WELCOME TO STEP

SYSTEMATIC TRAINING FOREFFECTIVEPARENTING

CLASS INSTRUCTORS

David HaleFran Hollingsworth

GROUND RULES

• 6 of 7 classes for certificate.• Leave message for absence.• Cell phones silenced –

emergency use only• What we Say here…..Stays here

Discussions

• Become Involved in Group Discussion

• Share the Time• Stay Focused• Stay on Topic• Encourage each Other

Website

• www.effectivefamily.wordpress.com/parenting/principles-of-step/

• Principles of the Step Program• Benefits• Reference for ideas presented in class• My background

My Background

• My daughters• Used the STEP program for last daughter• Teaching other parents• Texas Certified Family Mediator • Science Teacher• Healthcare Advocate and Personal

Assistant

Maslow’s Needs

CHAPTER ONE

Understanding

Yourself &

Your Child

The Challenge of Parenting

• Raise a child who is:

1. happy 2. healthy3. cooperative4. loving and lovable5. responsible

Meet the Challenge

• Children’s growth and behavior• Dealing with misbehavior.• Encouragement• Listening and Talking Openly

How do we learn “to be”in this world?

• Name one parent characteristic that really bothered you growing up?

• What do you like about what you are doing?

• What do you want to change?

Three Styles of Parenting

• Giving Orders – Authoritarian

• Giving In – Permissive

• Giving Choices – Democratic

Authoritarian

–Giving orders • unreasonable limits. • strict • lots of rules• reward and punishment• Fear• Dependency

Permissive

– Giving in

• Freedom without limits • Inconsistent with limits/boundaries• Inappropriate behaviors• Trouble getting along in social settings

• rights of others lacking

democratic

– Giving choices

• balance between freedom and limits.

• encourages to make decisions. • set limits and give choices• children are more responsible.• some choices carry responsibilities.

Unique individuals

• Temperament

• Heredity and Environment

• Roles for Boys and Girls

• Ages and Stages

expectations

• Expect Cooperation• Expect Good Behavior

RATHER THAN……

• Accepting Uncooperative behavior

• Excusing Misbehavior

Children need to belong

Why do children misbehave?

•discouraged.

•belonging

4 goals of misbehavior

• Attention

• Power

• Revenge

• Display of inadequacy

ATTENTION

• Annoying behavior

POWER

• Who is the Boss?

REVENGE

• Getting Even

FEELING OF INADEQUACY

• Giving Up

Building better relationships

• Showing Respect• Having Fun• Give Encouragement• Showing Love

MAKING CHANGES

• Step by step……..together