undestanding and building self esteem

Understanding and Building Self Esteem - Vasudevan

Self-EsteemSelf-Esteem

Definitions

• Self-concept: • Picture or perception of ourselves/ a

person's mental model of his or her abilities and attributes

• Self Efficacy: • The set of beliefs that one can perform

adequately in a particular situation.

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Contd……………..

• Self-ideal: The way we would like to be

• Self-actualization: A concept in personality psychology referring to a person's constant striving to realize his or her potential and to develop inherent talents and capabilities.

• Self-awareness: The top level of consciousness; cognizance of the autobiographical character of personally experienced events. 3


• Meaning in (Dictionary.com)

• Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves

• Self Esteem: A realistic respect for or favorable impression of one self; Self respect

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What is Self Esteem?

• Self + Esteem

• The total, essential, or particular being of a person; the individual: +Worth, Value, Opinion ,judgment

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Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?

• Your self-esteem is made up of all the experiences and interpersonal relationships you’ve had in your life. Everyone you’ve ever met has added to or taken away from how you see yourself!

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Self-Esteem

• Self-esteem refers to the way we see and think about ourselves

• Self esteem is your opinion of yourself.

• High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and

• Low self esteem • is a bad opinion of

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What Self Esteem is Not• Self Esteem is NOT dependant upon what

other people think of you

• Self Esteem is NOT egotism, arrogance, narcissism/selfishness, or a desire to feel superior to others

• Self Esteem is NOT temporary euphoria

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How should we measure self-esteem?

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Factors affecting on high and low self esteem

• Your self esteem depends on many questions:• Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what

you do? Do you?

• Do you believe you are successful?

• How do you see yourself (your self image)? - Improve your self esteem- Boost your self confidence-

• How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses?

• What do you think of your social status?

• How do you relate to others?

• Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to low self esteem.

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Development of Self Esteem

• A person develops his/her self esteem throughout the life through experiences.

• In this regard childhood experiences play an important role in shaping self esteem.

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Factors that develop High and Low Self Esteem

High Self Esteem• If you are being

praised• If you are listened to• If you are being

spoken to respectfully

• If you are getting attention

• Experiencing success

• Having trust worthy friends

Low Self Esteem Experiencing

Continuous Failure Being expected to

perfect all the time Being Ignored or

made fun of Having physical or

emotional punishment

Being criticized

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Why Self Esteem is important?• Having a healthy self – esteem creates

confidence, self-reliance, and overall happiness in an individual

• Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and become happier....this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.

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• Low esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and low confidence.

• Other's desires may take preference over yours.

• Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible

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Change the bad

Appreciate life

Willing to try

new thingsBelieves

in self

Is not a threat to others

Doesn’t submit to

peer pressure

Accept failure

Leader to

others

Good Self

Esteem

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Who has contributed to your self esteem?


No one can Make you feel inferior Without your Consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

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Tips for building Self Esteem Learn to be more assertive and not

feel guilty about saying no Think positively Believe on your self Make plans for the future .Set and

achieve goals Do something challenging each day Look your best Eat correctly Do something for someone else Learn a new skill

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Contd. Handle things one at a time Use criticism constructively Ask for help – take advantage of

learning opportunities Allow personal growth time each day Do not say negative things about

yourself Reward yourself often List your accomplishments each

evening Volunteer to share your skills with

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Accept yourself: Accept yourself: Stop worrying about Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they accepting of others and the things they can’t change.can’t change.

Try not to compare with others. Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth yourself in terms of your own growth


Have Realistic Expectations – We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal.

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• Emphasize your strengths.

• Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it. Try new experiences.

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Best Friends• Would you take better care of yourself?• Would you be kinder to yourself?• Would you be more forgiving of your human• imperfections?• If you realized your best friend was yourself?• Who is always with you everywhere?• Who is on your side when others are unfair?• And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?• Who will always see you get your share?• And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.• And I take me out whenever I feel low.• And I make my life as happy as a best friend would• I’m as nice to me as anyone I know!


• There are two different people in the world.

• One that says “I wish I had” and

• the One that says “I’m glad I did”.

• Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

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Final Thought

• You are a unique individual. No one else is like you in the whole world. This makes you special already!

• Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for you so you leave your mark in history!

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“Commercial of Me”

Emphasizing the positive characteristics and capabilities of you, develop an advertisement or

commercial to “sell oneself”.

It may be a radio or television ad, billboard, sweepstakes, etc.

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