PROGRAM 08 DOMESTIC ABUSE

English

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Lesson 8: Domestic abuse

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A1- Opening Music 10-15 seconds

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Host: Many women and children live in fear in their own homes. Often the weakest in the home live in fear, not only of physical violence or emotional abuse. But they are afraid and ashamed to tell others about their troubled life at home.

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A2- Host Introduction

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Host: Welcome to our Trauma Healing program and thank you for joining me. My name is _________. The Trauma Healing program is a production of _________. Today we look at this problem often kept secret, that of domestic abuse.

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A3 Current Life Drama

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Music- Introductory.

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Storyteller: For the first year of their marriage, Ann and Joe lived happily together. But after Ann gave birth to their baby boy, Joe lost his job. Both of them were Christians but Joe came to Christ from his troubled past, and was not prepared to handle the difficulties of life. He responded to his problems by drinking with his friends. He tried and tried to find a job, but without success. This made him feel worse. Ann tried to help by working part-time and finding someone to take care of their baby, David. But this only infuriated Joe more.

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Music

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SFX: Joe drunken singing, feet dragging on the pavement and slurred mumbling

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Joe: (Drunk ) Today I want to rest. that baby better be asleep.

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SFX: (Knocking on the door. Baby crying in the background)

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Joe: Come on, woman, open this door!

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SFX: (Baby crying)

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Ann: (whispering) Shh, shh, baby dont cry. Daddy is here. You know how angry he gets when you cry. Shh. . . .

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SFX persistent knocking. Door opening

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Ann: I am coming, Joe!

SFX- baby crying

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Joe: How long does it take to open this door?

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Ann: (Scared) Im sorry dear, David has been cranky all morning.

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Joe: That boy is always cranky! Youre always taking care of him and not me! Not a night of peace since he was born!

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Ann: I try Joe, I try! Its hard to take care of a baby, my job.....

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Joe: I never liked that job! Stupid woman, give me some food!

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Ann: Please watch David as I..

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Joe: Take him with you! Im not a nanny.

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Ann: I will put him to bed and have your dinner shortly. (To the baby) Shh, be good David and lets get you to bed.

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SFX: sound of cutlery table being set up.

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Joe: What is this?

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Ann: Its steamed cabbage.

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Joe: Ill not have it! Doesnt that job of yours pay you well enough to buy a piece of meat?

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SFXBaby crying

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Ann: Joe! You are scaring the baby!

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Joe: (pushing his chair back angrily) I thought I married a good woman!

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SFX: sound of a struggle

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Ann: Joe, please dont hurt me! Joe! Please!

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Joe: (Sound of a slap) You are a bad mother and a bad wife!

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SFX: Ann screaming

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Ann: Please! Oh my arm! Its I cant move it.

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Joe: Oh, my God, you are really hurt. Ann, please let me.....

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Ann: Please dont! It hurts! I think its broken.

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Sad MusicHeartbroken Love

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Joe: (crying) I wont hit you again, I didnt mean to do that. You made me do it. I will take you to the hospital now, just dont tell the doctor I did that, okay?

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Ann: (crying) Okay!

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Joe: You can tell him you tripped and fell, okay?

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Ann: Okay.

Fade Out: Heartbroken Love

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Music

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Storyteller: A week later, Anns neighbor Mary came to visit her. Ann broke down and cried and told her what had happened.

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Mary: You need to leave him, Ann.

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Ann: I cant, Mary, hes my husband! Ouch! That hurt!

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Mary: - and it will hurt even more next time. Today he broke your arm, tomorrow it will be your neck.

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Ann: (Sighs) I know, Mary, but how do I leave him? I cant live without Joe! Maybe Im stupid as he says. And I cant earn enough money to survive. And besides, the pastor says we must submit to our husbands.

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Music

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Storyteller: Weeks went by and although Joe didnt physically hurt Ann, he continued to call her names.

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SFX: knocking on the door

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Storyteller: Before long, Joes drunken behavior started again. This time, he was worse.

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SFX: (feet dragging on the pavement, loud drunken singing and mumbling)

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Joe: (Drunk and Singing.)

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SFX: (knocking on the door, baby crying loudly, door opening)

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Joe: I told you not to keep me waiting at the door!

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Ann: (screaming) Please, stop Joe!!

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Joe: Where is that stupid baby?

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Ann: Noooo! Not the baby! Please dont hurt my baby!

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SFX: screaming, sounds of a struggle, baby crying

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Joe: That should shut your little mouth for a while.

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Ann: (Screaming, crying hysterically) Give me my baby! Give me my baby.

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SFX: sound of footsteps running off

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Ann: (panting, speaking urgently) Please open the door, Mary, he is coming! (banging the door) Please, Mary!

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SFX: door opening

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Mary: Ann!! What?

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SFX: Door slams shut. More knocking/banging.

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Joe: This is between my wife and I.

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SFX: (Door banging)

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Joe: I want my wife; open this door!

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Mary: Joe, you must leave or I will call the police.

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(Music playing)

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Storyteller: Finally, Joe stomped off, kicking the dog as he went. Marys husband took Ann and the baby to stay with the pastors wife, where Joe could not find her.

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Ann: (to the pastors wife) He beat me and call me bad names. (crying) Then he would apologize. I believed that he was truly sorry. But he always did it again, over and over again!

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Pastors wife: So, why did you leave this time?

Music- Heartbroken Love

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Ann: (Crying) He beat my child! That was the last straw!

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Pastors wife: Ann, when you got married, Joe promised before God to love you. He has broken that promise over and over. You cannot make your marriage work on your own.

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Ann: (Crying) I tried but it was never good enough! I submitted to him as the head of the home as the Bible says.

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Pastors wife: Ann, do you realize that the next verse after wives submit to your husbands say that husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loved the church?

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Ann: No! I guess I was trying to submit to Joe so much! I never asked the question: does he love me?

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Fade out Heartbroken Love

Fade in: Little Donkey Glock

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Storyteller: The church helped Ann find a place to live, and she was able to get more hours at her job. Finally, Ann was able to live on her own without Joe.

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SFX: night sounds, baby laughing. Anne singing happily and playing with the baby

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Ann: (Talking to baby) Good boy, thats enough. Its almost bedtime.

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SFX: phone ringing

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Ann: Lets see who is calling us this late.

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Joe: Hi, Ann.

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Ann: (coldly) Hi.

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Joe: Please come home. I am sorry for all I did to you; please forgive me. I have changed Ann. Please come home, darling.

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Ann: Joe, I

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Joe.... Please, I beg you!

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SFX: phone disconnected.

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Ann: (speaking to self) I am so confused. He sounds genuine but, oh, should I?

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Music: Little Donkey Glock

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A4 Host introduces first discussion

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Host: That is the difficult story of Ann and Joe. Listen to Jacques, Steven, Magdalene and Rebecca as they take a deeper look at it.

Fade Out Little Donkey Glock

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Fade In: Lesson 8 song for 10 seconds

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A5 First Discussion

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James: Much of this story is troubling. Why do you think Ann stayed with Joe so long?

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Magdalene: I think one reason is that Joe had made her feel so helpless.

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Rebecca: And she did enjoy some good moments with Joe when they made up and came back together.

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Magdalene: Maybe despite everything, she still loved him.

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Stephen: Then there was a practical reason. She wasnt earning enough to start with to have a place of her own.

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Magdalene: - and maybe she felt Joe would hurt her, or even kill her, if she tried to leave.

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Rebecca: And she thought that a woman should obey her husband whatever happens.

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Stephen: Well, the Bible says the husband is the head over the wife.

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Magdalene: Yes, but it also says, husbands, love your wives like Christ loved the church.

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James: Thats right! Now what helped her get away from Joe?

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Magdalene: Her friend Mary really helped.

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Stephen: Yes, she needed someone nearby, someone she could trust.

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Rebecca: Actually, she was lucky to get away when Joe was so angry. If he had caught her, he would have beaten her! It would have been safer for her to wait until things were calm, then sneak off.

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James: True. Why do you think Joe started abusing Ann in the first place?

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Magdalene: He had a troubled past. He didnt grow up in a happy family and he probably had problems from that.

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Stephen: Yeah, maybe he saw his father beat his mother and called her names.

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Rebecca: - and I think the crying baby didnt help.

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Stephen: Yeah and lets not forget Joe lost his job. I wonder if he felt inadequate.

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Magdalene: and the drinking . . .

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James: These things were like fuel on the fire, but they are not the source of Joes problems. So how do you think Joe could be helped?

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Magdalene: He needs help to understand his personal problems.

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Group: Uh-huh.

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Stephen: Yes, he needs to have someone to talk to who can help him.

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Magdalene: And he needs to do this by himself! Not with Ann! Husbands like him can be so nice with a counselor, but later at home they beat their wife for the things she said to the counselor.

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Rebecca: And he needs to really feel the pain he has caused Ann and the baby

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James: If a husband is to love his wife as Jesus loved the church then he should use his power to show love to her. To a more personal question: how do you think our churches would help people who are suffering abuse in their homes?

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Magdalene: You know, James, the problem is that people dont talk about it, so the church doesnt even know theres a problem.

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James: So we need to make a way for people who are suffering in their homes to express what is going on.

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Magdalene: And we need to train more people in our churches to listen. So often everyone thinks that only the pastor can help people.

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Rebecca: And we need safe places for people to go to if they have to leave their home.

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Magdalene: I have several friends who are abused by their husbands. Im going to talk to them about all this.

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Music Lesson 8 song

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A6 Host Call to Action

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Host: Are you or someone you know suffering from an abusive relationship?

Do you need someone to talk to or someone to pray with you? You can call or SMS us at ___; start your SMS with the word Trauma and send it to ___. You can also send us an email at ___.

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B1 Host intro to biblical drama

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Music Lesson 8 song

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Host: Should wives always submit to their husbands? Listen to this story from the Bible of a woman who had to take action to save the lives of those in her household.

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B2 Biblical Drama

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Transition: Madagaskar, only first 23 seconds

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Storyteller: The very first king of Israel was Saul. He did such a bad job that God regretted having made him king. So he had David anointed as the next king. But many years passed before David actually became king. During those years, Saul did everything he could to kill David.

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Music: Eastern Sunset

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Storyteller: In this story, David and his men were hiding from Saul, the King, in the countryside. They were protecting the sheep of a rich man named Nabal and it was time for the shearing the sheep. This was the time the shepherds got paid. So David sent a message to Nabal.

Fade out Music: Eastern Sunset

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SFX: Sound of sheep on the field

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Messenger: Oh Great Nabal, I come with a message from my Master David. While your servants were watching their sheep, my men didnt insult them nor harm them! May my servants find favor in your sight. Please give us some food.

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Music- Add Eastern Processional

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Nabal (Irritated): Hmmh! Who is this David? Why should I give him anything? I dont even know where he came from!

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Storyteller: When David heard what Nabal said, he was angry. He took four hundred men and went to attack Nabal.

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Fade Out: Eastern Processional

SFX: Sounds of men off to attack dissolve to sounds of feasting

Fade In: Brazilian Marching Drummers

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Storyteller: Meanwhile Nabal was feasting at his house. The servants heard what had happened. They knew there was no point talking to Nabal. Instead, they went to Nabals beautiful and intelligent wife, Abigail.

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Servant (to Abigail): Abigail, David sent messengers to give our master his greetings, but he insulted them. Yet these men they were very good to us. You need to do something or David will kill us all!

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Abigail: We have no time to waste. Quickly, we must take gifts to David.

Fade Out: Brazilian Marching Drummers

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Music: Fade In: Eastern Sunset

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Storyteller: Abigail quickly loaded food on her donkeys and sent her servants off to bring it all to David.

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Abigail: Go on ahead of me. Present these gifts to David. I will come after you. Go, quickly!

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Storyteller: But she did not tell her husband Nabal. She followed her servants and met David coming towards her house. She bowed down in front of him.

Fade out Eastern Sunset

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Abigail: Oh, David, David, please dont pay any attention to my husband. I beg you. He is a fool! Please accept these gifts I prepared for you. Please dont kill innocent people because of that foolish man.

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David: Praise be to the Lord who sent you today. May you be blessed! If you had not come quickly, not one single man belonging to Nabal would be left alive by daybreak. Go home in peace.

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Music :Exotic Adventure

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Storyteller: Abigail went straight home and she found Nabal drunk, so she didnt tell him anything that night. But the next morning when he was sober, she told him all that had happened. Nabal was so shocked he had a heart attack on the spot. And ten days later, he died. Then David sent this messager to Abigail.

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Servant: My Abigail, my master David wants you to become his wife.

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Storyteller: And so Abigail accepted and became Davids wife.

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B3 Host introduces second discussion

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Music: Exotic Adventure for a few seconds.

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Host: That is the story of Abigail. Listen to Jacques, Steven, Magdalene and Rebecca as they take a deeper look at it.

Fade Out Exotic Adventure for a few seconds.

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B4 Second Discussion

Music- Lesson 8 song for a few seconds

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James: Normally in Jewish culture, women submitted to their husbands. What Abigail was not submissive! Do you think she did the right thing?

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Stephen: Well, I think wives supposed to submit to their husband,. . .

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Magdalene: There are limits! If Abigail hadn't gone there to beg David and send him presents, can you imagine the kind of massacre that would have happened that night?

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Rebecca: Yeah. And she did it quickly. If she had taken even a bit of time, it would have been too late!

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Magdalene: And she had to do it secretly.

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James: All right. So how can this story help us today?

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Rebecca: Well, for me it shows us that there are times when submitting to a husband would cause a lot of people a lot of suffering.

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Magdalene: Yes, and I think husbands are better off if they discuss things with their wives! The Bible says we should submit to one another.

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Stephen: Well, I think that being a husband is a huge responsibility. I pray one day that I will be a good one and that I will find a wife who is intelligent and beautiful.

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Magdalene/Rebecca: We pray for you Stephen.

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James: That would be wonderful, Stephen. And when God give you your wishes, I pray that you love and respect her.

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Together: Amen.

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Music- Lesson 8 song for 10 seconds

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B5 Host Introduction to Song

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Host: A home should be a safe place, a place where each member of the family finds strength. May the shouting and bitterness and anger and insults stop! Listen to the words of this Scripture song:

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Closing Song: Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you.

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B7 Close with Ask

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Host: Friend, do you need someone to talk to or someone to pray with you? You can call or SMS us at ___; start your SMS with the word Trauma and send it to ___. You can also send us an email at ___.

Join us next time as we look at healing the wounds of our hearts. Im ____. God bless you.

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B8 Music Ending

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End of recording

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