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Non-Verbal for Non-Profits
Vanessa Van Edwards ScienceOfPeople.org
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The Rise of Nonverbal ScienceNixon vs. Kennedy
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Beyond Words
1/3 Verbal Content
1/3 Face and Body
1/3 Voice Tone
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= 2/3 Nonverbal
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= Great nonverbal makes everything better.
*Journal of Educational Psychology, 1995
Higher Teacher Ratings Higher Content Ratings Higher Textbook Ratings
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Nature or Nurture?
Researchers at the University of British Columbia discovered that nonverbal behavior once assumed to be acquired through environment is in fact innate.
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Donor Stewardship: Why Nonverbal?
Donor Hidden Emotions Caring for Donors Empathizing with Donors Demonstrating for Donors
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Part I: Decoding the Face
Caring for Donors Reading Colleagues Interviewees and Interviewing (Friends, spouses, family...)
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Microexpressions
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Fear
Brows raised and drawn together, usually flat Eyes has upper white showing Mouth open and lips stretched or drawn back
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Anger
Brows Lowered and drawn together, vertical lines on the forehead
Lips tense (or yelling position) Chin juts forward Eyes Narrow (Suspicion)
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Happiness
Crows feet at the eyes
Cheeks raised
Lips drawn up and back (showing teeth or not)
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Contempt
One side of the mouth raises
Eyes can be narrowed at target
Turns body away
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Surprise
Brows raised and curved, horizontal forehead wrinkles
White of the eye above and below, eyelids open
Jaw drops and teeth can be parted (as if to yell)
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Disgust
Nose crinkled Lips pulled up
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Sadness
Inner corners of eyebrows drawn up (hard to fake)
Eyes droopy
Mouth pulled down, chin back
Lips can be in a pout
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Examples Donors Anger at an asking amount
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Interviews Fear Talk to me a little about salary
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Colleagues How do you feel about working with this __ donor?
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Part II: Your Nonverbal
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Non VerbalsEmotions
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*Amy Cuddy, Harvard Business School
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Hormone Changes Cortisol The stress hormone Decreases the immune
system Increases blood
pressure Bad for long term
memory
Testosterone The power hormone Improves endurance Sharpens cognitive
abilities Increases muscle mass
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86% more risk taking
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Low Confidence
Contracted As little space as
possible Vitals Protected Head Down or Bowed Shoulders In
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High Confidence
Expansive Claiming Territory Trunk and Vitals
Exposed Head Up, Chest Up Shoulders Back
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Behind the Scences Poses
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In-Person Power Poses
Loose Arms Face Up Non-Contracted Legs Expansive Arms
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In-Person
Upper Body Movement Chest Up Shoulders Down Hands Visible
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How Do We Use This?
In-Person Meetings Emails Phone Conversations
We can identify 16 different types of smiles from sound alone. (Drahota and Costal, 1979)
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The Power of Voice ToneParalinguistics
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Voice Tone Tips Authoritative Voice Tone
Power Posing Helps! Question Inflection Dropping on Volume Mirroring Vocally
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Part III: Top Nonverbal Tips for
Fundraising Hiring Interviewing Interacting with colleagues Negotiating
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In 30 minutes, two people can send over 800 nonverbal signals.
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1. Watch For Withholding
Pursed Lips
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2. Watch For Shame
Blocking Behavior
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3. Use Triple Nods Research shows that people will talk 3 to
4 times more than usual if the listener nods their head.
Faster = impatient Slow = engaged
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4. Show Your Hands
Research shows its the first place
we look.
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Power Poses:
Hands are always visible
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5. Mirroring
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6. Use Your Clients Learning Style 35% visualI see what
you mean 25% audioI hear you 40% feelingscant
quite grasp it, lets kick the idea around
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7. Encourage Open Body Language
Demonstrate It (so they mirror you)
Encourage It Bring Props
PDFs Business Cards Water / Snacks
Go to Their Side of the Table
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8. Avoid:
Pointing Peering over your glasses
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9. Positioning
Across the Table Seating Less recall of what was said Reject more proposals Shorter sentences
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Solution:
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Take-Aways Dont Forget Nonverbal!
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Body Language Helps Others and Yourself
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Practice Your Microexpressions
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Use Your Powers for Good and Not Evil
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More Info:
Vanessa Van Edwards
www.ScienceofPeople.org