The Key For Successful Living

The 7 Habits ofHighly Effective PeopleThere is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living

Common deep personal & professional problems: How to reach the career goals set without losing personal and family life?How can I keep a promise I make to myself?How can a manager train his employees to be independent and responsible if it happened once that this manager was home sick for a day? How can one really congratulate a friend enthusiastically for achieving some degree of success and recognition without eating his heart out? Theres so much to do and theres never enough time. How can I manage my life effectively?

The Key for Successful Living

Personality EthicCharacter Ethic Focus on attitude and behavior minor change To change the situation first we have to change ourselves and our perceptions significant, quantum change Works in short term situation (symptomatic treatment) Has personal worth in the long term relationship Social band aids that treats only acute problems temporarily Treats the underlying chronic problem

The Key for Successful LivingPrimary and secondary greatnessQuit lacking at the leaves of attitude and behavior (secondary greatness)Get to work on the root, the character (primary greatness) from which these attitude and behavior flow.

The Power of a Paradigm A paradigm is :A frame of reference, a modelA perception, assumption The way we perceive, understand & accordingly interpret and judge things. A mental map.

Two people can see the same thing, disagree and yet both be right.The more we examine the way we see things, the more we can test them against reality. Listen to others and be open to their perception, to get a far more objective view.

Being Is SeeingBe See Think Feel Behave

We cannot change our seeing without changing our being If you want to have. Be. The seven habits paradigm: An inside-out approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness

Can we create a HABIT?We are what we repeatedly do Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit Habits are learned and unlearned We are not the habits, hence we can change them

Effectiveness is defined as p/pc balancep= production = what is produced, the desired results producedpc = production capacity = producing asset. Maintaining, preserving and enhancing the resources that produces the desired results Maintain the p/pc balance:Balance short term with long termTake time to invest in a relationship Win the customer more than the call

The Seven Habits Paradigm

Principles of Personal LeadershipMove yourself from dependence to independence, the foundation for effective interdependence Achieve private victory, the foundation for public VICTORYAchieve self mastery through self awareness, self confidence and self control.

Principles of Personal LeadershipPrepare yourself for interpersonal leadership Build a changeless inner core, from which your attitude and behavior flow Build the principle center that gives you the wisdom and power to adapt to change and to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

The Maturity Continuum

Character & Personality Although image, techniques and skills can influence your outward success, the weight of real effectiveness lies in good character.

Character & CompetenceCharacterA person with high character exhibits integrity, maturity and an Abundance Mentality.CompetenceA person with high competence has knowledge and ability in a given area.As people balance these two elements, they build their personal trustworthiness and their trust with others.

Character & CompetenceCharacterCompetence

JUDGEMENTCHARACTERIntegrity Maturity Abundance Mentality InterdependencyCOMPETENCETechnical skills Qualifications Knowledge Experience

EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Habit 1BE PROACTIVE

Three theories of determinism affecting our response to a certain stimulus

Genetic determinism (DNA)Psychic determinism (childhood experience) Environmental determinism (boss, spouse, economic situation, notational policies)

Habit One: Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal VisionThe Four Human Endowments:

Self-Awareness Examining thoughts, moods and behaviorsImagination Visualizing beyond experience and present reality (work on alternatives)Conscience Understanding right and wrong and following personal integrityIndependent Will Acting independent of external influence

PROACTIVE MODEL

PROACTIVE MODELResponsibility = Response-ability

Proactive people: Behavior in the product of ones decision based on valuesPersonal leaders Take the initiative and are solutions to problems Successfully handle direct, indirect and no control problems

PROACTIVE MODELReactive people: Behavior is the product of ones condition based on feelingsUnhappy people who feel victimized and immobilized, who focus on the weaknesses of other peopleBlame other people and circumstances they feel are responsible for their own stagnant situation.

Reactive LanguageProactive Language There's noting I can doLets look at our alternationsThats just the way I amI can choose a different approachHe makes me so madI control my own feelingsThey wont allow thatI can create an effective presentationI have to do thatI will choose an appropriate responseI cant I chooseI mustI preferIf onlyI will

No Concern

REACTIVE FOCUS (Negative energy reduces the Circles of Influences)PROACTIVE FOCUS (Positive energy enlarges the Circles of Influences)

Habit 2BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

Start with a clear understanding of your destination Picture deeply what kind of husbands, wife, father or mother would you like to be?What kind of son or daughter or cousin?What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?

AssumptionsAssume at your funeral, how would family, colleague, friend, church, etc talk about youAssume todays the last day in your lifeAssume:Body - Had a heart attack; Mind Life of your profession is 2 years; Heart Other person is clairvoyant; Spirit You met with the Almighty

Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal LeadershipMental Creation Precedes Physical Creation

To start with a clear understanding of your destination.

Write your MISSION STATEMENT

Choose a Life Center

Create a personal mission statements = a personal constitution, a frame of reference Align your daily behavior with your life objectives Business = busy-nessClimbing the ladder of success: effectiveness vs. efficiency

Our deepest center: Work FamilySpouse/Husband Friend Religion SelfPleasurePossessionsMoney Enemy

Our four life-supporting factors derive from the very center of our circle of influenceSECURITY: Sense of worth, self esteem & personal strength GUIDANCE:Source of direction in lifeWISDOM: Perspective on lifePOWER:Decision making ability

A principle center:

Creating a solid changeless core, from which flow the four life-support factors.Correct principles do not change a principle-centered person stands apart from the emotion of the situation and evaluates the options.

A principle center:

You wont be acted upon by other people or circumstances See change as an exciting adventure and opportunity to make significant contributions.

Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal Leadership

Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal LeadershipPrinciple-CenteredSomeone who is principle-centered bases decisions on principles that govern human effectiveness. Principles are the ideal core because they allow us to seek the best alternative through conscious choice, knowledge and values. Principle-centered people try to :Stand apart from the emotion of a situation and from other factors that would act on them.Make proactive choices after evaluating options.

Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal LeadershipMission StatementA powerful document that expresses your personal sense of Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing Constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors.

Define Leadership & ManagementLeadership deals with Direction(Doing the right things)

Management deals with Speed, Co-ordination, Logistics in moving in that direction(Doing the things RIGHT)

Habit 3PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTThings which matter most must never be a the mercy of things which matter least.

Two Factors to Define Any Activity Urgency - An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it requires immediate attention.Importance - An activity is importance if you personally find it valuable, and if it contributes to your mission values, and high-priority goals.

Time management matrix

The Time Management MatrixI

Urgent & ImportantActivities Results Crises

Pressing problems

Deadline-driven projectsStress

Burnout

Putting out fires

The Time Management MatrixII

Not urgent but ImportantActivities Results Prevention, PC activitiesRelationships building Recognizing new opportunitiesPlanning recreation Vision BalanceDisciplineControlFew crises

The Time Management MatrixIII

Urgent but Not ImportantActivities ResultsInterruptions, some callsSome mail, some reportsSome meetingsProximate, pressing mattersPopular activities Short-term focusCrisis managementFeel victimized, out of controlBroken relationships

The Time Management MatrixIV

Not Urgent & Not Important Activities Results Trivia, busy workSome mailSome phone callsTime wastersPleasant activities Dependent on othersTotal irresponsibility Fired from jobs

.Crisis. Pressing problems. Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations. Preparation. Prevention. Values clarification. Planning. Relationship building. True re-creation. Empowerment. Interruptions, some phone calls. Some mail, some reports . Some meetings. Many proximate,pressing matters. Many popular activities. Trivia, busywork. Some phone calls. Time wasters. Escape activities.Irrelevant mail. Excessive TVI IIIIIIVUrgentNot UrgentImportantNot Important

Habit Three - Put First things FirstThe Habit of Personal Management

URGENTIMPORTANTNOT URGENTNOT IMPORTANTCrises ManagementAttach to MissionDistractionsTime Wasters

Habit Three - Put First things FirstThe Habit of Personal ManagementEffective people have genuine Quadrant 1 crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is comparatively small. They keep P and PC in balance by focusing on the important, but not urgent, activities of Quadrant II

Habit Three - Put First things FirstThe Habit of Personal ManagementThings which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.

The Key is not to prioritize your schedule butto schedule your priorities.

Habit Three - Put First things FirstThe Habit of Personal ManagementPut First things First involves a six-step, QII processThat will help you act on the basis of importance. Importance, in the context of Put first things First, is defined By your mission statement and confirmed by your conscience.The six steps can be used in weekly planning or as often as needed.Connect to MissionReview RolesIdentify GoalsOrganize WeeklyExercise IntegrityEvaluate

Public VictoryThere can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity.

PRINCIPLES OF INTERPRSONAL LEADERSHIP The p/pc balance in an interdependent realityThe emotional bank accountThe amount of trust built up in a relationshipThe feeling of safeness that makes communication easy, instant and effective

Six major deposits

Understanding the individualUncover the persons deep interest or needsTreat them all the same by treating them differently

Attending to the little thingsKindness and courtesies are the big things

PRINCIPLES OF INTERPRSONAL LEADERSHIP

Six major deposits

Keeping commitmentsKeep a promise you have made or explain the situation and ask to be released from it.

Clarifying expectations Conflicts arise form ambiguous expectations about roles and goals

PRINCIPLES OF INTERPRSONAL LEADERSHIP

Six major deposits

Showing personal integrity Goes beyond honestyBuild the trust of those who are present by being loyal to those who are not present

Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawalIt is the weak who are cruel, gentleness can only be expected from the strong

PRINCIPLES OF INTERPRSONAL LEADERSHIP

P problems are PC opportunitiesProblems create the opportunity to build a deep relationship the emotional bank account that empowers us to work together as a strong complementary team.

Habits One, Two & ThreeThe first three habits help develop a deep base of character and personal security . Once these 3 habits become part of who you areyou are then ready to begin building rich enduring highly productive relationships with other people and thats where habitsfour, five and six come in.

Habits Four, Five & SixThese are the habits that lead to interdependent relationships. Habit Four : Think Win-winThe attitude of seeking solutions, so that every one can win.Do this by communicating. This is done by Habit FiveHabit Five : Seek first to understand, then to be understoodHabit Six : This is the habit of creative co-operation - SynergyThis happens when two sides in a dispute work together to come with a solution which is better than what either side initially proposed.

Habit 4THINK WIN WINWe have committed the Golden Rule to memory; let us now commit it to life

Six Paradigms of human interactions: Win/winWin/loseLose/winLose/LoseWinWin/win or no deal

Win/WinSeeks for mutual benefitAll parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action planSees life as cooperative, not competitiveTheres plenty for everybodyBelieves in the third alternativeListens more, stays in communication longer, and communicates with more courage.

Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin-Lose : People with a win-lose mindset are concerned with themselves first and last. They want to win, and they want others to lose. They achieve success at the expense or exclusion of anothers success. They are driven by comparison, competition, position, and power. CharacteristicsIs very common scripting for most peopleIs the authoritarian approach.Uses position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get

the Win.

Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipLose-Win : People who choose to lose and let others win show high consideration for others, but lack the courage to express and act on their feelings and beliefs. They are easily intimidated and borrow strength from acceptance and popularity. CharacteristicsVoices no standards, no demands, no expectations of anyone else.Is quick to please or appease.Buries a lot of feelings.

Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipLose-Lose : People who have a lose-lose paradigm are low on courage and consideration. They envy and criticize others. They put themselves and others down. CharacteristicsIs the mindset of a highly dependent person.Is the same as a no win because nobody benefits.Is a long-term result of a win-lose, lose-win, or win.

Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin : People who hold a win paradigm think only of getting what they want. Although they dont necessarily want others to lose, they are personally set on winning. They think independently in interdependent situations, without sensitivity or awareness of others. CharacteristicsIs self-centered.Thinks me first.Doesnt really care if the other person wins or loses.Has a Scarcity Mentality.

Habit Four - Think Win-Win The Habit of Interpersonal LeadershipWin-Win or No Deal : Win-Win or No Deal is the highest form of win-win. People who adopt this paradigm seek first for win-win. If they cannot find an acceptable solution, they agree to disagree agreeably.CharacteristicsAllows each party to say no.Is the most realistic at the beginning of a relationship or business

deal.Is the highest form of Win.

Five Dimensions of Win/Win

CharacterThree character traits essential to the win/win paradigms:

Integrity: make and keep meaningful promises and commitments. People of Integrity are true to their feelings, values and commitments.

Maturity: The balance between courage and considerationThe ability to express ones won feelings and convictions balanced with consideration of the thoughts and feelings of others

Abundance Mentality

Scarcity MentalityAbundance Mentality Theres only one pieThere is plenty for everybody Sense of worth and security comes from being comparedDefine themselves form within Deep inner sense of worth and security Someone elses success means their failure Someone else's success is our success sharing it.

Relationships

(Character Trust, EBA)Agreements

(Relationships performance agreement) Five elements to agree on in a win/win agreement Desired results: Clarify the end in mind, objectives and outcome.Guidelines: Specify boundaries and deadlines for accomplishing the results within which results are to be accomplishedResources: human, financial, technical, support to help accomplish the resultsAccountability: sets up the standards of performance and the time of evaluation. Identify the standards and methods of measurement for progress and accomplishment.Consequences: Determine/Evaluate the result (s) of achieving or not achieving win-win

SystemsShould be supportive (reward guidelines, available resources)Don't talk cooperation (win/win) and practice competition (win/lose)You can best achieve win-win solutions with win-win systems and processes. But if Changing your systems to win-win feels overwhelming and out of reach, remember to work from the inside out. As you first develop a win-win character and then Win-Win Agreements and relationships, you will expand your Circle of Influence and be Able to work on processes.

Processes:A four-step process:1st see the problem from the other point of view2nd identify the key issues and concerns3rd determine what results would constitute a fully acceptable solutions4th identify BATNA to achieve those results

Habit 5SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.

Principles of Empathic Communication Four common levels for listening: Ignoring: Making no effort to listenPractice pretending: Making believe or giving the appearance youare listening Practice selective listening: Hearing only the parts of the conversation that interest you.Attentive listening: Paying attention and focusing on what the speaker says, and comparing that to your own experiences.

Principles of Empathic Communication Seek first to understand: Fifth level: Empathic listening (most effective level): Requires high levels of consideration Deep understanding of the problem first Requires more than practicing listening techniquesIts listening with intent to understand (changing our perceptions)

Get inside another persons frame of reference and see things the way he sees it Increases our influence-ability (more & accurate information to work with)It ensures peoples psychological survival (psychological air) It is diagnosing before prescribing

Principles of Empathic Communication

Then seek to be understoodRequires high level of courage Equally critical in reaching win/win solutions.

Principles of Empathic Communication

Habit 6SYNERGIZETake as a guide: In crucial things unityIn Important things diversityIn all thing generosity.

Principles of Creative Cooperation

Deeply understanding each other becomes the stepping stones to synergy Synergy means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts One plus one equals three or more. Identifying a third synergistic alternative/solution that will be better for everyone concerned.

Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationSynergyThe whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy takes place when two or more people produce more together than the sum of what they could have produces separately.

Habit Six - SynergizeThe Habit of Creative CooperationTo Synergize isResults-oriented, positive synergy

Examining exploring, seeking diverse

perspectives openly enough to alter or complete your paradigm

Cooperating

Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind.

Worth the effort and highly effective

A process.

To Synergize is NotA brainstorming free-for-all.

Accepting others ideas as full truth.

Win-lose competition.

Group think (giving in to peer pressure).

Always easy.

Only a negotiation technique.

Habit Six - SynergizeThe Habit of Creative CooperationProblem or OpportunitySynergizeHabits 4,5, & 6The Actionand ProcessThird AlternativeSYNERGYThe Result

Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationDefensivenessFearFixationEgoAngerAnxietyJealousy

Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationThe essence of synergy is valuing the differences. Valuing the differencesdoes not imply that individuals approve of or agree with differences;however it does mean that people respect differences and view themas opportunities for learning. The differing opinions of others and their viewpoints, perspectives, talents and gifts are valuable when seekingsolutions. These differences enable you to discover and produce thingstogether that you would much less likely discover and produce individually. At what level do you value the differences ?

Habit Six - Synergize The Habit of Creative CooperationTolerateAcceptValueCelebrate

Habit 7SHARPEN THE SAWPRINCIPLES OF BALANCED SELF-RENEWAL Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things I am tempted to think.. There are no little things.

Its preserving and enhancing personal PC. The greatest asset we have. Its we.

Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of RenewalSharpen the Saw is a daily process of renewing for four dimensions of our nature : Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Social / Emotional. These four dimensions sustain and increase our capacities and help us discipline our mind, body and spirit. This daily private victory is avictory over self. Not only does the daily Private victory stimulate growth,but it also helps us to achieve the Public Victory. As we achieve these victories through renewal, we cultivate and nurture the other six habits.

Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of Renewal

Physical (Body):We build physical wellness through proper nutrition, exercise, rest And stress management.

We can sharpen the Saw in Four Areas :

Mental (Mind) :We increase mental capacity through, reading, writing, and thinking.

Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw The Habit of Renewal

Spiritual (Spirit):We develop spiritually through reading inspiring literature, through meditating and praying and through spending time with nature.We can sharpen the Saw in Four Areas :Social / Emotional (Other Relationships) :We mature socially and emotionally by making consistent, daily Deposits in the Emotional Bank Account of our key relationships.

Its exercising the four dimensions of our nature regularly and consistently, in wise and balanced way.

The Upward Spiral of GrowthSuccess is a long journey, not a destination A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step. And can only be taken one step at a time. How can we remember our ignorance which our growth requires, when we are using our knowledge all the time.

The upward spiral of growth

PARADIGM SHIFTSA BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOMTOWARD7 HABITS PRINCIPLES

Habit 1We are a product of our environment and upbringing.Habit 2Society is the source of our values. Habit 3Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment. Habit 4Win-lose.One-sided benefit.Habit 5Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict.Habit 6Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness.Habit 7Entropy.Burnout on one track - typically work.We are a product of our choices to our environment and upbringing.Values are self-chosen and provide foundation for decision making. Values flow out of principles.Actions flow from that which is important.Win-win.Mutual benefit.Communication solves problems.Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy.Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement.

BE PROACTIVEI can forgive, forget, and let go of past injusticesIm aware that Im responsibleIm the creative force of my lifeI choose my attitude, emotions, and moods

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE HABIT 1Be Proactive. Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them.Be Reactive. Reactive people dont take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives.

Begin with the End in Mind. These people use personal vision, correct principles, and their deep sense of personal meaning to accomplish tasks in a positive and effective way. They live life based on self-chosen values and are guided by their personal mission statement.Begin with No End in Mind. These people lack personal vision and have not developed a deep sense of personal meaning and purpose. They have not paid the price to develop a mission statement and thus live life based on societys values instead of self-chosen values. HABIT 2

Put First Things First. These people exercise discipline, and they plan and execute according to priorities. They also walk their talk and spend significant time in Quadrant II.Put Second Things First. These people are crisis managers who are unable to stay focused on high-leverage tasks because of their preoccupation with circumstances, their past, or other people. They are caught up in the thick of thin things and are driven by the urgent. HABIT 3

Think Win-Win.These people have an abundance mentality and the spirit of cooperation. They achieve effective communication and high trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in rewarding relationships and greater power to influence.Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win. These people have a scarcity mentality and see life as a zero-sum game. They have ineffective communication skills and low trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in a defensive mentality and adversarial feelings. HABIT 4

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Through perceptive observation and empathic listening, these non-judgmental people are intent on learning the needs, interests, and concerns of others. They are then able to courageously state their own needs and wants.Seek First to Be Understood. These people put forth their point of view based solely on their auto-biography and motives, without attempting to understand others first. They blindly prescribe without first diagnosing the problem. HABIT 5

Synergize. Effective people know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. They value and benefit from differences in others, which results in creative cooperation and team-work.Compromise, Fight, or Flight. Ineffective people believe the whole is less than the sum of the parts. They try to clone other people in their own image. Differences in others are looked upon as threats. HABIT 6

Sharpen the Saw. Effective people are involved in self-renewal and self-improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social-emotional areas, which enhance all areas off their life and nurture the other six habits.Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective people fall back, lose their interest, and get disordered. They lack a program of self-renewal and self-improvement and eventually lose the cutting edge they once had. HABIT 7

SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASEDThe Seven Habits center on timeless and universal principles of personal, interpersonal, managerial, and organizational effectiveness. Listed below are the seven principles upon which the Seven Habits are based-principles which are in our circle of influence.

1.The principle of continuous learning, of self-reeducation - the discipline that drives us toward the values we believe in. Such constant learning is required in todays world, in light of the fact that many of us can expect to work in up to five radically different fields before we retire.2.The principle of service, of giving oneself to others, of helping to facilitate other peoples work.SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

3.The principle of staying positive and optimistic, radiating positive energy - including avoiding the four emotional cancers (criticizing, complaining, comparing, and competing).4.The principle of affirmation of others - treating people as proactive individuals who have great potential.5.The principle of balance - the ability to identify our various roles and to spend appropriate amounts of time in, and focus on, all the important roles and dimensions of our life. Success in one area of our life cannot compensate for neglect or failure in other areas of our life.SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

6.The balance of spontaneity and serendipity - the ability to experience life with a sense of adventure, excitement, and fresh rediscovery, instead of trying to find a serious side to things that have no serious side.7.The principle of consistent self-renewal and self-improvement in the four dimensions of ones life: physical, mental, spiritual, and social emotional.SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

PYRAMID OF INFLUENCETEACHINGRELATIONSHIPEXAMPLE

Knowledge(what to, why to)Desire(want to)Skills(how to)HABITSEFFECTIVE HABITS

JUDGEMENTCHARACTERIntegrity Maturity Abundance Mentality InterdependencyCOMPETENCETechnical skills Qualifications Knowledge Experience

FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS

1.Self-awareness2.Conscience3.Imagination4.Willpower

FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS1. Self-Awareness We begin to become self-aware and explore the programs we are living out. We come to realize that we stand apart from our programming and can even examine it. We also realize that between stimulus and response, we have the freedom to choose. This self-awareness then leads to the ability to look at other unique endowments in our secret life.

Our conscience is our internal sense of right and wrong, our moral nature. It is the greater harmonizer and balance wheel of all the principles that govern our behavior. Our conscience gives us a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are in harmony with our principles.2. ConscienceFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS

We can visit the power of the mind to create or to imagine that which does not exist now. In that imagination lie our faith and our hope for the future. We look at what is possible, what we can envision.3. Power of ImaginationFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS

Willpower refers to our determination, our resoluteness - our ability to act based solely on our self-awareness. We ask ourselves, Am I really willing to to the distance on my mission statement? Am I willing to walk my talk? Am I really willing to put first things first in spite of external distractions and pressures? Am I going to live a life of total integrity?4. Willpower or Independent WillFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS

Developing a mission statement is foundational to Habit 2, Begin with the End in Mind. It sets general guidelines for our life based on our values and our roles and goals. There are four basic characteristics of good mission statements, whether they be personal, family, or organizational mission statements.BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS

1.A mission statement should be timeless and changeless. Because goals are not timeless, they should not be included. Mission statements should be based upon unchanging core principles that operate regardless of present realities or situations. This changeless core will enable us to live with changes inside other people and inside the environment. As our consciousness grows and we mature, we will gradually strengthen, deepen, and improve our mission statement. Nevertheless, we should always initially write our mission statement as if it will never change - as if it were timeless.BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS

2.A mission statement should deal with both ends and means. Ends have to do with what we are about. Means have to do with how we go about achieving those ends. Principles are what we implements to achieve those ends. Ends and means are inseparable. In truth, ends preexist in the means. Youll never achieve a worthy end through unworthy means.BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS

3.A mission statement should deal with all four of our basic needs:a.To live (our physical and economic needs)b.To love and to be loved (our cultural and social ends)c.To learn (our needs to grow, develop, be recognized, and be useful)d.To leave a legacy (our spiritual need for meaning, for feeling that life matters, that we add value and make a difference.BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS

A mission statement should deal with all the significant roles of our life, such as a parent, teacher, manager, neighbor, and so forth.

Internalizing our mission statement will also help us get a clear understanding of what is truly important. Goethe once said, Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. This means that we learn how to say no at appropriate times. Every time we say yes to something that is of little or no importance, we are saying no to something that is more important. Almost every day, most of us are caught in circumstances where we should say no but dont. We often lack the ability to utter a firm but gracious no.BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS

SIX LEVELS OF INITIATIVE1Wait for instructions2Ask for instructions3Bring recommendations4Use own judgement, report immediately5Use own judgement, report routinely6Use own judgement, not necessary to report

DuplicityUnkindnessViolatedexpectationsOutside stressand pressuresTime wastersInterruptionsPressingproblemsCrisesPERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEM

EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

The 7 habits of highly effective people is a holistic, integrated, principle centered approach for solving our personal and professional problemsPrinciples that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.