(webinar slides) life on purpose: an alternative approach to work-life challanges

Presenter

‣  Ellen is a strategic talent advisor, psychologist, certified coach and Founding Principal of Lawyers Life Coach LLC.

‣  Ellen consults with practice groups, law firms and corporate legal departments on strategic talent management and retention

‣  Ellen is particularly known for her expertise on the challenges faced by women in the profession

‣  Ellen has been selected as the exclusive Women In Law Empowerment Forum (WILEF)-endorsed leadership development coach

‣  Ellen is Co-Chair of the Board of the ThirdPath Institute, on the Board of WILEF and a member of the Center for Women in the Law’s Consortium

‣  Ellen received her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Rochester, her coach training from the MentorCoach ™ program, for which she has also taught, and served on the faculties of three universities before starting her independent practice.

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© 2016 Ellen Ostrow, Ph.D., PCC, CMC Lawyers Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.

Poll Slide #1

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How satisfied are you with your work/life balance?!!!

Very satisfied!Somewhat satisfied!

Occasionally satisfied!I never have work/life balance!

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AN ALTERNATIVE APPROACH LESSONS FROM A BOBO DOLL

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"More than education, more than experience, more than training, a person's level of resilience will

determine who succeeds and who fails. That's true in the cancer ward, it's true in the Olympics, and it's true in

the boardroom."

Diane L. Coutu, quoting Dean Becker, CEO of Adaptiv Learning Systems. Harvard Business Review, May 2002, p.47


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•  Central, self-organizing life aim •  Over-riding sense of mission and

meaning •  Creates overarching values

manifested in day-to-day behavior •  Generates goals and effort to

accomplish •  Resonates across time and

context •  Provides foundation that allows

resilience in face of adversity Steger & Kashdan, 2013

15 © 2016 Ellen Ostrow, Ph.D., PCC, CMC Lawyers Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.

£  People who anchor their lives in a meaningful purpose report: ¤  Less depression, anxiety,

stress, substance abuse, and workaholism

¤  More engagement in their work

¤  More control over their lives

Steger & Kashdan, 2013


� Have a hard time saying no �  Sometimes wonder why you are

driving so hard � Have a hard time prioritizing tasks �  Feel like you have no time for yourself �  Sometimes feel so depleted that

nothing seems as important as getting some sleep

�  Feel badly about how little time you spend with your family/friends/community

Robin J. Ely, Ph.D., Harvard Business School


v  What matters most to you v  What you stand for v  Sense of purpose v  What gives your life meaning v  The motivation in your life v  Lifelong striving v  Something you can work toward but

cannot arrive at v  Not a goal you can achieve v  Describes a quality not a quantity v  Your perspective vs. what others think

is “right” v  Provides foundation that allows

resilience in face of adversity


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Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Work!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Leisure!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Health!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Intimate Relationships!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Friends!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Community!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Family!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Education!

Intention!!

Importance Behavior

Difference

Spirituality!

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YOU !!!

Obstacle!

Obstacle!

Obstacle!

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Obstacle!

Obstacle!Obstacle!

Obstacle!


Dah,l et al. !The Art & Science of Valuing 2009!

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Poll Slide #2

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The chatter in my mind includes:!!

Worries that I’ll lose a client!Fears of making a mistake!

Thoughts that I “should” be exercising more!Feeling guilty about neglecting my family!

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ü  Adapt to situational demands ü  Maintain balance between

competing life domains ü  Tolerate distress and develop

open, receptive attitude toward emotions, thoughts, sensations

ü  Be aware of and committed to behaviors congruent with deeply held values

Kashdan & Rottenberg, 2010


REFLECTION RITUALS v “BALANCE” IS

IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT REGULAR REFLECTION

v Aware of stress level and need to recover

v Take time to reflect on what is most important

v “Workability” 28


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Harris, 2009!

1 = completely relaxed 5 = ?

10 = ready to explode or collapse



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By saying “Yes” to:!!1.  ___________________!2.  ___________________!3.  ___________________!

By saying “No” to:!1.  ___________________!2.  ___________________!3.  ___________________!

I am saying “No” to:!!1.  ___________________!2.  ___________________!3.  ___________________!

I am saying “Yes” to:!1.  ___________________!2.  ___________________!3.  ___________________!

Poll Slide #3

My workplace:

Recognizes and supports my life outside of work Tolerates but disapproves of my life outside of work

Does not acknowledge the legitimacy of life outside of work Is an environment of chronic overwork

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SYMPTOMS OF STRESS


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