cases Severe Crowding Widely Spaced Teeth Cross-Bite Over-Bite Under-Bite
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Being a teen is hard enough. Invisalign makes it a bit easier.
No foods are off-limits as with metal braces! Maintain oral hygiene while in treatment. Great for a teen’s active lifestyle. Less time in the orthodontist’s chair. Confidence in a great smile even during
treatment.
To learn more about Invisalign Teen, visit:
www.invisalignteen.com
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Fair & Effective Consequences Follow these important guidelines for consequences so your kids learn to make better choices in the future and YOU don’t end up being the bad guy!
5 R’s of Effective Consequences
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R *Adapted from Jane Nelsen, Ph.D. & H. Stephen Glenn If the child makes a poor choice, don’t “blame, shame or pain” him. Implement the consequence with dignity… “I see you chose to lose your phone privileges. I have confidence you’ll make a better choice next time.” Piggybacking – an “I told you so” attitude or remark; adds blame shame and pain and directs the anger back to the parent.
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Thank you for attending!
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