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Why Do Some Young People Leave The
Lord?Some Stay; Some Stray
All verses are from the New King James Version unless noted.
Part 4
I. Bad Influence – of their Friends
II. Poor Example – of their Parents
III. Weak Image – of the Church
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
Opposing Kinds of Parenting
Wishbone Parenting Backbone Parenting Upright and firm Argues and wishes for
good results
versus
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
1. Control HouseA. Example of elders and deacons
(1 Tim. 3:4, 12)
B. Natural for children to test and retest
parents:
• What is acceptable
• How much they can do and get away
with
• See if parents mean what they say
• How much they can control parents
WARNING: Instant Gratification!
The danger of instant
gratification (Prov. 21:17)• I. G. → an undisciplined lifestyle
• I. G. → creates a distaste for God
(2 Tim. 3:4)
(1)
WARNING: Acting On Feelings
Acting on “feelings” is the antithesis
of “self-discipline” (Prov. 29:11)!• An ally of instant gratification
• An enemy of self-discipline
• Foresee the costs of actions rather
than being driven by feelings
• God’s counsel as guide (Ps. 73:24)
(2)
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
1. Control House
2. Mean What You SayA. Define clearly what behavior is expected,
acceptable, and intolerable
B. Enforce what is defined with punishment
or praise
C. Allow, do not interfere with, “reality” as
the child’s tutor
Reality As A Teacher?
Reality teaches inso many different
ways!
A Time To Go SlowA Time To Pick Up
The Pace
Reality As A Teacher?
The Bible teaches that reality is to be a teacher (2 Thess. 3:10)
Reality rewards for good and bad behavior
(Is. 3:11; Prov. 11:18) Parental discipline
simply reinforces what reality does
Reality As A Teacher?
Set boundaries and limits Make not every decision Refuse to always “bail out”
child (Prov. 19:18, 19) Deny instant rescue Hold accountable (Ps. 10:13) Develop problem solving
skills Do not focus on child’s
unhappiness during training
Reality As A Teacher?
What does this form of discipline accomplish? It prepares children for life It frees parents from
nagging and pleading with their children
It makes children accountable
It teaches responsibility
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
A. Diligently train (Prov. 22:6)
B. Expect receptivity from children “My son, keep my words, and treasure
my commands within you” (Prov. 7:1) “Listen to your father who begot you,
and do not despise your mother when
she is old” (Prov. 23:22)
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
A. Corrective discipline (Prov. 29:17;
22:15; 19:18)
B. Concern with clothing, music, movies, TV, who
with, where go (Prov. 19:15)
C. Care in helping prepare for Bible studies (Eph. 6:4)
D. Communication to bond (Prov. 23:24, 26; 4:3, 4;
Deut. 6:7; 11:19; etc.)
E. Compelling obligations/tasks (Lk. 16:10)
I. Bad Influence – of their Friends
II. Poor Example – of their Parents
III. Weak Image – of the Church
IV. Lax Standards – at Home
V. Little Time – as a Family