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6: Inter-Act, 136: Inter-Act, 13thth Edition Edition
RelationshipsRelationshipsRelationshipsRelationships
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RelationshipRelationship – a set of expectations two people have for their behavior based on the pattern of interaction between them
Good relationshipGood relationship – interactions are satisfying to and healthy for those involved
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Abusive relationship Abusive relationship – interactions are physically, mentally, or emotionally harmful
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Functions of Functions of RelationshipsRelationships
1.1. Constitutive function Constitutive function – Relationships come about through interactions
2.2. Instrumental functionInstrumental function – Communication is a way to “get things done” in the relationship
3.3. Indexical function Indexical function – The “thermometer” of a relationship; measures who is in control, how much partners trust each other, and the level of intimacy in the relationship
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Describing RelationshipsDescribing Relationships• Relationships vary in intensity
• Impersonal relationship – based on filling a role or
satisfying an immediate need
• Personal relationship – people care about each
other, share large amounts of information with
each other, and meet each other’s interpersonal
needs
• Voluntary, involuntary
• Platonic vs. romantic
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Types of RelationshipsTypes of Relationships
1.1. Acquaintances Acquaintances – people we know by name and talk with when the opportunity arises, but with whom our interactions are limited
2.2. FriendsFriends – people with whom we have voluntarily negotiated more personal relationships
3.3. Close friends or intimatesClose friends or intimates – those with whom we share a deep commitment, trust, interdependence, disclosure, and affection
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Gender DifferencesGender Differences
• Talking• Disclosing personal
history• Sharing personal
feelings
• Joint activities• Doing favors for each
other• Successive tests of
dependability
Women develop close
friendships through:
Men develop close
friendships through:
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Dimensions of RelationshipsDimensions of Relationships
1. Interdependence
2. Depth
3. Breadth
4. Commitment
5. Understanding and Predictability
6. Communication Coding
7. Sharing Social Networks
As dimensions increase, relationships develop;
as they decrease, relationships deteriorate.
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Johari WindowJohari Window
Open Blind
Secret Unknown
Known to self
Not knownto self
Known toothers
Not knownto others
V / V, ch.3
Social Penetration TheorySocial Penetration Theory• Self-disclosure is integral to all stages of
relationships, but changes over time.
• The nature and type of self-disclosure change as people become more intimate.
• When disclosure is reciprocated, the relationship becomes intimate.
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Self-Disclosure GuidelinesSelf-Disclosure Guidelines• Disclose information that you want others to disclose to
you.• Disclose information appropriate for the type of
relationship.• Disclose intimate information only when it represents an
acceptable risk.• Be sensitive to your partner’s ability to absorb your
disclosure.• Reserve intimate or very personal disclosures for ongoing
relationships.• Continue intimate self-disclosure only when it is
reciprocated.
Self-Disclosure OnlineSelf-Disclosure Online
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• Lack of social cues produces ineffective self-disclosure and miscommunication.
• Media Richness Theory: Richer media provide more social cues to reproduce the intended meaning of the message.
Posters Letters Email Texting Facebook Telephone Skype Face-to-Face
Changing RelationshipsChanging Relationships• Relationships move through identifiable
stages.
• Turning points:Events that mark a transition from
one stage to another Lead to greater intimacy or to
deterioration of relationshipHappen at all stages in a
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Beginning RelationshipsBeginning RelationshipsDuring the first stage of a relationship,
communication focuses on:
• Increasing knowledge of the other
• Reducing uncertainty
• Increasing interaction
Predicted Outcome Value TheoryPredicted Outcome Value Theory
• Early in the relationship, we gather information to predict whether the benefits of future interactions will outweigh the costs.
• 3 stages of beginning relationships:EntryPersonalExit
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Developing Developing RelationshipsRelationships
• Increasing disclosure
• Keeping a relationship at a particular level of closeness or intimacy
• Frequent communication
• Emerging interdependence
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Interpersonal Needs TheoryInterpersonal Needs Theory• Relationship depends on how well each
person meets the interpersonal needs of the other.
• Three basic interpersonal needs:• Affection • Inclusion• Control
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Exchange TheoryExchange Theory• Relationships understood in terms of
exchange of rewards and costs during interactions
• Cost/Reward ratioRewards – needs metCosts – time and energy spent
developing relationship• Relationships develop and are sustained
when partners choose to meet each other’s needs.
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Sustaining Sustaining RelationshipsRelationships
• Use pro-social behaviors.
• Observe ceremonial occasions.
• Spend time together as a couple and with mutual friends.
• Communicate frequently.
• Words and actions reassure continuing affection, discretion, trustworthiness.
• Share tasks.
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Relational DialecticsRelational DialecticsAutonomy/Connection
I need my own space. I want to be close.
Novelty/PredictabilityWe need to do I like the familiar something new. rhythms we have.
Openness/ClosednessI like sharing so There are some much with you. things I don’t want
to talk about.
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Managing Dialectical Managing Dialectical TensionsTensions
• Temporal selection
• Topical segmentation
• Neutralization
• Reframing
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Declining RelationshipsDeclining Relationships
The communication in declining relationships is marked by three stages:
• Recognition of dissatisfaction
• Process of repairing or disengaging from relationship
• Ending
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Relationship Relationship Termination StrategiesTermination Strategies
• Manipulation/Withdrawal/Avoidance –Manipulation/Withdrawal/Avoidance – blaming others, or indirectly failing to take responsibility for ending the relationship (-)
• Direct/Open/HonestDirect/Open/Honest –– clearly, respectfully communicating desire to end relationship, sensitive to resulting emotions (+)
• Relationship Transformation –Relationship Transformation – continuing the relationship on different terms (+)