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Thriving In Change
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One View of Change
“The certainty of misery is better than the misery of uncertainty.”
Pogo Comic
Strip
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William Bridges
Change and Transition are not the same
Change = a shift in the external situation
Transition = the psychological reorientation in response to change
Change vs. Transition
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It’s the transition, not the change that people fight against.
They resist:
Loss of their identity and their world
Disorientation of the neutral zone
Risk of failing in a new beginning
Resistance
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THE ENDING PHASE• Disengagement
• Disidentification
• Disenchantment
THE ENDING PHASE• Disengagement
• Disidentification
• Disenchantment
NEUTRAL ZONE PHASE
• Disorientation
• Disintegration
• Discovery
NEUTRAL ZONE PHASE
• Disorientation
• Disintegration
• Discovery
NEW BEGINNINGS• Recommitment
• “New Vision”
NEW BEGINNINGS• Recommitment
• “New Vision”
From William Bridges
THE DENIAL PHASE• Ignoring
• Minimizing
• Depersonalizing
THE DENIAL PHASE• Ignoring
• Minimizing
• Depersonalizing
The Stages of Transition
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Ending,Losing,Letting Go
The New Beginning
The Neutral Zone
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How Can I Apply This?
Check in with yourself, “where am I”?
Normalize your emotions.
Beware of blaming.
Do self-care.
Am I moving forward?
Am I stuck?
Use my resources.
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On the handout, chart your highs and lows as they relate to life changes.
Write in the events that correlate with the life changes.
What does the charting tell you?
Life Change Exercise
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Life Change Exercise
Highs
Lows
0 20 40 60 8010 30 50 70
Divorce of Parents
Marriage
Long-awaited birth of child
(twins!)
Death of Mother
Divorce
Remarriage
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What are your life lessons about thriving in change?
Life Change Discussion
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Be Proactive, Not Reactive
Know and Use Your Anchors
Beware of the 3 P’s of Pessimism
Look for the Discoveries
Live in the Present
Tools for Thriving
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Be Proactive, Not Reactive
Focus on what is in your control.
Take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, actions, skills and values.
Beware of victim language or relationships.
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Challenge
ACCOUNTABILITYLOOP
VICTIMLOOP
SITUATION
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Know and Use Your Anchors
What is unchangeable for me?
What can I rely on for strength, support?
Where do I go to find peace?
What beliefs, values can I use?
How do I be my best self in this situation?
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Three P’s of Pessimism
Common Thinking Distortions
Personalization
Permanence
Pervasiveness
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Look for the Discoveries
What is life teaching me right now?
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Self-Renewal
Homeostasis
“Live LifeFully”
“Back to Normal”
“Stuck”
Coping Begins
Crisis
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Live in the Present
“Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day.”
Nadine Stair, 85 years old, Louisville, Kentucky
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Thriving in Change
What one idea are you taking away from this discussion today?
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Thriving in Change
“My private measure of success is daily. If this were to be the last day of my life would I be content with it?
To live in a harmonious balance of commitments and pleasure is what I strive for.”
- Jane Rule
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