the power of gratitude intelligence

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The Power of

Gratitude

Intelligence (GQ)

GOALS

By the end of this workshop you will understand how the power of gratitude can improve

your physical, mental, social, emotional and spiritual well-being.

You will also appreciate the idea of practicing gratitude as a way of life

and make a plan of action on how to create a positive impact on others

in your workplace, home, friends and community.

What is Gratitude Intelligence (GQ)?

Gratitude Defined A feeling, emotion or attitude in acknowledgment

of a benefit that one has received or will receive.

Gratitude Intelligence

• A body of knowledge that originates from positive psychology

movement (2000) which states that total positive well-being can be

powerfully achieved by practicing the attitude of gratitude.


History of Gratitude

Roots – positive psychology movement (2000) alternative to adjustment

psychology which has traditionally been focused more on understanding

distress rather than understanding positive emotions.

Earlier roots – Religion, philosophy, esoteric discipline

Why Gratitude is So Important

• Psychology discovered that it is an effective antidote to socio-emotional problems.

• Medical science discovered that it can help reduce stress-related disease.

• Profound implications of gratitude has been discovered on spiritual level.

What are the Benefits of Gratitude Attitude?

Socio-Emotional Benefits

Self-Confidence

Positive emotions (happiness, inner peace, gladness, joy)

Better interpersonal skills

Emotional resilience - toughness

Gratitude is sexy…“Strengths of character” including the capacity to love

and be loved, wisdom, spirituality, kindness, forgiveness and gratitude

are highly desirable traits in a romantic partner (Journal of Adolescence,

2003)

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has

cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”

- Albert Schweitzer

The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.-- WIlliam James

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Physical/Medical Benefits

Enthusiasm to do regular exercise

Immune system boost

Better sleep, better appetite

Healthy and strong body

Physical attractiveness

Faster healing

“Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.”

Mental/Psychological Benefits

Positive outlook

New Neurons

Positive memory bias

Better concentration

More alert and enthusiastic

Solution-focus rather than

Spiritual Benefits

Feelings of being closer to God

Conscientiousness

Deeper spiritual outlook in life

Desire to give and share with others

“If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life

will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.”

Economic Benefits

Abundance mindset

Law of attraction

More blessings

More to share

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Physical/Medical Benefits

Enthusiasm to do regular exercise

Immune system boost

Better sleep, better appetite

Healthy and strong body

Physical attractiveness

“Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.” — John Henry Jowett

Mental/Psychological Benefits

Positive memory bias

More alert and enthusiastic

focus rather than problem-focus

Feelings of being closer to God

Deeper spiritual outlook in life

Desire to give and share with others


will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.” — Rabbi Harold Kushner

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Rabbi Harold Kushner


PROACTIVE VERSUS REACTIVE

A PROACTIVE person is always part of the solution.

A REACTIVE person is always part of the problem.

A PROACTIVE person has always a program of action

A REACTIVE person has an endless list of reasons.

A PROACTIVE person will say, “Let me handle it.”

A REACTIVE person will say, “It’s not my job.”

A PROACTIVE person can always find a solution to every problem.

A REACTIVE person can always find a problem to every solution.

In a crisis, PROACTIVE will say “It may be difficult but it’s possible.”

But for a REACTIVE, “It may be possible but its difficult.”

A PROACTIVE believes that “There’s always a better way.”

A REACTIVE on the other hand believes that “There’s nothing we can do about it.”

When a PROACTIVE made a mistake, he would say“ I’m sorry, It’s my fault.”

When a REACTIVE made a mistake, he would say “It’s not my fault.”

Question: Where do you belong?


The Devastating Effects of Poor GQ.

He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those

which he has." – Epictetus

Obstacles to Gratitude Attitude

• Bitterness

• Entitlement attitude

• Jealousy

• Scarcity/lack mentality

• Fault-finding

• Gripes – negative dissatisfaction

• Blame-placing

The Default Brain Function

That steals joy and well-being are…

• Survival needs govern instincts

• Safety concerns take priority

• Automatic scanning for threats to safety

• Default problem-solving focus follows

• Problems/tasks consume most thought process

So our instinctive process is…

Am I safe?

What is the threat?

How do I ensure safety?

Results… Too many of us become:

Too serious, too worried, stressed-out, cynical, anxious, depressed, angry, physically ill

The Default Mental Process

The Default Mental Process is

Past – what happened that hurt, threatened, scared me the most?

Present – what threats exist right now?

Future – What do I need to watch-out for to make sure I’m safe?


The Devastating Effects of Poor GQ.

In the Family

• Envy which leads to sibling rivalry

• Jealousy which leads to bitterness

• Rebellious attitude

• Depression which can lead to suicide

In Marriage

• Miscommunication • Feelings of being ignored

• Fault-finding, nagging

• Infidelity

Among Friends

• Miscommunication

• Envy

• Unhealthy competition

• Interpersonal conflict

In Business

• Bad wishes for the competitors

• Customer complaints

• Possible customer defection

• Poor employee morale

In Politics

• Rising opposition

• Balimbing

• Crab mentality

• Dissent from the masses


In the Environment

• Lack of concern = pollution • Taken for granted

• Calamities

"We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our

treasures." - Thornton Wilder

The Law of Attraction and The Gift of

Gratitude

The default mental process is

• Past – what happened that hurt, threatened, scared me the

most? • Present – what threats exist right now?

• Future – What do I need to watch-out for to make sure I’m safe?

CREATE NEW DEFAULT

• Past – What am I grateful for?

• Present – What do I appreciate?

• Future – What can I look forward to?

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter

words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy

Gratitude Attitude

• Everything is a gift – simple things when seen as a gift

becomes special.

• The universe owes us nothing.

• Everything is on loan

• Abundance mindset versus scarcity mindset


Gratitude Power: The Law of Attraction

• Law of Attraction: What your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.

• Whatever you are thankful for will always multiply. – The more you thank, the more

you receive…

• The Golden Rule applies.

A Writer on Gratitude

“What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it-would you be likely to

give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to

offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have.” — Ralph Marston

Gratitude Attitude Can Be Infectious! Let’s Spread It!

The Many Things That We Should Be Thankful For. Open Your Eyes And Heart…

• God –made or man-made

• Past blessings or present blessings

• Big or small blessings

• Delayed gratification

• Lessons from challenges

• Lessons from unfavorable events

• Friends and “enemies”

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?” — William

A. Ward

How to Say “Thank You” While at

Work

QUALITY

• Specific and sincere = “What” and “Why”

• Eye contact and smile

TIMING IS ESSENTIAL

• Immediate – strike while the iron is hot

• Serves as a REINFORCEMENT

• It’s effect and return is also immediate.

• If you forgot, still say it. Better late than never.


NO IF’S - NO BUTS

• Not asking for more –No need to ask for more: you will receive more if you thank often.

• It will come in God’s time

CREATIVE WAYS TO SHOW

GRATEFULNESS AT WORK

• Small gifts

• Cards, notes

• Text message

• Flowers

• Hugs

• Balloons

• Thank you cake

GOOD-FINDING (3 ways)

• Gratitude Scanning your past experiences for the good that has

come your way throughout your life.

• Appreciation Looking into the heart and detail of the present moment

for all that is pleasing and good.

• Optimism Looking forward to good things happening, expected and

unexpected.

Journaling How to re-train your brain to focus on what is good, right

and working in your life.

Gratitude Journaling

“I am greateful for…”

• Your body – for healing, for serving you

• Your mind – for learning, creativity

• Your successes – personal and professional

• Possessions – house, car, bike, cell phone, etc.

• Relationships – spouse, mentors, loved ones

• Adventures/pleasures – fun and excitement


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Appreciation Journaling

“I appreciate…”

• Head-to-toe appreciation

• Immediate environment – art, beauty

• Current pleasures and joys in your life

• Possessions – home, camera, laptop, etc.

• Occupation – how can you earn income

• Loved ones, friends, family

Optimism Journaling

“I look forward to…”

• What you fully expect

• What you want:

• look forward as if you knew for certain

• See it, feel it, imagine it

• Think of how your life will be different

• What you want for others

Being Grateful In The Midst of

Adversity

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn

a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we

didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if

we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be

thankful.” — Buddha

In the Midst of Misfortune

• There is a purpose for everything

• A blessing in disguise

• The grace will come In God’s time

• Patience is a virtue

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Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know

For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.

During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations

Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge

Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes

They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary

Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are

also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles

and they can become your blessings.

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Staying Positive When Dealing with Difficult People

• Understand where they are coming from

• Choose your attitude. Protect your vibes.

• Stay proactive Don’t

• Infect the person with your positiveness.

• Exercise assertiveness when needed but stay positive

• Avoid if you can but send

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Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something

For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.

During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations

Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge

build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes

They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary

Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.

ment comes to those who are

also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles

and they can become your blessings.

Staying Positive When Dealing with Difficult People

Understand where they are coming from.

Choose your attitude. Protect your vibes.

on’t react negatively.

Infect the person with your positiveness.

Exercise assertiveness when needed but stay positive

Avoid if you can but send positive energy to the person

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Releasing the Negative Vibes and Maintaining the Positive Vibes in the

Workplace

• Start the day by counting your team accomplishments of the previous day

• Praise in public. Correct in private

• Discourage negative confrontation but encourage open communication with respect.

• Cheer each other up when stress is increasing.

• Encouarage joking but discourage insult humor and pranks

• Spend time together for bonding and “getting to know you”

• Be conscious of the vibes that you are spreading around.

Acts of Random Kindness and

the Art of Giving and Sharing

• Giving aligns you with the flow of abundance.

• Give to those who can’t repay.

• The quality of joy in receiving is greater than receiving

• Give the things you want to receive.

• Give non-monetary things as gifts to others (food, surplus clothes, load, etc.)

• Give support, time, smile, prayers, presence

The Power of Forgiveness

• Forgiving is freedom from negative emotions.

• Forgive others then forgive oneself.

• Forgiving heals your own illness

• Signs of forgiveness

o You wish good things for the person

o You can look at the person in the eye

o You can talk sincerely to the person


Gratitude Exercises

Gratitude Meditation

Gratitude Affirmation

Gratitude Rock

Gratitude Beads

Gratitude Self-Talk

Gratitude Candle

Gratitude partner

PERSONAL ACTION PLAN

1. What are 2 things that I will start doing?

2. What are 2 things that I will stop doing?

3. What are 2 things that I will continue doing?

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