5 things that parents can do to play a more significant role in developing the public speakings...

2023-04-11

5 THINGS parents can start doing to play a more

significant role in developing the public speaking skills of their child

Satyen Krishen Khashu


About this presentation

• In 2012-13, I conducted an online research on Public Speaking & Presentations skills. This was taken by people from over 15 nationalities.

• Today, I wish to share one insight and based on one of the questions from the survey and my suggestions on the same

THANK YOU : I would like to thank Shao Tianruo, who has supported me in the analysis of some data from this research. I met Shao at the LUISS University(Rome), when I was invited as a guest for a workshop. Shao is now studying the Utrecht University in Holland.

SURVEY QUESTION -

What specifically could your parents have done to play a more significant role in developing your public speaking / presentation skills ?


We would have liked our parents to play a more significant role • Over 43% respondents

said that their Parents and their University could have played a more significant role in developing their Public Speaking Skills.

43% In this presentation, I focus on Parents and share 5 things that parents can do to play a significant role in supporting their child in becoming better as a public speaker.


What did respondents share ?

“My parents

did not allow me to speak at the table when guests were at home”Female, Polish.

“When I presented as a kid, I always got the answer

good or not good and nothing more”Male, British

“My parents should have been more

encouraging and

less critical”Female , Indian


What did respondents share ?

My parents could have

encouraged me to read books and engage in more debates

Male, Turkish

I wish my parents had encouraged me & built up my confidence;

Shown me by exampleFemale, Malaysian

I wish my Parents had shared with me what I needed to

improve as a public speakerMale, Portuguese


Parent can play a more significant role

When the womb protects, the gardner nourishes, the recorder listens, the friend plays on, your child

will learn to celebrate on stage.



like a

Womb

like a

Gardner

like a

Stage

like a

Recorder like a

Friend


like a Womb....

PROTECT them

The world will continue judge and you can change that by being the one who shields the child, when appropriate.


Protect them like a Womb

• When you ask them to make a speech or say a poem in front of guests, please check if the child would really like to do so. Protect them from your own impulsive requests and desires

• Tell them no matter how others feels, you notice that they are getting better and better. Protect them from any criticism when they are just beginning to build their own style.

• e.g. I see that you are able to use new words when you speak, are you learning new words in school.

• You told me this joke very well . I liked it. Do you like telling stories or maybe you prefer sharing jokes ?


like a Gardner....

ENCOURAGE them

I have yet to see a gardener, who discourages a plant because it is not growing fast enough or not in a particular way


Encourage them like a Gardner

• After a speech taken the child in your arms / Hug the child / Say a big Wow / brilliant / Clap your hands.

• Call others to hear the child speak & tell them you are proud of what they did and what you liked about what they did. e.g.

• You introduced your subject is a simple way, which means people will understand it easily

• You took time to think, which means you wanted to gather your thoughts and speak what was most interesting for those who were hearing you.


like a Recorder

LISTEN to them

A recorded records everything. It does not interrupt or judge while the conversation is going on


Listen to them like a Recorder

• Demonstrate to the child that you have listened and share a few things that you understood. Be prepared to be corrected by the child if it feels you have misunderstood, what they said

• When they finish speaking– seek their permission –before you ask them a question “Can I ask you a question now?

• You mentioned that the Fish started speaking to the boy. Which language did the fish use ?

• You find physics is more interesting than languages. Why did you say that ? ... is not the same as why do you like physics more languages ( try it ? )


like a Friend

PLAY with them

When you play a game, the attention moves away from

performance to fun. Learning happens best, when it is

associated with pleasure.


Play with them like Friend

• Play this game. Make a speech in front of your child on subject of their choice and ask them to make some suggestions that would help you become better. Make it fun, just like football ,Pictionary or scrabble that you play with your child.

• Ask the child to make a small speech to you and then ask them what they did well and what could they get better at ?

• Don't make any suggestions. A direct suggestion is often a direct rejection.

• Every individual has the capacity to identify what they want to improve upon. Some realise this quickly and for some this takes time. Allow them time to think about it.


like a stage

CELEBRATE with them

Sometimes, we all do better when we know that

we have been invited, & people want to listen to us and there is proof that this

time it grand.


Celebrate with them like stage

• Ask your child to wear a dress of their choice and record their speech with your smart phone or a handy cam. Do this when they really wish to do. Till then keep making the suggestion when , it seems appropriate.

• Use a simple software from the net to make a small film with it and share it with your child as a surprise. A good performance when packaged well can look even better and motivate your child to keep repeating the behaviour.

• When you have guests and you want to show them the house, give your child a chance to do it. You will surprised and how children and so gifted doing ‘show and tell’

• Encourage your child to share their thoughts and feelings in front of guests, when they wish to. Don't correct them.



like a

Womb

like a

Gardner

like a

Stage

like a

Recorder like a

Friend


Don't let this happen to your child

• Most people who grow up to be afraid of public speaking, have gone through some of these situations

• When they are younger, someone has made fun of them or ridiculed them when they shared their thoughts or feelings.

• The culture has not allowed them to share what they feel and with time, the never develop the ability to share what they really want to say

• They try to copy some else style, but deep inside don't feel authentic and honest and often get rejected by people

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