welcome to the smg development program webinar 2 five steps to self-awareness
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WELCOME TO THE SMG DEVELOPMENT PROGRAM WEBINAR 2
FIVE STEPS TO SELF-AWARENESS
5 STEPS TO SELF AWARENESS
AREA OF APPLICATION EXAMPLE: CONTROLLING AND PROTECTING
ARROGANCE
AUTOCRATIC
DRIVEN
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WHAT IS MY AREA OF APPLICATION? WHAT CAN I EXPERIMENT WITH AROUND THIS?
Arrogance:• measures your tendency to project a large ego–behaviour that is experienced as
superior, egotistical and self-centred.
Driven:• measures the extent to which you are in overdrive.
Autocratic:• measures your tendency to be forceful, aggressive and controlling.
Using IM, give us your ideas: What could be your ‘area of application’ if you wanted to shift this
perception?
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STEP ONE: MY AREA OF APPLICATION
I would like to come across as more empatheticand collaborative to be able to engage people’s heartsas well as their minds in order to engender true buy-in
vs. just receiving compliance.
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STEP TWO: INITIAL REFLECTION IN COFFEE WITH SELF – ASK MYSELF:
What’s happening right now?• I am being too direct with what I say.• I cut people off.• I solve too soon/jump in too soon.• I make people feel like I don’t care
by not listening, or by being distracted.
• I show frustration and impatience.Using IM, give us your ideas: What actions could you take
if you wanted to shift these behaviours?
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STEP THREE: PLANNING ACTION
What can I do about it?• Paraphrase.• Ask more questions – be curious.• Frame to soften my response.• Use a different physiology.• Reflect back feeling.
Who might be interested in helping?• Let my 2IC know I’m experimenting with this.
What are the constraints around the situation?• Sometimes I need to get other stuff done so I
won’t do this.• Sometimes I don’t like doing it; it doesn’t feel
natural or comfortable.
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STEP FOUR: OBSERVING AND REFLECTING DURING THE WEEK
During interactions, meetings etc.
Reminder prompts during the week:• meeting planning/prep• diary• phone• Post-it® notes • notebook• on your desk• 2IC• during your commute.
Am I remembering to DO my five actions, especially if I feel
frustrated or impatient?
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STARTING SELF-REFLECTION
At first it will probably feel like
“Well, damn, I did it again!”
as you catch yourself after the fact.
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STEP FIVE: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH WEEK
Reflection: Learning journal prompts
Going to the balcony!
1. Conversations, meetings, interactions?
2. Where was I able to use what I set out to experiment with? My five steps?
3. Did it work? Or not?
4. What can I learn from this?
5. How did it feel to do it/work with this area of application?
What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following week around this area of application?
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CONTINUING SELF-REFLECTION
Eventually, through repetition and reflection, you are able to catch yourself in the act:
“Here, I am doing it again!”
As you catch yourself in the moment
BE A FLY ON THE WALL!
But you still may not be able to ‘do’ the new actions all the time, or at all.
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CONTINUING REPETITION & REFLECTION
Catching yourself after the fact and reflecting each week.
“Well, damn, I did it
again!”
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RESULTS IN GREATER SELF-AWARENESS
“Here Iam doing it again.”
Eventually catching yourself in the moment and making a different choice.
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POLL: WHAT MIGHT YOU BE THINKING AND FEELING DURING THIS TRIAL-AND-ERROR PROCESS?
1. I criticise myself for making the same mistake over and over, thinking ‘why can’t I get this?’
2. I give up; I’m too busy to deal with this, I’ll do it later.
3. I am frustrated and annoyed, but do it anyway, observe the emotion and be ok with it – at least sometimes.
4. I congratulate myself on the mistakes, because at least I’m catching myself and trying something new.
5. I feel that mistakes are good: now I can learn; let’s try it again and see what happens!
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BONUS STEP: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH MONTH
LEARNING JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR THE MONTH
GOING TO THE BALCONY ABOVE THE BALCONY!
1. What key insights have I gained so far through the program and the process of reflection and repetition?
2. How do I think of myself differently as a leader in the university community?
3. What strengths have I identified and furthered this month?
What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following month around this area of application?
• What needs to change? What else am I thinking? What other actions should I try?
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BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS
It takes effort to create new habits!
Area of application for growth:
1.Uncomfortable2.Feels unnatural3.I don’t do it well
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BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS
Balancing the effort it takes to create new habitswith clear contributions you make through your current strengths.
Area of application for growth:
1.Uncomfortable2.Feels unnatural3.I don’t do it well
Remembering my strengths and contribution:
1.Strengths inventory2.My leadership
journey3.My values 4.Informal feedback
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Focusing on my strengths
1. What are my values? • Realigning my moral compass.
2. Strengths inventory • How they have helped me succeed.
3. Leadership journey • Where have I been, what have I learned?
4. Informal feedback loops• Informally calibrating your self-perception.
The five steps in this webinar are also outlined in the self-awareness section of the OLE
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SUMMARY OF THE FIVE STEPS
Reflect in coffee with self:
Step one: area of application
Step two: initial reflection
Step three: actions for the week
During the week = repetition
Step four: experiment with actions, observe self and reflect.
Reflect in coffee with self:
Step five: what’s working? CSS
Bonus step: each month – balance the scales!
The value that you addthrough your area of
application will be a result of your
reflection and repetition.
Enjoy the experimentation!